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By *iscreetguy62 OP   Man
over a year ago

stoke on trent

been on here just under a year and as it is for a lot of guys initial meets seem tough to get anyway had a lovely meet with a great lady yesterday who sent me a lovely text afterwards saying she had a great time but she doesnt post veri's for guys she has played with so do folks

See veri's as something that sways whether to meet or not do you take them seriously whats the opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

some people don't wanna show all veri's,,its their choice

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I don't always give verifications for times I've had sex with someone as funnily enough I don't want my sex life splattered across a sex site, I know I'm strange lol...I'll give verifications to social meets...plus I can't stand pissing up the lamp post messages...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You should post what you want to post. Some people show everything,some nothing and like me some post a couple. Not everyone verifies or wants a verification

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By *iscreetguy62 OP   Man
over a year ago

stoke on trent

Ok understand but do vefi's influence if you meet or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

been on here a year too and yet to meet, but I,d be disappointed not to get a veri after a meet, but, if she doesn't veri single guys so be it, at least you enjoyed the meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to keep mine private and if I meet someone regularly then there's no point after giving them one......again veri that is

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I don't tend to show more than one veri from the same person but have done so on occasion and I've shown my 'shit shag' veri* too and some I don't show and some I do. I've met people and left them a veri but they haven't left me one in return or not done so for ages. Everyone's motives and choices are different and there's no point in trying to wonder why.

*it is, of course, a joke one. She left me a lovely one too

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"I like to keep mine private and if I meet someone regularly then there's no point after giving them one......again veri that is "

Some people do I often think are they trying to stake claims on that particular person...usually with the hands off he is mine verification

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"I like to keep mine private and if I meet someone regularly then there's no point after giving them one......again veri that is

Some people do I often think are they trying to stake claims on that particular person...usually with the hands off he is mine verification "

I've heard of that attitude which I find a bit odd on a sharing swingers site. Never happened to me though!

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By *vsnikkiTV/TS
over a year ago

Limavady


"Ok understand but do vefi's influence if you meet or not"

No

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok understand but do vefi's influence if you meet or not"

I will admit that some verifications have put me off men because they aren't the kind of experiences I'm looking for. For example men that like to go to gang bangs and cover women in semen and urine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im more interested in the ones they leave for other people and the type of language they use because it tells me what sort of a person they are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a matter of discretion, I do not post verification and request reciprocal courtesy. It's not anyone's business. No different to fodder in Hello magazine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had men say they messages because they liked my verifications and we then met and had a great time. They can be used to attract people to your profile too

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By *iscreetguy62 OP   Man
over a year ago

stoke on trent

Good point that to be honest all i look for are general comments ie genuine nice honest would see again etc not into writing explicit stuff thats a breach of trust

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"been on here just under a year and as it is for a lot of guys initial meets seem tough to get anyway had a lovely meet with a great lady yesterday who sent me a lovely text afterwards saying she had a great time but she doesnt post veri's for guys she has played with so do folks

See veri's as something that sways whether to meet or not do you take them seriously whats the opinion"
veries can be good, for obvious reasons. Veries can be bad too!

I will def think twice about meeting a guy depending on who he has already met.

I also look at who they have previously met... Sometimes it shows me they have zero standards.

My opinion of course, not expecting everyone to agree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Over the time Iv been on here, people talk utter shite on veries sometimes..

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Once I give a verification I have no power over whether it is displayed or not.

I don't enjoy reading some where there has been a good length of time since I met them.

Life is cyclical. We change.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I meant life changes - not is cyclical.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Veries do influence me,they can put me right off,not having any wouldn't put me off,we all started with none after all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The thing is you can meet someone,have a great time and state they are nice,lovely a gentleman etc and then they can turn into a complete head case,or mess you around. A verification is proof the person is the person on the profile and that you met them. Although,in saying that they can change pics around after you verify them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes I am influenced to an extent by veris....I glean certain bits of info about a person. I tend not to trust those that don't display any. but intimately I make my own mind up about someone regardless of their veris or lack of.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"yes I am influenced to an extent by veris....I glean certain bits of info about a person. I tend not to trust those that don't display any. but intimately I make my own mind up about someone regardless of their veris or lack of."

