FabSwingers.com forum: is is bad etiquette for women to send the first message

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok so just wondering, is it bad etiquette for women or couples to send the first message or is it solely left to us single guys ?

Would make my day if I logged on and found a message from someone I never expected

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

No, they do and quite frequently in my experience. However, generally, when it comes to single guys they have 94 messages in their inbox already

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get messages from women all the time. So no it isn't bad etiquette

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think etiquette might just go out the window when they are wanting fucked...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't care about etiquette. I always send first messages. I am odd, I don't like people mailing me hence my shit profile. Much more fun to send mail.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't care about etiquette. I always send first messages. I am odd, I don't like people mailing me hence my shit profile. Much more fun to send mail.

answer my cock shots mail!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had a few lately

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think it's bad etiquette at all and have initiated contact with men by sending them messages first. Aswell as winking at the ones who catch my eye with their profile text and accompanying pictures

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Nope I send messages first

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I tried to send a message to a guy today and he'd filtered me out via age. the nerve!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its terribly bad etiquette,I never send the first message to guys whos pants id like to get into

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By *nigmatic1Woman
over a year ago

A seaside town near you!

I think I. Kent just start to send out first messages...I'm feeling rebellious

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By *nigmatic1Woman
over a year ago

A seaside town near you!

"I think I. Kent just start to send out first messages...I'm feeling rebellious

I Kent? I might (fecking ipad!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes its bad, that's y our inboxes are empty and womens overflooding lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But it's rarely the ones you fancy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No it isn't and quite a few ladies send messages first

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"But it's rarely the ones you fancy

Picky picky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely not. My good breeding and manners will not be in the least bit offended by ladies sending me an initial message.

Dong hold back ladies.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok looks like loads of women send messages first then......how come I never get any then ? Hehe

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

Nope, its not, well so long as its not 'fancy a fuck'

;-)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He'll no...bring it on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dong ? I think that was a Freudian slip.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Ok looks like loads of women send messages first then......how come I never get any then ? Hehe "

Ah, one of the hard questions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought it was in the fabswingers handbook. ...

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By *nigmatic1Woman
over a year ago

A seaside town near you!

I shall practice on myself first the starting sending out messages by the dozen

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I might send one now and again if I am feeling brave

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

"But it's rarely the ones you fancy

Well that's just saved me some typing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well fancy meeting you here sandy.

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

"Well fancy meeting you here sandy.

Hello there

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Why do you gals need to pluck up the courage...just get sending !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

God no ! I've sent the first message loads of times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. Most of my close friends sent the first PM.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

no its not .. it is very good etiquette to send one to me lol .. maybe id just delete it or ignore it lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't care about etiquette. I always send first messages. I am odd, I don't like people mailing me hence my shit profile. Much more fun to send mail.

answer my cock shots mail!"

Too busy licking the screen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hell no! I send them all the time! I often get a sharp slap!! But I'm a Bolshy mare. Hey onwards n upwards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How is it bad?

I've never waited n been coy about doing the talking ever x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've spent the last 2 weeks flirting with a rather delicious busty lovely who sent me a message, so ladies.....send away

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

You make your own rules, as long as everything is based on respect. Etiquette is there for the making and shaping, just as you wish it to be. Be friendly and others will be open to you, whoever contacts first, and it must be refreshing for single guys who feel they slog away to have contact made first to them - I do it, but mail management overall can be a slog for many of us.

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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago

Pleasuretown

"Ok so just wondering, is it bad etiquette for women or couples to send the first message or is it solely left to us single guys ?

Would make my day if I logged on and found a message from someone I never expected "

Not at all.

Personally dont but I have my reasons..

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

"Nope, its not, well so long as its not 'fancy a fuck'

;-)"

I send first messages. I have had success with 'fancy a fuck?' as well as some even cruder ones. The guy involved was someone I'd already met and we did share a sense of humour though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought bad etiquette is not holding a door open for a woman or walking on the inside of the pavement.

It would maybe be considered bad etiquette not to respond to a woman online.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just single guys to women is high and most women will be too busy reading mail to have time to send it! Dint be a bitch about it, man up and think of something to send them with some originality so they reply, if not then you know to stop wasting your time on them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Holding doors and shit is politeness as is responding to a message even if for a "no thanks" regardless of male or female, if someone has put effort into messaging you, its polite to reply either way. No reply really bugs me but at same time I get over it quick and realise that person obviously isn't for you so, fingers up and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

always send messages on my single profile and this one. I even get messages ignored or deleted, but it doesn't stop me sending messages to others.

Saint

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