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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Reply to a message, do you think its poor manners and would you accept it in normal society.

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

What was the message that was sent, do you know?

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

No an yes. I have more important thing to worry about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ignore

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

I work on the policy that if it is a comment I would reply to in a bar with civility then I reply on here politely even if it's a no.

If however I would reply by throwing a drink/slapping a face/using my most colourful vocabulary then I feel free to unleash my inner bitch on the numpty message sender!

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Nope

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Yes

I really don't understand the big drama with not getting a reply.

It happens to everyone... on here and off of here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OMFG!!!

Not another thread about messages being deleted\not replied to "pullinghairout" smiley needed

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By *dventuroususCouple
over a year ago

sunderland

No it isnt rude or bad manners not to reply to a message, no one is owed a reply.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I reply to most things, but sometimes end up regretting it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I reply to most things, but sometimes end up regretting it.

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you mean me don't you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone kicks up a fuss about me not replying then they've just proven their not for me even more!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No not rude at all, and you do it as much as anyone else in normal society.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Reply to a message, do you think its poor manners and would you accept it in normal society.

Normal society?

Eh?

What's that?!

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics

I almost always reply... Get very tired after the third question that I took the time to answer in my profile and the 2 former messages have gently directed them to my profile... If they can't read that then they are unlikely to put in half the effort I put into a meet.

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By *hortieWoman
over a year ago

Northampton

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By *nnejohnCouple
over a year ago

warrington

"Reply to a message, do you think its poor manners and would you accept it in normal society.

do you reply to every piece of mail that comes through your letterbox then?insulation firms will love you lol

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Reply to a message, do you think its poor manners and would you accept it in normal society.

No I don't think it's rude to not reply to a message which is graphic in sexual content when its from a stranger either here or in whtever passes for normal society.

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

I expect nothing that way I m never disappointed,

I fail to grasp what an inbox full of no thanks messages achieves ,,,

console yourself with the thoughtl you were out of their league,

Works for me

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

we quite often have messages ignored, they are usually th eones that say after a bit of a chat "would you like to meet for a drink?"

. We always assume that silence means no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We try to reply just saying thanks sometimes. But lots of guy's take that as the green light to pester the Crap out of us.

As was case only today, ended up blocking a chap coz he just came on way to strong and pushy.

We don't want to seem rude by not replying but mostly that's all it is just manners.

It's not an invitation.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I expect nothing that way I m never disappointed,

I fail to grasp what an inbox full of no thanks messages achieves ,,,

console yourself with the thoughtl you were out of their league,

Works for me

everybody is out of my league

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"I work on the policy that if it is a comment I would reply to in a bar with civility then I reply on here politely even if it's a no.

If however I would reply by throwing a drink/slapping a face/using my most colourful vocabulary then I feel free to unleash my inner bitch on the numpty message sender!

this..

the problem with the 'its bad manners/rude not to reply' point of _iew is that it assumes that all communication is civil, appropriate or relevant as per the recipients profile etc..

and that's not putting all in the same box as the muppets that frequent the site and send the 'want a fuck' to all and sundry..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Reply to a message, do you think its poor manners and would you accept it in normal society.

No I don't think it's rude to not reply to a message which is graphic in sexual content when its from a stranger either here or in whtever passes for normal society. "

Messages of a graphic nature from.a total stranger deserve to be ignored however if you are responding to an initial message or wink i do think a response would ne nice however i also fear i am asking for to much as i get older

it seems manners have declined as the popularity of swinging increases.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I do think it rude but then again if us males had as many messages as couples and females we would probably only choose to reply to the ones we wanted and unfortunately the others will be ignored. Ce LA Vie

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I work on the policy that if it is a comment I would reply to in a bar with civility then I reply on here politely even if it's a no.

If however I would reply by throwing a drink/slapping a face/using my most colourful vocabulary then I feel free to unleash my inner bitch on the numpty message sender!

this..

the problem with the 'its bad manners/rude not to reply' point of _iew is that it assumes that all communication is civil, appropriate or relevant as per the recipients profile etc..

and that's not putting all in the same box as the muppets that frequent the site and send the 'want a fuck' to all and sundry.."

good points

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Anyone fancy a fuck please mail me back.....right that save me mailing today

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Reply to a message, do you think its poor manners and would you accept it in normal society.

