FabSwingers.com forum: Insulted by a stranger

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So I'm a big girl, in height AND dress size and I know that!

Over the last few years however I've been making a conscious effort to lose weight and have lost several stone so far.

A few months ago I joined slimming world and that's been going great.

A combination of that, plus this site and some people I've met along the way my confidence has increased dramatically however I had a run in with a total stranger that sadly has undone some of that hard work.

I'd lost 3lbs this week and as it was a weekend I decided to treat myself a little. I was walking to the shop and as I walked past the nearby pub there was a small group of mainly guys and a couple of girls. As I got nearer one guy looked at me and then said to his mates "Look at the size of that" they all proceeded to laugh. I walked on seemingly with my head high but it has really knocked my confidence a lot.

In hindsight though I'm really wishing I could have had the guts to turn round and say something like "I bet no girl has ever said that to you" but sadly I didn't.

I'm picking myself up and I'm trying very hard to see past their stupid and hurtful comment. Got some good friends who are really supportive too.

So my question for all you forumites today is....if you had been in a similar situation would you have walked past or would you have made some quick witted, sarcastic remark and what's the funniest reply you can think of?

Also if you've had a random stranger insult you for no reason then share your story!

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I've never had insults as an adult if I have had the odd comment I've usually come back with something witty...don't let the actions of others knock your confidence....some people can be cruel at times

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

well done for what you have lost and good luck for the rest to your target weight.

some people will always make inappropriate comments, you did the right thing to walk on with your head held high..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get and have been insulted quite regularly at work both by customers and the management however I refuse to stoop to their low gutter level and comment back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd have knocked his teeth down his throat! Looking at your pics you're curvy but not big! Keep your chin up - you look lovely x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't let strangers get to me. When I was about 4 months pregnant the woman serving me in tesco asked me if I should be doing the shopping when I'm so close to giving birth. She looked deeply embarrassed when I said I can't sit on my arse doing nothing for 5 months

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some UNLOS _iewed my profile ans suggested that I change it to large from ample. however, I am a big guy always have been and have no intention to change the size of my bone structure for anyone. Yes I do carry a few extra pounds but if I was to be the weight that the dr's reckon I should be I'd feel unhappy and look very skinny and ill.

you need to be happy with what you have achieved so far and work on the positives.

well done for losing another 3lbs

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Well done for YOUR weight loss and building YOUR confidence. Strangers may comment but think how boring they must be to have to use picking up on someone they don't know to make conversation with their peers.

A stranger called me a fallen woman a couple of weeks ago as I walked past the supermarket.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"I'd have knocked his teeth down his throat! Looking at your pics you're curvy but not big! Keep your chin up - you look lovely x"

Violence won't solve anything you will of just stooped to their level....sometimes just look at them and smile makes more of an impact than any negative reaction

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get and have been insulted quite regularly at work both by customers and the management however I refuse to stoop to their low gutter level and comment back"

What Do You Do?

Why does it happen regularly?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Living in a small town we dont really get that. But i think you did the right thing walking by with your head held high.

It was a cheap pop and if hes got to insult others to look "big" he must have low self esteem

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By *ove bi guysWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

Feck'em !

Don't let anyone knock your confidence .... Chin up, head high and just think of the brewers droop he probably had last night lol xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally wouldn't have given a crap what some random nobody of a stranger said. The man who spoke has almost certainly got a very very small penis.

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By *inge 1985Man
over a year ago

London

Generally people who make insulting comments of other people are trying to mask their own insecurities and deflect from their own faults.

There is nothing wrong with you keep your chin up knowing you are better than them.

Being a red head i have had it all my life, i do tend to ignore them as it just bores me now as i have heard it all before but every now and then for my own amusement they will get a bout of witt from a sharp tongue

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By *uttyjonnMan
over a year ago

SEA

Its amazing how brave people are in a pack - if he was sat on his own you wouldn't have heard a murmur - add a touch of alcohol and they are very brave.

I am hoping they were young - this is no excuse but at least they will hopefully mature.

Good luck and try not to let something said by a moron bother you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"well done for what you have lost and good luck for the rest to your target weight.

some people will always make inappropriate comments, you did the right thing to walk on with your head held high..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hard to hear derogatory comments. You work it girl. Your pics are great and many men (me inincluded) absolutely love curvy ladies. Don't let anyone put you down.

As the Mika song goes

Ringtone to your cell

Big girl, you are beautiful

Walks in to the room

Feels like a big balloon

I said, "Hey girls, you are beautiful"

Diet Coke and a pizza please

Diet Coke, I'm on my knees

Screaming, "Big girl, you are beautiful"

You take your skinny girl

I feel like I'm gonna die

'Cause a real woman

Needs a real man, here's why

You take your girl

And multiply her by four

Now a whole lot of woman

Needs a whole lot more

Get yourself to the butterfly lounge

Find yourself a big lady

Big boy, come on around

And they'll be calling you baby

No need to fantasize

Since I was in my braces

A watering hole with the girls around

And curves in all the right places

Big girls, you are beautiful

Walks in to the room

Feels like a big balloon

I said, "Hey girls, you are beautiful"

Diet Coke and a pizza please

Diet Coke, I'm on my knees

Screaming, "Big girl, you are beautiful"

You take your girl

And multiply her by four

Now a whole lot of woman

Needs a whole lot more

Get yourself to the butterfly lounge

Find yourself a big lady

Big boy, come on around

And they'll be calling you baby

No need to fantasize

Since I was in my braces

A watering hole with the girls around

And curves in all the right places

Big girls, you are beautiful

Get yourself to the butterfly lounge

Find yourself a big lady

Big boy, come on around

And they'll be calling you baby

No need to fantasize

Since I was in my braces

A watering hole with the girls around

And curves in all the right places

Big girls, you are beautiful

Oh, you are beautiful

Get yourself to the butterfly lounge

Find yourself a big lady

Big boy, come on around

And they'll be calling you baby

No need to fantasize

Since I was in my braces

A watering hole with the girls around

And curves in all the right places

Big girls, you are beautiful

Oh, you are beautiful

Get yourself to the butterfly lounge

Find yourself a big lady

Big boy, come on around

And they'll be calling you baby

No need to fantasize

Since I was in my braces

A watering hole with the girls around

And curves in all the right places

Big girl, you are beautiful

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By *iftygreyshadesMan
over a year ago

Aberaeron

"Well done for YOUR weight loss and building YOUR confidence. Strangers may comment but think how boring they must be to have to use picking up on someone they don't know to make conversation with their peers.

A stranger called me a fallen woman a couple of weeks ago as I walked past the supermarket.

Fall this way please x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hard to hear derogatory comments. You work it girl. Your pics are great and many men (me inincluded) absolutely love curvy ladies. Don't let anyone put you down.

