FabSwingers.com forum: Meeting when you are a parent

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I keep being asked to meet at my house

I explain that's not going to happen

I have children

Highly irresponsible if I let a stranger into my house whilst my children are sleeping in their beds

And so many guys don't get it ??!!!

I am right aren't i ????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

your right

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"your right

. Thanks ! Thought as much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are right

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By *extoysareusCouple
over a year ago

kinky heaven

Play by your rules

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By *Kgirl80Woman
over a year ago

South Coast

Definitely right

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By *a-ra-ra-boom-de-ayCouple
over a year ago

Wish it was the Algarve! Aberdeenshire

100% no questions asked right! Don't even need to explain yourself to them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely...you children are more important

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A gazzilion percent!!!!!!!!!!! rite

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I don't understand why people think others are weird for not wanting to accommodate. I even suggested a hotel this evening to a lovely young man and he said he'd rather meet at mine. I have no idea why - hotels are a lot neater than my place. And the bed would be comfier.

According to another post on the forums women should expect being knocked back if we're not willing/able to accommodate. That might explain why its so bloody difficult for me to get a meet these days.

/rant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not about being right it wrong. You do what's best for you. Others may see it differently.

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By *punkyhelmet5Man
over a year ago

Weston-super-mare

My 1st ever meet on Fab with a couple and another guy was told after young children were asleep upstairs wasnt happy. What if 1 of them had come downstairs and seen 4 naked adults playing on a mattress in front room sooo wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely. I am the same. Sick of telling people that I will not meet at mine. :@

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes you are right . I've even been asked to give them some money to go out for afew hours that really didn't go down well with me but I don't think my reply went down well with him either

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By *ovemenotWoman
over a year ago

yeovil

Hell yes your right ! Guys get funny with me all the time when I point out I can only meet every other weekend and I don't do day times as I work . They say things like take the day off or get a baby sitter . Sex is my hobby not my life !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

your spot on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn't dream of it. Ours is a family home and we will never mix family and playing.

It takes us a while to sort a meet as well as we have to find baby sitters but i'm sure those that have met us will let you know we are worth waiting for xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To give my kids money that is

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By *xpresMan
over a year ago

Elland

"Play by your rules"

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By *iss-PinkWoman
over a year ago

Gloucester

Totally right.

I would never meet someone who had children in the house

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Really unimpressed when guys suggest coming over when my kids are at home. I'd never have that either. If they are happy with that then why not invite you over to theirs?!

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By *ovemenotWoman
over a year ago

yeovil

"Yes you are right . I've even been asked to give them some money to go out for afew hours that really didn't go down well with me but I don't think my reply went down well with him either "

I was toldby one guy that my 11 9 7 year old would be fine in the house on there own for a few hours !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One million percent correct - much more relaxing for a start knowing there are no little ones wandering about, plus budget hotels are cheap enough !!! Tell him to bugger off !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always remember it's your rules and if you say NO that's it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why even discuss it with them? Just say you won't have anyone at your house- it's none of their business why not. If anyone starts trying to persuade me I just stop contact. I don't meet disrespectful people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes you are right . I've even been asked to give them some money to go out for afew hours that really didn't go down well with me but I don't think my reply went down well with him either

I was toldby one guy that my 11 9 7 year old would be fine in the house on there own for a few hours ! "

I've had that too they even turned round and said that the lady before didn't mind .....I couldn't believe it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And it's the same for me too ...

I have mine three to four nights in a week, and wouldn't dream of playing at that time ...

It's on my profile that to accomodate is an exception to the rule. ..

But many people assume that men who can't accommodate are cheating scum

I'd much rather meet away from home, but would expect the same from my play mates in the same situation

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for all the encouragement !

I shall stick with my club meets . My kids safety and my own for that matter come first x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe its because im half of a couple but we've never accommodated because we have children and no one has ever suggested that we should in the last 6 years

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe its because im half of a couple but we've never accommodated because we have children and no one has ever suggested that we should in the last 6 years "

No one has suggested that to me either.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"100% no questions asked right! Don't even need to explain yourself to them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I keep being asked to meet at my house

I explain that's not going to happen

I have children

Highly irresponsible if I let a stranger into my house whilst my children are sleeping in their beds

And so many guys don't get it ??!!!

I am right aren't i ????"

Too damn right you are! I would never expect to meet up if kids are in the house!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes you are right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you also gotta think about if the kids get up to see what the noise is about and catch you, wouldn't be good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I meet one chap from here if my daughter is at home (99% of the time). He knew about her from the get go and is lovely with her on the odd occasion he does actually see her (never even batted an eyelid when she decided to redecorate his shirt). I've known this person for over a year and the most important thing is the guy is genuinely a friend, we text every day.

