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By *r-Cum-Again OP   Man
over a year ago

Whitefield

I was wondering if anybody on here is also a sufferer and how does it affect their sex life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never heard of it... What is it?

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By *r-Cum-Again OP   Man
over a year ago

Whitefield

This letter may explain

Dear Miserable Human Being,

Hi, my name is Fibromyalgia, and I’m an invisible chronic illness. I am now ‘velcroed’ to you for life. Others around you can’t see me or hear me, but YOUR body feels me. I can attack you anywhere and anyway I please. I can cause severe pain, or if I am in a good mood, I can just cause you to ache all over. Remember when you and Energy ran around together and had fun? I took Energy from you and gave you Exhaustion. Just try to have fun now! I also took Good Sleep from you and in its place gave you Fibro Fog (a.k.a. Brain Fog). I can make you tremble internally or make you feel cold or hot when everyone else feels normal. Oh yeah, I can make you feel anxious or depressed, too. If you have something planned, or are looking forward to a great day, I can take that away too. You didn’t ask for me. I chose you for various reasons: that virus you had that you never quite recovered from, or that car accident, or childbirth, the death of a loved one, or maybe it was those years of abuse and trauma. Well, anyway, I’m here to stay! I hear you’re going to see a doctor who can get rid of me. I’m ‘ROFL’ (rolling on the floor laughing)! Just try! You will have to go to many, many doctors until you find one who can help you effectively. In fact, you’ll see many doctors who tell you ‘it’s all in your head’ (or some version of that). If you do find a doctor willing to treat this ‘non-disease’, you will be put on pain pills, sleeping pills, and energy pills. You will be told you are suffering from anxiety or depression, given a TENS unit, told if you just sleep and exercise properly, I will go away. You’ll be told to think positively, poked, prodded, and most of all, you will not be taken seriously when you cry to the doctor how debilitating life is for you every single day! Your family, friends, and coworkers will all listen to you until they just get tired of hearing about how I make you feel, and that I’m a debilitating disease. Some of them will say things like “Oh, you’re just having a bad day”, or “Well, remember, you can’t expect to do the things you were able to do 20 years ago,” not hearing that you said “20 DAYS ago”! Some will just start talking behind your back. you'll slowly feel that you are losing your dignity, trying to make them understand...especially when you're in the middle of a conversation with a ‘normal’ person, and can’t remember what you were going to say next! In closing, you’ve probably figured out that the ONLY place you will get any real support and understanding in dealing with me is with Other People with Fibromyalgia! They are the only ones that will understand your complaints of unrelenting pain, insomnia, fibro fog, the inability to perform the everyday tasks that ‘normal people’ take for granted. Remember, I’m stuck to you like Velcro – and I expect we’ll be together for the rest of your life. Have a nice day!! (ROFL), Fibromyalgia.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not me but it affects mobility and joint movement there are things you can take but not specifiably sure myself but pretty sure there will be people on later with muchos knowledge in this subject.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I work with and have so e close friends with this awful disease and I feel for you x I can't speak from personal experience but the people I know have relatively normal sex lives barring the bad days. Are you recently diagnosed or quite well into it now? X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i know a friend who has this - it hurts an incredible amount

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just as Mrs Grey does I have friends who suffer from it.

One of the hardest factors is diagnosis and other people's misunderstanding.

Tell someone you have cancer and rightly so you get sympathy....tell them you feel exhausted and can't concentrate etc then you may get a different reaction and not much empathy.

I wish you well. I've seen what it can do to someone very dear and I wouldn't wish it on anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This letter may explain