As the Mika song goes

Big girl, you are beautiful

Walks in to the room

Feels like a big balloon

I said, "Hey girls, you are beautiful"

Diet Coke and a pizza please

Diet Coke, I'm on my knees

Screaming, "Big girl, you are beautiful"

You take your skinny girl

I feel like I'm gonna die

'Cause a real woman

Needs a real man, here's why

You take your girl

And multiply her by four

Now a whole lot of woman

Needs a whole lot more

Get yourself to the butterfly lounge

Find yourself a big lady

Big boy, come on around

And they'll be calling you baby

No need to fantasize

Since I was in my braces

A watering hole with the girls around

And curves in all the right places

Big girls, you are beautiful

Walks in to the room

Feels like a big balloon

I said, "Hey girls, you are beautiful"

Diet Coke and a pizza please

Diet Coke, I'm on my knees

Screaming, "Big girl, you are beautiful"

You take your girl

And multiply her by four

Now a whole lot of woman

Needs a whole lot more

Get yourself to the butterfly lounge

Find yourself a big lady

Big boy, come on around

And they'll be calling you baby

No need to fantasize

Since I was in my braces

A watering hole with the girls around

And curves in all the right places

Big girls, you are beautiful

Get yourself to the butterfly lounge

Find yourself a big lady

Big boy, come on around

And they'll be calling you baby

No need to fantasize

Since I was in my braces

A watering hole with the girls around

And curves in all the right places

Big girls, you are beautiful

Oh, you are beautiful

Get yourself to the butterfly lounge

Find yourself a big lady

Big boy, come on around

And they'll be calling you baby

No need to fantasize

Since I was in my braces

A watering hole with the girls around

And curves in all the right places

Big girls, you are beautiful

Oh, you are beautiful

Get yourself to the butterfly lounge

Find yourself a big lady

Big boy, come on around

And they'll be calling you baby

No need to fantasize

Since I was in my braces

A watering hole with the girls around

And curves in all the right places

Big girl, you are beautiful

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Well done op on your weight loss. I only usually think of something witty to respond with when I've got home

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are tall x maybe the twerp meant that x

But I couldn't have been nice x dust yourself down and think tomorrow is another day x

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By *xccvvMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire North East

Looked at your pictures and you look amazing, dont let them or anyone put you down you do whats best for you

You do look stunning by the way

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By *inge 1985Man
over a year ago

London

"I get and have been insulted quite regularly at work both by customers and the management however I refuse to stoop to their low gutter level and comment back"

I know you do not want to raise to it but do not accept it from management completely illeagal!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

A stranger called me a fallen woman a couple of weeks ago as I walked past the supermarket.

Why on earth did they say that?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'd have knocked his teeth down his throat! Looking at your pics you're curvy but not big! Keep your chin up - you look lovely x

Violence won't solve anything you will of just stooped to their level....sometimes just look at them and smile makes more of an impact than any negative reaction "

I'd never has resorted to violence and totally agree with you that it lowers yourself to their standard

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I get and have been insulted quite regularly at work both by customers and the management however I refuse to stoop to their low gutter level and comment back"

At work??? Surely if management are doing it that's bullying in the workplace and you have grounds to take them to a tribunal over that!!

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Ignore them.

Better to have a fat body than a fat head.

As you're proving, body shape can be changed. Ignorance and stupidity are often forever.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I personally wouldn't have given a crap what some random nobody of a stranger said. The man who spoke has almost certainly got a very very small penis."

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

A stranger called me a fallen woman a couple of weeks ago as I walked past the supermarket.

Why on earth did they say that? "

I don't know. I might have hussy printed on my forehead in writing only visible to the Christian leaflet people because I used to be a Sunday school teacher.

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By *mjdWoman
over a year ago

oswestry

first off all well done you ive lost 6 stone and no how hard it is and how upsetting it can be i had a meet other day and he had the same attitude as those men but i have found on here a lot of men like big women or simply dont care ignore the comments i bet they have small dicks their problem not us keep going on slimming world#

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks guys for all your kind private messages and posts.

Really encouraging and supportive and wasn't expecting that at all so ta very muchly x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

might of been sour grapes because he fancyed you. some people say that if you are tall not because you are fat.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

A stranger called me a fallen woman a couple of weeks ago as I walked past the supermarket.

Why on earth did they say that?

I don't know. I might have hussy printed on my forehead in writing only visible to the Christian leaflet people because I used to be a Sunday school teacher.

Ohhhhhhh lol!!

Do what makes you happy is all I can say and easy for me to say to other people but fuck em!

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By *oandjohnCouple
over a year ago

South Wales, will travel to Hereford, Worcestershire and Shropshire

I used to get abuse on a daily basis because of the way I looked (punk). One night on a packed bus there was a large group of lads who thought it would be hilarious to ridicule me at the top of their voices. Normally, I would have been humiliated and avoided eye contact. This time....I walked straight to the back of the bus and sat in the middle of them! You could have heard a pin drop!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Amazonian - forget his comments xx your stunning xx

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

A stranger called me a fallen woman a couple of weeks ago as I walked past the supermarket.

Why on earth did they say that?

I don't know. I might have hussy printed on my forehead in writing only visible to the Christian leaflet people because I used to be a Sunday school teacher.

Ohhhhhhh lol!!

Do what makes you happy is all I can say and easy for me to say to other people but fuck em!"

I do. I'm short, fat and of an age but more than enough desire me to stroke that part of my ego and, more importantly, I don't look in the mirror and see an ugly person anymore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well done on your weight loss

that's excellent. I lost over 4 stone, put 2 back on but starting to lose again so I know how hard it can be.

Years ago, when I was slimmer than I am now, I was on holiday with my ex and while sunbathing on the beach this mouthy mare walked by and said in a very loud voice 'Oh My God, look at the state of THAT' I was mortified and nearly cried as everyone nearby turned to look.

Never saw her again on that holiday, unfortunately as I thought of plenty I could have said afterwards, but maybe it's just as well or I'd have lowered myself to her extremely low bitchy level.

You carry on the good work and hold your head up high!

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

A stranger called me a fallen woman a couple of weeks ago as I walked past the supermarket.

Why on earth did they say that?

I don't know. I might have hussy printed on my forehead in writing only visible to the Christian leaflet people because I used to be a Sunday school teacher.

Ohhhhhhh lol!!

Do what makes you happy is all I can say and easy for me to say to other people but fuck em!

I do. I'm short, fat and of an age but more than enough desire me to stroke that part of my ego and, more importantly, I don't look in the mirror and see an ugly person anymore.

May I borrow that mirror please? Just in case.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"I personally wouldn't have given a crap what some random nobody of a stranger said. The man who spoke has almost certainly got a very very small penis."

This!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey, men with small junk have feelings too you know

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well done on your weight loss

that's excellent. I lost over 4 stone, put 2 back on but starting to lose again so I know how hard it can be.

