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By *risky_Mare OP   Woman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

OK, you talk to someone, you get along, you agree to meet, but you aren't free for a couple of weeks, they say let them know......but sometimes they drift off a bit meanwhile.

Then someone else comes along, keen as mustard, talking a lot - and suddenly you find you have a day free - who do you meet and why?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

The one I fancy the most.

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By *hortieWoman
over a year ago

Northampton


"The one I fancy the most."

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Never ever both, as knowing my luck, I'd go to the ladies, confident in being the filling of a sandwich and upon my return, find they've both gone off to have some fun together.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

The one that is free that day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The one I fancy the most."

i was going to say the best looking one

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"The one I fancy the most.

i was going to say the best looking one "

Same thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I need help

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"The one that is free that day.

"

Drop them both a line.

If one is free? Decision made!

If both? Dilemma!!! Tricky decision or both?

If neither? You're fucked! (And not in the way you wanted!!)

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Normally a patient one, the one that is not all talk.

And still enjoys a message or two still knowing they have to hang on a bit.

Tells a bit about a person to me that.

Her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Neither - you meet me instead.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"The one that is free that day.

Drop them both a line.

If one is free? Decision made!

If both? Dilemma!!! Tricky decision or both?

If neither? You're fucked! (And not in the way you wanted!!)

A"

My experience is that when I am free they are not - hence the weeks of trying to get a meet sorted. If I find myself suddenly free I can never get a meet with someone I want to meet.

If they both said they happened to be free I would say yes to the one that responded first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both i'm greedy

The one that's been patient mind you there's nothing saying you cant meet one in the day and the other at night xx

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"The one that is free that day.

Drop them both a line.

If one is free? Decision made!

If both? Dilemma!!! Tricky decision or both?

If neither? You're fucked! (And not in the way you wanted!!)

A

My experience is that when I am free they are not - hence the weeks of trying to get a meet sorted. If I find myself suddenly free I can never get a meet with someone I want to meet.

If they both said they happened to be free I would say yes to the one that responded first.

"

You lead a busy life!

Is it too much notice to book another motorboat for Fox for September ?

A

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"The one that is free that day.

Drop them both a line.

If one is free? Decision made!

If both? Dilemma!!! Tricky decision or both?

If neither? You're fucked! (And not in the way you wanted!!)

A

My experience is that when I am free they are not - hence the weeks of trying to get a meet sorted. If I find myself suddenly free I can never get a meet with someone I want to meet.

If they both said they happened to be free I would say yes to the one that responded first.

You lead a busy life!

Is it too much notice to book another motorboat for Fox for September ?

A"

My diary has work stuff in it right up to December. I have free time. Weekends are fine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Normally a patient one, the one that is not all talk.

And still enjoys a message or two still knowing they have to hang on a bit.

Tells a bit about a person to me that.

Her"

Snap.

No patience equals no meet and they can go fuck themselves instead

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Normally a patient one, the one that is not all talk.

And still enjoys a message or two still knowing they have to hang on a bit.

Tells a bit about a person to me that.

Her

Snap.

No patience equals no meet and they can go fuck themselves instead "
That's it, fuck em

Her

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By *risky_Mare OP   Woman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"The one that is free that day.

Drop them both a line.

If one is free? Decision made!

If both? Dilemma!!! Tricky decision or both?

"

It's the tricky decisions I am often faced with. Patient vs keen. Local/reliable vs hot. Convenience vs intrigue. Aaargh!

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts


"

Is it too much notice to book another motorboat for Fox for September ?

A"

More dangerous with some than others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If your here to meet do it.dnt timewaste like the chatters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Normally a patient one, the one that is not all talk.

And still enjoys a message or two still knowing they have to hang on a bit.

Tells a bit about a person to me that.

Her"

Unfortunately being patient doesn't always work out that way as I've found recently...

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"

Is it too much notice to book another motorboat for Fox for September ?

A

More dangerous with some than others "

Not if we get enough notice !

I can easily source a crash helmet !

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jeeez rub it in girls You have an embarrassment of riches

I can't imagine a bloke starting a thread about how to chose between 2 women both wanting to meet him lol By the sounds of things most blokes would be happy just to have 2 women reply to any of their messages lol

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By *risky_Mare OP   Woman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Jeeez rub it in girls You have an embarrassment of riches

I can't imagine a bloke starting a thread about how to chose between 2 women both wanting to meet him lol By the sounds of things most blokes would be happy just to have 2 women reply to any of their messages lol "

Sorry, I've been wanting to ask for ages and did not post for that reason. It's a lot more than two....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Jeeez rub it in girls You have an embarrassment of riches

I can't imagine a bloke starting a thread about how to chose between 2 women both wanting to meet him lol By the sounds of things most blokes would be happy just to have 2 women reply to any of their messages lol

Sorry, I've been wanting to ask for ages and did not post for that reason. It's a lot more than two....

"

lol just pulling yer leg frisky...you lucky thing

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Jeeez rub it in girls You have an embarrassment of riches

I can't imagine a bloke starting a thread about how to chose between 2 women both wanting to meet him lol By the sounds of things most blokes would be happy just to have 2 women reply to any of their messages lol "

The men I meet often have a choice when I request a meet - they slot in me when they can.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i usually forget about people but i would meet the nicest most friendliest one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You meet me instead

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

if im online .. choose meeee

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I liked them both and one could meet then that one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your status update! "The squeaky hinge gets the oil!!"

