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By *moSexGeeks OP   Couple
over a year ago

Warwick

So, recently we have seen more and more situations where its clearly the females fault, and other females pull "Well if i was the other way around it would be a different story."

The most recent is the chick who sucked 24 lads in Magaluf off for a drink called "Holiday" so she thought we would get a free holiday... turns out it went viral. So it's blasted out on both our Facebooks with topics appearing everywhere and in every single one... someone says "Oh but if it was 24 girls being licked by a guy it would be a different story" or "Why not name the 24 guys, its as much their fault as hers" and while this is true... The fact remains, she did the act knowingly and its no ones fault but her own, she was the catalyst.

The other was a girl that cheated on 2 guys and both the guys found out and talked to each other. They caught her out in the act on camera and she cried. So, what happens... Some women decide the guys are in the wrong and post "What these guys did was disgusting! How would they like it if someone did that to them" I bet if the situation was switched, this same user would say "You go girl!"

Sometimes the sexism card can be used to say "If a revenge porn video was of a guy, then it wouldn't make any news" and i support this, revenge sex video's hit girls a lot harder than guys and is evil to release. But when a girl is consciously making a wrong decision you can't turn around and say it the guys fault or it would be different if it was a guy. Everyone makes mistakes, don't defend them by bringing gender into it.

Rant over. (P.S i am for equal rights, just using it to hate men.)

Thanks for reading

J & S

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Using it to hate men????

The story is all about the woman being singled out!

There were at least 25 people involved, without counting the organisers and encouragers. They're *all* responsible, not just her!

Your argument is rubbish and you've entirely got the wrong idea of what equality, and sexism, is all about.

If the girl wasn't willing it wouldn't have happened. If the men weren't willing it wouldn't have happened.

She is no better or worse than they are yet nobody is discussing them.

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By *moSexGeeks OP   Couple
over a year ago

Warwick

The girl did it knowingly AND willingly, she didn't just accidentally blow 24 guys. The guys did it knowingly and willingly. But which is worse, getting 1 blowjob from a girl on a night out, or blowing 24 guys on a night out. Somehow i don't think its the same thing. She made the horrible decision to do it... The guys made a decision with least consequences, and the result is what you heard and saw. The guys are to blame, but they didn't really go the extreme length did they.

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By *moSexGeeks OP   Couple
over a year ago

Warwick

So to be honest you can't reverse it and say its the guys fault, so why some females try to reverse it is beyond me.

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By *moSexGeeks OP   Couple
over a year ago

Warwick

I believe in equal rights... She had the choice to say No... If a guy lets call him "Jeff", sucked 24 dicks for a drink.... The result would be the same... and I would still single Jeff out and say its his fault. If Jeff licked 24 girls downstairs parts i would still say he is a dirty bastard...

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"So to be honest you can't reverse it and say its the guys fault, so why some females try to reverse it is beyond me."

I'm not saying it's their "fault". I'm saying they are as much responsible as she is. They were all involved in the same act.

Besides, why is there "fault"? This was a consensual sex act between adults. It's not news.

The judgemental attitudes of people on a swinging site, where people meet strangers for casual sex, post graphic photos of themselves and that sex, organise and attend gangbangs, bukkake parties, greedy girls nights and the like never ceases to amaze me.

The real scum here is the person who filmed it and put it on the internet.

Equality = judging everyone involved in the act by the same standards, regardless of gender.

Every single person discussing her or blaming her is bringing gender into the matter, not the people pointing out it takes two to tango.

And I still don't see why this is news. Some women on here have probably fucked 24 guys on a greedy girls night. I don't see any outraged threads about that.

Anyone would think I'd accidentally wandered into a WI forum this morning.

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By *moSexGeeks OP   Couple
over a year ago

Warwick

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By *moSexGeeks OP   Couple
over a year ago

Warwick

I see, well everyone was abit careless on that video, the worst was the camera man. But I was more on about the girls who I've seen try turn the whole situation on the guys saying it was all their fault. Not saying she was wrong or not.

Personally I think it was the reason she did it, not the act.

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By *moSexGeeks OP   Couple
over a year ago

Warwick

That was wrong*

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By *adja_lazloCouple
over a year ago

Solihull


"So, recently we have seen more and more situations where its clearly the females fault, and other females pull "Well if i was the other way around it would be a different story."

The most recent is the chick who sucked 24 lads in Magaluf off for a drink called "Holiday" so she thought we would get a free holiday... turns out it went viral. So it's blasted out on both our Facebooks with topics appearing everywhere and in every single one... someone says "Oh but if it was 24 girls being licked by a guy it would be a different story" or "Why not name the 24 guys, its as much their fault as hers" and while this is true... The fact remains, she did the act knowingly and its no ones fault but her own, she was the catalyst.

The other was a girl that cheated on 2 guys and both the guys found out and talked to each other. They caught her out in the act on camera and she cried. So, what happens... Some women decide the guys are in the wrong and post "What these guys did was disgusting! How would they like it if someone did that to them" I bet if the situation was switched, this same user would say "You go girl!"

Sometimes the sexism card can be used to say "If a revenge porn video was of a guy, then it wouldn't make any news" and i support this, revenge sex video's hit girls a lot harder than guys and is evil to release. But when a girl is consciously making a wrong decision you can't turn around and say it the guys fault or it would be different if it was a guy. Everyone makes mistakes, don't defend them by bringing gender into it.

Rant over. (P.S i am for equal rights, just using it to hate men.)

Thanks for reading

J & S"

we think the issue is more the fact that she didnt look like she was fully aware, her eyes where, well looked drugged to me, maybe she was excited and she had dilated pupils, or it may have been drugs/beer. Either way consenting adults and all that, we guess this kind of thing happens week in week out at swingers clubs/parties, BUT, swingers dont 'out' the behavior, disgusting that we live in an age where we all carry 'cctv' cameras and use them in this manor, sad times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So to be honest you can't reverse it and say its the guys fault, so why some females try to reverse it is beyond me."