No I don't think it's rude to not reply to a message which is graphic in sexual content when its from a stranger either here or in whtever passes for normal society.

it seems manners have declined as the popularity of swinging increases.

Do you really think a wink warrants a response ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on message. I've had weird ones saying "spunking now?" they get deleted.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

anyone fancy making me a coffee..?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We try to reply just saying thanks sometimes. But lots of guy's take that as the green light to pester the Crap out of us.

As was case only today, ended up blocking a chap coz he just came on way to strong and pushy.

We don't want to seem rude by not replying but mostly that's all it is just manners.

It's not an invitation. "

You shouldnt have to block someone, once you have sent an thanks but no thanks reply then apart from a wishing you all the best in the future reply there should be no other contact.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Reply to a message, do you think its poor manners and would you accept it in normal society.

No I don't think it's rude to not reply to a message which is graphic in sexual content when its from a stranger either here or in whtever passes for normal society.

it seems manners have declined as the popularity of swinging increases.

Do you really think a wink warrants a response ?"

i will either return the wink or message to show i am interested

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"anyone fancy making me a coffee..?

im having earl grey what can i get you

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Reply to a message, do you think its poor manners and would you accept it in normal society.

No I don't think it's rude to not reply to a message which is graphic in sexual content when its from a stranger either here or in whtever passes for normal society.

it seems manners have declined as the popularity of swinging increases.

I wouldn't respond to a wink unless I was interested in the winker

. I think the whole question of whether to respond to messages or not is a difficult one. Many, many men and couples will respond to a polite refusal with good humour and grace but there are a quite significant minority who will argue, pester or become quite rude. Then you have the people who ask "Hi, how are you?", you reply despite knowing that you are not interested in them and they take it as a sign of interest, unless you respond saying "I'm fine thank you but I have no interest in meeting you" to which they respond"I was only asking how you are, arrogant swines"

. And again we have the famous block and delete option which spwans numerous threads on "why do people block it's sooooo rude".

So, whatever one chooses to do will be wrong in someones eyes. This is why we choose to do exactly as we please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Reply to a message, do you think its poor manners and would you accept it in normal society.

No I don't think it's rude to not reply to a message which is graphic in sexual content when its from a stranger either here or in whtever passes for normal society.

it seems manners have declined as the popularity of swinging increases.

Do you really think a wink warrants a response ?

i will either return the wink or message to show i am interested

What if you're not interested ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Reply to a message, do you think its poor manners and would you accept it in normal society.

I don't think it's rude, I take a no reply as I'm not for that person, or perhaps they're actually busy or snowed under.

Who replies to every email and piece of junk mail they receive in that nasty real world out there, I know I don't.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Anyone fancy a fuck please mail me back.....right that save me mailing today

thats being lazy lol.

Serious question do some single males actually send those type of messages out to couples and single women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do we have to have this question repeated every few jours on fab ?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Reply to a message, do you think its poor manners and would you accept it in normal society.

The site FAQ state it's not rude not to reply. Why not concentrate your energy on those who do answer?

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"anyone fancy making me a coffee..?

im having earl grey what can i get you

not keen on Earl Grey, bit too much like cats pee for my northern palate..

a mug of Taylors would be cushty ty..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Reply to a message, do you think its poor manners and would you accept it in normal society.

No I don't think it's rude to not reply to a message which is graphic in sexual content when its from a stranger either here or in whtever passes for normal society.

it seems manners have declined as the popularity of swinging increases.

Do you really think a wink warrants a response ?

i will either return the wink or message to show i am interested

What if you're not interested ?"

If its someone who is seeking different things to me then i send a thanks but no thanks message.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Do we have to have this question repeated every few jours on fab ?

sorry i didnt realise the question had been posted on the forums so recently.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Anyone fancy a fuck please mail me back.....right that save me mailing today

thats being lazy lol.

