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By *r Man. OP   Man
over a year ago

London

When i fell into the scene i thought, Wow! People enjoying sex with other like minded people how liberating. No back biting. No infidelity, no body been judgmental of others do's and don'ts

How wrong was i. Reading the forums, were no different from the people we hide from on civiy street.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you judging swingers only by comments on these forums?

The ones I've met are surprisingly normal.. and not...

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Did you really expect Utopia?

People make it what it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Loads are jugemental in all areas its just some swingers have a McCain on their shoulder a wing on and a small wooden hammer to bang the point across.

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By *atsnCorsetsCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

People are people whether here or anywhere else. There isn't ever one hard and fast rule for everyone!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When i fell into the scene i thought, Wow! People enjoying sex with other like minded people how liberating. No back biting. No infidelity, no body been judgmental of others do's and don'ts

How wrong was i. Reading the forums, were no different from the people we hide from on civiy street."

Jaded?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The problem with utopia is that's it's a solitary affair.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok. what's utopia?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok. what's utopia? "

A place made up by a bloke in the 16th century

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Ok. what's utopia? "

It's probably a sex club up north.

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By *andWCouple
over a year ago

Pontypridd

Used to be a club in Telford, ahh good times

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By *r Man. OP   Man
over a year ago

London


"Ok. what's utopia? "

where every thing just floats on by, people see but didn't give a shit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok. what's utopia? "

A conspiracy thriller on channel four.

Series two starts soon

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Ok. what's utopia?

where every thing just floats on by, people see but didn't give a shit."

That's antidepressants.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok. what's utopia?

where every thing just floats on by, people see but didn't give a shit."

A turd on a street in Paris?

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"When i fell into the scene i thought, Wow! People enjoying sex with other like minded people how liberating. No back biting. No infidelity, no body been judgmental of others do's and don'ts

How wrong was i. Reading the forums, were no different from the people we hide from on civiy street."

Maybe people are just more open with the back biting now?

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By *r Man. OP   Man
over a year ago

London


"Are you judging swingers only by comments on these forums?

The ones I've met are surprisingly normal.. and not..."

No. Before i came on the site i was in the club scene and saw my fare share of infadaltye

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

what did you expect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are you judging swingers only by comments on these forums?

The ones I've met are surprisingly normal.. and not...

No. Before i came on the site i was in the club scene and saw my fare share of infadaltye"

Huh?

Get off that soapbox and hush on up civvy street...

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By *r Man. OP   Man
over a year ago

London


"Ok. what's utopia?

where every thing just floats on by, people see but didn't give a shit.

That's antidepressants.

"

Trust you xx lol

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

There are many instances where people share a common interest but not all see eye to eye

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok. what's utopia?

where every thing just floats on by, people see but didn't give a shit.

That's antidepressants.

"

Brilliant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok. what's utopia?

where every thing just floats on by, people see but didn't give a shit.

That's antidepressants.

"

Nothing wrong there...still see bright side, only it's brighter!

Spike Milligan said so.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"There are many instances where people share a common interest but not all see eye to eye "

It's difficult when you're only five feet nothing and the men are over six feet.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts


"There are many instances where people share a common interest but not all see eye to eye

It's difficult when you're only five feet nothing and the men are over six feet."

I'm only 5'7

Although if you are 5' and the guys are 6', me being 5'7 does sort of make sense.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok. what's utopia?

A place made up by a bloke in the 16th century"

*warning, dull bit ahead*

Written by Thomas More, some commentators claim his argument was that the island Utopia was unreachable ie. the perfect place cannot exist... which kind of answers the OP's question.

I'll get my coat.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Swinging reflects an understood need that people have and fulfil. It does not need to equate to people also having complete liberation and living in heaven on earth. We can all be as fucked up as the next, swingers or not. And fab users are just a self selected sub set of swingers, with forum users an even smaller sub set of those. You cant generalise about us, apart from many of us loving somewhat nonconformist sex to mainstream people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's an infadaltye?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What's an infadaltye?"

its a small little known tribe in Utopia that spend their lives happily shagging each others wives with gay abandon.

Utopius Gimp

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I'm me first, swinger second.....if at all. I'm not changing my character or personality just cos I meet people for sex via a website.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"When i fell into the scene i thought, Wow! People enjoying sex with other like minded people how liberating. No back biting. No infidelity, no body been judgmental of others do's and don'ts

How wrong was i. Reading the forums, were no different from the people we hide from on civiy street."

Why would we be? We are the people on the street, not a different species. We represent a cross-section of society because that's what we are.

I'd like to see more acceptance, tolerance and open-mindedness here but people are ultimately still just human, even if they love sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok. what's utopia?

where every thing just floats on by, people see but didn't give a shit."

I live there!

Why be so bothered about other people? Concentrate on the ones you like and don't stress about the rest.

I like all the diversity. If everyone was happy cheery Stepford Wives, it would be boring as fuck.

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By *r Man. OP   Man
over a year ago

London


"When i fell into the scene i thought, Wow! People enjoying sex with other like minded people how liberating. No back biting. No infidelity, no body been judgmental of others do's and don'ts

How wrong was i. Reading the forums, were no different from the people we hide from on civiy street.

Why would we be? We are the people on the street, not a different species. We represent a cross-section of society because that's what we are.

