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Getting to know people or not??

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Is it just us or do most people on here now prefer to do last minute random meets with almost anyone and not bother getting to know a little about people they could end up meeting and see if you actually click and can hold a half decent convo together and more important see if you are all into the same things regarding a meet??

Yeah we know this is a swinging site and not a dating site or facebook and were not looking to spend weeks and weeks chatting but surely it its better to meet with people you are attracted to and feel you could get on with on a social? We have chatted to some people and after they messaged us 2 times they ask if we want to meet, after we say we prefer to chat a little longer some have been known to flip and show there true colours, now we would much rather find out what people are really like via message first than a actual meet where it could be awkward. Anyway rant over lol. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Will read and comment later

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

maybe they want a social meet as trying to establish a connection that way is easier.......

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

This is how I do things and if they are not happy (which is mainly the case) Then I definitely will not be meeting them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always meet for a drink first therefore i like to get to know people a bit first, i like to know there is a chance we will like each other before we meet, my spare time is limited so i use it wisely

clubs are for on the spot animalist shag

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah, i like to get to know someone before we meet. But, i'm not the kind to push for a meet. I'd hint it so that's it out there and that they know. Then it's really up to them if they want to meet or not - i've showed my interest and been messaging for that reason.

..maybe i need to change my approach.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer to chat and get to know someone a bit first then a social meet. I found that last minute meets never work out for me and usually leaves me feeling crap when things don't work out.

If potential meets don't like the way I do things then they can click onto the next profile. I'm happy to wait until I click with someone

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This is how I do things and if they are not happy (which is mainly the case) Then I definitely will not be meeting them. "

Same with us, if its not for them then fair enough but thats how we roll

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

It depends on the type of meet I'm having. Dogging, then I'm not that fussed about getting to know them. If I'm going to a TG event with them, then I want to get to know them a bit first. I don't want to spend the evening with someone who turns out to be a knobhead, just as they wouldn't want to spend the evening with someone who turns out to be an arsehole.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I always meet for a drink first therefore i like to get to know people a bit first, i like to know there is a chance we will like each other before we meet, my spare time is limited so i use it wisely

clubs are for on the spot animalist shag "

Our time is very limited too so we can only do a meet every now and then so even more important to us that we can find people we click with before any meet

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I prefer to chat and get to know someone a bit first then a social meet. I found that last minute meets never work out for me and usually leaves me feeling crap when things don't work out.

If potential meets don't like the way I do things then they can click onto the next profile. I'm happy to wait until I click with someone "

We second that!!

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By *overs14Couple
over a year ago

norwich

We like to chat a bit on here, kik or whatsapp with people before meeting. We wouldn't meet anyone we hadn't got to know a bit. It can be hard for us to get babysitters so we don't want to waste our time meeting people that we then don't get on with x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We like to chat a bit on here, kik or whatsapp with people before meeting. We wouldn't meet anyone we hadn't got to know a bit. It can be hard for us to get babysitters so we don't want to waste our time meeting people that we then don't get on with x"
same but it seems as soon as we mention kik people either loose interest or start pestering for a meet, it can get pretty horny spending the time gwtting to know people and makes it even more worth while when you do meet after chatting/flirting and sending to odd picture x

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

I prefer a social meet first, but have no qualms about going from there straight to play if we all agree

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By *overs14Couple
over a year ago

norwich


"We like to chat a bit on here, kik or whatsapp with people before meeting. We wouldn't meet anyone we hadn't got to know a bit. It can be hard for us to get babysitters so we don't want to waste our time meeting people that we then don't get on with x same but it seems as soon as we mention kik people either loose interest or start pestering for a meet, it can get pretty horny spending the time gwtting to know people and makes it even more worth while when you do meet after chatting/flirting and sending to odd picture x"

We enjoy the whole chatting a bit on kik and exchanging a few pics before meeting. We've been quite lucky so far in finding couple who are also up for it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was always a social first for me then plan to meet up @ a later date. Only twice did I break that rule. But only because we had spoke for weeks/months first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't be bothered chatting for long up front, I prefer to chat a bit then have a social meet.