Serious question do some single males actually send those type of messages out to couples and single women

serious answer ...yes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"anyone fancy making me a coffee..?

im having earl grey what can i get you

not keen on Earl Grey, bit too much like cats pee for my northern palate..

a mug of Taylors would be cushty ty.."

deal do you want a few hob knobs as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Reply to a message, do you think its poor manners and would you accept it in normal society.

No I don't think it's rude to not reply to a message which is graphic in sexual content when its from a stranger either here or in whtever passes for normal society.

it seems manners have declined as the popularity of swinging increases.

Do you really think a wink warrants a response ?

i will either return the wink or message to show i am interested

What if you're not interested ?

If its someone who is seeking different things to me then i send a thanks but no thanks message."

To every wink ?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"anyone fancy making me a coffee..?

im having earl grey what can i get you

not keen on Earl Grey, bit too much like cats pee for my northern palate..

a mug of Taylors would be cushty ty.."

I've just ground some Yirgacheffe beans and made a pot full, nip on over I'll get me Dalton out

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"Anyone fancy a fuck please mail me back.....right that save me mailing today

thats being lazy lol.

Serious question do some single males actually send those type of messages out to couples and single women

see, whilst its not for us can see that for some that the 'fancy a...' message would appeal..

a one liner is never necessarily a bad thing if its witty etc..

tis a broad spectrum this malarkey..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Reply to a message, do you think its poor manners and would you accept it in normal society.

The site FAQ state it's not rude not to reply. Why not concentrate your energy on those who do answer? "

i dont it was a question to gauge other peoples thoughts however i didnt realise it was such a popular subject

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Reply to a message, do you think its poor manners and would you accept it in normal society.

Yes, does not take 1 minute to be polite and reply to a message, but if they continue to message I reply again and then block

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Reply to a message, do you think its poor manners and would you accept it in normal society.

No I don't think it's rude to not reply to a message which is graphic in sexual content when its from a stranger either here or in whtever passes for normal society.

it seems manners have declined as the popularity of swinging increases.

Do you really think a wink warrants a response ?

i will either return the wink or message to show i am interested

What if you're not interested ?

If its someone who is seeking different things to me then i send a thanks but no thanks message.

To every wink ?"

yes as i.only get one every blue moon and i appreicate i would get a lot less winks than couples and single women

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"anyone fancy making me a coffee..?

im having earl grey what can i get you

not keen on Earl Grey, bit too much like cats pee for my northern palate..

a mug of Taylors would be cushty ty..

I've just ground some Yirgacheffe beans and made a pot full, nip on over I'll get me Dalton out

That's most kind, shall I bring some biccies..?

btw where are Yirgacheffe beans from..?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Anyone fancy a fuck please mail me back.....right that save me mailing today

thats being lazy lol.

Serious question do some single males actually send those type of messages out to couples and single women

serious answer ...yes."

thats just silly daft

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"anyone fancy making me a coffee..?

im having earl grey what can i get you

not keen on Earl Grey, bit too much like cats pee for my northern palate..

a mug of Taylors would be cushty ty..

deal do you want a few hob knobs as well

hob nobs is showing off lol.

plain old digestives will suffice..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Reply to a message, do you think its poor manners and would you accept it in normal society.

Would you go and poke a total stranger in a pub? Ask yourself that first! I "normal society" and went through a room of strangers saying "Hi" to a load of strangers you would get less than half responding so what are you talking about in the first place.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"anyone fancy making me a coffee..?

im having earl grey what can i get you

not keen on Earl Grey, bit too much like cats pee for my northern palate..

a mug of Taylors would be cushty ty..

I've just ground some Yirgacheffe beans and made a pot full, nip on over I'll get me Dalton out

That's most kind, shall I bring some biccies..?

btw where are Yirgacheffe beans from..? "

yes please I am partial to shortbread or anything containing chocolate.

Ethiopia, I get mine on the net, can pm you the site if you like?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Anyone fancy a fuck please mail me back.....right that save me mailing today

thats being lazy lol.

Serious question do some single males actually send those type of messages out to couples and single women

serious answer ...yes.

thats just silly daft

as is life I find

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"anyone fancy making me a coffee..?

im having earl grey what can i get you

not keen on Earl Grey, bit too much like cats pee for my northern palate..

a mug of Taylors would be cushty ty..