Personally I think being in the moment is more important -in play- than rewarding patience. You gotta strike while the iron is hot! This is pure luck, sometimes schedules just don't match, weeks pass without meeting and the initial excitement is gone.


"It's the tricky decisions I am often faced with. Patient vs keen. Local/reliable vs hot. Convenience vs intrigue. Aaargh!"

Mix&match

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The one whom seduces your mind and makes you want more

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By *risky_Mare OP   Woman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"You meet me instead"

Haha, see, you just compound the problem even more!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't see there's anything wrong with having a few men simmering away on the back burner so to speak....

so if someone new was to message me and we were both free I'd meet him & meet the other one later on as semi planned.

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By *risky_Mare OP   Woman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Your status update! "The squeak hinge gets the oil!!"

Personally I think being in the moment is more important -in play- than rewarding patience. You gotta strike while the iron is hot! This is pure luck, sometimes schedules just don't match, weeks pass without meeting and the initial excitement is gone.

"

Yes, that's what usually happens and some poor patient guy gets left waiting again and then they message me and say 'Are you free yet?' and I feel bad!

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By *risky_Mare OP   Woman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

And other times you talk to someone thinking there could be a spark if they engaged your mind but nothing, nada. Then they start to talk a little too sexual too soon and actually begin to put you off.....

'Nothing kills a bad product quicker than good advertising' is the quote that springs to mind. Ho hum!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The one I fancy the most."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a very interesting dilemma from a male perspective too. Because for the patient one they have to work out how to maintain freshness to stimulate enough interest to be front of mind when opportunity arises, without becoming boring or pushy and a pain in the arse. Whereas the fresh new face doesn't have that ussue but needs to establish trust and credibility quickly.

Patience over a long time is a real challenge and my guess often goes unrewarded in reality because the initial spark gets extinguished by the fresh flood of a new passion

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By *risky_Mare OP   Woman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"It's a very interesting dilemma from a male perspective too. Because for the patient one they have to work out how to maintain freshness to stimulate enough interest to be front of mind when opportunity arises, without becoming boring or pushy and a pain in the arse. Whereas the fresh new face doesn't have that ussue but needs to establish trust and credibility quickly.

Patience over a long time is a real challenge and my guess often goes unrewarded in reality because the initial spark gets extinguished by the fresh flood of a new passion

"

Yes, exactly so, I can see it is very hard to pitch, I often think 'If only you'd kept in touch!'. People complain about being lost in the bottom of inboxes, but quite a few men 'fail to close' in my experience, particularly guys nearer my age. The young bloods are full of testosterone and enthusiasm, and act like they're gonna die if you don't meet them TODAY!!!! Hehe, I confess I love it, but engaging my mind and my emotions to more depth will always hold my attention.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's a very interesting dilemma from a male perspective too. Because for the patient one they have to work out how to maintain freshness to stimulate enough interest to be front of mind when opportunity arises, without becoming boring or pushy and a pain in the arse. Whereas the fresh new face doesn't have that ussue but needs to establish trust and credibility quickly.

Patience over a long time is a real challenge and my guess often goes unrewarded in reality because the initial spark gets extinguished by the fresh flood of a new passion

Yes, exactly so, I can see it is very hard to pitch, I often think 'If only you'd kept in touch!'. People complain about being lost in the bottom of inboxes, but quite a few men 'fail to close' in my experience, particularly guys nearer my age. The young bloods are full of testosterone and enthusiasm, and act like they're gonna die if you don't meet them TODAY!!!! Hehe, I confess I love it, but engaging my mind and my emotions to more depth will always hold my attention.

"

The 'if only you'd kept in touch' group have probably lost patience. Whereas there's a challenge for those who do keep in touch to keep it fresh. It is easy over a longer period of months say for them, especially if it's just messaging, to become dull unless they continually reinvent new ways of grabbing your attention

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By *oeyleicesterMan
over a year ago

Leicester


"It's a very interesting dilemma from a male perspective too. Because for the patient one they have to work out how to maintain freshness to stimulate enough interest to be front of mind when opportunity arises, without becoming boring or pushy and a pain in the arse. Whereas the fresh new face doesn't have that ussue but needs to establish trust and credibility quickly.

Patience over a long time is a real challenge and my guess often goes unrewarded in reality because the initial spark gets extinguished by the fresh flood of a new passion

Yes, exactly so, I can see it is very hard to pitch, I often think 'If only you'd kept in touch!'. People complain about being lost in the bottom of inboxes, but quite a few men 'fail to close' in my experience, particularly guys nearer my age. The young bloods are full of testosterone and enthusiasm, and act like they're gonna die if you don't meet them TODAY!!!! Hehe, I confess I love it, but engaging my mind and my emotions to more depth will always hold my attention.

"

Well I won't die if I don't meet you today but I sure wouldn't complain at all if I did meet you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The one I fancy the most.

i was going to say the best looking one "

Yep it's a dog eat dog world, if that's the game

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By *risky_Mare OP   Woman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


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Well I won't die if I don't meet you today but I sure wouldn't complain at all if I did meet you "

Haha, oh I'm sure you'd have a bit of a moan Joey..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had this happen on more than one occasion. Stadia New Year party ...ended up taking two and all was good...that's what swingers do...it's about fun, not jealousy.

Also ended up taking 3 to a greedy girls event at the Lodge....did get the Micky taken when I turned up that way lol! Said I was a greedy boy - cheek!

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