FabSwingers.com forum: Mental health and swinging

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi all I have been diagnosed with a mental health disorder. I'm wondering wether to give up on the swinging life due to this as. I'm overly anxious and low all the time should I let my problems get in the way of having fun and meeting new people

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

no try and enjoy yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

think you will find getting out and about will help you . suggest you at least stay and chat to others ...take care .......nothing is for ever...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think that is a decision you need to make yourself.

I would concentrate on getting well & then see if this lifestyle is really what you are interested in.

To be successful in this lifestyle you need to be social, chatty with a level of self confidence. From what you've said that's not you at the moments. So my worry would be is that knock backs you get on FAB or whilst swinging may dent your confidence even more & make you lower.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have clinical depression and bi polar disorder, also suffer with anxiety at times....I've been using this site for years and I can honestly say it's never been an issue. If you feel ok to continue, do so!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have clinical depression and bi polar disorder, also suffer with anxiety at times....I've been using this site for years and I can honestly say it's never been an issue. If you feel ok to continue, do so!

Good for you love

Her

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

My conference is at it's lowest already I been knocked back so many times u could call me a bowling pin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi all I have been diagnosed with a mental health disorder. I'm wondering wether to give up on the swinging life due to this as. I'm overly anxious and low all the time should I let my problems get in the way of having fun and meeting new people "

Mental health issues should not stop you having fun but I would consider being carefull on a site like this, especially when you're feeling low.There are a lot of nice people here but, like all online communities, there are some absolute a-holes on here as well who will talk to you like shit.Be carefull, enjoy but if it gets to you, delete your profile.Good luck to you

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I would be wary about overly expressing any vulnerabilities, sadly there are people who will exploit those.

I think for companionship, swinging can help but for a single guy who is feeling low, the constant rejections can be impactful.

good luck & a speedy recovery

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have the same conditions and my experience is that when I'm in my down spells this site is the worst possible think as it really can shatter already low mood & increase paranoia.

So my take us when I'm down, I stay away from the site & concentrate on getting well again.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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I feel like I can carry on but just gets me more down and withdrawn with every knock back I get I'm a single guy who havin no fun maybe becoming celebate mite be a great idea lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have the same conditions and my experience is that when I'm in my down spells this site is the worst possible think as it really can shatter already low mood & increase paranoia.

So my take us when I'm down, I stay away from the site & concentrate on getting well again."

Going by the OPs previous threads, I'd say this is good advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My conference is at it's lowest already I been knocked back so many times u could call me a bowling pin "

My confidence hit a low spot, and I think a lot if us allow life to knock us back...

Once in a while is acceptable... But not for too long, before I take meself to one side and have serious words...

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By *arlock69Man
over a year ago

Batley... (near Leeds)

You shouldn't let knock backs get to you...we all get knock backs...good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel like I can carry on but just gets me more down and withdrawn with every knock back I get I'm a single guy who havin no fun maybe becoming celebate mite be a great idea lol"

Hang in there xx

Don't forget there are a lot of single men on here going through the same knock backs as you.

Dont give up xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't let the knock backs deter you, keep it in your head, it is all a laugh.

And any meet you have is a bonus.

Come on here each day or how often you do, with no expectations, and you never know.

Keep smiling

Her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You shouldn't let knock backs get to you...we all get knock backs...good luck

That's all well and good, but if you have depression etc you really don't have the control to not let them get to you.

It's not as simple as pulling yourself together or not letting stuff get to you.

I think people need to be very careful what they are advising the OP as it really could do more harm then good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My conference is at it's lowest already I been knocked back so many times u could call me a bowling pin "

If confidence issues figure strongly in the mental health problems you're having, I would steer clear of this site for a while, if I were you.

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

" I feel like I can carry on but just gets me more down and withdrawn with every knock back I get "

For that reason alone Id say take a step back until you're feeling a bit better. The site is supposed to be fun, if you think it is affecting your health then maybe it isnt the right place for you just now. But obviously the decision is yours...

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By *otsoSnowWhiteWoman
over a year ago

My Ice Castle! South Wales

" I feel like I can carry on but just gets me more down and withdrawn with every knock back I get

it'll always still be here when you feel ready to come back if you decide to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you get all different types of people on here, a lot with mental health problems as well. just because a woman gets more men wanting to meet her doesn't mean she wont lack confidence sometimes. it can make you feel better meeting people on here sometimes just try and be more thick skinned, be careful about who you chat to and meet.

don't take what people say or do too seriously, they make think they are better than you but they aren't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suffer with this to but you have to put it aside and try and enjoy life as some days might be low and sum might be high just try and enjoy them high days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel like I can carry on but just gets me more down and withdrawn with every knock back I get I'm a single guy who havin no fun maybe becoming celebate mite be a great idea lol"

If you get withdrawn and down with every knockback and you have said you get knocked back a lot then you need to take a bit of time out to recover,feel stronger and to have better coping mechanisms

Good luck

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I think, as others say, it's your call. The key thing is whether any moment of swinging is too much for you to handle, and sets you back. If you're good at self-monitoring, are able to recognise if things are setting you back and then act accordingly by moving away from the triggers, then you could be fine.

I think as a single guy you are potentially at most risk from being hit with knock after knock - and these will affect every one of us to a different degree. This means that swinging and fab could potentially be a never ending vicious circle of self-abuse, unless you can remain in control and keep yourself safe.

Right now your priority is probably to regain your strength and health. Anything that is not aligned with that is likely to be an error. I can't say whether fab or swinging is too far away from what your priority is, nor predict how your swinging life may go.

We can take comfort in whatever will work for us. Nourish our souls, strengthen ourselves however we can. Moment by moment I'd like to think that I would not step away from the path that is doing anything but good for me.

If you need sex, consider other ways in which you could be satisfied that may be less hurtful than set-backs in swinging. If you have a lot of time on your hands, then it's easy to spend too much time seeking out sexual pleasures, so I'd advise that you keep your life as balanced as possible.

Plan your days as much as you can so that they're not pressured and stressing you. Whilst having some goals is good, it's important that you're not over committed, and you burn out, leaving you lower overall. Have social interaction, exercise and other fulfilling elements within your life, things that will rebuild your confidence and general well being. Sex is healthy, but not if the cost of getting it is too much for us - the rejections, investment of time and effort etc.

It's unfair of me to pressure you in any one direction - though I feel that what you've said you want is to recover and regain your strength and mental well being. Develop whatever support network that you can that will help you to do this, as it's likely better than battling too much alone.

Good luck!

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"I think, as others say, it's your call. The key thing is whether any moment of swinging is too much for you to handle, and sets you back. If you're good at self-monitoring, are able to recognise if things are setting you back and then act accordingly by moving away from the triggers, then you could be fine.

Good luck!"

fantastic post

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good for you love

Her"

Thanks!

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