That said, I have been pressured to meet by strangers when she's home and they got nasty when I said no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't like to meet at mine even if my child isn't here. Feel it's not right as it's his house too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they dont understand they're a moron. No sense speaking to them if they keep on about it.

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By *itSamCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

Yep totally right. We do not have kids and prefer club meets. Anyone who does not accept your choice may not also not respect your boundaries when you meet. No only needs to be said once.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I don't expect anyone to question why I don't or won't do something and so it wouldn't be fair for me to question them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" I don't expect anyone to question why I don't or won't do something and so it wouldn't be fair for me to question them.

But why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

bang on x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do accommodate but have strict times as and when I can. And thats when no children are around and I do state in my profile. I get alot asking to stretch them times. But they get no where.

And yes you are right.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's irrelevant what anybody else says. Your life, your family, your choices.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

" I don't expect anyone to question why I don't or won't do something and so it wouldn't be fair for me to question them.

But why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we have had meets wih our kidds in house never been a problem they have no idea what goes on so not a problem but iff it ever became a problem then yes meet at home would be a no go

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By *umpleteazerWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

I've been invited round to guys houses when they have their kids there. Always refused. Very wrong. I could be a baby snatching weirdo for all they know....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"we have had meets wih our kidds in house never been a problem they have no idea what goes on so not a problem but iff it ever became a problem then yes meet at home would be a no go"

I just wouldn't put their safety at risk

Although I am single so more at risk

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've been invited round to guys houses when they have their kids there. Always refused. Very wrong. I could be a baby snatching weirdo for all they know...."

Exactly my point !!!!

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By *r Man.Man
over a year ago

London

My daughter is 19 and i still don't play at home. Just for the respect i have for my daughter.

Let them rock on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I keep being asked to meet at my house

I explain that's not going to happen

I have children

Highly irresponsible if I let a stranger into my house whilst my children are sleeping in their beds

And so many guys don't get it ??!!!

I am right aren't i ????"

You're doing everything right.

I'm a single parent of three and if I'm planning a meet at home the kids go elsewhere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been invited round to guys houses when they have their kids there. Always refused. Very wrong. I could be a baby snatching weirdo for all they know...."

How ridiculous.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

100% agree. I'm the same. Ive even been asked to send dirty pics when I'm with my little boy in a play place and got a nasty response when i said no way!

people can be very selfish and forget that sex isn't the forefront of everything. We have lives that involve other people.

rant over lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We only meet at home when kids are not here

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By *arehamMan
over a year ago

handforth

Meny meny years ago I went to see a couple well before the internet,when we went upstairs for some fun,I could not believe they had a pad lock on the kids bedroom door it made me very uncomfortable,but I still gave her a good fucking,I stayed over night and I met the kids the next day,and what a wonderful set of kids they where.?

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By *heHoneymonstersCouple
over a year ago

cambridge

Each to their own but in our eyes u r totally right, we could find sitters for our kids and have a empty house but this is our family home and it would'nt feel right while they r still young xx

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

your a parent first ... play by your rules .. how dare anyone presume to dictate your life ... sheer ignorance

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia

Our Swinging Life is totaly seperate from our Private Life .. And always will be. 100% agree with you ...

A No should be all thats needed.

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By *oulou45Woman
over a year ago

Bucks

"I keep being asked to meet at my house

I explain that's not going to happen

I have children

Highly irresponsible if I let a stranger into my house whilst my children are sleeping in their beds

And so many guys don't get it ??!!!

I am right aren't i ????"
im lucky as not in that position, but may have my grandchildren staying, so I think your right.x

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By *et a roomCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

"I keep being asked to meet at my house

I explain that's not going to happen

I have children

Highly irresponsible if I let a stranger into my house whilst my children are sleeping in their beds

And so many guys don't get it ??!!!

I am right aren't i ????"

Of course you're right. Anyone who can't understand that isn't worth meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We meet at our house. Only when our five year old is happy, at grandmas and grandads, for the evening/night. No exceptions...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Meny meny years ago I went to see a couple well before the internet,when we went upstairs for some fun,I could not believe they had a pad lock on the kids bedroom door it made me very uncomfortable,but I still gave her a good fucking,I stayed over night and I met the kids the next day,and what a wonderful set of kids they where.?

Really? You are joking of course?

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"I keep being asked to meet at my house

I explain that's not going to happen

I have children

Highly irresponsible if I let a stranger into my house whilst my children are sleeping in their beds

And so many guys don't get it ??!!!