I've just ground some Yirgacheffe beans and made a pot full, nip on over I'll get me Dalton out

That's most kind, shall I bring some biccies..?

btw where are Yirgacheffe beans from..?

yes please I am partial to shortbread or anything containing chocolate.

Ethiopia, I get mine on the net, can pm you the site if you like? "

A good idea, chuck the biscuits and stick to chocolate..

yes please..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I reply to most things, but sometimes end up regretting it.

Hahaha this is me.......I get myself in all manner of trouble

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

Sometimes I send a message about something not to do with attraction or meets etc. Sometimes I wink. Sometimes I tell someone they are gorgeous.

I am polite and get pleasant replies and 'no thanks' either explicitly or by tone. As these have elicited responses I dont push things and no reply means.......well it doesnt matter really does it ?

If I need to chat then I have you lot on the forums or real people nearby

Just cool your pigeons...nothing is that important. Us guys have all the time in the world.....ladies don't. Sometimes when I reach out and my message is mass deleted I am a little disappointed. But its understandable.

The one time I didnt reply to a lady's mail, I felt wierd and ungentlemanly......but it faded after a few weeks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it depends on the message.

I've had a first message of " fancy a clit massage."That doesn't get a reply. Or "I'm driving near you now, want to come meet me in my van." No reply either.

If it shows some thought - I'll reply, even to say -no thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are they the beans that have been digested........and are really expensive?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Are they the beans that have been digested........and are really expensive?"

Yirgacheffe? No, they are slightly more expensive than some but not excessively. I just like the taste

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By *dventuroususCouple
over a year ago

sunderland

"We try to reply just saying thanks sometimes. But lots of guy's take that as the green light to pester the Crap out of us.

As was case only today, ended up blocking a chap coz he just came on way to strong and pushy.

We don't want to seem rude by not replying but mostly that's all it is just manners.

It's not an invitation.

You shouldnt have to block someone, once you have sent an thanks but no thanks reply then apart from a wishing you all the best in the future reply there should be no other contact."

its not about "having" to block someone, its about cutting down on those you have no interest in meeting, so once you have decided they are not for you the block tool ensures they wont come up in searches and your paths wont cross at a later date, saving all concerneds time, the block button is a tool not a weapon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are they the beans that have been digested........and are really expensive?"

That's Kopi Luwak. Civet coffee.

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"Anyone fancy a fuck please mail me back.....right that save me mailing today

thats being lazy lol.

Serious question do some single males actually send those type of messages out to couples and single women

serious answer yes so im told an a lot worse an 1 fruend has even shown me some. My mails bad engh

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"Are they the beans that have been digested........and are really expensive?

That's Kopi Luwak. Civet coffee.

saw a film about the locals force feeding the civets who are kept caged, wont be touching that brand..

sad

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"I think it depends on the message.

I've had a first message of " fancy a clit massage."That doesn't get a reply. Or "I'm driving near you now, want to come meet me in my van." No reply either.

If it shows some thought - I'll reply, even to say -no thanks.

You said yes to my van ya fibber

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"Anyone fancy a fuck please mail me back.....right that save me mailing today

thats being lazy lol.

Serious question do some single males actually send those type of messages out to couples and single women

see, whilst its not for us can see that for some that the 'fancy a...' message would appeal..

a one liner is never necessarily a bad thing if its witty etc..

tis a broad spectrum this malarkey.."

Fuckinel have I pulled lmao

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always reply once.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Reply to a message, do you think its poor manners and would you accept it in normal society.

No I don't think it's rude to not reply to a message which is graphic in sexual content when its from a stranger either here or in whtever passes for normal society.

it seems manners have declined as the popularity of swinging increases.

Yeh like you wink at another guys wife in public and he is polite to you! What planet are you on?

Or are you currently in a wheel chair?

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lol depends but if the ladies are to far I might reply or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not rude and this is not real life

If someone doesn't reply to a message ive sent then thats fine with me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Reply to a message, do you think its poor manners and would you accept it in normal society.

No I don't think it's rude to not reply to a message which is graphic in sexual content when its from a stranger either here or in whtever passes for normal society.

it seems manners have declined as the popularity of swinging increases.