Never saw her again on that holiday, unfortunately as I thought of plenty I could have said afterwards, but maybe it's just as well or I'd have lowered myself to her extremely low bitchy level.

You carry on the good work and hold your head up high!

Some people really can be so cruel and they have no thought of how such a pointless and throw away comment can make someone feel.

Well done on your weight loss journey too. It is hard enough at times without being knocked back a few places but I've come so far and I need to keep going.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Hey, men with small junk have feelings too you know

But they don't need their bins emptying every week?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I'm a big girl, in height AND dress size and I know that!

Over the last few years however I've been making a conscious effort to lose weight and have lost several stone so far.

A few months ago I joined slimming world and that's been going great.

In hindsight though I'm really wishing I could have had the guts to turn round and say something like "I bet no girl has ever said that to you" but sadly I didn't.

I'm picking myself up and I'm trying very hard to see past their stupid and hurtful comment. Got some good friends who are really supportive too.

Also if you've had a random stranger insult you for no reason then share your story!"

Seriously, we all wish that we were as witty as Churchill in momentary responses but most of us get unnerved and miss the opportunity. Just recognise that he was a sad bastard with no respect for humanity and probably had an awful upbringing. Let us hope beyond hope that he did not father any children.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey, men with small junk have feelings too you know

But they don't need their bins emptying every week?

Bins or balls?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well done on your weight loss

that's excellent. I lost over 4 stone, put 2 back on but starting to lose again so I know how hard it can be.

Never saw her again on that holiday, unfortunately as I thought of plenty I could have said afterwards, but maybe it's just as well or I'd have lowered myself to her extremely low bitchy level.

You carry on the good work and hold your head up high!

Some people really can be so cruel and they have no thought of how such a pointless and throw away comment can make someone feel.

Well done on your weight loss journey too. It is hard enough at times without being knocked back a few places but I've come so far and I need to keep going. "

Thank you and I agree completely. I have an underactive thyrid which hinders things sometimes too but I'm back on the straight and narrow

and determined to be at the 50lb loss by my 50th birthday

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Hey, men with small junk have feelings too you know

But they don't need their bins emptying every week?

Bins or balls?"

You said junk. I'm all about waste reduction these days.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stuff the haters . Your on your journey and in a day a month a year or 10 years thank them for the motivation to prove them wrong then rub their faces in it. Only person that can beat

you is you. Keep working

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well done on your weight loss

that's excellent. I lost over 4 stone, put 2 back on but starting to lose again so I know how hard it can be.

Never saw her again on that holiday, unfortunately as I thought of plenty I could have said afterwards, but maybe it's just as well or I'd have lowered myself to her extremely low bitchy level.

You carry on the good work and hold your head up high!

Some people really can be so cruel and they have no thought of how such a pointless and throw away comment can make someone feel.

Well done on your weight loss journey too. It is hard enough at times without being knocked back a few places but I've come so far and I need to keep going.

Thank you and I agree completely. I have an underactive thyrid which hinders things sometimes too but I'm back on the straight and narrow

and determined to be at the 50lb loss by my 50th birthday

T3 tablets?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey, men with small junk have feelings too you know

But they don't need their bins emptying every week?

Bins or balls?

You said junk. I'm all about waste reduction these days.

Is this where I say something about you not wasting a drop?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well done on your weight loss

that's excellent. I lost over 4 stone, put 2 back on but starting to lose again so I know how hard it can be.

Never saw her again on that holiday, unfortunately as I thought of plenty I could have said afterwards, but maybe it's just as well or I'd have lowered myself to her extremely low bitchy level.

You carry on the good work and hold your head up high!

Some people really can be so cruel and they have no thought of how such a pointless and throw away comment can make someone feel.

Well done on your weight loss journey too. It is hard enough at times without being knocked back a few places but I've come so far and I need to keep going.

Thank you and I agree completely. I have an underactive thyrid which hinders things sometimes too but I'm back on the straight and narrow

and determined to be at the 50lb loss by my 50th birthday

T3 tablets?"

Levothyroxin - my life savers!

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By *ncorMan
over a year ago

Ipswich

Goddess. You look amazing. Well done on weight loss. All previous messages I agree with. Be positive. Perhaps your tongue needs to a tad quicker. Do not be intimidated. Your a lovely lady.

Be happy. Enjoy the new YOU.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Hey, men with small junk have feelings too you know

But they don't need their bins emptying every week?

Bins or balls?

You said junk. I'm all about waste reduction these days.

Is this where I say something about you not wasting a drop?

Reduce, reuse, recycle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A friend I once worked with was called similar by some d*unk at a bar, as quick as anything she replied, "I may be big but there's room enough in your gob for me and my sister to party in."

I luved her ... for every guy who insults there's tons of others who admire.

Be you, just you and keep your confidence high. Sending support and hugs your way.

xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well done on your weight loss

that's excellent. I lost over 4 stone, put 2 back on but starting to lose again so I know how hard it can be.

Never saw her again on that holiday, unfortunately as I thought of plenty I could have said afterwards, but maybe it's just as well or I'd have lowered myself to her extremely low bitchy level.

You carry on the good work and hold your head up high!

Some people really can be so cruel and they have no thought of how such a pointless and throw away comment can make someone feel.

Well done on your weight loss journey too. It is hard enough at times without being knocked back a few places but I've come so far and I need to keep going.

Thank you and I agree completely. I have an underactive thyrid which hinders things sometimes too but I'm back on the straight and narrow

and determined to be at the 50lb loss by my 50th birthday

When I started slimming world a few months ago I had a personal interim target of losing 3 stone for my 30th birthday.

Sadly I've not been able to achieve that and my birthday is now only 2 weeks away but I've done well and I'm going to try and feel as nice as possible in the dress I'm wearing for my party.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"A friend I once worked with was called similar by some d*unk at a bar, as quick as anything she replied, "I may be big but there's room enough in your gob for me and my sister to party in."

I luved her ... for every guy who insults there's tons of others who admire.

Be you, just you and keep your confidence high. Sending support and hugs your way.

xxx"

Wow I love your friend too, such confidence is admirable.

And thank you for your lovely post, really really kind of you! X

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By *eviantdreamsCouple
over a year ago

glasgow

I've been called flat-chested by strangers and a friend of mine (who I think is beautiful) was asked if she used to be a man. Sometimes I come back with something witty; sometimes the moment has passed before I think of anything. Just remember that whatever your size and shape, some people with fancy you and some wont, and also also think about how pathetic somebody has to be if they actually get of on insulting strangers.

M xx

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"well done for what you have lost and good luck for the rest to your target weight.

some people will always make inappropriate comments, you did the right thing to walk on with your head held high..

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

99 out of 100 people like that do so to cover up their own insecurities. Not responding and rising above it will add to their insecurities.

