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By *odareyou OP   Man
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

Most that know me will probably say I m pretty laid back funny and a decent sort,

As its Thursday I feel as though I can have a moan

I ve two girls (they re the lights of my life) my ex has / had problems with the eldest when the shit hits the fan shes on the phone giving me grief because she can t cope or manage the situation a few weeks ago she smashed the kids tv in a rage then I m on the receiving end of her verbals, the only time she rings is when the shit storms around, I see the girls once a fortnight and apart from that I hear very little

Today I receive a call from her saying that my eldest has been for an ultrasound scan as shes been having stomach pains. the ex and gp thought it period pains, the scan shoed she has a 6 cm ovarian cyst, well fuck Me thanks for letting me know my girls going into hospital, it seems the only involvement I have is cash and sweeping / clearing the crap up,

Do others have these problems with their ex's if so what do you do?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sorry to hear your daughter is unwell, it does seem a shame that the communication dies down between estranged parents.

Hope all goes well for her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thats awful news hope recovers quickly but you 2 parents need to sit and talk to get things sorted ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How old are they? Can you not get them a phone?

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Most that know me will probably say I m pretty laid back funny and a decent sort,

As its Thursday I feel as though I can have a moan

I ve two girls (they re the lights of my life) my ex has / had problems with the eldest when the shit hits the fan shes on the phone giving me grief because she can t cope or manage the situation a few weeks ago she smashed the kids tv in a rage then I m on the receiving end of her verbals, the only time she rings is when the shit storms around, I see the girls once a fortnight and apart from that I hear very little

Today I receive a call from her saying that my eldest has been for an ultrasound scan as shes been having stomach pains. the ex and gp thought it period pains, the scan shoed she has a 6 cm ovarian cyst, well fuck Me thanks for letting me know my girls going into hospital, it seems the only involvement I have is cash and sweeping / clearing the crap up,

Do others have these problems with their ex's if so what do you do? "

Before I answer, why did you split up, who's choice was it / whats the history?

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By *odareyou OP   Man
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

She wanted it, she cited an irretrievable breakdown, we d been together approx 20 years divorced approx 6 years ago,

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley


"I'm sorry to hear your daughter is unwell, it does seem a shame that the communication dies down between estranged parents.

Hope all goes well for her "

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By *odareyou OP   Man
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)


"How old are they? Can you not get them a phone?"

I ve bought them phones there seems to be a mystical being in their mothers house that takes phones and hides them, latest two blackberrys gone awol,

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

Sorry to hear about your daughter hope she's ok.

As for your ex I've got a night mare one of my own so I feel your pain, if I find a miracle cute to make them less twatty I'll let you know *hugs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm sorry to hear your daughter is unwell, it does seem a shame that the communication dies down between estranged parents.

Hope all goes well for her "

hope all will be ok for her x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How old are they? Can you not get them a phone?

I ve bought them phones there seems to be a mystical being in their mothers house that takes phones and hides them, latest two blackberrys gone awol, "

Try and talk to her when she is calm. About your role and how it's pretty much impossible to help. If you are only involved every other weekend or when she has a melt down.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

A huge shock when you hear something like this about a child and you haven't been involved from the start it must throw up conflicting emotions. Best wishes to her and hope all goes well.

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple
over a year ago

Fareham

I've always got along with my 2 exes and it's been to the benefit of our kids who are now stable, balanced adults.

But I know plenty of people who've had a nightmare time so I do feel for you.

I hope your daughter is ok now - my youngest was hospitalised twice with exactly the same thing so if you need any more info then feel free to inbox me.

Emm x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My husbands "lazy pussy" as I call her is the exact same way. The only time we ever hear from her is when she wants money--which mind you is quite frequent! -yet we've very little access to the child!!! It's frustrating to say the least!!

But we get along with my ex just fine!!

Praying for your daughter and Hoping she feels well soon!

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff


"She wanted it, she cited an irretrievable breakdown, we d been together approx 20 years divorced approx 6 years ago, "

In that case Im very sorry to hear the shit your and the girls are going through.

Its bang out of order your just a walking, talking ATM.

You should have equal rights to the girls, fuck what any judge says, you wern't having an affair with another woman, you didnt used to beat her, your wife wanted to split up, she should man up and allow you to be the DAD you can be, which is what the girls need in their life, just as much as their MUM.

I wish you all the best along this bumpy road, keep your dignity and dont bad mouth the MUM to the girls, they'll be old enough to see the damage she is doing.

Good luck mate keep your head high

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"She wanted it, she cited an irretrievable breakdown, we d been together approx 20 years divorced approx 6 years ago,

In that case Im very sorry to hear the shit your and the girls are going through.

Its bang out of order your just a walking, talking ATM.

You should have equal rights to the girls, fuck what any judge says, you wern't having an affair with another woman, you didnt used to beat her, your wife wanted to split up, she should man up and allow you to be the DAD you can be, which is what the girls need in their life, just as much as their MUM.

I wish you all the best along this bumpy road, keep your dignity and dont bad mouth the MUM to the girls, they'll be old enough to see the damage she is doing.

Good luck mate keep your head high"

Finger cross for your daughter.

You should just walk and talk ATM . Also if ur ex is like that, I suggest a legal way to resolve that problem. Its your kids too!