I'd like to see more acceptance, tolerance and open-mindedness here but people are ultimately still just human, even if they love sex."

Thank you for agreeing with me , your second paragraph says it all. Again thanks

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By *r Man. OP   Man
over a year ago

London


"What's an infadaltye?"

infidelity

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What's an infadaltye?

infidelity "

Thats fabs most popular sport too.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"When i fell into the scene i thought, Wow! People enjoying sex with other like minded people how liberating. No back biting. No infidelity, no body been judgmental of others do's and don'ts

How wrong was i. Reading the forums, were no different from the people we hide from on civiy street.

Why would we be? We are the people on the street, not a different species. We represent a cross-section of society because that's what we are.

I'd like to see more acceptance, tolerance and open-mindedness here but people are ultimately still just human, even if they love sex.

Thank you for agreeing with me , your second paragraph says it all. Again thanks"

For what it's worth, I don't think we "hide" from anyone. We're all here, on a free site, for anyone wishing to join us and there are plenty of clubs, open to anyone who can behave appropriately.

We keep to our groups because ramming our sexual preferences down anyone's throat would be wrong. Otherwise we're no more "hidden" than most other groups or clubs. Membership is open to all adults.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What's an infadaltye?

infidelity

Thats fabs most popular sport too. "

No,sucking cock is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What's an infadaltye?

infidelity

Thats fabs most popular sport too.

No,sucking cock is "

Well they are far better than lollypops

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"What's an infadaltye?

infidelity

Thats fabs most popular sport too.

No,sucking cock is

Well they are far better than lollypops "

Fewer calories too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What's an infadaltye?

its a small little known tribe in Utopia that spend their lives happily shagging each others wives with gay abandon.

Utopius Gimp "

You read Thomas More too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok. what's utopia?

A place made up by a bloke in the 16th century

*warning, dull bit ahead*

Written by Thomas More, some commentators claim his argument was that the island Utopia was unreachable ie. the perfect place cannot exist... which kind of answers the OP's question.

I'll get my coat. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are judgemental people in all walks of life, why did you assume the swinging world would be any different?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also there is a subtedly distinct difference between making judgements and having a personal opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All swingers are 'nilla anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are judgemental people in all walks of life, why did you assume the swinging world would be any different? "

To some extent you would think there would be less judgemental people swinging as swingers get a rough deal at times from the press etc so having been picked upon the assumption is we would be more forgiving of others. Sadly that's not true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All swingers are 'nilla anyway"

Nah some of us are Hammers all the way

bursts into song in the style of micheal jackson....OH iiiim forever blowing bubbles

Billy Jean Gimp

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Utopia in swinging exists.....just don't listen to anyone on the forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Utopia in swinging exists.....just don't listen to anyone on the forums "

Its in the chatrooms.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok. what's utopia?

where every thing just floats on by, people see but didn't give a shit.

That's antidepressants.

"

lickety you are amazingly hot wow I'd love to know you xx

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"There are judgemental people in all walks of life, why did you assume the swinging world would be any different?

To some extent you would think there would be less judgemental people swinging as swingers get a rough deal at times from the press etc so having been picked upon the assumption is we would be more forgiving of others. Sadly that's not true. "

I would only expect there to be less people being judgemental about recreational sex - but the forum does seem to attract a noticeable number who enjoy the label more than the activity.

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By *r Man. OP   Man
over a year ago

London


"There are judgemental people in all walks of life, why did you assume the swinging world would be any different?

To some extent you would think there would be less judgemental people swinging as swingers get a rough deal at times from the press etc so having been picked upon the assumption is we would be more forgiving of others. Sadly that's not true.

I would only expect there to be less people being judgemental about recreational sex - but the forum does seem to attract a noticeable number who enjoy the label more than the activity."

THAT'S MY POINT

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not easy being a dolphin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are the people you see on the streets

Swingers aren't segregated from society who only come out after dark

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only swing in the dark, and never on the streets

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"I only swing in the dark, and never on the streets "

I don't think I have swung in the streets but I know it's not always dark.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When i fell into the scene i thought, Wow! People enjoying sex with other like minded people how liberating. No back biting. No infidelity, no body been judgmental of others do's and don'ts

How wrong was i. Reading the forums, were no different from the people we hide from on civiy street."

Why would you expect a random selection of the general public to all have the same opinions and moral standards? Just because we all have one common interest it doesn't mean we're all on the same page with every aspect of our lives, whether that be day to day life or sex life

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"When i fell into the scene i thought, Wow! People enjoying sex with other like minded people how liberating. No back biting. No infidelity, no body been judgmental of others do's and don'ts

How wrong was i. Reading the forums, were no different from the people we hide from on civiy street."

It always amazes me when people are surprised that swingers are the same as non swingers....why would we be any different than the society we live in just because we like to have sex with other people?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What's an infadaltye?

infidelity

Thats fabs most popular sport too.

No,sucking cock is

Well they are far better than lollypops "

I'm more of a savoury than sweet person

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"When i fell into the scene i thought, Wow! People enjoying sex with other like minded people how liberating. No back biting. No infidelity, no body been judgmental of others do's and don'ts

How wrong was i. Reading the forums, were no different from the people we hide from on civiy street.

It always amazes me when people are surprised that swingers are the same as non swingers....why would we be any different than the society we live in just because we like to have sex with other people? "

Because we like to have sex with other people? It's a flawed circular argument.

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