Rest easy in the knowledge he will be crying into his pillow tonight whilst pulling on his tiny lifeless penis

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A friend I once worked with was called similar by some d*unk at a bar, as quick as anything she replied, "I may be big but there's room enough in your gob for me and my sister to party in."

I luved her ... for every guy who insults there's tons of others who admire.

Be you, just you and keep your confidence high. Sending support and hugs your way.

xxx

Wow I love your friend too, such confidence is admirable.

And thank you for your lovely post, really really kind of you! X"

You're very welcome. All my life I've been teased and insulted because I was thin, and have a big nose .......I'm not so thin now and the big nose has improved with being broken a few times.

I love my imperfect scarred body, there may be bits missing and failing but it does the job, I'm still breathing. That's all I wish for each morning.

xxx

You are a tall striking looking young woman and I bet the twunt who insulted you really felt intimidated and inadequate in comparison to your height and knew he'd never be able to pull you, (difficult to pull a goddess)so he got his retaliation in first ha! xxx

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over a year ago

"99 out of 100 people like that do so to cover up their own insecurities. Not responding and rising above it will add to their insecurities.

Rest easy in the knowledge he will be crying into his pillow tonight whilst pulling on his tiny lifeless penis

So many people have referred to the fact that he must be insecure, i'm not disagreeing I just don't understand it.

I'm insecure and would never dream of being so brazen and cruel to anybody just to boost my own confidence or for any reason for that matter.

Just find if difficult to believe!

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over a year ago

"99 out of 100 people like that do so to cover up their own insecurities. Not responding and rising above it will add to their insecurities.

Rest easy in the knowledge he will be crying into his pillow tonight whilst pulling on his tiny lifeless penis

So many people have referred to the fact that he must be insecure, i'm not disagreeing I just don't understand it.

I'm insecure and would never dream of being so brazen and cruel to anybody just to boost my own confidence or for any reason for that matter.

Just find if difficult to believe!"

Insecurity + immaturity and an inability or refusal to address insecurities

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over a year ago

"A friend I once worked with was called similar by some d*unk at a bar, as quick as anything she replied, "I may be big but there's room enough in your gob for me and my sister to party in."

I luved her ... for every guy who insults there's tons of others who admire.

Be you, just you and keep your confidence high. Sending support and hugs your way.

xxx

Wow I love your friend too, such confidence is admirable.

And thank you for your lovely post, really really kind of you! X

You're very welcome. All my life I've been teased and insulted because I was thin, and have a big nose .......I'm not so thin now and the big nose has improved with being broken a few times.

I love my imperfect scarred body, there may be bits missing and failing but it does the job, I'm still breathing. That's all I wish for each morning.

xxx

Love the word "twunt" I'm definitely going to be using that in future lol

Yeah I have scars and stretch marks and other such imperfections, the only thing that ever bothered me was my size.

You have a very inspiring attitude x

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over a year ago

"99 out of 100 people like that do so to cover up their own insecurities. Not responding and rising above it will add to their insecurities.

Rest easy in the knowledge he will be crying into his pillow tonight whilst pulling on his tiny lifeless penis

So many people have referred to the fact that he must be insecure, i'm not disagreeing I just don't understand it.

I'm insecure and would never dream of being so brazen and cruel to anybody just to boost my own confidence or for any reason for that matter.

Just find if difficult to believe!"

I'm insecure as well but he was with a gang of friends and wanted to look big in front of them. Had he been on his own he would never have dared say boo to a goose probably. Bullies often act when they have an audience to boost their small egos!

I hope you enjoy your 30th and I'm quite positive you will look marfelys in your dress! Penblwydd Hapus / Happy birthday in advance

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over a year ago

"99 out of 100 people like that do so to cover up their own insecurities. Not responding and rising above it will add to their insecurities.

Rest easy in the knowledge he will be crying into his pillow tonight whilst pulling on his tiny lifeless penis

And this post proves 100 out of 100 people will insult random strangers.

And if he's one of the 99 he refers to has a tiny penis

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over a year ago

"99 out of 100 people like that do so to cover up their own insecurities. Not responding and rising above it will add to their insecurities.

Rest easy in the knowledge he will be crying into his pillow tonight whilst pulling on his tiny lifeless penis

So many people have referred to the fact that he must be insecure, i'm not disagreeing I just don't understand it.

I'm insecure and would never dream of being so brazen and cruel to anybody just to boost my own confidence or for any reason for that matter.

Just find if difficult to believe!"

Because it gives them the ability to go "oh he insulted me because he's insecure or inferior".

It's the verbose version of the jerry springer favourite "you just jealous!!!"

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over a year ago

I have no interest in the opinions of people who do not matter to me...particularly about me, how I look or aspects of my behaviour...A complete stranger in the street can say or think whatever the very fuck they like, they don't matter in the slightest...

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By *iss Chievous1Woman
over a year ago

my world

The world is full of smart mouthed dicks !!!!

I find a good response to any small minded male is just to hold your hand up and do little wiggle of your little finger !!! For the ladies just a smile will wind them up enough

Don't let them get you down tho !!! X

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over a year ago

"99 out of 100 people like that do so to cover up their own insecurities. Not responding and rising above it will add to their insecurities.

Rest easy in the knowledge he will be crying into his pillow tonight whilst pulling on his tiny lifeless penis

So many people have referred to the fact that he must be insecure, i'm not disagreeing I just don't understand it.

I'm insecure and would never dream of being so brazen and cruel to anybody just to boost my own confidence or for any reason for that matter.

Just find if difficult to believe!

I hope you enjoy your 30th and I'm quite positive you will look marfelys in your dress! Penblwydd Hapus / Happy birthday in advance

Yeah you're probably right and thanks for the birthday wishes x

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over a year ago

Keep your chin up. From what i've seen in your pictures and your posts, i think your lush and lovely! You should ignore what people may say to you or what you may hear from others - it's just small mindedness from those individuals who got nothing better to do. And to be honest. Those who make comments like that are insecure about something about themselves which they need to portray on to others.

However, we can say all these things but if you don't believe it yourself, then no matter how many compliments or nice things we say..it's all going to be in vain.

What you should do and realise is that you yourself have taken active steps to lose weight or better your physique. It may not be the weight/body you ultimately want but a slight change is progress itself - that's what should boost your confidence. The fact you have taken steps to better yourself..no one else may realise but you do.

It all comes down to you. Forget about what others may think. You do things for yourself. Keep positive and forget the negaitvities - it's just not worth it.

Your a godess for a reason.

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over a year ago

"Keep your chin up. From what i've seen in your pictures and your posts, i think your lush and lovely! You should ignore what people may say to you or what you may hear from others - it's just small mindedness from those individuals who got nothing better to do. And to be honest. Those who make comments like that are insecure about something about themselves which they need to portray on to others.