*ultimately.....not intimately....well.....maybe in some instances

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

funny iv met some men who I thought were pretty average only their verifications from others they have met say how good the sex was and stuff.

nobody ever says they were just ok do they. maybe some people are easily pleased, or exaggerating. ;-

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

Ok...so do my veris put ladies off ?

I regarded them as a way of identification but also an Fabazon review.

After being on here a couple of months or so, I am starting to think that they should concentrate more on the personality of the person than the actual sex.

Everyone is diff sexually with diff people, but how pinctual, generous, funny etc. is a little more objective.

Just saying ...

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

I have found that couples tend to be more inclined to verify than single women, possibly for some of the reasons outlined in postings above from some single women, but there are no rules or even etiquette governing posting verifications.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok...so do my veris put ladies off ?

I regarded them as a way of identification but also an Fabazon review.

After being on here a couple of months or so, I am starting to think that they should concentrate more on the personality of the person than the actual sex.

Everyone is diff sexually with diff people, but how pinctual, generous, funny etc. is a little more objective.

Just saying ... "

I can't see anything that would put ladies off unless they like to think that you have never had sex before.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Graphic veris are awful. I dont do them for repeat meets.

Plus, as I said to a guy, this isnt a personal sex log.

Stuff happens with people who are not Fab members.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok...so do my veris put ladies off ?

I regarded them as a way of identification but also an Fabazon review.

After being on here a couple of months or so, I am starting to think that they should concentrate more on the personality of the person than the actual sex.

Everyone is diff sexually with diff people, but how pinctual, generous, funny etc. is a little more objective.

Just saying ... "

There is nothing in your veris that would make me think yuk no thanks,its more the uber crude and rude that turn me off,I don't need to know the explicit detail of a meet from start to finish,its not needed

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover


"funny iv met some men who I thought were pretty average only their verifications from others they have met say how good the sex was and stuff.

nobody ever says they were just ok do they. maybe some people are easily pleased, or exaggerating. ;-"

That's a fair point but a mediocre verification, or one that damns with faint praise, is so unlikely to be approved by the recipient that it will never appear on a profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only do social veris these days as I would prefer not to make my sex life public

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"funny iv met some men who I thought were pretty average only their verifications from others they have met say how good the sex was and stuff.

nobody ever says they were just ok do they. maybe some people are easily pleased, or exaggerating. ;-

That's a fair point but a mediocre verification, or one that damns with faint praise, is so unlikely to be approved by the recipient that it will never appear on a profile"

I also think that people will be wary of writing a poor one incase they get a poorer one back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like to keep mine private and if I meet someone regularly then there's no point after giving them one......again veri that is

Some people do I often think are they trying to stake claims on that particular person...usually with the hands off he is mine verification "

Oh I agree with CC on this one!!

I've come across this on more than one occasion and it makes me chuckle to say the very least

All I would add re veri's is that I don't just meet on the strength of a good veri alone but I have chosen not to meet based on what I've read.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some men seem to think if you only display a couple of verifications and have been on here only a few months you don't have much of a sex life

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"funny iv met some men who I thought were pretty average only their verifications from others they have met say how good the sex was and stuff.

nobody ever says they were just ok do they. maybe some people are easily pleased, or exaggerating. ;-"

Yes, there's a lot of bullshit about. I will give a veri that is pretty muted if that is what I feel, but I doubt a guy would publish an 'underwhelmed' veri for long! I have refused to give them too, eg if I feel people have tried to deceive me to get a meet.