Im with you in 100%

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am so sorry to hear about your daughter and i wish her well.

As for your ex - well i am in same boat and with similar stresses as you despite the miles between us and even in 2 different countries. However, we are not alone with this problem, i am confident in this! I have tried everything including authorities like CSA and Courts but to no avail.

What i did do though myself which worked was to ignore the calls and withdraw support. This seems drastic but after a few months of this she mellowed her behaviours and now i have unlimited access to my kids. When she starts a row i just kiss my kids goodbye ( so as bever to expose them to any unnerving scenes) and walk away. She now accepts my role as their father and we have progressed to txtin (restricted of course to matters concerning the kids). Ignoring at the start is hard and if you are like me you will cry more and be depressed a lot but it will be shortlived. Good luck my friend am with you all the wat! Pm me anytime to offload - i have been there.

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By *odareyou OP   Man
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

Cheers guys I know I m not the only one with ex issues, unfortunately when crap like this happens I seem to think its that way ,

Rung the hospital they wont talk to me, I ve to ring my daughters gp get them to seek permission from my ex so they can answer any questions I may have, there are times I scratch my head and think wtf,, why do I bother ,, then I look at their pictures and know why,

I m Going for a beer, if you see me theyre not tears,!! its beads of sweat ,

have a great evening folks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cheers guys I know I m not the only one with ex issues, unfortunately when crap like this happens I seem to think its that way ,

Rung the hospital they wont talk to me, I ve to ring my daughters gp get them to seek permission from my ex so they can answer any questions I may have, there are times I scratch my head and think wtf,, why do I bother ,, then I look at their pictures and know why,

I m Going for a beer, if you see me theyre not tears,!! its beads of sweat ,

have a great evening folks "

why wont they tell u stuff? your her dad?

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Cheers guys I know I m not the only one with ex issues, unfortunately when crap like this happens I seem to think its that way ,

Rung the hospital they wont talk to me, I ve to ring my daughters gp get them to seek permission from my ex so they can answer any questions I may have, there are times I scratch my head and think wtf,, why do I bother ,, then I look at their pictures and know why,

I m Going for a beer, if you see me theyre not tears,!! its beads of sweat ,

have a great evening folks "

Do you know what hospital they are in? Surely you should be heading there?

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent


"Cheers guys I know I m not the only one with ex issues, unfortunately when crap like this happens I seem to think its that way ,

Rung the hospital they wont talk to me, I ve to ring my daughters gp get them to seek permission from my ex so they can answer any questions I may have, there are times I scratch my head and think wtf,, why do I bother ,, then I look at their pictures and know why,

I m Going for a beer, if you see me theyre not tears,!! its beads of sweat ,

have a great evening folks "

Are you on the birth certificate?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"She wanted it, she cited an irretrievable breakdown, we d been together approx 20 years divorced approx 6 years ago, "

I don't think that the grounds cited are at all important as when a marriage breaks down, it breaks down. But irretrievable breakdown is not a ground for divorce on its own. It has to be supported by an allegation - unreasonable behaviour, adultery, two years separation with consent or five years separation. Just saying.

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By *odareyou OP   Man
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)


"Cheers guys I know I m not the only one with ex issues, unfortunately when crap like this happens I seem to think its that way ,

Rung the hospital they wont talk to me, I ve to ring my daughters gp get them to seek permission from my ex so they can answer any questions I may have, there are times I scratch my head and think wtf,, why do I bother ,, then I look at their pictures and know why,

I m Going for a beer, if you see me theyre not tears,!! its beads of sweat ,

have a great evening folks

Do you know what hospital they are in? Surely you should be heading there? "

She was an outpatient, so she s on her way home, only info I ve had is the ultrasound has shown a cyst and that she has to go back in about 5 weeks when the drs will scan her again and see whats happening , only way I can find out when this appointment or any other details about it is is if my ex tells me,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bro hugs mate..

Hope your littleun gets sorted...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

find it hard to believe a girl old enough to have periods is not incharge of her own mobile phone or has access to social media sites ..

im sorry that she's ill and wish her all the best but there has to be more effort on your part to communicate surely? or maybe your daughter chooses not too

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Cheers guys I know I m not the only one with ex issues, unfortunately when crap like this happens I seem to think its that way ,

Rung the hospital they wont talk to me, I ve to ring my daughters gp get them to seek permission from my ex so they can answer any questions I may have, there are times I scratch my head and think wtf,, why do I bother ,, then I look at their pictures and know why,

I m Going for a beer, if you see me theyre not tears,!! its beads of sweat ,

have a great evening folks

Do you know what hospital they are in? Surely you should be heading there?

She was an outpatient, so she s on her way home, only info I ve had is the ultrasound has shown a cyst and that she has to go back in about 5 weeks when the drs will scan her again and see whats happening , only way I can find out when this appointment or any other details about it is is if my ex tells me, "

I'm really sorry your daughter is not well and I hope everything works out well for her.

Obviously I have never been in your position but if it were me I would be on my way to meet them at the house. Take her something nice after everything she has been through and remind her you will be there for her whenever she needs you.

Don't have it out with your ex over why she didn't tell you things as all that will do is scare your daughter off from talking to you.

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By *aceytopWoman
over a year ago

from a town near you

pmd you D,ring if you need to xx

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