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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Have you ever approached a guy first and initiated chat - or do you always wait for them to come to you??

I don't consider myself to be a complete Troll, and get my fair share of action, but it's always me that kicks off.

Are we still old fashioned in that respect here?

And guys - if you have been approached, how did you feel about it??

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I never approach first, purely due to the crap profiles a lot of men up here have, why would I want to contact someone with a 2 line profile that doesn't say anything apart from here for fun and a cock shot?

Nothing to entice me, is there?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no I never approach anyone I don't realy need to and I think most men will contact someone first if they are realy interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've only done it a small few times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do ok in this site as well.

The last 3 ladies I've met approached me first.

The lady I'm currently chatting with was initiated by me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The time it takes me to go through all my messages i dont have the energy to search. They all message anyway so it would be a waste of my time.

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

I have received a couple of unsolicited approaches and I was absolutely astonished and flattered.

I even got hit on in a pub last night. Stranger and stranger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had numerous meets where I initiated contact... Admittedly that's more often a wink than a message, but got to start somewhere!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I approach guys for different reasons but only ever done it once for a meet and it lasted six years

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By *unPeteMan
over a year ago

Near Bristol

I don't think there's much difference personality or confidence wise between women who initiate contact with males and those who don't.

Simply ... some women make the first more and some don't. I wish more would!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have done it yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm to shy

But i like being approached

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive (mrs) have winked a few people first that i find attractive and would like to meet.. not had much luck though

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Yes, several times.. some I've met, some have knocked me back...

In fact one guy who I've been meeting fairly regularly for over a year I mailed initially.

A well written profile that matches my pteferences with good photos will often get an initial mail from me if I spot it

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I never approach first, purely due to the crap profiles a lot of men up here have, why would I want to contact someone with a 2 line profile that doesn't say anything apart from here for fun and a cock shot?

Nothing to entice me, is there? "

This!

Plus sub men seldom advertise themselves as such, so I have to wait for them to contact me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nearly all my female friends on here approached me first. I love it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've done it, but not often. It's actually nerve racking! I wouldn't cope well as a single male.

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

nope

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So - there seems to be a fairly simple lesson here to all the guys - try putting some thought into your profile, and if you're lucky, you might be approached for a change!

Now, where's my thinking cap. I need to change my profile....

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"So - there seems to be a fairly simple lesson here to all the guys - try putting some thought into your profile, and if you're lucky, you might be approached for a change!

Now, where's my thinking cap. I need to change my profile...."

It's quite simple really when you think about it isn't it?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So - there seems to be a fairly simple lesson here to all the guys - try putting some thought into your profile, and if you're lucky, you might be approached for a change!

Now, where's my thinking cap. I need to change my profile....

It's quite simple really when you think about it isn't it? "

You'd have thought so.... Seems like there are some on here that struggle to grasp the idea though!

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I have a few times but it was an innocent remark about their pics etc, sometimes the chat develops and sometimes it doesn't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you ever approached a guy first and initiated chat - or do you always wait for them to come to you??

I don't consider myself to be a complete Troll, and get my fair share of action, but it's always me that kicks off.

Are we still old fashioned in that respect here?

And guys - if you have been approached, how did you feel about it??"

Single male wise its always better to approach the ones seen as most suitable. We have no problem with rejection and so its the quickest way to find the type we like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I did send a few winks out last time I was on here but normally I never make the initial contact with a view to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've approached a few in response to a wink but never totally uninitiated.

I'd hate to be a man on here, it must be terrifying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've only done it a small few times "
i doubt if I would beat you off with a stick

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I find I have so little time, by the time Ive read the forums, there is barely any left to reply to new mail, let alone find a prospective sex mate. I would and have done, but the quality of profiles is a bit on the low side.

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

Of course I approach first. Why women wouldn't is beyond me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes i have to message women and no reply normally lol! My profile must not be for women on here too as none ever message me haha! I wonder why!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never approach first. But thinking about it, I don't know why not...maybe that would be a better approach.

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis


"Have you ever approached a guy first and initiated chat "

I always contact guys...I take my time! I'd rather do the approaching...you see, I like being in control. Of course it does not always mean I am that person's cup of tea and vice versa but that's life

What I would really like is for a lovely sexy bi lady to contact me...maybe I'll start a thread similar to yours OP

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Of course I approach first. Why women wouldn't is beyond me. "

I hate searching through profiles, and such interesting people come and find me, so it's just easier.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no issues with initiating contact with men if I like the look of them

Sometimes its far easier to find what you want rather than wait for it to come to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always go looking. 95% of the time I have no profile and it pisses me off that people are so desperate that they will still mail someone with no pics and no text.

I like getting turned down sometimes because it proves that I chat to people with a bit of self respect... not just those people that will chat to anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've made first contact on here loads of times and also made the first move in clubs too.

Some men have been a bit surprised by it but if I see a guy I like the look of I'm not going to sit back and wait for him, strong independent women go out and get what they want lol

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