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murdered by my bf..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Heads up its in BBC 1 at 10.35pm loads of mates raving about it, must watch, true story/documentary. Your welcome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fine but if it's crap I will blame you

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I had to do a big presentation on the back of this...it's well written and worth a watch not something to rave about, domestic violence isn't but if it open peoples eyes to DV then it's done it's job

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

No I thinks it'll be really good, have a gander. Shit loads of people raving about it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have seen this, I really enjoyed it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I had to do a big presentation on the back of this...it's well written and worth a watch not something to rave about, domestic violence isn't but if it open peoples eyes to DV then it's done it's job "

Oh alright smarty pants lol!

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"Fine but if it's crap I will blame you "

Ash it's about domestic violence and I'm sure under your tough exterior you have a heart

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"I had to do a big presentation on the back of this...it's well written and worth a watch not something to rave about, domestic violence isn't but if it open peoples eyes to DV then it's done it's job

Oh alright smarty pants lol! "

It's not about being a smarty pants!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Heads up its in BBC 1 at 10.35pm loads of mates raving about it, must watch, true story/documentary. Your welcome "

Classical Sunday night telly then!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"it's well written and worth a watch not something to rave about, domestic violence isn't but if it open peoples eyes to DV then it's done it's job "

^^^ I've seen it and I agree.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Dead excited can't wait haha princes at the ready! Love to get into a right proper juicy story lol.. Really get involved like.I'm there ha

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Pringles!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fine but if it's crap I will blame you "

Have you cheered up a bit yet?

Ill catch this another time,im not in the mood for depressing stuff

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dead excited can't wait haha princes at the ready! Love to get into a right proper juicy story lol.. Really get involved like.I'm there ha"

indeed...did you watch that Irish series?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Heads up its in BBC 1 at 10.35pm loads of mates raving about it, must watch, true story/documentary. Your welcome "
watched it a few weeks ago!! Where you been!?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had to do a big presentation on the back of this...it's well written and worth a watch not something to rave about, domestic violence isn't but if it open peoples eyes to DV then it's done it's job "

It is ok you know to rave about a programme which tackles delicate issues. Its ok to actually admit you enjoy such programmes, there are many fans of crime dramatisations which involve multiple murder.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I've already seen it. It really disturbed me took me a few days to get over it. Brought back memories that I thought where deeply hidden

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I didn't enjoy the programme...it's not something to enjoy but we are all different

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've already seen it. It really disturbed me took me a few days to get over it. Brought back memories that I thought where deeply hidden

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I don't mean I love the story I love fact and documentaries as opposed to Diana does predator mars lol

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"I don't mean I love the story I love fact and documentaries as opposed to Diana does predator mars lol "
its very well done, concentrate from the beginning and see how he slowly starts manipulating her

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I have it on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've seen this. Couldn't control the tears so grab a box of tissues if you haven't already

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Looks abit crap...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Looks abit crap..."

what?!

I am watching it now!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"Looks abit crap..."
shut up and concentrate on it, you see how easily a bright happy go lucky girl can end up in a situation like that

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Damn. Is there a BBC+1 thingy?

Otherwise I'll have to see if it's on iplayer.

I can't do much about it atm. I've just slathered my feet in cream and can't move from my bed until it's all been absorbed.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"Looks abit crap...shut up and concentrate on it, you see how easily a bright happy go lucky girl can end up in a situation like that

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Thing is diamond if people ain't interested then they won't see the story

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Looks abit crap...shut up and concentrate on it, you see how easily a bright happy go lucky girl can end up in a situation like that

Thing is diamond if people ain't interested then they won't see the story "

Or even worse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I enjoyed it, its a programme that really grips.

I watched a similar programme a few months ago called the widower which was about a guy who murdered his first wife and attempted to murder his next two wives for financial gain.

I don't take these dramatisations to heart or get precious about the subject matter, even though I've worked for nearly 20 years in similar fields and I'm well aware of how distressing the reality is.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Right I'm Watching lol

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"Looks abit crap...shut up and concentrate on it, you see how easily a bright happy go lucky girl can end up in a situation like that

Thing is diamond if people ain't interested then they won't see the story "
I'm not watching it, couldn't put myself through it again, I think in DC there are so many text book similarities to each case

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Holy shit!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Damn. Is there a BBC+1 thingy?

