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Winks, for or against ?

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By *ornyeyes4u OP   Man
over a year ago

lincoln

Winks, so could I please ask 1st what in your opinion are winks there for and 2nd whether your in favour or against and why.

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

Winks are very useful, they are a great 'intro'....If someone winks me then I have the option of returning a wink if I am curious about maybe receiving a message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Suppose they are there to allow a tentative approach, but the way I look at it, if people are too shy to write and say "hi", then will they be shy and "hold back" when it comes down to playtime?

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place

i always thought winks are for saying ...nice profile and if you wink back ,"yep i am interested lets chat"

..its a sort of notice me-us ,as we are interested.

Got no thoughts either way on them really, they are harmless.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

ilike them, gives you a chanc to see who is intereted in you without habing to send the thanks but no thanks emil if you dont like them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A wink is better than a cut and paste message. It still is unlikely to get my attention though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think there great, just like a Wolf Whistle to show your interested

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

I love winks

I can ignore them without feeling guilty or if I like the people that have sent them ill send one back

Makes life much easier for me in here

This post was cut n pasted from the last wink thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love winks

I can ignore them without feeling guilty or if I like the people that have sent them ill send one back

Makes life much easier for me in here

This post was cut n pasted from the last wink thread "

You watch we will have a "ignoring winks is rude" thread go up soon

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

if you have a look in the swinging forum there is a huge conversation going on about this at the moment.......

as for winks... i am in the minority as it appears... I think they are lazy and show no effort, all it says to me is that you managed to hit a button.....

harsh but i'd rather someone send me a reply, i want to see some personality in what they write....

the comparison i would use would be that if you were in a club you wouldn't just wink at everyone all night, you'd actually go up to people at talk and see what they are like.........

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago


"I love winks

I can ignore them without feeling guilty or if I like the people that have sent them ill send one back

Makes life much easier for me in here

This post was cut n pasted from the last wink thread

You watch we will have a "ignoring winks is rude" thread go up soon "

You may jest but Ive had messages from people saying they did'nt know if id got the wink as I had'nt winked back so they thought they had better check and send a message to

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By *ornyeyes4u OP   Man
over a year ago

lincoln

So why would I get my head bitten off then during an old posted item then saying my winks are offensive !

I accept you would go around a club constantly winking, folks would think your off your trolly but I'm in the section saying it's showing a polite interest without going over the top yeh.

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Some people do find them offensive........I can think of many more things to get offended about though,you don't even have to look at them if you don't want to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people do find them offensive........I can think of many more things to get offended about though,you don't even have to look at them if you don't want to"

now you can mass delete winks its not so bad. It was infuriating though in the past when you had to do them individually. Admin got that change 100% right.

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago


"Some people do find them offensive........I can think of many more things to get offended about though,you don't even have to look at them if you don't want to

now you can mass delete winks its not so bad. It was infuriating though in the past when you had to do them individually. Admin got that change 100% right."

Yes I agree,it used to take forever to clear them out

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"So why would I get my head bitten off then during an old posted item then saying my winks are offensive !

I accept you would go around a club constantly winking, folks would think your off your trolly but I'm in the section saying it's showing a polite interest without going over the top yeh."

accept that some people would rather that if you have an interest in someone that you send them a mail and say something rather than a wink.... some for a friends invite.....

I want to talk to people first...... thats just me...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Winks are great, and underrated, although we rarely send any.

profiles aren't always honest, example.. 'not seeking males', then most of their verifications are from males, so, a wink in this case is better than a message, nobody feels they have to reply or wait for a reply from a wink.

I know some say it's lazy, but I don;t get that at all. I imagine people wink to draw attention to their profile, a little way to say they like what they see now check mine, if you receive a wink then simply wink back if interested, it puts the game back n their hands, and from there they can send the first message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people will wink at maybe 5 or 6 people a day and in essence that's not too bad. BUT some will wink at everyone they visit which is easy as it takes little effort and they think a big net will improve their chances. If you have a couple of winks you will look at them. If you have loads you just don't bother. Any means of contact is ok as long as its not abused.

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By *ornyeyes4u OP   Man
over a year ago

lincoln


"So why would I get my head bitten off then during an old posted item then saying my winks are offensive !

I accept you would go around a club constantly winking, folks would think your off your trolly but I'm in the section saying it's showing a polite interest without going over the top yeh.

accept that some people would rather that if you have an interest in someone that you send them a mail and say something rather than a wink.... some for a friends invite.....

I want to talk to people first...... thats just me..."

I agree but some folks would bite your head off if you were to just walk up and start talking to them with out an introduction so sometimes you just couldnt win would you.

If you remember my previous post in which I got slated for saying my winks were a cheeky way of saying I caught you looking at me yeh, so why would I be accused of whinging or wyning then just because I siad it wasnt fair that we as singles coud'nt look at couples who wernt interested in singles and blocking them only for them to be alloud open access to all !