You don't need a forum of strangers to validate YOUR play rules! If a man doesn't get you're not allowing strangers into your home, regardless of whether you have kids or not, block!

I am right aren't i ????"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"100% agree. I'm the same. Ive even been asked to send dirty pics when I'm with my little boy in a play place and got a nasty response when i said no way!

people can be very selfish and forget that sex isn't the forefront of everything. We have lives that involve other people.

rant over lol "

Did you tell the guy you were in a play place with a small child?

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Why even discuss it with them? Just say you won't have anyone at your house- it's none of their business why not. If anyone starts trying to persuade me I just stop contact. I don't meet disrespectful people. "

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Really? You are joking of course?

Somehow I doubt it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I keep being asked to meet at my house

I explain that's not going to happen

I have children

Highly irresponsible if I let a stranger into my house whilst my children are sleeping in their beds

And so many guys don't get it ??!!!

I am right aren't i ????"

Reflect it back to him x why doesn't he accommodate ??

You are right though x

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

You are not answerable to anyone. Feel free to make and stick to your own rules whatever is the norm for others on here. There are aggressive pushy people in life, and the sex with someone who does not respect you would probably be poor for you. Dont explain any more than you wish. If you have stated your boundaries, it is for us all to respect them. Ignore those who dont.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wonder how many people who totally agree with the OP have actually had meets in homes where the children are sleeping?

I won't let a meet cross my threshold whether my children are at home or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally correct OP. No question.

I too am a parent and there's no way i'd even consider risking having my 31 yo son listen or worse still, watch.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had a couple ask the other night what time our children went to bed so they could come round for a meet ! Still stunned tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Top tip :

If they offer to meet, do not meet the McCanns.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If your accommodating then as the guest they should be polite and appreciate its your rules, if dont like it there is a option to set to your traveling rules...to many ppl on here expect their own terms and think they owed something.....same everywhere in life though and shows you that some people aint worth it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On my single profile, its what I often get asked, especially when I'm still up at silly hours in the morning.

Wouldn't dream of bringing anyone back, even for a coffee. My teenage son is fiercely protective of me and wouldn't abide strangers in our home.

Saint

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My daughter is 23 and when she is home on uni holidays i never meet at my home

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"100% agree. I'm the same. Ive even been asked to send dirty pics when I'm with my little boy in a play place and got a nasty response when i said no way!

people can be very selfish and forget that sex isn't the forefront of everything. We have lives that involve other people.

rant over lol

Did you tell the guy you were in a play place with a small child? "

Yeah I did

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

U r totally right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have this all the time, some users believe that Fab is our main priority and we don't have a life.

Was even accused of being a time waster on Saturday because we had to cancel a social because our child had been in an accident and we needed to get down to my mums where she was staying, asap!

My family are my priority, anyone who can't respect that doesn't deserve to meet me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have 3 sons who are in their teens...treat my house like a hotel..i wouldn't risk it plus he could be a stalker or worse x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have mine with me all the time so only meet at others or club or hotel. Love hotel meets its like a double treat some fun and a tidy space away from kids .

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By *ourbonKissMan
over a year ago

a land up north..... of leicester

"I keep being asked to meet at my house

I explain that's not going to happen

I have children

Highly irresponsible if I let a stranger into my house whilst my children are sleeping in their beds

And so many guys don't get it ??!!!

I am right aren't i ????"

Yes you are, I've refused meets before because of situations like this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't understand why people think others are weird for not wanting to accommodate. I even suggested a hotel this evening to a lovely young man and he said he'd rather meet at mine. I have no idea why - hotels are a lot neater than my place. And the bed would be comfier.

/rant

5th august im in york for business if u fancy meeting for a coffee. Staying in travelodge overnight.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have been asked by 3 couples & by 1 single lady to meet late at night when the kids are asleep in bed as they couldn't find a babysitter.

We would never meet anyone with kids in the house ... It's just not right & we even got called timewasters from 1 couple as we said no thanks.

Stick to your own rules & your better off not meeting guys who try to change your mind.

Family & safety comes before fun.

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By *imply_SensualMan
over a year ago

warrington

If they don't get it, then its their problem - you are absolutely right, no strangers in the house with kids - when you think about it, its an easy tactic for a peado to use, befriend a woman (a mum) using a site like this where the perception might be that the guard is slightly lower….. its a scary thought to be honest.

There is no substitute for common sense and vigilance - I always agree with women that I will meet on their terms, not mine, its the only way to give them some assurance and sense of security.

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