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By *oomar1 OP   Man
over a year ago

Stalybridge

What's your views as regarding if someone has spent time and read a profile to send a message

That even if your not someone's type a polite no thanks good luck is warranted

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

You might want to do a forum search for this tooic as it has been covered before.

Furthermore, the site FAQs on the subject clearly state that it's not rude and perfectly acceptable.

You may have a better time concentrating on any responses you do get.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

*topic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What's your views as regarding if someone has spent time and read a profile to send a message

That even if your not someone's type a polite no thanks good luck is warranted"

So if all the guys on here looked and messaged you would you reply to every one of them?

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By *hrissie1961Woman
over a year ago

dumfries and galloway

It takes no time at all.

I get loads of messages and answer all.

Some folks are just so far up their own arses that they forget how to be polite

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Nothing to do with manners do you reply to all the junk mail comes threw your door. An so not worth worrying about

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

My view is, if you stop looking at your sent box, and concentrate on your inbox, you'll have a lot more fun here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It takes no time at all.

I get loads of messages and answer all.

Some folks are just so far up their own arses that they forget how to be polite "

But you have no pics up so get about 1/20th of those women with hot ones do!

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"It takes no time at all.

I get loads of messages and answer all.

Some folks are just so far up their own arses that they forget how to be polite "

I must remember to remove myself from my own arse.

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"My view is, if you stop looking at your sent box, and concentrate on your inbox, you'll have a lot more fun here."

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By *hrissie1961Woman
over a year ago

dumfries and galloway


"It takes no time at all.

I get loads of messages and answer all.

Some folks are just so far up their own arses that they forget how to be polite

But you have no pics up so get about 1/20th of those women with hot ones do! "

And you know this because?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It takes no time at all.

I get loads of messages and answer all.

Some folks are just so far up their own arses that they forget how to be polite

But you have no pics up so get about 1/20th of those women with hot ones do!

And you know this because?"

You know its true same as I do.

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By *hrissie1961Woman
over a year ago

dumfries and galloway

Arse kickers united again!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It takes no time at all.

I get loads of messages and answer all.

Some folks are just so far up their own arses that they forget how to be polite "

Nothing to do with being polite or not , if we don't wanna meet the person who messages us , we block and delete , simple . It's why the site provide these options

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It takes no time at all.

I get loads of messages and answer all.

Some folks are just so far up their own arses that they forget how to be polite

But you have no pics up so get about 1/20th of those women with hot ones do!

And you know this because?"

Actually he is right a woman without pics gets far far less messages I don't know if its 1/20 but I would think its somewhere near.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

There's no need to be rude.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's no need to be rude. "

You're a woman do you get a lot more messages if you have pictures up or put new ones up?

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"It takes no time at all.

I get loads of messages and answer all.

Some folks are just so far up their own arses that they forget how to be polite

Nothing to do with being polite or not , if we don't wanna meet the person who messages us , we block and delete , simple . It's why the site provide these options "

So thats what I did

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By *hrissie1961Woman
over a year ago

dumfries and galloway

I,m not apologising for saying it how it is.

I get fed up with the 'think they are superior' comment that get made on here, when someone asks a question.....if it irritates you because it's been asked a thousand times, just butt out.

Maybe more people would post in the forums if there wasn't the constant snide remarks made

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

I put new pics up last week and had 100 messages within 3 hours.

Don't know if that helps any!

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"There's no need to be rude.

You're a woman do you get a lot more messages if you have pictures up or put new ones up?"

I get more just putting up a status.

Shit loads when it's a new pic. Same if I post a meet.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"I,m not apologising for saying it how it is.

I get fed up with the 'think they are superior' comment that get made on here, when someone asks a question.....if it irritates you because it's been asked a thousand times, just butt out.

Maybe more people would post in the forums if there wasn't the constant snide remarks made"

I was being polite and helpful by pointing out where the answer was.

Furthermore, you began by instant rudeness and have continued.

You don't know if people think they are superior. You haven't met them and you're not telepathic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I,m not apologising for saying it how it is.

I get fed up with the 'think they are superior' comment that get made on here, when someone asks a question.....if it irritates you because it's been asked a thousand times, just butt out.

Maybe more people would post in the forums if there wasn't the constant snide remarks made"

Yeh I know some put up some real snide remarks a bit like this "Some folks are just so far up their own arses that they forget how to be polite"! I would suggest getting the pliers out if what ever you sat on is irritating you and extract it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I put new pics up last week and had 100 messages within 3 hours.

Don't know if that helps any!"

That's the point I know a lot get them at a rate of one every minute or two. I know a woman who spent 2 hrs replying just to see and she had more than she started with after 130 mins. Its pretty sad if people think you should spend hours a day declining in my book after all a read and deleted means the same thing, not interested.

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"I,m not apologising for saying it how it is.

I get fed up with the 'think they are superior' comment that get made on here, when someone asks a question.....if it irritates you because it's been asked a thousand times, just butt out.

Maybe more people would post in the forums if there wasn't the constant snide remarks made"

It depends what you call snide remarks. For instance do you call mine snide ? Its a thread most that have been here a while see over an over. my own view is why look for things to worry about the forums are ment to be fun an that's what my post are ment to be. Lifes to short

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It takes no time at all.

I get loads of messages and answer all.