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Oh stop whinging

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By *ornyeyes4u OP   Man
over a year ago

lincoln

May I say honeypotcouple all the compliments are fully justified, cracking profile and smashing pictures. Your a horny lady no question mmmmmmmm

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By *ampy71Man
over a year ago

Waterloovile

Can I get back to you on this one??

When or if I ge winked, I will be able to answer lol

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago


"May I say honeypotcouple all the compliments are fully justified, cracking profile and smashing pictures. Your a horny lady no question mmmmmmmm "

Thank you

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By *ornyeyes4u OP   Man
over a year ago

lincoln

Your friends with fruit yeh she said you were a smashing couple. didnt you have a joint party at tease not long back ? I was supposed to have gone but couldnt make it unfortunately. How long you been going there ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On here I think winks are a lazy way of contacting people, the reason being, anyone can send messages to anyone else on this site (unless blocked then why bother trying to send a wink??) on other (pay) sites members who dont pay (have basic membership) they cant send messages so winks there are a good way of saying "I am new and interested".

I often ignore winks cos if you really wanted to meet me you would send a message, but when I was on other sites with different levels of membership if a basic (and new) member winked I would answer.

I also dont think I have ever send a wink in all my time here cos I would rather send a message, it will tell you about me better than just clicking a button

Shona

x x x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think theyre a good ice breaker, when I get them I look at the profile and wink back if I like, if not, just delete

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By *ornyeyes4u OP   Man
over a year ago

lincoln

Hi Shona, I'm sorry but WHY treat them differently just on the ability to pay ! Surely it's the same difference yeh ? All they're doing is making contact whether they subscibe or not yeh ?

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By *ornyeyes4u OP   Man
over a year ago

lincoln


"i think theyre a good ice breaker, when I get them I look at the profile and wink back if I like, if not, just delete "

Hi Mally, am with you on this totally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i prefer winks

im shy........

Mr P

x

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By *ornyeyes4u OP   Man
over a year ago

lincoln

Good lad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Winks are very useful, they are a great 'intro'....If someone winks me then I have the option of returning a wink if I am curious about maybe receiving a message."

What she said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

cat beleive it's a question...nothing wrong with a wink!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi Shona, I'm sorry but WHY treat them differently just on the ability to pay ! Surely it's the same difference yeh ? All they're doing is making contact whether they subscibe or not yeh ? "

The sites I mean are the ones you cant send a first message to anyone unless you pay the sometimes over rated over inflated prices. You can however send a reply on the sites I am thinking off.

Another site I was on (a few years ago so maybe the owner has changed the site Im not sure) charged a lot of money for membership to men (a lot more than couples and women) I rarely meet anyone other than men so on that site it made sense that men who were new winked and I would send a message along the lines of a first message I would have sent to them anyway with a little bit tagged on the bottom saying thanks for the wink.

On this site it doesnt matter if you are a site supporter or not you can message so why send a wink?? Why not just send a message??

It seems a bit silly to me to send a wink and wait to see if the person (or people) realise its there (took me a couple weeks to notice it was there) and maybe send one back or send a message, if you send a message its more likely to be seen (the thingy at the top of the page saying you have X unread) so to me it is faster and more straight forward to just send a message and take it from there rather than send winks back and forward.

But then again everyone uses this site differently so whatever works for others works, what works for me is never the rule but often the exception that proves the rule

Shona

x x x

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By *ofakindCouple
over a year ago

Running with Monkeys

we used to send messages to everyone who sent one to us but then got bored of the 1s we werent interested in/sure about sorry guys lol but then found the same happening to us send a nice thougtful message and no reply so now we just tend to wink x

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

why is anyone gonna say they dont like em, they will be inundated if they say that

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By *ornyeyes4u OP   Man
over a year ago

lincoln

Shona hi. My orriginal thread was that I thought that folks who had blocked single blokes were able to look at singles but I couldnt view them yeh. I like to send a wink just to say that I'd seen them looking but couldnt when blocked. A couple of replies then bit my head of for sending winks cos 1 thought I was taking the piss and the other said they were offensive hence the reason why I asked of everyone what winks are for yeh.

I take on board what you say but would say that I've sent messages and they too have been returned saying they too were offensive, can't win luv.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I delete all winks and friends invites without reading them, sorry!

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By *udereMan
over a year ago

haringey

Ithink there ok myself ,but only ocasionaly send them due to the many profiles that say they will be ignored, and wether your interested or not in the winker its nice to know somone likes your profile

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By *ornyeyes4u OP   Man
over a year ago

lincoln


"I delete all winks and friends invites without reading them, sorry! "

Totally respect your view but please tell me why ?

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