However, we can say all these things but if you don't believe it yourself, then no matter how many compliments or nice things we say..it's all going to be in vain.

It all comes down to you. Forget about what others may think. You do things for yourself. Keep positive and forget the negaitvities - it's just not worth it.

Your a godess for a reason.

You're right in the fact that I do find it very hard to accept compliments but it is something I'm working on.

Given myself a good talking to today and think I might be getting back on track.

The posts on here have been great and very unexpected, been nice to see that there are some genuinely lovely people about!

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By *etitesaraTV/TS
over a year ago

rochdale

Out on a bike ride today with a group from the local bike shop. We were descending into Greenfield from Holmfirth and were strung out along the hill (its a long descent).

Apparently one lad was doing around 36mph when a car pulled alongside and the driver started yelling something, so he slowed down and so did the driver.

In his words it was an extremely obese and nasty chav woman yelling obscenities and demanding "have you got a f******g death wish?"

To which he replied "No, which is why i don't eat what you eat".

TBH i thought that was rather witty considering the extremely stupid and dangerous stunt that driver had just pulled!

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By *etitesaraTV/TS
over a year ago

rochdale

PS. A lady i know is six ft tall and around a size 16 dress. Her doctor told her she was too heavy - she is six ft for gawds sake, any smaller dress size and she's look ill!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OMG you poor girl I would of died inside !!

You are not big

Carry on as you are don't let idiots get you down xx

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over a year ago

"PS. A lady i know is six ft tall and around a size 16 dress. Her doctor told her she was too heavy - she is six ft for gawds sake, any smaller dress size and she's look ill!"

Gonna guess the doctor didn't tell her to change her dress size but her body fat percentage.

But don't let common sense get in the way of your rant

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over a year ago

"I get and have been insulted quite regularly at work both by customers and the management however I refuse to stoop to their low gutter level and comment back

What Do You Do?

Why does it happen regularly? "

Do you mean to deserve getting name called etc? Nothing as it's for what I look like

Because they can and do

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over a year ago

"I get and have been insulted quite regularly at work both by customers and the management however I refuse to stoop to their low gutter level and comment back

At work??? Surely if management are doing it that's bullying in the workplace and you have grounds to take them to a tribunal over that!!"

Yes just a bit difficult to do it against the boss

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

There are some nasty people about thats for sure

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over a year ago

"So I'm a big girl, in height AND dress size and I know that!

Over the last few years however I've been making a conscious effort to lose weight and have lost several stone so far.

A few months ago I joined slimming world and that's been going great.

In hindsight though I'm really wishing I could have had the guts to turn round and say something like "I bet no girl has ever said that to you" but sadly I didn't.

I'm picking myself up and I'm trying very hard to see past their stupid and hurtful comment. Got some good friends who are really supportive too.

Also if you've had a random stranger insult you for no reason then share your story!"

the best thing to do in that situation is ignore it, if you had replied they would have only said something back which is probably what they want, don't show then their comments bother you and any reply back would let them know it does

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia

Hiya, well done you!

... I was alot bigger in the past, and yeap have had similar . But I fronted em! One occasion I walked passed some lads in a wine bar... Heard the comments and did a u turn.. Went straight up to the main culprit and whisperd in his ear.. That I so hope his sister, mum, auntie were never out enjoying them selfs and had to put up with such comments from C**Ts like you! He went beetroot red and he and his mates said sorry!

Don't let the arse holes in life penetrate you as a person ... I don't get any of it these days ( yes am big) cos when i walk out my door my head high, shoulders back, always wear a smile too

... And frankly I don't give a Shit! And wouldnt allowe others to make me feel inferia in any way...

Be Happy in your skin, you have it for life!

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over a year ago

"PS. A lady i know is six ft tall and around a size 16 dress. Her doctor told her she was too heavy - she is six ft for gawds sake, any smaller dress size and she's look ill!"

I'm nearly 6ft and I'm aiming to be a size 14, not about the dress size as such but about reducing my bmi in order to be healthier.

I think any smaller then a 14 for my height may look too thin but the doctor probably meant about her bmi!

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over a year ago

A couple months ago I met a very pretty lady, smiling and laughing at a party and remember you were alot smaller than my phat arse

although you felt embarrassed and knock in confidence. Would you really think they would say that if didnt have there little mates, to back them up.packs of wolves and people hiding behind keyboards are the only ones big anough to insult. I would have just turned smiled and walked on, very tempted to wiggle my arse but nah

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By *ighland_RoseCouple
over a year ago

Brigadoon

I've had many rude, nasty and uncalled for comments in my life due to have breasts which are ridiculously out of proportion to the rest of me. I'm a quiet, private person and used to be very shy and insecure, these comments just served to make me more insecure and to develop a general dislike for the human species. Most people say you were right to walk by with your head held high but I don't agree, arseholes like that prick need confronting. I used to ignore people that made comments like that, these days I would have stopped in my tracks, looked him right in the eyes and said "what did you just say?" if he dared repeat it I'd ask him if insulting and demeaning women in the street was how he got his kicks. I'd take any bet that he'd shut the fuck up and his mates would be looking the other way wishing they didn't know him.

I may be small but I don't take shit from anyone anymore. By the way most of the shitty comments I received when I was younger took place in Australia, Aussie guys make Brits look like gentlemen which is one of the reasons I live here now.

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over a year ago

I don't think a stranger has ever said anything to me in my adult life, so can't comment on strangers, but my sister (who is 22 years older than me and a size 8) loves belittling me over my weight. I used to cry and be angry for weeks but in the last couple of years I just smile at her and enjoy watching her confusion over my lack of reaction.

So, if a strangers was to make remark I would either keep walking with my head held high like you did, or simply smile at them.

Bugger what anyone else thinks, it's your own knowledge of your work towards being happy, your confidence in your looks and personality and a good support network around you that means anything.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

What makes you think he meant you ?

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over a year ago

"A couple months ago I met a very pretty lady, smiling and laughing at a party and remember you were alot smaller than my phat arse

Hey Sheri, such a lovely post!

I remember that night, lots of smiling and laughing and was great to meet you!

I know a lot of it was all just male bravado still hurts though but everything everyone has said is right.

You dust yourself off as they say x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What makes you think he meant you ?

Quite simple when he looks at you, eye contact is made, he grins and elbows the guy next to him and says what he did whilst nodding his head in my direction.

Then they all turn and laugh...not rocket science really!

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over a year ago

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

i would have said to him so what you are ugly

but I can lose weight

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What makes you think he meant you ?

Quite simple when he looks at you, eye contact is made, he grins and elbows the guy next to him and says what he did whilst nodding his head in my direction.

Then they all turn and laugh...not rocket science really! "

Never forget the insults say much more about the person throwing them out than it does about you.

