FabSwingers.com forum: Confidence

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok so I struggle with my confidence at times especially in the presence of ladies I fiand attractive . I only lost my virginity 2 years ago I believe due to my lack of self confidence but a very lovely lady took a chance and decided I was worth a bit of effort we have since broken up .

But here's the thing I have lots of friend male and female who tell me I should be more confident as I am a lovely guy .

So ladies do you think confidence attracts you to a guy ?

Would you be patient with someone lacking a little confidence or is it too much hassle ?

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

For a fab meet, too much hassle... I'm not into teaching and being an ego boost - fab is supposed to be fun, and that means being relaxed and enjoying.

As a friend, I'd have more patience, but it would never be sexual as I like confident men in bed.

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By *nigmatic1Woman
over a year ago

A seaside town near you!

Crickey There's nothing shy about your pics!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Crickey There's nothing shy about your pics!

Was thinking the same,,

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Crickey There's nothing shy about your pics!

See now I am blushing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Confidence does. I'm afraid your photos don't

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Crickey There's nothing shy about your pics!

Was thinking the same,, "

Yea I also webcam but doing something over the net is easier than face to face I just feel self conscious in real life

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Confidence does. I'm afraid your photos don't "

That's fair banana not everyone liked Shrek

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i had a very badly botched circumcision a couple of months ago, a malpractice claim is under way, it has totally destroyed any confidence i ever had, this is why we have stopped swinging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I would only go for a confident guy. I like witty men that I can talk to. And I like a man who's not afraid to take control and who's experienced with a lady.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pof might be the place, don't use them pics though,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pof might be the place, don't use them pics though,

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Personally I would only go for a confident guy. I like witty men that I can talk to. And I like a man who's not afraid to take control and who's experienced with a lady. "

I can chat and joke and be cheeky but only with the thought in my head that the lady is just having a joke x Plus if someone doesn't give us a chance how do we get experience to gain confidence

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Pof might be the place, don't use them pics though, "

So you ladies saying this place isn't right for me ? And what is wrong with my pics ??

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By *nigmatic1Woman
over a year ago

A seaside town near you!

"Pof might be the place, don't use them pics though, "

Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not the most confident of women myself when it comes to meeting on Fab so I always go for the confident man.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Pof might be the place, don't use them pics though,

So you ladies saying this place isn't right for me ? And what is wrong with my pics ??

Nothing wrong with them but I

and said Crikey!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Pof might be the place, don't use them pics though,

So you ladies saying this place isn't right for me ? And what is wrong with my pics ??

They will probable put off the type of people you're looking to meet and encourage the ones you don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally I would only go for a confident guy. I like witty men that I can talk to. And I like a man who's not afraid to take control and who's experienced with a lady.

I can chat and joke and be cheeky but only with the thought in my head that the lady is just having a joke x Plus if someone doesn't give us a chance how do we get experience to gain confidence

You asked a question I answered it of you don't like the answer don't ask the question

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you may of put those pics up thinking that's what woman want to see.

Put some casual ones on there and take those off.

You never know, show confidence in your writing.

Her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

them pics would put me off right away id think you were looking for men

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Personally I would only go for a confident guy. I like witty men that I can talk to. And I like a man who's not afraid to take control and who's experienced with a lady.

I can chat and joke and be cheeky but only with the thought in my head that the lady is just having a joke x Plus if someone doesn't give us a chance how do we get experience to gain confidence

You asked a question I answered it of you don't like the answer don't ask the question

No your answer was fine I was just asking how would you suggest getting confidence ? Hope I didn't offend not my intention wouldn'task for advice then kick off if I didn't like answer

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

What's wrong with the pics? There are loads of threads where women say size doesn't matter.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Pof might be the place, don't use them pics though,

So you ladies saying this place isn't right for me ? And what is wrong with my pics ??

Nothing wrong with them but I

and said Crikey! "

So remove all my pics ? Wow wasn't expecting as much response to be honest x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think you may of put those pics up thinking that's what woman want to see.

Put some casual ones on there and take those off.

You never know, show confidence in your writing.

Her"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you thought about going to a club. I am also quite shy and have trouble making conversation, but, being in the chat rooms and having gone to Angels last night has helped me make some connections.

Hopefully some meets will follow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Confidence is key especially on here.

I would honestly take out some of your photos out though, how many with a toy do you need?! One or two is plenty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Pof might be the place, don't use them pics though,

So you ladies saying this place isn't right for me ? And what is wrong with my pics ??

Nothing wrong with them but I

and said Crikey!

So remove all my pics ? Wow wasn't expecting as much response to be honest x "

I didn't say you needed to remove all your pics but personally I found some of them to be a bit graphic. I have to admit the thought of the fist brought tears to my eyes

but that's just my reaction and opinion.

It's your profile, you have whatever pictures you want on there. Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Confidence is key especially on here.

I would honestly take out some of your photos out though, how many with a toy do you need?! One or two is plenty."

They were originally posted as someone requested some but thanks for opinion

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By *utumnWoman
over a year ago

leeds

"Personally I would only go for a confident guy. I like witty men that I can talk to. And I like a man who's not afraid to take control and who's experienced with a lady. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for the honest opinions about my pics and the ones that answered my actual question

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Confidence does. I'm afraid your photos don't

That's fair banana not everyone liked Shrek

Shrek had his flaws but in the end he turned into a very nice ogre

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

For those that suggest my pics go I have followed your advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok so I struggle with my confidence at times especially in the presence of ladies I fiand attractive . I only lost my virginity 2 years ago I believe due to my lack of self confidence but a very lovely lady took a chance and decided I was worth a bit of effort we have since broken up .

