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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm not sure if I'm being over sensitive or not but sometimes it's good to rant and get others opinions but....... A local couple messaged me yesterday looking for fun and chatting was good, then they sent a friend request and asked if I'd like to meet the male alone. The males age was out of my age range and to be honest if he was that age then he'd had a hard life! I politely declined and explained had I known he was older I wouldnt have chatted for so long. They have now blocked me. My first ever block. Was I naive? I know if one half of the couple are in your range then they can message, but surely it's not a good thing if one is seeking fun alone???? Did I deserved to be blocked for being truthful? Xx

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

If you're not going to meet him, why is it a problem they've blocked you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It really doesn't matter

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"If you're not going to meet him, why is it a problem they've blocked you?"

^^^^ this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did it not have his age on the profile?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

True! But just thought that if one is out of your age range then they shouldn't be able to message??? Just my thoughts?? X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not worth losing any sleep as to why he's blocked you. Giving him the benefit of the doubt, by blocking you he has ensured he doesn't waste his time and yours by messaging you again in the future

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"True! But just thought that if one is out of your age range then they shouldn't be able to message??? Just my thoughts?? X"

It works both ways, we get messaged by plenty of people happy to ignore that I (the older and male half) am older than their stated preferences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ages are on profiles, surely when you were mailing the couple you read their profile and saw that one half was outside your age range?

And can't see a problem with them blocking you as you already told them that you didn't want to meet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not worth losing any sleep as to why he's blocked you. Giving him the benefit of the doubt, by blocking you he has ensured he doesn't waste his time and yours by messaging you again in the future"

Totally agree. Don't worry about it. There are plenty of other wonderful people on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It could of been a lot of things going on. The main thing is you stuck to your guns and did what is right for you. That they blocked you is if no significance at all.

He could have got around your age reference blocks by not being upfront with the truth in his profile.

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"True! But just thought that if one is out of your age range then they shouldn't be able to message??? Just my thoughts?? X"

This, yes I would agree with, but tbh your OP seemed more about being blocked than this.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's not worth losing any sleep as to why he's blocked you. Giving him the benefit of the doubt, by blocking you he has ensured he doesn't waste his time and yours by messaging you again in the future

Totally agree. Don't worry about it. There are plenty of other wonderful people on here. "

I know xx

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"True! But just thought that if one is out of your age range then they shouldn't be able to message??? Just my thoughts?? X

It works both ways, we get messaged by plenty of people happy to ignore that I (the older and male half) am older than their stated preferences."

Yes and we get messaged by plenty of people happy to ignore that both of us are older than their preference. We are more than happy with that

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"True! But just thought that if one is out of your age range then they shouldn't be able to message??? Just my thoughts?? X

It works both ways, we get messaged by plenty of people happy to ignore that I (the older and male half) am older than their stated preferences.

Yes and we get messaged by plenty of people happy to ignore that both of us are older than their preference. We are more than happy with that "

It's only because I have the age filter set up on my profile and just thought that it's not right that if one is out if the age range then they can message and then I'm feeling mean because I've been blocked that's all x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"True! But just thought that if one is out of your age range then they shouldn't be able to message??? Just my thoughts?? X

This, yes I would agree with, but tbh your OP seemed more about being blocked than this. "

I was kind of double ranting at the time!! Shouldn't be bothered really but just wanted to know others thoughts xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"True! But just thought that if one is out of your age range then they shouldn't be able to message??? Just my thoughts?? X

It works both ways, we get messaged by plenty of people happy to ignore that I (the older and male half) am older than their stated preferences.

Yes and we get messaged by plenty of people happy to ignore that both of us are older than their preference. We are more than happy with that

It's only because I have the age filter set up on my profile and just thought that it's not right that if one is out if the age range then they can message and then I'm feeling mean because I've been blocked that's all x"

It does sound a little unfair that somebody out of your preference filters can message you

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"True! But just thought that if one is out of your age range then they shouldn't be able to message??? Just my thoughts?? X

It works both ways, we get messaged by plenty of people happy to ignore that I (the older and male half) am older than their stated preferences.

Yes and we get messaged by plenty of people happy to ignore that both of us are older than their preference. We are more than happy with that

It's only because I have the age filter set up on my profile and just thought that it's not right that if one is out if the age range then they can message and then I'm feeling mean because I've been blocked that's all x"

Don't feel mean. We've been blocked a few times when we've turned people down it's usually so they don't contact you again by mistake.

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

Blocking is one of the tools on here. I use it for people who I don't intend to meet - for many reasons... it may be something they have said that I find disagreeable, something on their profile, or to stop them contacting me time and again when its not going anywhere. I also block people who tell me I'm not what they are looking for so they stop coming up in my searches.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He was probably a chancer anyway. These little things all add to your experience and how you define you meeting criteria.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"True! But just thought that if one is out of your age range then they shouldn't be able to message??? Just my thoughts?? X

It works both ways, we get messaged by plenty of people happy to ignore that I (the older and male half) am older than their stated preferences.

Yes and we get messaged by plenty of people happy to ignore that both of us are older than their preference. We are more than happy with that

It's only because I have the age filter set up on my profile and just thought that it's not right that if one is out if the age range then they can message and then I'm feeling mean because I've been blocked that's all x

Don't feel mean. We've been blocked a few times when we've turned people down it's usually so they don't contact you again by mistake. "

That makes sense really. Just thought that after a few chatty messages an understanding reply would have been sent! I must be living in a happy dream world! xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Blocking is one of the tools on here. I use it for people who I don't intend to meet - for many reasons... it may be something they have said that I find disagreeable, something on their profile, or to stop them contacting me time and again when its not going anywhere. I also block people who tell me I'm not what they are looking for so they stop coming up in my searches. "

Thank you x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"He was probably a chancer anyway. These little things all add to your experience and how you define you meeting criteria. "

Thank you x

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

You are being over sensitive....

If they blocked you surely that's a good thing if you had no interest in meeting them.

Lots of people block so they don't forget and try contacting again at a later date.

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By *unPeteMan
over a year ago

Near Bristol

you're being too sensitive!

think of it this way - they saved you the trouble of blocking them! you didn't like him so move on and enjoy!

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