You know the truth about yourself, they don't have a clue. I hope your confidence in who you are continues to grow

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple
over a year ago

Fareham

I can't better what others have said... but jeez I just wish I was as 'big' as you. Your figure is gorgeous!

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over a year ago

"So I'm a big girl, in height AND dress size and I know that!

Over the last few years however I've been making a conscious effort to lose weight and have lost several stone so far.

A few months ago I joined slimming world and that's been going great.

In hindsight though I'm really wishing I could have had the guts to turn round and say something like "I bet no girl has ever said that to you" but sadly I didn't.

I'm picking myself up and I'm trying very hard to see past their stupid and hurtful comment. Got some good friends who are really supportive too.

Also if you've had a random stranger insult you for no reason then share your story!"

Can I just say that you look fabulous. Well done too on your weight loss. Im doing slimming world and not for the first time. I've been struggling but have lost some weight now. Ignore those people, they were just jealous of your height and figure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What right have people got to criticise others people are so cruel and they should not interfere in anyone else's life . We don't think your overweight hun , sexy is what we think . You carry on what your doing if it makes you happy and good luck . Ignore the tossers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well done on your weight loss you look great

I just think the male in question is a tosser showing off so not worth your time of day

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Wow the comments you've all made have blown me away completely, I really wasn't expecting it and you've really put a smile on my face so thank you all so much!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If anyone says something again. Let me know. I got my tin of spinach ready for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wow the comments you've all made have blown me away completely, I really wasn't expecting it and you've really put a smile on my face so thank you all so much!!"

That made me smile.

If anyone says anything rude to me I just smile and say thank you. It confuses them and makes me laugh. x

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over a year ago

"Wow the comments you've all made have blown me away completely, I really wasn't expecting it and you've really put a smile on my face so thank you all so much!!"

Don't know if this will keep the smile on your face but about four years ago a lady asked if I was pregnant,! I said no I'm just fat. Poor lady was mortified but I told her it was fine as I knew I was fat

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over a year ago

"Wow the comments you've all made have blown me away completely, I really wasn't expecting it and you've really put a smile on my face so thank you all so much!!

Omfg

I'd be absolutely mortified too, if I was in her shoes and yours too!!!

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over a year ago

"A couple months ago I met a very pretty lady, smiling and laughing at a party and remember you were alot smaller than my phat arse

Hey Sheri, such a lovely post!

I remember that night, lots of smiling and laughing and was great to meet you!

I know a lot of it was all just male bravado still hurts though but everything everyone has said is right.

You dust yourself off as they say x"

great to meet you too, when your next in London come down to EWS party always last fri of month,be good to see you again

Of course it can hurt, its swollocks when people say 'words will never hurt me' however a bunch of lads and girls having a laugh at others expense, showing off etc is just silly.like you say brush it off, its very rare ive not had it.

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over a year ago

"Wow the comments you've all made have blown me away completely, I really wasn't expecting it and you've really put a smile on my face so thank you all so much!!

That made me smile.

If anyone says anything rude to me I just smile and say thank you. It confuses them and makes me laugh. x"

"Always forgive your enemies, nothing annoys them so much"

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over a year ago

"well done for what you have lost and good luck for the rest to your target weight.

some people will always make inappropriate comments, you did the right thing to walk on with your head held high..

The fact that you ignored them shows how much your confidence has increased. You know you look good and you do!

You make me wish I was tall!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"A couple months ago I met a very pretty lady, smiling and laughing at a party and remember you were alot smaller than my phat arse

Hey Sheri, such a lovely post!

I remember that night, lots of smiling and laughing and was great to meet you!

I know a lot of it was all just male bravado still hurts though but everything everyone has said is right.

You dust yourself off as they say x

great to meet you too, when your next in London come down to EWS party always last fri of month,be good to see you again

Friday's are always difficult due to work and obviously I'm a million miles away from London but I've heard loads about EWS and it is on my to-do-list so you may see me very soon

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"well done for what you have lost and good luck for the rest to your target weight.

some people will always make inappropriate comments, you did the right thing to walk on with your head held high..

The fact that you ignored them shows how much your confidence has increased. You know you look good and you do!

You make me wish I was tall!

You're an absolutely sweetie...good things come in small packages as they say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try not to let them get to you although I would of been hurt I would just walk away.I've had my confidence knocked by someone i feel everything I do now is not good enough but I'm hoping in time to get over it . Someone's passing comments can hurt more than they know . Hope you feel better soon and well done on the weight loss x

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over a year ago

"A couple months ago I met a very pretty lady, smiling and laughing at a party and remember you were alot smaller than my phat arse

Hey Sheri, such a lovely post!

I remember that night, lots of smiling and laughing and was great to meet you!

I know a lot of it was all just male bravado still hurts though but everything everyone has said is right.

You dust yourself off as they say x

great to meet you too, when your next in London come down to EWS party always last fri of month,be good to see you again

Friday's are always difficult due to work and obviously I'm a million miles away from London but I've heard loads about EWS and it is on my to-do-list so you may see me very soon

cool hope so

I have same problem im tootsie end of Britain miles from anywhere but worth the 120mile round trip

maybe when you got annual leave thats what I have to do Saturday nights

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

thats a really mean thing to do ... all your sexy pix just got fabbed .. i thing you look cute

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had men make cruel comments, I put it down to their insecurities and thinking a lone woman is an easy target. Some people are just bullies.

If it wasn't your size they would find something else to comment on. Anything they could think of....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get and have been insulted quite regularly at work both by customers and the management however I refuse to stoop to their low gutter level and comment back

What Do You Do?

Why does it happen regularly?

Do you mean to deserve getting name called etc? Nothing as it's for what I look like

Because they can and do"

No i meant job. As if your telling the truth any medium to large company would be sitting themselves over that because you'd be able to take them to the cleaners

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looking at your pictures if you'd walked past me I'd have wolf whistled xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Looking at your pictures if you'd walked past me I'd have wolf whistled xx

Awwww thanks

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over a year ago

"Wow the comments you've all made have blown me away completely, I really wasn't expecting it and you've really put a smile on my face so thank you all so much!!

Omfg

I'd be absolutely mortified too, if I was in her shoes and yours too!!!"

It inspired me to lose four stone but unfortunately I've gained it back as I thought I could do slimming world on my own without attending the classes

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over a year ago

"Wow the comments you've all made have blown me away completely, I really wasn't expecting it and you've really put a smile on my face so thank you all so much!!

Omfg

I'd be absolutely mortified too, if I was in her shoes and yours too!!!

It inspired me to lose four stone but unfortunately I've gained it back as I thought I could do slimming world on my own without attending the classes "

I have to attend the classes. I wish I didn't have to but they do keep me motivated to stay on track...don't feel ready to fly the nest on my own yet!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I'm a big girl, in height AND dress size and I know that!