Yeh like you wink at another guys wife in public and he is polite to you! What planet are you on?

Or are you currently in a wheel chair? "

who mentioned winking at another guys wife in a pub its about manners if you spoke to someone man or woman in the flesh they and ignored you howwould feel and what would think of them ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Anyone fancy a fuck please mail me back.....right that save me mailing today

thats being lazy lol.

Serious question do some single males actually send those type of messages out to couples and single women

serious answer ...yes.

thats just silly daft

as is life I find

very true xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"anyone fancy making me a coffee..?

im having earl grey what can i get you

not keen on Earl Grey, bit too much like cats pee for my northern palate..

a mug of Taylors would be cushty ty..

deal do you want a few hob knobs as well

hob nobs is showing off lol.

plain old digestives will suffice.."

sorry i will bring the rich tea

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are they the beans that have been digested........and are really expensive?

That's Kopi Luwak. Civet coffee.

thank you x im a tea person n an ocassional coffee drinker x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Are they the beans that have been digested........and are really expensive?

That's Kopi Luwak. Civet coffee.

thank you x im a tea person n an ocassional coffee drinker x "

whats your tea and how you like it the kettle is on

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By *dventuroususCouple
over a year ago

sunderland

"Reply to a message, do you think its poor manners and would you accept it in normal society.

No I don't think it's rude to not reply to a message which is graphic in sexual content when its from a stranger either here or in whtever passes for normal society.

it seems manners have declined as the popularity of swinging increases.

Yeh like you wink at another guys wife in public and he is polite to you! What planet are you on?

Or are you currently in a wheel chair?

who mentioned winking at another guys wife in a pub its about manners if you spoke to someone man or woman in the flesh they and ignored you howwould feel and what would think of them ?"

But its not about speaking to someone face to face, its about a message/email/letter, do you reply to every single piece of mail that comes through your door, do you reply to every email you get, or in fact do you hand pick the ones that are of interest to you and reply to them, ignoring/binning/deleting the ones that are of no interest to you.

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over a year ago

We got some nasty messages last week because we didn't reply frankly we only have limited time. That time we have will be spent on those that float out boat... We could send reply saying we wouldn't touch you with a barge pole but feel it's more polite to just ignore you. Same goes in a pub when men leering at shel, she ignores them till they go away if she acknowledges them they will continue to leer

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Reply to a message, do you think its poor manners and would you accept it in normal society.

No I don't think it's rude to not reply to a message which is graphic in sexual content when its from a stranger either here or in whtever passes for normal society.

it seems manners have declined as the popularity of swinging increases.

Yeh like you wink at another guys wife in public and he is polite to you! What planet are you on?

Or are you currently in a wheel chair?

who mentioned winking at another guys wife in a pub its about manners if you spoke to someone man or woman in the flesh they and ignored you howwould feel and what would think of them ?

in relation to mail coming through door i always open them as i threw one away once and it had a cheque in worth a few bob

in relation to on here and other sites then yes i do reply to everyone as i feel its the correct thing to do however like i said earlier couples and females would get a lot more messages than i would

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By *dventuroususCouple
over a year ago

sunderland

"Reply to a message, do you think its poor manners and would you accept it in normal society.

No I don't think it's rude to not reply to a message which is graphic in sexual content when its from a stranger either here or in whtever passes for normal society.

it seems manners have declined as the popularity of swinging increases.

Yeh like you wink at another guys wife in public and he is polite to you! What planet are you on?

Or are you currently in a wheel chair?

who mentioned winking at another guys wife in a pub its about manners if you spoke to someone man or woman in the flesh they and ignored you howwould feel and what would think of them ?

in relation to mail coming through door i always open them as i threw one away once and it had a cheque in worth a few bob

in relation to on here and other sites then yes i do reply to everyone as i feel its the correct thing to do however like i said earlier couples and females would get a lot more messages than i would "

Nicely avoided, I didnt ask that

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

I will reply nicely to people that match what I'm looking for when I'm looking.