Otherwise I'll have to see if it's on iplayer.

I can't do much about it atm. I've just slathered my feet in cream and can't move from my bed until it's all been absorbed."

its on iplayer look on bbc3 was on few weeks ago and quite popular programme so am guessing that's its been aired on one now. Really sad true storyxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Holy shit!!!!!"

What did you expect?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah this type of stuff is just unwatchable. Watching American pie instead

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"Looks abit crap...shut up and concentrate on it, you see how easily a bright happy go lucky girl can end up in a situation like that

Thing is diamond if people ain't interested then they won't see the story I'm not watching it, couldn't put myself through it again, I think in DC there are so many text book similarities to each case

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I've watched it a couple of times once at home and other work related and it brings a lot of deeply hidden memories back to the surface

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

He bashed her into the mirror

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By *oulou45Woman
over a year ago

Bucks

I watched it a few weeks ago, it's been on every week since. It makes you realise what goes on behind closed doors. In 1988 my best friend was murdered by her husband. The sad thing was until the night it had happened , there was no violence. They had a big row . It resulted in my friend being killed her husband then serving a life sentence and 5 young children having to go into care.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"Looks abit crap...shut up and concentrate on it, you see how easily a bright happy go lucky girl can end up in a situation like that

Thing is diamond if people ain't interested then they won't see the story I'm not watching it, couldn't put myself through it again, I think in DC there are so many text book similarities to each case

I've watched it a couple of times once at home and other work related and it brings a lot of deeply hidden memories back to the surface "
the thing is you can see from the beginning how he very slowly goes to work on her but when your in the situation you just don't see it, with hindsight all the tell tale signs are there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it a series? Or just a one off

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"Is it a series? Or just a one off"
one off but its been showing for weeks

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"He bashed her into the mirror "

My first boyfriend bashed my head through a plasterboard wall for being home 20 minutes late. He wouldn't believe that I was stuck on the tube all that time.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"Looks abit crap...shut up and concentrate on it, you see how easily a bright happy go lucky girl can end up in a situation like that

Thing is diamond if people ain't interested then they won't see the story I'm not watching it, couldn't put myself through it again, I think in DC there are so many text book similarities to each case

I've watched it a couple of times once at home and other work related and it brings a lot of deeply hidden memories back to the surface the thing is you can see from the beginning how he very slowly goes to work on her but when your in the situation you just don't see it, with hindsight all the tell tale signs are there

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Very true not really going to go so deep into it all but I remember my ex hitting me with the handle end of a hammer because I was 10 minutes late and just saying it was all my fault,...arghhhh it's time for bed I think

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

When I was a child (from 7 on) we lived near to a couple without any idea that he was violent and assaulted and abused her frequently.

I only found out in the last few years and I was shocked. I never had a clue.

Apparently she went to the police, with injuries, several times only to be told, effectively that they were married, she was his property and he could pretty much do as he liked to her This was in 1980 onwards, and I expect he'd been doing it for a while.

She eventually divorced him but he lives in the same town and has harassed her ever since. He's vandalised her house and her car, got her into trouble at work by spreading lies and all sorts.

Their kids have cut him out of their lives and won't have anything to do with him.

Quite why nobody has taken him to the vet to have him put down like the sick animal he is is quite beyond me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This was on BBC3 a couple of weeks ago.Gripping,realistic and also very sad.If it helps just one woman leave an abusive relationship then that poor girls death wont have been in vain.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"This was on BBC3 a couple of weeks ago.Gripping,realistic and also very sad.If it helps just one woman leave an abusive relationship then that poor girls death wont have been in vain."

Which is one of the reasons I am sure the BBC is showing it so regularly at the moment.

Watching this I feel lucky now that my abusive relationship was before mobile phones. The stalking was bad but I didn't have the harassment of constant calls.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

That end was difficult to watch.