Cunts.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So I'm a big girl, in height AND dress size and I know that!

Cunts."

Maybe a tad harsh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I'm a big girl, in height AND dress size and I know that!

Cunts.

Maybe a tad harsh

Bullying is a bit of a cunty thing to do. I hope you're confidence isn't knocked for long. Keep up the good work.

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

" i bet they have small dicks their problem not us keep going on slimming world#

ehhhh ?? how does that equate ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" i bet they have small dicks their problem not us keep going on slimming world#

ehhhh ?? how does that equate ??"

It's ok for 'some' people to call names.. but not others...? Apparently.

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over a year ago

"So I'm a big girl, in height AND dress size and I know that!

Over the last few years however I've been making a conscious effort to lose weight and have lost several stone so far.

A few months ago I joined slimming world and that's been going great.

In hindsight though I'm really wishing I could have had the guts to turn round and say something like "I bet no girl has ever said that to you" but sadly I didn't.

I'm picking myself up and I'm trying very hard to see past their stupid and hurtful comment. Got some good friends who are really supportive too.

Also if you've had a random stranger insult you for no reason then share your story!"

If it happens again turn round walk up to them and say' I may be fat but your ugly. The differenc is in 6 months time i can be 3 stone lighter, you on the other hand will still be ugly'

They will dissapear up their own arse quicker that you can say twat

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By *entaur_UKMan
over a year ago

Cannock

"So I'm a big girl, in height AND dress size and I know that!

Over the last few years however I've been making a conscious effort to lose weight and have lost several stone so far.

A few months ago I joined slimming world and that's been going great.

In hindsight though I'm really wishing I could have had the guts to turn round and say something like "I bet no girl has ever said that to you" but sadly I didn't.

I'm picking myself up and I'm trying very hard to see past their stupid and hurtful comment. Got some good friends who are really supportive too.

Also if you've had a random stranger insult you for no reason then share your story!"

Just had a look at your profile pics and you have a good figure. Ignore comments from idiots like the ones you encountered, and keep up the slimming world routine, and your confidence will keep on growing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" i bet they have small dicks their problem not us keep going on slimming world#

ehhhh ?? how does that equate ??

It's ok for 'some' people to call names.. but not others...? Apparently."

Well if the " they're only insulting because they're insecure is true" i wonder what thay means for all the people where saying they mist have small willys lol

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

" i bet they have small dicks their problem not us keep going on slimming world#

ehhhh ?? how does that equate ??

It's ok for 'some' people to call names.. but not others...? Apparently.

Well if the " they're only insulting because they're insecure is true" i wonder what thay means for all the people where saying they mist have small willys lol"
Because apparently thats ok.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" i bet they have small dicks their problem not us keep going on slimming world#

ehhhh ?? how does that equate ??

It's ok for 'some' people to call names.. but not others...? Apparently.

Well if the " they're only insulting because they're insecure is true" i wonder what thay means for all the people where saying they mist have small willys lolBecause apparently thats ok.

Indeed the double standards are amusing.

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

" i bet they have small dicks their problem not us keep going on slimming world#

ehhhh ?? how does that equate ??

It's ok for 'some' people to call names.. but not others...? Apparently.

Well if the " they're only insulting because they're insecure is true" i wonder what thay means for all the people where saying they mist have small willys lolBecause apparently thats ok.

Indeed the double standards are amusing.

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But normal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Years ago I went to see Prince (when he was symbol) and before he married Mayte thats a looooooong time ago. I went on my own. I had a really good _iew and was sat reading my programme when two lads came and stood next to me. They obviously found it hysterical that I was alone and kept egging each other on to say something to me. Eventually they asked if I was there alone and when I said yes howled with laughter. At which point I asked if they would ever go to a show on their own and when they said no pointed out that I had bigger balls than them then. They didnt find that funny

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Iv just read ur 1st post but not everyones comments. I wud just like to say u are far frm big huni u look standard size to me lovely in fact

some people are so inadequate they have to belittle others so they look gud

you did well holdjng ur head high sumtimes its worth saying sumthing bak but are they really worth using ur oxygen on them

uv done great loosing all the weight u wanted to get ur glad rags on n go n flirt ur ass off with ur friends see how much attention u get xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"99 out of 100 people like that do so to cover up their own insecurities. Not responding and rising above it will add to their insecurities.

Rest easy in the knowledge he will be crying into his pillow tonight whilst pulling on his tiny lifeless penis

And this post proves 100 out of 100 people will insult random strangers.

And if he's one of the 99 he refers to has a tiny penis"

I take your point. No better of me to chuck in an insult. Noted and withdrawn.

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By *quirrelMan
over a year ago

East Manchester

Some people are basically so insecure that they cry out for attention by insulting other's under the protection any anonymity of a group.

The wanker you came a cross probably does resort to a hand job because he has no social skills and no woman would entertain th e idea of being seen with him public his bravado within the group was meant to make himself look big. Just ignore him and others like him as though you never heard their childish comments as it starves them of the attention they seek. Maybe he will move onto doing stupid stunts for attention and end up in A&E, either way it's history and life is about progress so put it behind you and move on you are better than him, take away his power over our by forgetting it happened. congratulations on the weight loss you have more self control than me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some people are basically so insecure that they cry out for attention by insulting other's under the protection any anonymity of a group.

The wanker you came a cross "

Irony or hypocrisy?

Ah who cares either way it's hilarious.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

why doesn't people just live healthy, and stop eating shite, cover it up with curvy, voluptuous all you like, when people stop eating shit they will have a better mental state, health and just feel better as a person....rant over

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"why doesn't people just live healthy, and stop eating shite, cover it up with curvy, voluptuous all you like, when people stop eating shit they will have a better mental state, health and just feel better as a person....rant over

Looks at one and only verification....woman who describes her self as curvy.

Whelp this could be entertaining

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shit happens! The funny bits are all the white knights and counter insulters who are just as bad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks at one and only verification....woman who describes her self as curvy.

Whelp this could be entertaining"

They aint crying about getting "insulted", so much for us British having "a stiff upper lip" clearly them days are long gone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Shit happens! The funny bits are all the white knights and counter insulters who are just as bad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wow the comments you've all made have blown me away completely, I really wasn't expecting it and you've really put a smile on my face so thank you all so much!!

Omfg

I'd be absolutely mortified too, if I was in her shoes and yours too!!!

It inspired me to lose four stone but unfortunately I've gained it back as I thought I could do slimming world on my own without attending the classes

I have to attend the classes. I wish I didn't have to but they do keep me motivated to stay on track...don't feel ready to fly the nest on my own yet! "

I do too. Am not leaving again. I don't know when you attend but good luck this week x

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Because they don't want to, or have more serious things to worry about, or a ton of reasons that you probably can't understand.