As my profile says at the moment that I only meet at clubs at prearranged social events and that I'm only using my profile in between for the forums etc then I don't see why I should reply to the people that have chosen to ignore that x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We got some nasty messages last week because we didn't reply frankly we only have limited time. That time we have will be spent on those that float out boat... We could send reply saying we wouldn't touch you with a barge pole but feel it's more polite to just ignore you. Same goes in a pub when men leering at shel, she ignores them till they go away if she acknowledges them they will continue to leer"

i think people sending abusive messages because you didnt say yes is totally wrong and as for leering in a pub is again wrong

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over a year ago

"Reply to a message, do you think its poor manners and would you accept it in normal society.

Yes, does not take 1 minute to be polite and reply to a message, but if they continue to message I reply again and then block

Why would I spend one minute of my time on someone who obviously hasn't read my profile? Then theres the 'why not me' messages to contend with. Adds up to an awful lot of one minutes.

No it's not rude to not reply. It's ruder to not read profiles and if that bothers people they really need to get a thicker skin.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Reply to a message, do you think its poor manners and would you accept it in normal society.

No I don't think it's rude to not reply to a message which is graphic in sexual content when its from a stranger either here or in whtever passes for normal society.

it seems manners have declined as the popularity of swinging increases.

Yeh like you wink at another guys wife in public and he is polite to you! What planet are you on?

Or are you currently in a wheel chair?

who mentioned winking at another guys wife in a pub its about manners if you spoke to someone man or woman in the flesh they and ignored you howwould feel and what would think of them ?

in relation to mail coming through door i always open them as i threw one away once and it had a cheque in worth a few bob

in relation to on here and other sites then yes i do reply to everyone as i feel its the correct thing to do however like i said earlier couples and females would get a lot more messages than i would

Nicely avoided, I didnt ask that

avoidance wasnt meant however to answer your final and obviously the most important part of your response then i would never ignore, bin or delete someone just because they are not what i seek, such as if a bisexual or gay man emailed me asking if i am interested in meeting up and the reply is always the same and its as follows:

im flattered by your approach however you are not what i seek, i wish you all the best in the future have fun and happy swinging.

Like i said earlier the number of messages and winks i receive are dramatically less than a single female or a couple so i can never say that their approach is correct or not, however me

personally i respond to all.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Like i said earlier i think.its wrong if anyone gets abuse from anyone if they have received a reply and it was a thanks but no thanks its wrong whatever way you look at it and the same goes for blokes leering at another mans wife, girlfriend etc in front of the husband is just wrong although i have done and still.do look at and admire beautiful.women but do not leer

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By *dventuroususCouple
over a year ago

sunderland

"Reply to a message, do you think its poor manners and would you accept it in normal society.

No I don't think it's rude to not reply to a message which is graphic in sexual content when its from a stranger either here or in whtever passes for normal society.

it seems manners have declined as the popularity of swinging increases.

Yeh like you wink at another guys wife in public and he is polite to you! What planet are you on?

Or are you currently in a wheel chair?

who mentioned winking at another guys wife in a pub its about manners if you spoke to someone man or woman in the flesh they and ignored you howwould feel and what would think of them ?

in relation to mail coming through door i always open them as i threw one away once and it had a cheque in worth a few bob

in relation to on here and other sites then yes i do reply to everyone as i feel its the correct thing to do however like i said earlier couples and females would get a lot more messages than i would

Nicely avoided, I didnt ask that

im flattered by your approach however you are not what i seek, i wish you all the best in the future have fun and happy swinging.

Like i said earlier the number of messages and winks i receive are dramatically less than a single female or a couple so i can never say that their approach is correct or not, however me

personally i respond to all.

still isnt what I asked lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When the majority of our un-filtered messages come from straight guys who don't want to meet smokers, no, I don't think it is rude.

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By *adgodCouple
over a year ago

Greensburg

It has absolutely nothing to do with manners. When guys learn to take no for an answer, we will start sending a polite reply to every message we receive. You may be able to, but you would be amazed at the percentage of men who cannot and do not. It is they who ruin it for everyone else, not the people who have learned it is often easier to ignore than to let down, no matter how gently. The problem is some of the people sending the messages, not those that ignore or delete them.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OK jigsawman, pin down time... you receive an invitation to apply for a new credit card through your letter box, you are not interested in a new credit card, but you have been pre-selected and sent an invite...

