FabSwingers.com forum: Feeding frenzy?

By *risky_Mare OP Woman
over a year ago

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As a people watcher and avid observer of human behaviour I find it fascinating that when some threads like the current 'Who would you have sex with' one goes up, or the FFF, or sometimes a 'kiss fuck' thread. that there's a mad frenzied scramble. But why???

We're all here to meet people for sex, we all know this - so if we like someone why don't we just message them anyway, why do people need a thread to give them permission to declare an interest??

Or is it just hoping for the ego stroke of being named do you think??

Hmmm? (peers over serious-looking reading specs emoticon)

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I only ever joined in one of those once, a compliment the person above one I think.

I don't like them but other people clearly do and that's fine by me.

I think they serve a number of purposes the main one being a bit of light entertainment and a way of getting a little attention.

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Im not neccessary here to meet for sex. I could be the only one, doubt it.

I dont enter those threads.

Due to filters it could be the only way of letting some people know you fancy them, I imagine a fair few fucks have been fucked from those type of threads.

Not hundreds, just a few fucking dozen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im a people watcher x

dont even read those types of threads.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Obviously it's all fun at the end of the day, there is definitely ego stroking going on. It's also a place to get yourself used to the forum, without having to worry about what you write.....too much anyway.

I post in the topics that interest me, not just sexual ones either.

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

I think the 'best bum' thread is a good example.

People should nominate others not themselves.

People have said 'mine

' only when I look into the profile Im thinking 'no, not at all, thats just a normal, arse with nothing special about it'.

I dont say this though as to offend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's amusing to watch. Why send a pm when they can do it in public......

Like pissing up lamp posts.

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

Fuck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nice butt mate

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By *risky_Mare OP Woman
over a year ago

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"Fuck"

Haha, I'm no into spanking but I think the bot gets a smack for that!

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By *risky_Mare OP Woman
over a year ago

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"Nice butt mate "

Don't you start, this is an erstwhile thread I'll have you know!

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

"Fuck

Haha, I'm no into spanking but I think the bot gets a smack for that!"

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

"Nice butt mate

Don't you start, this is an erstwhile thread I'll have you know!"

It is kind of a rule that all threads must at some point become threads about my bottom. Didn't you get the memo?

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By *risky_Mare OP Woman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Nice butt mate

Don't you start, this is an erstwhile thread I'll have you know!

It is kind of a rule that all threads must at some point become threads about my bottom. Didn't you get the memo?"

Oh no, OK, well I am sure a considered analysis of obsessions with your buttocks could be worked into the diatribe somewhere!

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By *aceytopWoman
over a year ago

from a town near you

must admit I thought the same thing last night when a f**k me thread came on yet again,just msg them if you fancy them,

by the way nice bum funky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They're lighthearted, fun for some and no nastiness

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By *risky_Mare OP Woman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Im not neccessary here to meet for sex. I could be the only one, doubt it.

I dont enter those threads.

Due to filters it could be the only way of letting some people know you fancy them,"

That's a very valid point.

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

"Im not neccessary here to meet for sex. I could be the only one, doubt it.

I dont enter those threads.

Due to filters it could be the only way of letting some people know you fancy them,

That's a very valid point."

That dosent usually happen, I will return to chatting shit in 5...4...3...2...1

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By *aceytopWoman
over a year ago

from a town near you

"Im not neccessary here to meet for sex. I could be the only one, doubt it.

I dont enter those threads.

Due to filters it could be the only way of letting some people know you fancy them,

That's a very valid point."
it is

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

I've had a meet with someone I couldn't pm due to filters, from one of those threads.

Yes they can be overdone and flood the forum at times but sometimes it's a good break from the angry threads.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been trying to have my wicked way with the OP for ages, maybe this thread is a subliminal way of her telling me she is gagging for my body

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By *risky_Mare OP Woman
over a year ago

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"Been trying to have my wicked way with the OP for ages, maybe this thread is a subliminal way of her telling me she is gagging for my body

Hahaha, get back in yer box!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had a meet with someone I couldn't pm due to filters, from one of those threads.

Yes they can be overdone and flood the forum at times but sometimes it's a good break from the angry threads. "

Is there a burger filter?

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I think sometimes you may have someone express an interest in you who you would never have expected to be interested in 100 years.

