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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So I've met a girl..from a dating site I might add...everything I've always wanted in a girl...younger than me by 12 years..blonde..slim..big boobs..intellegent..funny..raunchy..mega beautiful. I know if I get with her it's a massive choice from leaving this lifestyle for just one girl in my life. I'm torn between the two. There is nothing more exciting than meeting someone from here...but ya do miss that closeness that comes from a relationship. And before anyone say the obvious... Get her into the lifestyle!! She's Def not like that unfortch. What to do???

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By *urvesAllOverWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

Stop swinging. And if you miss it and go back, break up with her. But whatever happens, NEVER cheat, just do the right thing and end it

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By *am123Man
over a year ago

essex chelmsford

leave and don't look back mate she sounds really nice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As you are asking complete strangers,you must not be that into her,if That's the case,then you know the answer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go for it with her and don't look back.

You know where we are if it goes tits up.

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

You have to go for it, this is a lifestyle you can come back to if it doesn't go well but you would be a fool not to give it a chance

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Hide your profile, tell her of your history and see how it goes. She may be interested, she may not. If it doesn't work you can always reactivate your profile.

Good luck either way. Now go put the kettle on, as we're all parched.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What do you want to do?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

No I am into her..the reason I ask complete strangers is I am hoping one or two may understand the situation..non of my friends would or could never understand.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Want to do both but that's not fair or justifiable

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By *erseyridersCouple
over a year ago

wallasey

honesty best policy ,,,,cheats never prosper n will get found out b4 long ,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As you are asking complete strangers,you must not be that into her,if That's the case,then you know the answer."

I was thinking that but then I thought about all the couples who are into each other and on here. Saying that if he thought he could lose her then he would drop this all if he was really into her. Like others said,he can always come back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No I am into her..the reason I ask complete strangers is I am hoping one or two may understand the situation..non of my friends would or could never understand."

If I found my dream man I wouldn't be bothered about a bit of sex with strangers every now and then. Do you really need to think about this? You've struck gold by the sound of it and you're willing to give it up for brass?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go for it, fab Will always be here should it not work out. I know if I found someone I really liked and wanted to date I would give all this up in an instant

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Sensible advice of course. Al give it a few more dates then maybe give it a break. She's even mentioned that her fantasy is to have a threesome with another girl but i wouldnt be allowed to touch her...eh it's a start isn't it? Hahaha

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)


"Want to do both but that's not fair or justifiable "

Thats definitely not fair.

Do whats right for you. Hide your profile on here, go take some time out with the lovely lady and see how it goes.

If all goes well, and you can settle with her, then thats good... if you miss this lifestyle too much, then its serious talk with her time, and likely part ways.

I'm very lucky, I have a fantastic guy, everything I want, but who understands my desires on here (and no he's not into it that much)

Only you know whats right.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The fact you're still posting on this site and still in this community should tell you your answer. You're a swinger so tell her. If she wants to be part of that she'll join in, if not let her get in with her life.

From experience you'll be back and that's not fair on her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go for it mate. The swinging lifestyle is exciting, but most of the time its not forefilling. Its fantasy really. Dont miss out on a great opportunity with this girl. it could be the start of something, and like you've said, being close to someone will leave u feeling much more forefilled than a bit of swinging excitement!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It's a difficult one..it's early days though John but I'm just thinking if it does get serious...she's not the type to watch her boyfriend fuck another girl while her husband watches haha...but I'm gonna see how it goes with her for a while...seems very promising though ...thanks for the wise advice

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Go for it mate. The swinging lifestyle is exciting, but most of the time its not forefilling. Its fantasy really. Dont miss out on a great opportunity with this girl. it could be the start of something, and like you've said, being close to someone will leave u feeling much more forefilled than a bit of swinging excitement! "

Excellent point thank you mate

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By *oandjohnCouple
over a year ago

South Wales, will travel to Hereford, Worcestershire and Shropshire


"Sensible advice of course. Al give it a few more dates then maybe give it a break. She's even mentioned that her fantasy is to have a threesome with another girl but i wouldnt be allowed to touch her...eh it's a start isn't it? Hahaha "

That's an advancement

As others have said don't cheat and always be honest.. If you don't follow those rules you will get found out which never ends well.

But if that is her fantasy and you can watch but not take part, you could alway play it that you talk about it, suggest that you would like get to live it out do there are no regrets that she feels that she can't live out her fantasy. When uou feel confident that she is in to uou enough, Suggest going to a swingers club where the rules are you can't do anything, but she can live out her fantasy if she finds a friendly enough female... But go with the rule that you are both going to check it out and if the opportunity arises she can take it. But nothing else will. You never know after a few drink you might get to play with each other in a couples play area. But your attention must only be for her. When she gets to the club she will see that normal people are swingers. Don't what ever you do push it and don't expect anything to happen... It is only natural that thoughts will go through her head after the event. If she does nothing she has no regrets. But what ever happens don't be too keen to talk about the visit or push going back. Curiosity will play it's natural course and if you don't push it she will want to go back because it is natural progression. But make her feel special and loved through out the experience. When she realises she is still the centre of your attension after the first visit and she is ready she will bring it up and want to go back... It is human nature.

Push it and you will blow it.

Best of luck

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Go for it - makes me think of that phrase 'Why go out for hamburger when you have steak at home?'. For me sex with someone you are really into wins hands down over sex with strangers who you may or may not click with or enjoy. Good luck.

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By *not69Man
over a year ago

Lancashire


"Go for it - makes me think of that phrase 'Why go out for hamburger when you have steak at home?'. For me sex with someone you are really into wins hands down over sex with strangers who you may or may not click with or enjoy. Good luck."

Making love with your soulmate is so much more intense than a fuck with friends. Go go it and don't look back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Go for it with her and don't look back.

You know where we are if it goes tits up. "

Good luck to you!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sensible advice of course. Al give it a few more dates then maybe give it a break. She's even mentioned that her fantasy is to have a threesome with another girl but i wouldnt be allowed to touch her...eh it's a start isn't it? Hahaha

That's an advancement

As others have said don't cheat and always be honest.. If you don't follow those rules you will get found out which never ends well.

But if that is her fantasy and you can watch but not take part, you could alway play it that you talk about it, suggest that you would like get to live it out do there are no regrets that she feels that she can't live out her fantasy. When uou feel confident that she is in to uou enough, Suggest going to a swingers club where the rules are you can't do anything, but she can live out her fantasy if she finds a friendly enough female... But go with the rule that you are both going to check it out and if the opportunity arises she can take it. But nothing else will. You never know after a few drink you might get to play with each other in a couples play area. But your attention must only be for her. When she gets to the club she will see that normal people are swingers. Don't what ever you do push it and don't expect anything to happen... It is only natural that thoughts will go through her head after the event. If she does nothing she has no regrets. But what ever happens don't be too keen to talk about the visit or push going back. Curiosity will play it's natural course and if you don't push it she will want to go back because it is natural progression. But make her feel special and loved through out the experience. When she realises she is still the centre of your attension after the first visit and she is ready she will bring it up and want to go back... It is human nature.

Push it and you will blow it.

Best of luck

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Why didn't I think of that. Legend thanks!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Go for it - makes me think of that phrase 'Why go out for hamburger when you have steak at home?'. For me sex with someone you are really into wins hands down over sex with strangers who you may or may not click with or enjoy. Good luck."

True but sex with a stranger is still the best abd sex with a married woman is even better x

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