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It's not easy this parenting lark.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

My eldest split with her boyfriend of six years last night. They're both 22.

I found myself crying in the shower this morning. I wish I could still just make everything right like I did when they were all little people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Give her a hug. She'll be ok. x

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Not easy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aww , That's a shame . I once made my son watch Bridget Jones and eat chocolate cake to try and cheer him up from a broken heart. Not sure if he enjoyed it or was just trying to make me feel better because I felt useless .

Loads of hugs and finding something else for them to think about is all you can do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No it's not easy, in the space of two weeks both my son and my daughter have lost close friends through tragic circumstances, it's not so easy to kiss and hug them better when they are in their early 20s

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I too have been there for my daughter since she and her partner split, only this week I had her sobbing on the phone to me over his most recent hurt to her and I cried for her pain too.

All I can say is they are adults now, you have to stand by their decisions and pick them up when they fall, just like when toddlers, the difference being you stand on the outside looking in and try to help them in the way you would a non-family member.

Emotional detachment is difficult but lets you view things more in perspective rather than let your protective role as a mother dive in and start lambasting her ex. and his parents for spawning him. Plus the fact they may get back together again, you're the one who ends up on the naughty step.

Good luck to you and your daughter. I'm sure every parent here feels your pain. xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Awe all you can do is be there for her, give her plenty of hugs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

* I meant role as a parent, not specifically a mother. That's just me. xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"* I meant role as a parent, not specifically a mother. That's just me. xx"

Tbh I think I do a pretty ok job as a dad but I've been mum too since she was 16mnths old so the mother bit fits too.

Thanks everyone. I gave her a huge daddy hug before she went out of the door to work.

She'll call if she gets upset but I'm leaving her alone so I don't set her off.

It's my youngest daughter's 19th today so we have a party in the garden to throw ourselves into tonight.

It's horrible though, as many of you know; your baby 's hurting and you hurt too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Oh, as for her ex; he's a lovely guy. Part of our family. I suspect they've just grown apart.

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By *aceytopWoman
over a year ago

from a town near you

it is awful,but Laine was right don't slag the ex off, they may just get back together.just be there to listen and be shoulder to cry on,been there got the t shirt its so hard xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Like I said ; he's really nice. I feel almost as sad for him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My children are still at the age where any hurt can be soothed by a kinder egg sand a disney film, but with 4 girls, I'm dreading them having broken hearts.

You sound like such a lovely supportive parent. Just knowing you are at the other end of the phone, or waiting with a hug is sometimes all they need. My dad got me through heartbreak, often without any words and simply with his presence.

I hope she doesn't hurt for long xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hopefully they remain friends, sometimes it doesn't pay to be tied down too young, as harsh as that may sound, no intention meant.

Her

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Oooo. Kinder! I'll buy her some chocolate. Perhaps even a kinder egg!

I hope they do find a way to be friends still. They've been through a lot together. They shared a house as a group of ten through university. They are all such a lovely group of people.

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