But here's the thing I have lots of friend male and female who tell me I should be more confident as I am a lovely guy .

So ladies do you think confidence attracts you to a guy ?

Would you be patient with someone lacking a little confidence or is it too much hassle ? "

It depends. There's a guy I know that lacks confidence but when you get chatting to him he's really funny and cool. Other people have said he seems odd but I think he's just shy. Not sure why he chats to me and not so much to other people.

I'd like to think I'm friendly and make him feel at ease but more probably he just laughs cos he thinks I'm odd.

So yes I'm patient enough to find out what lies behind the shyness...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But here's the thing I have lots of friend male and female who tell me I should be more confident as I am a lovely guy .

So ladies do you think confidence attracts you to a guy ?

Would you be patient with someone lacking a little confidence or is it too much hassle ?

I'd like to think I'm friendly and make him feel at ease but more probably he just laughs cos he thinks I'm odd.

So yes I'm patient enough to find out what lies behind the shyness..."

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

But here's the thing I have lots of friend male and female who tell me I should be more confident as I am a lovely guy .

So ladies do you think confidence attracts you to a guy ?

Would you be patient with someone lacking a little confidence or is it too much hassle ?

I'd like to think I'm friendly and make him feel at ease but more probably he just laughs cos he thinks I'm odd.

So yes I'm patient enough to find out what lies behind the shyness..."

Scarlet thanks for this reply has restored some faith that asking a question on the forum will get a sensible response xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But here's the thing I have lots of friend male and female who tell me I should be more confident as I am a lovely guy .

So ladies do you think confidence attracts you to a guy ?

Would you be patient with someone lacking a little confidence or is it too much hassle ?

I'd like to think I'm friendly and make him feel at ease but more probably he just laughs cos he thinks I'm odd.

So yes I'm patient enough to find out what lies behind the shyness...

Scarlet thanks for this reply has restored some faith that asking a question on the forum will get a sensible response xx "

Crikey I've never been called sensible before. xxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Awww scarlet xx I am sure you are lovely you sound it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Practice, used to be really shy, stuttered with my words and felt a fool, forced myself to get over it by chatting to as many women as possible and also cam2cam, that was years ago. In the present world I'm confident, take the lead, converse and so on, do have a little complex when comes to super hot fit ladies so don't message them as think I'm just average so why bother as wouldnt have a chance in hell, but I tend to go with girls with a sexy mind more so than if she were super hot

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Practice, used to be really shy, stuttered with my words and felt a fool, forced myself to get over it by chatting to as many women as possible and also cam2cam, that was years ago. In the present world I'm confident, take the lead, converse and so on, do have a little complex when comes to super hot fit ladies so don't message them as think I'm just average so why bother as wouldnt have a chance in hell, but I tend to go with girls with a sexy mind more so than if she were super hot"

Cheers for advice mate glad you got over it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not overly confident myself so meeting someone likewise wouldn't work, we'd never get anything done

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm not overly confident myself so meeting someone likewise wouldn't work, we'd never get anything done

We would probably have a giggle just never get around to being jiggy with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are low on confidence buy you enjoy anal, fisting and making videos?

The last two years have been eventful

If your not confident fake it till you make it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You are low on confidence buy you enjoy anal, fisting and making videos?

The last two years have been eventful

If your not confident fake it till you make it."

I said in op I met a lovely young lady who showed me the ropes and the fisting thing was a friend who is a domme

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You are low on confidence buy you enjoy anal, fisting and making videos?

The last two years have been eventful

If your not confident fake it till you make it.

I said in op I met a lovely young lady who showed me the ropes and the fisting thing was a friend who is a domme

Did you fist or get fisted?

Just joking not everybody on here is brimming with confidence. Just take your time and speak to people. I would not highlight your weaknesses to be honest.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

If you haven't got confidence, just fake it and see how you get on.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ermmm she's the Domme let's leave it at that haahaa

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you haven't got confidence, just fake it and see how you get on.

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Oi I just said that lol.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

"If you haven't got confidence, just fake it and see how you get on.

Oi I just said that lol."

Sorry

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"If you haven't got confidence, just fake it and see how you get on.

Oi I just said that lol."

You forgot to copyright it.

OP, don't highlight your lack of confidence (I know Complex said that too), and let people get to know you as you get to know them.

Some of the "confident" are just cocky and that is annoying.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If you haven't got confidence, just fake it and see how you get on.

Oi I just said that lol.

You forgot to copyright it.

OP, don't highlight your lack of confidence (I know Complex said that too), and let people get to know you as you get to know them.

Some of the "confident" are just cocky and that is annoying.

Bit late now I posted lol

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Deal with the symptoms or the cause? Get others to help you or do it mainly by yourself? Two ways of thinking about it. Our confidence is our own to nurture, and where we have behaviour that contradicts this, then you need to understand why, and what you have gained from staying that way. You could have a string of meets with understanding partners, but if you deep down have an issue then I think it is about more than just more experience with women. If you are ably confident in some situations and not others, then there is a core issue to address. Id focus on that and meet others as and when you can, but not needing rescuing. All partners for us all should be respectful, but expecting too much of others, when they just want largely no hassle fun, may work against you in the long run. Good luck!

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