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By *ittle Miss InnocenceWoman
over a year ago

Suffolk UK

Oh my.... ive just watched it... my heart goes out to all those that suffer at the hand of DV. Well done to the bbc for showing such a powerful programme of something which is totally real in this world and goes on behind closed doors.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I watched first bit where he hit her head into a wall. How come she stayed with him after that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've just watched this, it's horrendous, truly shocking, and very very real. I'm a 52 year old man sitting here with tears streaming down my face, I've seen that level of violence at first hand, meted out by my father to my mother, as a young teen lad I'd dread going home on a Friday or Saturday night in case the family home resembled a crime scene, it frequently was, to a certain extent I wish I hadn't just watched that program, although I guess it should be shown as some people have no idea this sort of thing goes on - it does, it definitely does, and it's freaking horrendous to see it, be caught up in it, to be part of it, and of course way back then you couldn't talk about it for fear if bringing shame on your family. Disturbing drama - well done to the makers.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"I watched first bit where he hit her head into a wall. How come she stayed with him after that?"

She tried to leave then but it's never straightforward. I didn't leave the first time or the fourth. The mental abuse works on you. The control is everything. It took something really vile before I felt able to end it and he still followed me for three months.

My family begged me to take him back as to everyone else he was lovely.

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By *hortieWoman
over a year ago

Northampton


"This was on BBC3 a couple of weeks ago.Gripping,realistic and also very sad.If it helps just one woman leave an abusive relationship then that poor girls death wont have been in vain."

This is all we can hope for. I found it so hard to leave for nearly a year.. living in a town miles away from home, and he had effectively stopped me having any new friends, so I had nowhere to run, and as I have no children, I was classed as 'low risk' at the crisis centres. Thank god for my friend here who came and got me from miles away, and put me in her spare room.

I had always said before I experienced that, that sufferers of abuse should just get out, it could never be that hard.. but boy, how wrong I was.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I watched first bit where he hit her head into a wall. How come she stayed with him after that?

She tried to leave then but it's never straightforward. I didn't leave the first time or the fourth. The mental abuse works on you. The control is everything. It took something really vile before I felt able to end it and he still followed me for three months.

My family begged me to take him back as to everyone else he was lovely.

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Did she not tell anyone?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I watched first bit where he hit her head into a wall. How come she stayed with him after that?"
. It really isn't that simple. I appreciate you probably have no experience of DV but my friend, your incredibly naive.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"I watched first bit where he hit her head into a wall. How come she stayed with him after that?

She tried to leave then but it's never straightforward. I didn't leave the first time or the fourth. The mental abuse works on you. The control is everything. It took something really vile before I felt able to end it and he still followed me for three months.

My family begged me to take him back as to everyone else he was lovely.

Did she not tell anyone?"

Watch it and see for yourself.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

I can't find it on bbc3 I player or anywhere using search...

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

I found it but I have to wait till fri for it tonsil again to record it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I watched this when it aired a few weeks ago during a weekday evening. Then saw a newspaper article the morning after showing the true story it was based on. Names and more.

Tragic but the real tragedy is that it's not an isolated or uncommon case.

I thought the film was very well done but the ending

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By *ummersun99Woman
over a year ago

North Yorkshire by the Sea


"This was on BBC3 a couple of weeks ago.Gripping,realistic and also very sad.If it helps just one woman leave an abusive relationship then that poor girls death wont have been in vein.

I had always said before I experienced that, that sufferers of abuse should just get out, it could never be that hard.. but boy, how wrong I was."

Totally agree, glad it's being aired again as I missed it the first time around. Tough to watch, especialley this weekend but great tool for awareness.

Its a great example of how the manipulation and blame games make it harder to leave, and how it builds slowly in private before you realise it. Its so easy to say you'll be strong enough walk away if it happens to you, but then when it does, that first time, any reasonable person who cares is likely to look on how good it's been up until then and try to give a second chance. I think now, if you dont leave that first time, it really reinforces the situation, makes it spiral out of control.

With hindsight I wish there were stats on the number of relationships that have DV, then anger management and survived treatment to be better, healthier. I mean, do any over come it, does anger management or counselling ever work?

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

The girl that this documentary was based on was let down by the people that are here to protect us the police, there was 11 incidents reported none was acted on and they did not question as to why she was withdrawing complaints....the prep head butted her in a public shopping centre yet was not arrested...she was 21 years old when she was murdered...she tried to get help but was failed...officers were disciplined as a result of this case and lessons learnt...it's easy for people to say walk away from a violent relationship it's far more difficult to actually do it...I had a gun put to my head and that was the last straw I never looked back and I never will...