DO YOU REPLY?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"OK jigsawman, pin down time... you receive an invitation to apply for a new credit card through your letter box, you are not interested in a new credit card, but you have been pre-selected and sent an invite...

DO YOU REPLY?"

Oh i see what your driving at by comparing unwanted emails on a swinging site with unsolicted mail i receive through my letterbox, so by choosing not to.respond to the credit card inviation however by responding to emails on here am.i showing double standards i dont think so because i dont think they are comparable because letters or emails regarding credit cards or other monetary matters are potentially increasing chances of someone commiting a fraud against me yet emailing someone a thanks but no thanks message because they are not what i seek does not leave me open to the same potential threat so therefore i fail to see the connection

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By *otTheReal01Man
over a year ago

London

There's one big plus about not getting a reply and that's if, months later, you send the person another message you get "you sent a message and they didn't reply" warning which tells you they're likely not interested.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"There's one big plus about not getting a reply and that's if, months later, you send the person another message you get "you sent a message and they didn't reply" warning which tells you they're likely not interested."

it everybodies individual right to.choose whether they respond to messages, i personally respond to all i receive however the messages i receive are far less than couples and single females

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By *dventuroususCouple
over a year ago

sunderland

DO YOU REPLY?

however it is the same, by just because your details are availible and someone chooses to send you a letter/email/message doesnt mean you have to reply, so back to the original question, is it rude or bad manners not to reply, the answer is no it isnt.

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over a year ago

DO YOU REPLY?

i think you have grasped the wrong end of the nettle

however we can agree to disagree

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By *dventuroususCouple
over a year ago

sunderland

DO YOU REPLY?

i think you have grasped the wrong end of the nettle

however we can agree to disagree

If by answering the op and your subsequent posts is grasping the wrong end of the nettle then im at a total loss as to what the whole thread was about lol.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

Rule of thumb: if someone ignores your message don't meet them. They're rude.

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over a year ago

DO YOU REPLY?

i think you have grasped the wrong end of the nettle

however we can agree to disagree

If by answering the op and your subsequent posts is grasping the wrong end of the nettle then im at a total loss as to what the whole thread was about lol."

it was a question whether people who thinks its acceptable to.ignore messages online, yet if that same person was ignored in a face to face situation

when does it become acceptable in one part of our society to ignore another person yet if someone clearly ignores someone in a face to face situation it then becomes unacceptable.

there are studies that show that good manners in general have declined since the invention of the internet its just an _iew because we are now in a world were people are spending more time online in a faceless society that could mean that good manners are being slowly eroded.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

if it is a well crafted message that speaks to all aspects of the other person's profile and there is strong possibility of a match.

and the other person has chosen to not hide their profile or apply filters to signify they aren't looking for new contacts....

then, yes I think it is.

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By *dventuroususCouple
over a year ago

sunderland

DO YOU REPLY?

i think you have grasped the wrong end of the nettle

however we can agree to disagree

If by answering the op and your subsequent posts is grasping the wrong end of the nettle then im at a total loss as to what the whole thread was about lol.

it was a question whether people who thinks its acceptable to.ignore messages online, yet if that same person was ignored in a face to face situation

when does it become acceptable in one part of our society to ignore another person yet if someone clearly ignores someone in a face to face situation it then becomes unacceptable.

well it certainly wasnt worded that way in the op, the answer to the op is no it isnt bad manners to ignore/not reply to a message/email here and no it isnt bad manners to ignore/not reply to a message/email in the "normal world" either, of course its ignorant/bad manners to ignore someone if they talk to you in person but talking face to face and sending a message/email are not the same thing so cannot be compared.

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over a year ago

DO YOU REPLY?

i think you have grasped the wrong end of the nettle

however we can agree to disagree

If by answering the op and your subsequent posts is grasping the wrong end of the nettle then im at a total loss as to what the whole thread was about lol.

it was a question whether people who thinks its acceptable to.ignore messages online, yet if that same person was ignored in a face to face situation

when does it become acceptable in one part of our society to ignore another person yet if someone clearly ignores someone in a face to face situation it then becomes unacceptable.

i left it ambigeous so as not to influence the thread

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