After that chatting is fine because we know something will come of it and we will meet again. I can't see the point in chatting for ages before a social because we might not get on in person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We like to chat a bit on here, kik or whatsapp with people before meeting. We wouldn't meet anyone we hadn't got to know a bit. It can be hard for us to get babysitters so we don't want to waste our time meeting people that we then don't get on with x same but it seems as soon as we mention kik people either loose interest or start pestering for a meet, it can get pretty horny spending the time gwtting to know people and makes it even more worth while when you do meet after chatting/flirting and sending to odd picture x"

If someone wants to swap pics and have sex talk before we've met in person, I just figure it's a guy wanking and I stop chatting to them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I can't be bothered chatting for long up front, I prefer to chat a bit then have a social meet.

After that chatting is fine because we know something will come of it and we will meet again. I can't see the point in chatting for ages before a social because we might not get on in person. "

Thats just it we dont want to chat for weeks, just enough to work out if its worth meeting in person or not.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We like to chat a bit on here, kik or whatsapp with people before meeting. We wouldn't meet anyone we hadn't got to know a bit. It can be hard for us to get babysitters so we don't want to waste our time meeting people that we then don't get on with x same but it seems as soon as we mention kik people either loose interest or start pestering for a meet, it can get pretty horny spending the time gwtting to know people and makes it even more worth while when you do meet after chatting/flirting and sending to odd picture x

We enjoy the whole chatting a bit on kik and exchanging a few pics before meeting. We've been quite lucky so far in finding couple who are also up for it x"

Where are you finding these people? Lol as we seem to attract the one liners all the time or the "hi we love your profile fancy coming to ours tonight" ones.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can't be bothered chatting for long up front, I prefer to chat a bit then have a social meet.

After that chatting is fine because we know something will come of it and we will meet again. I can't see the point in chatting for ages before a social because we might not get on in person.

Thats just it we dont want to chat for weeks, just enough to work out if its worth meeting in person or not."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We like to chat a bit on here, kik or whatsapp with people before meeting. We wouldn't meet anyone we hadn't got to know a bit. It can be hard for us to get babysitters so we don't want to waste our time meeting people that we then don't get on with x same but it seems as soon as we mention kik people either loose interest or start pestering for a meet, it can get pretty horny spending the time gwtting to know people and makes it even more worth while when you do meet after chatting/flirting and sending to odd picture x

If someone wants to swap pics and have sex talk before we've met in person, I just figure it's a guy wanking and I stop chatting to them. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What is too long of a time to message?

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By *overs14Couple
over a year ago

norwich

Really lol? We haven't had any of that (so far). We do get messages like that from single men, but we ignore them as we are only looking to meet other couples x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social meet is always safer especially for a single woman, I've met some great people but also a couple of real nutcases who were definitely not what they claimed to be.

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I like to chat first and get a feel for their personality, its very rare that I will meet spur of the moment, some probably get fed up with the mailing but hey its how I do it, if you cant handle a few messages then I don't think you are the person for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I prefer the build up of getting to know someone rather than a quick fuck, for me best sex is mix of mental aswell as physical stimulation and attraction.

But hey each to their own and all that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never do last minute meets on here unless its a quick social drink locally but that has happened rarely

I prefer to chat for a while and make that clear at the start,If they ignore that and start being pushy then I return the compliment and ignore them too

We all do what works best for us,some people like instant meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can't be bothered chatting for long up front, I prefer to chat a bit then have a social meet.

After that chatting is fine because we know something will come of it and we will meet again. I can't see the point in chatting for ages before a social because we might not get on in person. "

But I wasn't meeting back then, only chatting in the chat rooms. I was on here for nearly a year before I did

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Getting to know you, getting to know all about you...

Did I get the lyric right?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Getting to know you, getting to know all about you...

Did I get the lyric right?"

Getting to like you, Getting to hope you like me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always prefer to get to know someone before meeting, you can do a short notice meet with them anytime as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The problem with last minute meet (for me at least) is that I didn't have time to establish a connection... Which could make things awkward

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

Due to real life, I cannot do short notice meets, and even if I could, I wouldn't.

If I wanted a quick fuck, I'd go out on the pull on the town.

Fan is the icing on my cake of fun - not the cake itself.

I prefer to get to know someone, learn a bit about them (male, female or couple) then a social to check they are who they say, we click in person and for chemistry, and then I like to plan for a proper meet.

Someone doesn't like it, then move along, they're not for me.

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