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover


"funny iv met some men who I thought were pretty average only their verifications from others they have met say how good the sex was and stuff.

nobody ever says they were just ok do they. maybe some people are easily pleased, or exaggerating. ;-

That's a fair point but a mediocre verification, or one that damns with faint praise, is so unlikely to be approved by the recipient that it will never appear on a profile

I also think that people will be wary of writing a poor one incase they get a poorer one back "

That's a fair point but neither of them will be posted on either profile so it has no impact

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"funny iv met some men who I thought were pretty average only their verifications from others they have met say how good the sex was and stuff.

nobody ever says they were just ok do they. maybe some people are easily pleased, or exaggerating. ;-

That's a fair point but a mediocre verification, or one that damns with faint praise, is so unlikely to be approved by the recipient that it will never appear on a profile

I also think that people will be wary of writing a poor one incase they get a poorer one back

That's a fair point but neither of them will be posted on either profile so it has no impact"

It will impact the veri whores because its one less to display

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't pay any attention to verifications. A person may have one very sweet veri and yet be a total arsehole. It amuses me that some people use them as some sort of proof of that person's suitability for a meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some men seem to think if you only display a couple of verifications and have been on here only a few months you don't have much of a sex life"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

weve had meets weve verified and theyve not sent one back - and had meets where neither have verified - we still chat and meet again so doesnt bother us - we only show one or two that dont give too much away -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"funny iv met some men who I thought were pretty average only their verifications from others they have met say how good the sex was and stuff.

nobody ever says they were just ok do they. maybe some people are easily pleased, or exaggerating. ;-

That's a fair point but a mediocre verification, or one that damns with faint praise, is so unlikely to be approved by the recipient that it will never appear on a profile

I also think that people will be wary of writing a poor one incase they get a poorer one back

That's a fair point but neither of them will be posted on either profile so it has no impact

It will impact the veri whores because its one less to display "

ha ha veri whores, on here ~ never

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By *preadMyWingsWoman
over a year ago

London

With an experience at this point of time, people here are craving to meet me to give their first verification on my profile. And I am confused whether they r interested in meeting me really or just for the verification. That is really a deal breaker for me even if I like to meet em grrrr

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"I only do social veris these days as I would prefer not to make my sex life public "

Copy cat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I only do social veris these days as I would prefer not to make my sex life public

Copy cat "

Imitation is the highest form of flattery so they say

Besides I'm not posting all my shit shag veris for all to see...I make enough of a twat of myself on here without adding more evidence

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By *exxxesCouple
over a year ago

Newbury / London

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By *exxxesCouple
over a year ago

Newbury / London

We wonder if an option for the sender of a verification to keep it "hidden" would be of some benefit? Not just an option for the receiver.

We think it's a bit harsh on some who may be genuine, have waited patiently for a verification to not get one after a meet or similar. If it was a case that sender didn't want it in the public domain then this suggestion could work?

For us, we try and send them, some choose to show them and some don’t. Either way we're relaxed, but we would be more inclined to meet up with someone who actually is verified than not.

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By *iscreetguy62 OP   Man
over a year ago

stoke on trent

Well i asked a simple question but got some fab no pun intended opinions good advice a lot of it thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I give veris thst say that they are who they say they are. That's all I see veris as. Can'tastand the they were an incredible fuck/made me gush blah blah. I'll make my own mind up on that thank

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Once I give a verification I have no power over whether it is displayed or not.

I don't enjoy reading some where there has been a good length of time since I met them.

Life is cyclical. We change. "

That's interesting actually.

Should verifications disappear after 6/8/12 months?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always verify, but it's normally to say the person is lovely etc, I never mention anything sexual. And I don't show my verifications as I don't like my sex life splattered across a site (unfortunately some can be so crude!). I prefer a bit of discretion and mystery. Does mean that some accuse me of being fake/time waster because I don't have it all on show

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol


"Once I give a verification I have no power over whether it is displayed or not.

I don't enjoy reading some where there has been a good length of time since I met them.

Life is cyclical. We change.

That's interesting actually.

Should verifications disappear after 6/8/12 months? "

My meet ones disappear anyway when people go UNLOS.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Once I give a verification I have no power over whether it is displayed or not.

I don't enjoy reading some where there has been a good length of time since I met them.

Life is cyclical. We change.

That's interesting actually.

Should verifications disappear after 6/8/12 months? "

Its bad enough for some when they go if someone leaves let alone giving them a time span

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Once I give a verification I have no power over whether it is displayed or not.

I don't enjoy reading some where there has been a good length of time since I met them.

Life is cyclical. We change.

That's interesting actually.

Should verifications disappear after 6/8/12 months?

My meet ones disappear anyway when people go UNLOS. "

You have 7 already, greedy.

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