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

"I've had a meet with someone I couldn't pm due to filters, from one of those threads.

Yes they can be overdone and flood the forum at times but sometimes it's a good break from the angry threads.

Is there a burger filter?

I'm sure there must be as every bugger seems to be activating it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had a meet with someone I couldn't pm due to filters, from one of those threads.

Yes they can be overdone and flood the forum at times but sometimes it's a good break from the angry threads.

Is there a burger filter?

I'm sure there must be as every bugger seems to be activating it

I don't like Burgers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I join in from time to time to lighten the mood and have a little fun and sometimes enjoy sitting back and watching what happens.

Filters was a great point and I managed to get chatting to someone through one of these threads which worked out really well for me.

Frisky your are right though why do we hold back instead of messaging someone we would like to meet. I guess in someway we are all still body concuss or have hang ups and think they might not be interested for what ever reason. Silly really but human nature.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think sometimes you may have someone express an interest in you who you would never have expected to be interested in 100 years.

How long have you been on here?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had a meet with someone I couldn't pm due to filters, from one of those threads.

Yes they can be overdone and flood the forum at times but sometimes it's a good break from the angry threads.

Is there a burger filter?

I'm sure there must be as every bugger seems to be activating it

I don't like Burgers

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fancy a tossed salad?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had a meet with someone I couldn't pm due to filters, from one of those threads.

Yes they can be overdone and flood the forum at times but sometimes it's a good break from the angry threads.

Is there a burger filter?

I'm sure there must be as every bugger seems to be activating it

I don't like Burgers

You'd like Ryan.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I rarely join in these threads and when I do I play it like Russian roulette. I just put shag/fuck and don't bother to see who's above.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

"I think sometimes you may have someone express an interest in you who you would never have expected to be interested in 100 years.

How long have you been on here?!

Not long enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I rarely join in these threads and when I do I play it like Russian roulette. I just put shag/fuck and don't bother to see who's above. "

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"As a people watcher and avid observer of human behaviour I find it fascinating that when some threads like the current 'Who would you have sex with' one goes up, or the FFF, or sometimes a 'kiss fuck' thread. that there's a mad frenzied scramble. But why???

We're all here to meet people for sex, we all know this - so if we like someone why don't we just message them anyway, why do people need a thread to give them permission to declare an interest??

Or is it just hoping for the ego stroke of being named do you think??

Hmmm? (peers over serious-looking reading specs emoticon)"

Admit it.

You were working on that 'bookface social manipulation experiment' and the dating site malarkey too!

The serious looking reading specs give it away!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're all here to meet people for sex, we all know this - so if we like someone why don't we just message them anyway, why do people need a thread to give them permission to declare an interest??

Or is it just hoping for the ego stroke of being named do you think??

Hmmm? (peers over serious-looking reading specs emoticon)"

I put it down to the fact some people just don't have the confidence or struggle with rejection and almost need a yes before they ask. I guess some do like the ego stroke but lots of people wouldn't refuse one.

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By *exxxesCouple
over a year ago

Newbury / London

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By *exxxesCouple
over a year ago

Newbury / London

and at the the time of writing the top 3 threads are all 'fuck, kiss, etc

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By *risky_Mare OP Woman
over a year ago

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I saw! Roll up, roll up, all you kiss fuck pass avoiders!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I stopped posting in those kind of threads when I saw a pattern emerging. Every time I commented nobody seemed to comment afterwards, therefore closing the whole thread and ruining everyone's fun, and possibly weekend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"and at the the time of writing the top 3 threads are all 'fuck, kiss, etc

Do you think someone is in need of attention?

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By *risky_Mare OP Woman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

We're all here to meet people for sex, we all know this - so if we like someone why don't we just message them anyway, why do people need a thread to give them permission to declare an interest??

Or is it just hoping for the ego stroke of being named do you think??

Hmmm? (peers over serious-looking reading specs emoticon)

Admit it.

You were working on that 'bookface social manipulation experiment' and the dating site malarkey too!

The serious looking reading specs give it away!

I'm gathering evidence for my thesis and best selling follow-up book.........damn, did I say that out loud?