I think that post, and particularly the words 'sone females' speaks volumes

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By *riskynriskyCouple
over a year ago

Essex.

I don't think the girl or guys are to blame as such. I think she was foolish to get that d*unk and niev to think she was going to win a real holiday.

The camera person was totally out of line, as are the people who get d*unk people to participate in this type of activity...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Let's blame people who like seeing this kind of "entertainment". Anything to do with sex is lapped up by the public and spread to friends

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"The girl did it knowingly AND willingly, she didn't just accidentally blow 24 guys. The guys did it knowingly and willingly. But which is worse, getting 1 blowjob from a girl on a night out, or blowing 24 guys on a night out. Somehow i don't think its the same thing. She made the horrible decision to do it... The guys made a decision with least consequences, and the result is what you heard and saw. The guys are to blame, but they didn't really go the extreme length did they."

Setting this in terms of an equation of who is worse is where the sexism comes in for this story. Twenty plus men sat around with their dicks hanging out but because the got a two second suck they didn't go to "the extreme length did they". They were all equally culpable.

The issue here is that the alcohol and drugs on holiday culture is extreme. The issue is that people have no qualms about filming and posting this stuff out to the world.

If I choose to touch twenty cocks in a club I assume by your logic that I am worse than the men presenting their cocks to me. Of course in that club situation I find that twenty men clamour and push their cocks towards me for touching just one so my experience tells me these men in the video were probably well up for it. Gang culture is easy to adopt in certain situations.

Have a look at Everyday Sexism and you might get some insight why sexism isn't as straightforward as you are presenting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i like the way some people go on about the girl as if she is some poor innocent victim, women who do that sort of thing will always be labelled as slags whatever same as they are on here by quite a few. And i agree with what you have said.

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By *edonistic needsWoman
over a year ago

sexton

Why blame anyone

People are far too judgemental those who cast the first stone and all that, we as a population are often judged on our liberal sexual acts so why are we judging any of the 25 participants in the vanilla scene??

As long as it was consensual and above legal age why is there an issue it's just the media yet again hyping up a scenario for money

We live in a sexist society a man sleeps with 3 girls on a night he's a gigalo a great lad .... A woman sleeps with 3 guys she's a slut

I don't enter into any labelling we all do what we do to enjoy life I don't give a monkeys what others think I'm a consenting adult as is the girl and guys in the story so get over it !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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We live in a sexist society a man sleeps with 3 girls on a night he's a gigalo a great lad .... A woman sleeps with 3 guys she's a slut

"

Not always true. Last summer I had 2 women from the site in my flat...the morning after a good night. I got a text from a "friend" (an ex site member) saying she was decorating in her bikini bottoms and could do with a hand. What's a guy to do? I left the ladies behind and went and did a couple of hours "work".

When I came back they called me a slut. I said a guy can't be a slut....so they now call me a "slush".... Not sure why lol!

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

I think this is just an excuse for another 'Shagaluf Video' thread.

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I thought it was the fact that she was duped into thinking she was wining a holiday rather than a cocktail called a "holiday" that was the scandal I am sure this sort of thing goes on all the time out there to teenagers who have barely had more than a bottle of lager in their lives, it's just that no one videos it all

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

people who cry sexism, racism and homophobia when it isn't, do a huge injustice to real sufferers.

also bullying and stalking, these words are cried out too easily.

people's lives are blighted by cases of the above.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"people who cry sexism, racism and homophobia when it isn't, do a huge injustice to real sufferers.

also bullying and stalking, these words are cried out too easily.

people's lives are blighted by cases of the above.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like everyone here, don't have the full facts.

I've seen the word "consensual" used a few times in the thread and whilst that's a very important aspect to this subject, there are other things to take into account.

Some people have a moral responsibility to take into account how they treat potentially vulnerable and impressionable people. Alcohol and atmosphere's play a part in all of this along with youthful behaviour but would this girl have participated when sober? Like I say I don't have all the facts but it speaks volumes about the people who filmed it then shared it around like some trophy.

Not sure if it's sexism, but certainly evidence of lack of moral fibre in my book.

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By *edonistic needsWoman
over a year ago

sexton


"

We live in a sexist society a man sleeps with 3 girls on a night he's a gigalo a great lad .... A woman sleeps with 3 guys she's a slut

Not always true. Last summer I had 2 women from the site in my flat...the morning after a good night. I got a text from a "friend" (an ex site member) saying she was decorating in her bikini bottoms and could do with a hand. What's a guy to do? I left the ladies behind and went and did a couple of hours "work".

When I came back they called me a slut. I said a guy can't be a slut....so they now call me a "slush".... Not sure why lol!"

hehehe lol sounds like you had a great time u slush

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

I agree, View! I also think that this girl has brought this notoriety on herself by greed! No one made her do it and she obviously knew what she was doing. It was a "fun" night out and I would think it happens quite a lot.

Not news, not unusual and certainly not British!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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We live in a sexist society a man sleeps with 3 girls on a night he's a gigalo a great lad .... A woman sleeps with 3 guys she's a slut

Not always true. Last summer I had 2 women from the site in my flat...the morning after a good night. I got a text from a "friend" (an ex site member) saying she was decorating in her bikini bottoms and could do with a hand. What's a guy to do? I left the ladies behind and went and did a couple of hours "work".

When I came back they called me a slut. I said a guy can't be a slut....so they now call me a "slush".... Not sure why lol!

hehehe lol sounds like you had a great time u slush "

Indeed I did......does that make me a bad man? (I still know and see all 3 ..... And they know each other to some extent)

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