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Losing a sibling when you where a child?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

A sensitive subject I know, but did anyone here lose a brother or sister when they were still a child. How did it effect you and how did you learn to carry on?

Asking because it's a situation that has tragically happened recently in the family.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Anyone?

Pm for discression , need advice

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Not as a child but 13yrs ago if thats any use

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not as a child but 13yrs ago if thats any use"

Still as difficult ,but I want to know how to help my son with his grief , kids view things differently to an adult and I'm looking for someone who lived through the same situation as a child and hear how they coped and if something/anything could have helped them more at the time.

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By *ratty_DamselWoman
over a year ago

Greater London

Let them talk about the person when they want not when an adult wants.

The NSPC also have a children's outreach counciling service to I believe.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd PM you.

Think everything that happens when you were younger makes you the person who you are now. He's stronger than you think and will develop his own way of dealing with it. Just make sure you're there for him (which of course i know you will). The grief stays longer than many may think..

Sorry to hear about that x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'd PM you.

Think everything that happens when you were younger makes you the person who you are now. He's stronger than you think and will develop his own way of dealing with it. Just make sure you're there for him (which of course i know you will). The grief stays longer than many may think..

Sorry to hear about that x

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Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Winston's wish helps with bereavement in children xx

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By *illwill69uMan
over a year ago

moston

Speak to your doctor s/he will have the contact details of people (professional and support groups) local to you who will be able to help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I lost a brother at birth. No one was allowed to ask mum questions about him. I was about 8 at the time. Found it very confusing. Only as I got older I understood.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

My son died when my daughters were seven and three: my three year old found him. They were too young to know what was going on, I think our grief effected them more so we compartmentalised our grief so as not to blight their childhood.

Unfortunately, we internalised our grief to the point it drove us apart and the marriage couldn't survive.

Our girls grew up knowing they had a brother, knowing they were loved. When my daughter married two years ago she had her brothers name tattooed on her wrist so he could be part of her day.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My son died when my daughters were seven and three: my three year old found him. They were too young to know what was going on, I think our grief effected them more so we compartmentalised our grief so as not to blight their childhood.

Unfortunately, we internalised our grief to the point it drove us apart and the marriage couldn't survive.

Our girls grew up knowing they had a brother, knowing they were loved. When my daughter married two years ago she had her brothers name tattooed on her wrist so he could be part of her day."

Heartbreaking ,so sorry. Thank you for sharing and for the insite.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks everyone for advice and pm's.

It's helped to understand better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My brother died 9 yrs ago and he left behind a young son, he was 5 at the time, a year later his mother turned the same age as my brother was when he died, my nephew sat and cried to me that his mam was going to die coz she was the same age as dad!

He then went on to say that he would have to live in an orphanage!! It was all I could do to not cry at that point!!

I held my nephew tightly and gently explained that mam would be ok and dad was very ill, he then pointed out that I didn't know if mam would die coz we all do! (6yr old genius) so I promised him that if indeed his mam should die while he's little that I would take care of him and he wouldn't go in an orphanage!!

His little face lit up and he said great that means we can watch futurama together!! After that he went back to being a happy little boy again!

A child's thought process is so different to ours! Reassurance is key!! Hope this helps and the very best of luck xxxx

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