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By *risky_Mare OP Woman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

We're all here to meet people for sex, we all know this - so if we like someone why don't we just message them anyway, why do people need a thread to give them permission to declare an interest??

Or is it just hoping for the ego stroke of being named do you think??

Hmmm? (peers over serious-looking reading specs emoticon)

No argument there, we all like to be wanted and admired, human nature.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nice butt mate

Don't you start, this is an erstwhile thread I'll have you know!

It is kind of a rule that all threads must at some point become threads about my bottom. Didn't you get the memo?

Oh no, OK, well I am sure a considered analysis of obsessions with your buttocks could be worked into the diatribe somewhere!

I like the way his clenched cheeks resemble a plump love heart

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

Oops Frisky, I've think you've inspired someone to play silly buggers and go bump a load of incomplete kiss, fuck, pass threads.

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By *risky_Mare OP Woman
over a year ago

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"Oops Frisky, I've think you've inspired someone to play silly buggers and go bump a load of incomplete kiss, fuck, pass threads. "

Someone hoping to get ahold of someone outside their filters perhaps so wanting several bites at the cherry?? I accept no responsibility for unforseen consequences.....

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By *picyspiregirlCouple
over a year ago

chesterfield

"Oops Frisky, I've think you've inspired someone to play silly buggers and go bump a load of incomplete kiss, fuck, pass threads. "

Do people believe that the ego stroking is confined to the kiss, snog, avoid type threads or would it be more prevalent in threads such as the annual forum awards?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oops Frisky, I've think you've inspired someone to play silly buggers and go bump a load of incomplete kiss, fuck, pass threads.

Do people believe that the ego stroking is confined to the kiss, snog, avoid type threads or would it be more prevalent in threads such as the annual forum awards?"

I think it happens in most threads you get to see someone comment and you have an opportunity to say wow you looked great in your picture, this is pat of fabs life in the forums.

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By *picyspiregirlCouple
over a year ago

chesterfield

"Oops Frisky, I've think you've inspired someone to play silly buggers and go bump a load of incomplete kiss, fuck, pass threads.

Do people believe that the ego stroking is confined to the kiss, snog, avoid type threads or would it be more prevalent in threads such as the annual forum awards?

I think it happens in most threads you get to see someone comment and you have an opportunity to say wow you looked great in your picture, this is pat of fabs life in the forums. "

If it happens in most threads, why is attention given to one type of thread? Is there a thread snobbery being displayed? It could be argued that ego stroking is going on in this thread, is that more acceptable?

I'm sure people will post on the threads they want to post on for their own reasons and good luck to them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I post on threads that interest me or just for the banter, most of them are just a bit of fun and am easily amused,

If I want to message someone I will

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By *risky_Mare OP Woman
over a year ago

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I'm sure people will post on the threads they want to post on for their own reasons and good luck to them."

For sure. This thread was simply asking a question about why people are so keen to post on a particular type of thread. People can and will use any and all types of thread to compliment or flirt or stroke egos.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fancy a shag?

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By *risky_Mare OP Woman
over a year ago

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"Fancy a shag?"

Haha, I thought you'd never ask!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fancy a shag?

Haha, I thought you'd never ask!

Oh Frisky

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

those threads could be _iewed as an ice breaker, due to someone either not being one of those threads before being seen, or by just sheer coincidence of someone saying thank you for fabbing my picture.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I think people just want to fit in and be included

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes the thread subjects are pretty dire and they may fill in a few moments. They do get a little cheesy but no harm done.

As for the direct approach ....I imagine research would show a large percentage of members rarely meet and in fact prefer flirtatious banter.

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

I'm sure people will post on the threads they want to post on for their own reasons and good luck to them.

I think some will see it as a safe thread to post in as well - those that are wary or maybe not as confident to post in other forum topics.

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By *risky_Mare OP Woman
over a year ago

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I think some will see it as a safe thread to post in as well - those that are wary or maybe not as confident to post in other forum topics. "

Yes, I can see that new faces might pop up on a 'fun' thread. But I think they're the wrong place for a fragile ego anyway, if nervous people get ignored they'll feel worse? I do think there is a certain mob dynamic to them though, it's like a little vortex that sucks people in!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone commented yesterday about it being like a flash mob,

Some's it up perfectly for me

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I can honestly say I have never posted on one of those threads

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