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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Sorry for the morbid post.

My dad passed away in May and his birthday is coming up in a couple of weeks. I'm struggling for ideas on what to do for his birthday. Apparently Chinese laterns are banned in Essex which is where I'm from and where my family live.

Would appreciate if anyone could give me any ideas on what to do?

Thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Family bbq birthday party to celebrate his memory...only have the food & drink he enjoyed !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you can't have lanterns why not have some fireworks and champagne to celebrate his birthday

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By *anatee175Couple
over a year ago

Sunderland

If he had a favourite walk or maybe he liked a particular beach spot. Maybe you could do those and have a picnic. Celebrate his life remember all the things you did together that make you laugh.

Claire

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you can't have lanterns why not have some fireworks and champagne to celebrate his birthday "

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By *anyoufeelmeMan
over a year ago

near you

GREAT POST !!

the love a son has for his Dad in most cases last forever - Think about things that meant something to you both.... this can be something only you two shared or something the wider family can be part of ...

Most importantly - make it light hearted and enjoyable..

As long as your happy - you know your Dad will be proud xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"GREAT POST !!

the love a son has for his Dad in most cases last forever - Think about things that meant something to you both.... this can be something only you two shared or something the wider family can be part of ...

Most importantly - make it light hearted and enjoyable..

As long as your happy - you know your Dad will be proud xx"

I'm his daughter, not his son lol.

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

Depends where in Essex you are. There isn't an outright ban on chinese lanterns across Essex, not yet anyway. However, several villages have banned their use.

Make it a happy occasion. Birthdays are happy days, that shouldn't change because someone is no longer with us.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Depends where in Essex you are. There isn't an outright ban on chinese lanterns across Essex, not yet anyway. However, several villages have banned their use.

Make it a happy occasion. Birthdays are happy days, that shouldn't change because someone is no longer with us."

I think they live in a village near Colchester. Also it's near an airfield apparently.

I agree, I don't want it to be sad or anything because he wouldn't want that. Just something that would be nice for everyone.

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

What about floating water lanterns?

Hold a family/friends picnic near a stretch of water at dusk with his fave food (think outside the box for food and remember that cool bags are simply insulated bags and will keep food hot as well as cool) his fave tipple and set floating lanterns off.

Kids can draw him a pic on them and you can write notes to him on them.

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple
over a year ago

Fareham

I think a picnic at a spot he particularly liked, or somewhere he took you as a child. Put up a gazebo and everyone could bring food and drink, or spark up some portable BBQs. You could play games such as giant Jenga, frisbee, skipping, tennis, twister etc. It would be such a happy day filled with laughter. Remembering your dad doesn't have to be an expensive, complicated event.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks everyone for the lovely ideas, I will let you know how it goes!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry for the morbid post.

My dad passed away in May and his birthday is coming up in a couple of weeks. I'm struggling for ideas on what to do for his birthday. Apparently Chinese laterns are banned in Essex which is where I'm from and where my family live.

Would appreciate if anyone could give me any ideas on what to do?

Thanks."

float some rose petals along the river and have a few moments to think x

sorry to hear of your loss x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I saw something on a children around the world programme that I thought was lovely and that was tying notes to a mesh fence using padlocks maybe you could buy some birthday tags and get people to write a memory of him on it and tie them on a tree in your garden

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By *itten-xxxWoman
over a year ago

North West

We planted a tree when my mum passed away and we visit that on her birthday and the anniversary. I usually go out for a meal and a few drinks and we have a laugh remembering some of the things she got upto. I hope the day won't be too painful for you xxx

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

my dads first anniversary of his death is in October we are planning a get together meal

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I like the idea of planting a tree, possibly a yew.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you can't have lanterns why not have some fireworks and champagne to celebrate his birthday "

Good Idea we did that for my uncle and it was a good way to remember him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my best friends death anniversary is comig up, i have a letter from her to answer in the next 2 weeks

i will celebrate her life and not with tears but with champagne a new pair of shoes( she loved them both)