Dear Miserable Human Being,

Hi, my name is Fibromyalgia, and I’m an invisible chronic illness. I am now ‘velcroed’ to you for life. Others around you can’t see me or hear me, but YOUR body feels me. I can attack you anywhere and anyway I please. I can cause severe pain, or if I am in a good mood, I can just cause you to ache all over. Remember when you and Energy ran around together and had fun? I took Energy from you and gave you Exhaustion. Just try to have fun now! I also took Good Sleep from you and in its place gave you Fibro Fog (a.k.a. Brain Fog). I can make you tremble internally or make you feel cold or hot when everyone else feels normal. Oh yeah, I can make you feel anxious or depressed, too. If you have something planned, or are looking forward to a great day, I can take that away too. You didn’t ask for me. I chose you for various reasons: that virus you had that you never quite recovered from, or that car accident, or childbirth, the death of a loved one, or maybe it was those years of abuse and trauma. Well, anyway, I’m here to stay! I hear you’re going to see a doctor who can get rid of me. I’m ‘ROFL’ (rolling on the floor laughing)! Just try! You will have to go to many, many doctors until you find one who can help you effectively. In fact, you’ll see many doctors who tell you ‘it’s all in your head’ (or some version of that). If you do find a doctor willing to treat this ‘non-disease’, you will be put on pain pills, sleeping pills, and energy pills. You will be told you are suffering from anxiety or depression, given a TENS unit, told if you just sleep and exercise properly, I will go away. You’ll be told to think positively, poked, prodded, and most of all, you will not be taken seriously when you cry to the doctor how debilitating life is for you every single day! Your family, friends, and coworkers will all listen to you until they just get tired of hearing about how I make you feel, and that I’m a debilitating disease. Some of them will say things like “Oh, you’re just having a bad day”, or “Well, remember, you can’t expect to do the things you were able to do 20 years ago,” not hearing that you said “20 DAYS ago”! Some will just start talking behind your back. you'll slowly feel that you are losing your dignity, trying to make them understand...especially when you're in the middle of a conversation with a ‘normal’ person, and can’t remember what you were going to say next! In closing, you’ve probably figured out that the ONLY place you will get any real support and understanding in dealing with me is with Other People with Fibromyalgia! They are the only ones that will understand your complaints of unrelenting pain, insomnia, fibro fog, the inability to perform the everyday tasks that ‘normal people’ take for granted. Remember, I’m stuck to you like Velcro – and I expect we’ll be together for the rest of your life. Have a nice day!! (ROFL), Fibromyalgia."

I don't know what to say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've got this and my sex life is great ........... as long as I only have sex once a year!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've got this and my sex life is great ........... as long as I only have sex once a year! "
Can I book you in on that day ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've got this and my sex life is great ........... as long as I only have sex once a year!

Can I book you in on that day ? "

Damn! you just missed it. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've got this and my sex life is great ........... as long as I only have sex once a year!

Can I book you in on that day ?

Damn! you just missed it. xx"

lol....There's always next year.

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By *r-Cum-Again OP   Man
over a year ago

Whitefield

I've just been recently diagnosed with it, but I think I've had it for about 18 months

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have it. been diagnosed 10years plus. its a bastard. but as the saying goes "never let the bastards get you down!"

I have good days and bad both in and out the bedroom.

it can get hubby down sometimes but we work round it. he is awesome xx

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

Was it originally called ME? Sounds awful, all the best, Z

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have elhers-danlos, its kind of the same family. Lots of phisyo helps.

But sex I find helps with pain.

All the best x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The problem with fibro is a lot of people are diagnosed with it but don't have it as there is so many cross overs with other illnesses. I was diagnosed about 9 year ago with it after suffering for 2 years. It wasn't till about another 2 years after that that I had some blood tests done and i was told that it isn't fibro I had but rheumatoid arthritis and some of the other symptoms I had was down to being on the sick for quite a while and staring at the same 4 walls. When I was used to working and enjoying my job.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People I know who have it spend months seeing different specialists trying out different courses of drugs to find the individuals happy balance. Some drugs are long acting so it can take up to 12 weeks to gauge if some are working or not. Physio is a good help for most but not all eg if u have an underlying illness or injury that accompanies it it may not be the right course for you. Be as patient as you can and take the good with the bad until you find your level with treatment then hopefully the good days will start outweighing the bad and not vise versa x good luck Hun x I hope it dosnt bring you down too much and that you can find good things to bring you through the bad x x

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By *r-Cum-Again OP   Man
over a year ago

Whitefield


"People I know who have it spend months seeing different specialists trying out different courses of drugs to find the individuals happy balance. Some drugs are long acting so it can take up to 12 weeks to gauge if some are working or not. Physio is a good help for most but not all eg if u have an underlying illness or injury that accompanies it it may not be the right course for you. Be as patient as you can and take the good with the bad until you find your level with treatment then hopefully the good days will start outweighing the bad and not vise versa x good luck Hun x I hope it dosnt bring you down too much and that you can find good things to bring you through the bad x x"

Thanks for the kind words

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was diagnosed with fibro 10 years ago. It mainly flares up for me when I'm really stressed...the tiredness and pain can interfere with everyday life, but you learn to live with it and work round it

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By *aceytopWoman
over a year ago

from a town near you

You have my sympathy,I have ME its a similar thing although I aren't in so much pain as you,i get to ache all over like flu,but the other symptons I do get, and a few more besides,when I first had it I was bedridden for months and it took years for it to get manageable,i can now have long periods where it doesn't affect me,but it can and does strike when im not expecting it,then only thing I can do is rest anything else just makes it worse

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

I know several people with this condition, they have had results from taking Glucosamine & Chondroitin combined. If you are a diabetic though be careful, Glucosamine can make blood sugars high. xxx

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By *angzMan
over a year ago

Manchester, London & sometimes Newcastle

Page 3 hottie from the 90s Jo Guest has this condition. Completely changed her life in months

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have this bastard of a disease and it has changed my life, no drugs work for me, some days I can't even get out of bed let alone have sex, had it for 6 years

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