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

maybe show this programme to kids in school, if it makes a small percentage address their own behaviour that may well be a life saved ..

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"maybe show this programme to kids in school, if it makes a small percentage address their own behaviour that may well be a life saved .."

It's been rolled out in work places where they are doing special viewing for those that work within the public sector

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"maybe show this programme to kids in school, if it makes a small percentage address their own behaviour that may well be a life saved .."
Thats not a bad idea,some abusers start very early.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"The girl that this documentary was based on was let down by the people that are here to protect us the police, there was 11 incidents reported none was acted on and they did not question as to why she was withdrawing complaints....the prep head butted her in a public shopping centre yet was not arrested...she was 21 years old when she was murdered...she tried to get help but was failed...officers were disciplined as a result of this case and lessons learnt...it's easy for people to say walk away from a violent relationship it's far more difficult to actually do it...I had a gun put to my head and that was the last straw I never looked back and I never will... "

you are one very brave woman

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"maybe show this programme to kids in school, if it makes a small percentage address their own behaviour that may well be a life saved ..

It's been rolled out in work places where they are doing special viewing for those that work within the public sector "

we hade dv input years ago to enable those who wanted to do so to pick up on certain clues etc..

thing is not all see 'it' as an issue sadly so the response will always be mixed..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've already seen it. It really disturbed me took me a few days to get over it. Brought back memories that I thought where deeply hidden

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I for one am glad I missed it.

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By *eryBigGirlWoman
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

I've finally seen this and thought it was very well done and thought provoking as it showed the emotional abuse as well which often in the long term has more lasting effect than the physical abuse ever does!!

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By *trawberry-popWoman
over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT

I found watching it very difficult. I've also been in an abusive relationship which lasted 6 years. 3 and a half years after I 'escaped' he still harasses me. One day I hope he will fall off a cliff!

Men and women who perpetrate this kind of abuse have serious issues and often don't realise they are doing anything wrong. Very sad. Hopefully times have changed enough now and more perps will be brought to justice since the laws have changed.

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By *qua vitaeWoman
over a year ago

Shropshire/Midlands

I've just watched this and it was very hollowing indeed. Hopefully, it will convey the message that domestic violence is not acceptable in any shape or form.

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By *chillesHeelCouple
over a year ago

Somerset

I can't find it on Sky. Have they stopped showing it?

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By *eryBigGirlWoman
over a year ago

East Yorkshire


"I can't find it on Sky. Have they stopped showing it?"

It was on bbc3 but it doesn't seem to be on iplayer either

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By *chillesHeelCouple
over a year ago

Somerset


"I can't find it on Sky. Have they stopped showing it?

It was on bbc3 but it doesn't seem to be on iplayer either"

Thank you. I was searching through iplayer but couldn't see it!

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"I can't find it on Sky. Have they stopped showing it?

It was on bbc3 but it doesn't seem to be on iplayer either

Thank you. I was searching through iplayer but couldn't see it! "
It finished on iplayer yesterday xx

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By *xpresMan
over a year ago

Elland

Watched it other day it was brilliant the poor girl was dead from the minuet she took him back 1st time x

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By *chillesHeelCouple
over a year ago

Somerset


"I can't find it on Sky. Have they stopped showing it?

It was on bbc3 but it doesn't seem to be on iplayer either

Thank you. I was searching through iplayer but couldn't see it! It finished on iplayer yesterday xx"

Shame I missed it. Would have made for interesting discussions. Thanks for letting me know x

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"I can't find it on Sky. Have they stopped showing it?

It was on bbc3 but it doesn't seem to be on iplayer either

Thank you. I was searching through iplayer but couldn't see it! It finished on iplayer yesterday xx

Shame I missed it. Would have made for interesting discussions. Thanks for letting me know x"
If you download, you may find it on torrent sites xx

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By *eryBigGirlWoman
over a year ago

East Yorkshire


"I can't find it on Sky. Have they stopped showing it?

It was on bbc3 but it doesn't seem to be on iplayer either

Thank you. I was searching through iplayer but couldn't see it! It finished on iplayer yesterday xx

Shame I missed it. Would have made for interesting discussions. Thanks for letting me know x"

It's on you tube I've sent you the link

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2050414/Casey-Brittle-beaten-death-violent-partner-Sanchez-Williams.html

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