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By *heHoneymonstersCouple
over a year ago

cambridge

Buy a load of different coloured helium filled balloons give one to every person/child attending and write or draw ur own personal msgs to ur dad and u can let them all go together xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Buy a load of different coloured helium filled balloons give one to every person/child attending and write or draw ur own personal msgs to ur dad and u can let them all go together xxx"

That's what we did for my Nephew a few weeks ago.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

this isnt morbid has a feel good factor about it - happy memories

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By *oulou45Woman
over a year ago

Bucks

Has to be a family get together, if you can't use lanterns , how about balloons with personal messages attached. If he had a favourite charity maybe a small collection in his memory. What ever you decide im sure it will be a great occasion. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of the nicest posts I ve ever seen on here. I think planting a tree would be good for you's. Something to point out to future family and at least if your a bit low it would be somewhere you could just go have a chat in private.

Also may seem mad but what people gave said about hugging a tree can be such a good feeling. Then have a BBQ and towards the end of the night let some balloons go of even a message in a bottle.

Ps can tell he was special to you and he ll always have a special place for you in his heart and you like wise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My mum planted rose bushes for my dad and sister. They have been uprooted and moved a couple of times still going strong

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By *nigmatic1Woman
over a year ago

A seaside town near you!

A certain person on this thread can vouch for this...my mum passed away 3 years ago...I have a picture of her and some of her ashes on top of my cupboard in the kitchen,..whenever we have a drink we always look up. Then I bought a dog and called her Nellie which is my mums name...was a bit strange at first saying the name in the house but now I even call her my mums full name and it's lovely having her back in the house. The reason I only have some of her ashes is I have a sister in Florida who took some back with her. My mum loved going round Wallmart when she was there so my sister took her shopping around the store then scattered her ashes around a tree at the front of the store. My mum would have loved that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just a few suggestions:

Give him an anniversary month, so that you're not pressured for one day, but to celebrate his life over time.

Visit places he liked to visit.

Try to do something for somebody else what he did for you as a gesture of allowing his influence to live on.

Also, I was doing dusk photography last night. Used the local cem to get out of the streetlight. Somebody built a memorial around a headstone using those cheap solar powered lawn lamps that you spike into the soil. It looked beautiful. I imagined the whole are glowing with them and it would have been on par with the awesomeness of lanterns.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My mum planted rose bushes for my dad and sister. They have been uprooted and moved a couple of times still going strong "

This is a good idea, if you want to plant something... It is unlikely that a tree would survive being moved if ever you did...

Roses are all but indestructible...

Great thread, hope whatever you plan works out...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try an Applachian speciality, the backwoods, Deliverance type.

Where the remaining clan all have a family reunion and picnic IN the graveyard.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry for the morbid post.

My dad passed away in May and his birthday is coming up in a couple of weeks. I'm struggling for ideas on what to do for his birthday. Apparently Chinese laterns are banned in Essex which is where I'm from and where my family live.

Would appreciate if anyone could give me any ideas on what to do?

Thanks."

My dad died 14 years ago and every year on his birthday I get really sad. Think it's just enough to remember them isn't it?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sorry for the morbid post.

My dad passed away in May and his birthday is coming up in a couple of weeks. I'm struggling for ideas on what to do for his birthday. Apparently Chinese laterns are banned in Essex which is where I'm from and where my family live.

Would appreciate if anyone could give me any ideas on what to do?

Thanks.

My dad died 14 years ago and every year on his birthday I get really sad. Think it's just enough to remember them isn't it? "

Not for me it isn't. I always made an effort when he was alive, so why stop now?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry for the morbid post.

My dad passed away in May and his birthday is coming up in a couple of weeks. I'm struggling for ideas on what to do for his birthday. Apparently Chinese laterns are banned in Essex which is where I'm from and where my family live.

Would appreciate if anyone could give me any ideas on what to do?

Thanks.

My dad died 14 years ago and every year on his birthday I get really sad. Think it's just enough to remember them isn't it?

Not for me it isn't. I always made an effort when he was alive, so why stop now?"

This

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