Some folks are just so far up their own arses that they forget how to be polite

Nothing to do with being polite or not , if we don't wanna meet the person who messages us , we block and delete , simple . It's why the site provide these options "
one weeks rubbish is another weeks gold....we are always polite and apart from men ( don't meet guys sorry check profile) think we do ok but many have there standards set too high ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm just here to read the comments....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Again

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By *ajandroseMan
over a year ago

tamworth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have recently switched our profile to looking for single guys. It clearly states on our profile we don't meet people in our county however a small minority ignore this and message anyway. Now if these people can't be bothered to read that bit then why should we reply???

We reply to those who have made a little bit of an effort.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the thing is if you do read some of the profiles you realise they arent worth mailing.

so really it saves you time actually reading them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone reads our profile and messages us with a decent message not just 1 line, but isn't what we are looking for we will reply and sorry but your not for us, if it's a 1 line message then it's just delete and block, but then again we don't get anywhere near the amount of messages single women do so it's not really a problem for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

also if i see no pics yet they demand one be sent with any mail i dont bother reading any further, if they have a message header its a no from me and if they expect you to jump through hoops they aint for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have recently switched our profile to looking for single guys. It clearly states on our profile we don't meet people in our county however a small minority ignore this and message anyway. Now if these people can't be bothered to read that bit then why should we reply???

We reply to those who have made a little bit of an effort. "

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

I'll never understand why anyone gets so fixated on being turned down.

Given that a lot of companies now don't reply to unsuccessful job applicants, expecting, demanding or bemoaning a lack of formal written rejection on a swingers' site seems to be an absolute waste of time and effort.

People want to use their time and resources in the way they'll benefit them most.

You wouldn't message someone you're not interested in. Everyone else has the same right.

It's a no, thank you. Having it in writing doesn't change that. Get over it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"also if i see no pics yet they demand one be sent with any mail i dont bother reading any further, if they have a message header its a no from me and if they expect you to jump through hoops they aint for me "

The ones that get instant delete from us are the ones that request a face picture but don't have any of there own and don't attach one,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"also if i see no pics yet they demand one be sent with any mail i dont bother reading any further, if they have a message header its a no from me and if they expect you to jump through hoops they aint for me

The ones that get instant delete from us are the ones that request a face picture but don't have any of there own and don't attach one, "

my point exactly i dont have face pics on my profile they are available if requested but i never ask for one in return if they want to send them they will

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally *try* and respond to all the messages I get, even if it's just to say thanks but no thanks.

But that's not a rule, just my own thoughts. You have to take into account the face that women and couples get tonnes more messages that I do and don't gave the time to wade through them all making small talk.

Especially as some people won't take no for an answer............

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Messages from cock avatars are usually deleted unread.

My profile states this but I still get quite a few. They usually consist of fewer than 5 words.

Those men probably think I am terribly rude and up myself too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Messages from cock avatars are usually deleted unread.

My profile states this but I still get quite a few. They usually consist of fewer than 5 words.

Those men probably think I am terribly rude and up myself too."

We have somethings wrote on our profile, some might see them as rules or us up our own arse, but what they are are guidelines to getting a reply, they are there to help people get a response not rules to stop people messaging if that makes sense?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There must be several threads about this a week. We delete our sent messages as soon as they're sent. We care not what the recipient does to them, we'll either get a reply or we won't. Maybe fab should remove the facility to see what the status of the sent message is then hopefully people wouldn't worry or moan about it so much.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"Messages from cock avatars are usually deleted unread.

My profile states this but I still get quite a few. They usually consist of fewer than 5 words.

Those men probably think I am terribly rude and up myself too.

We have somethings wrote on our profile, some might see them as rules or us up our own arse, but what they are are guidelines to getting a reply, they are there to help people get a response not rules to stop people messaging if that makes sense? "

I feel the same way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I,m not apologising for saying it how it is.

I get fed up with the 'think they are superior' comment that get made on here, when someone asks a question.....if it irritates you because it's been asked a thousand times, just butt out.

Maybe more people would post in the forums if there wasn't the constant snide remarks made"

And your comment stating that Some folks are just so far up their own arses is not a snide remark?

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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands

Why worry about the people who don't want to meet you?

Concentrate on the ones that do!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Maybe fab should remove the facility to see what the status of the sent message is then hopefully people wouldn't worry or moan about it so much."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why worry about the people who don't want to meet you?

Concentrate on the ones that do! "

Finally some sense. .... well done _issy lou

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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands


"Why worry about the people who don't want to meet you?

Concentrate on the ones that do!

Finally some sense. .... well done _issy lou "

Thank you! It just seems like common sense to me - if someone doesn't reply they obviously don't want to meet you, so why spend any more time on them? Baffles me! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why worry about the people who don't want to meet you?

Concentrate on the ones that do!

Finally some sense. .... well done _issy lou

Thank you! It just seems like common sense to me - if someone doesn't reply they obviously don't want to meet you, so why spend any more time on them? Baffles me! Lol "

If i got hung up on my messages being deleted I'd have left the site ages ago.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I,m not apologising for saying it how it is.

I get fed up with the 'think they are superior' comment that get made on here, when someone asks a question.....if it irritates you because it's been asked a thousand times, just butt out.

Maybe more people would post in the forums if there wasn't the constant snide remarks made"

Very well said. I enjoy using the forum but the general attitude has put me off starting my own threads and caused a few people to miss out on meeting us as they were an arse on the forum then tried to kiss my arse in a message probably not realising Im the person they got snotty with so the message just gets deleted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thank god for filters! But when they arent in place it's a nightmare. If someone reads my profile then yes they will get a reply even if its a thanks but no thanks. That is now followed by a block cos sick of the 'why not blah blah' Does that make me up my own arse - possibly cos nobody else is going up there

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