It doesn't matter what you think of fat people or unhealthy people (slim people can be unhealthy too) or any people. It is not acceptable that anyone should be insulted for how they look.

As I've said before, saying if you don't want to be insulted then change is bullying. Nobody has the right to treat anyone else like shit in order to try to make them conform to their standards. Nobody. Ever.

It's not "helping them". It's not "tough love". It's bullying.

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

Because they don't want to, or have more serious things to worry about, or a ton of reasons that you probably can't understand.

It doesn't matter what you think of fat people or unhealthy people (slim people can be unhealthy too) or any people. It is not acceptable that anyone should be insulted for how they look.

It's not "helping them". It's not "tough love". It's bullying."

Tough love can only cone from people who actually love you. And then the toughness is tempered by the fact that you know that they love and respect and cherish you and that they have genuine concerns and will support you through it.

Most who say they are being cruel to be kind forget the kind part!

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Looks at one and only verification....woman who describes her self as curvy.

Whelp this could be entertaining

They aint crying about getting "insulted", so much for us British having "a stiff upper lip" clearly them days are long gone

You have no idea how she'd feel if she was insulted like the OP was.

Stiff upper lip? What bollocks.

You're just blaming the victim here rather than criticising the nasty arseholes actually at fault.

Let's extend that thinking...

She went out in a short skirt and was attacked? Well I don't understand why she'd dress like that. If she didn't then she'd be safer. And why is she complaining? What ever happened to the British stiff upper lip?

He got beaten up by football supporters because he was wearing a football shirt of an opposing team? Well, if he hadn't worn the shirt he'd have been safer. He shouldn't be whining about it; what happened to the British stiff upper lip?

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"The wanker you came a cross probably does resort to a hand job because he has no social skills and no woman would entertain th e idea of being seen with him public"

From the OP:

"as I walked past the nearby pub there was a small group of mainly guys and a couple of girls."

Setting aside he was in a group, which suggests he may have some social skills, women clearly were with him in public.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some people are basically so insecure that they cry out for attention by insulting other's under the protection any anonymity of a group.

The wanker you came a cross

Irony or hypocrisy?

Ah who cares either way it's hilarious. "

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

What a small minded prick, why do arseholes do that. People think it is ok to either take the piss or insult you just for thier own amusement, small minded fuckwits really annoy me like that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just thought I'd butt in and reply to a few posts.

Firstly I don't agree that me or anyone else insulting the person who insulted me is right.

My original post says that later on I wish I'd been quick witted and said something but I also agreed with Miss CheekyChops that if I'd said anything I would have lowered myself to his standards. Someone else yesterday called them the "C" word...my reply was that was harsh to say that. I can't obviously control what others have posted and I'm sure most of them were just trying to cheer me up by referring to his apparent small appendage.

In reply to white_walter...if you had actually read my first post and subsequent posts too you will see that I am currently doing slimming world and on a mission to become healthier. Under no circumstances do I hide behind the word "curvy" and think I'm healthy as I know I'm not...however I will paint a picture for you.

I used to be morbidly obese, i'm not ashamed to say it, in the past 3 years I've lost nearly 4 stone but before that I'd been much heavier too. All in all since I was 17 up until now I've lost 8 stone, yes it's over a long period of time but I've never been happy with my weight and it's always bothered me.

I've not always eaten healthily and despite not liking my weight I make the mistake of reaching for the wrong things.

It's a journey and a long one and it's all about changing your mentality to food, it's not easy or something that can be done overnight.

In my opinion you are very lucky you've never had this battle on your hands, I hope you never do either.

And Voluptuous virago I agree with you completely. I was minding my own business and got insulted in the middle of the street for no reason, not exactly something I asked for or deserve.

Sadly some people just don't understand the effect that things people say have on us as they've luckily never been on the receiving end of either bullying or taunting of any kind or also been lucky to have a naturally confident and self assured personality.

I also thought it was the British thing to have empathy for your fellow countryman but sadly I'm beginning to realise that it no longer exists.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To me, it says a lot more about the person that made the comment than you. He is more likely the insecure one who wanted to look good in front of his mates by making an unneeded comment on here !

I've actually socially met a guy on here who told me to my face " I was bigger than he expected" which I found upsetting at the time. Far worse though when some random stranger says it.

You rose above it , I think that was the right thing to do. We all have our opinions, but as adults there are certain hurtful things that shouldn't be said. It just isn't necessary.

You're doing great, you're a beautiful lady. So forget him, he won't have thought twice about it since.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"...

I also thought it was the British thing to have empathy for your fellow countryman but sadly I'm beginning to realise that it no longer exists. "

This thread has been full of supportive comments. Hold your head high. Some people are nice.

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

As much as I would like to say "Just forget it", I know that's easier said than done.

The fact is, you have made amazing progress and the only person you have to impress is YOU. It says a lot more about people who throw those kind of comments around than it does about you and you often realise that, once the red mist has cleared, they're people you wouldn't have touched with a barge pole anyway.

My last one was on my most recent holiday when a d*unk shouted "Fat Bitch!" at me from across the street and all of his mates laughed and jeered... - Of course, I wasn't too fat for him to try and hit on 10mins earlier.

Sour grapes, me thinks.

- Amy. x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"...

I also thought it was the British thing to have empathy for your fellow countryman but sadly I'm beginning to realise that it no longer exists.

This thread has been full of supportive comments. Hold your head high. Some people are nice. "

Oh I know, I've been really pleasantly surprised by the amount of lovely posts.

Just a shame a few have to come along and add negativity because they have nothing better to do!

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By *trawberry-popWoman
over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT

It's happened to me before. People commenting on my weight. I get very angry and usually throw back a comment about suffocating them with my arse. Don't let them see i'm angry though, smile sweetly all the while!

Don't know where people get off, feeling the need to comment on strangers appearances! What the fuck has it got to do with them? They are probably deflecting from their own shortcomings.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This topic reminded me of something that happened to an old college. He was a large man, very over weight but working hard to lose it.

On his lunch break a very slim woman in high heels shouted 'Look at the size of him' and strutted off....or tried to, her heel snapped and she promptly landed in a heap on the floor.

Karma is a bitch, sometimes you do get to witness it

people like that man will get whats coming to them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had a lot of abuse from strangers over the past 12 years, I sometimes laugh at them, sometimes give a put down but mostly I just blank them. People like that are of limited intelligence and I don't see the point in getting upset about the opinions of inferior people.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"This topic reminded me of something that happened to an old college. He was a large man, very over weight but working hard to lose it.

On his lunch break a very slim woman in high heels shouted 'Look at the size of him' and strutted off....or tried to, her heel snapped and she promptly landed in a heap on the floor.

Karma is a bitch, sometimes you do get to witness it

people like that man will get whats coming to them."

Omg so funny, I nearly spat my brew out all over my desk!!

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