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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Time has come to do the right thing and lay my best pal to rest

I've had him for 15 years now and his been there with me through thick and thin and the most loyal friend I'll ever had & my little in adores him. Tough few weeks ahead

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

That's very sad but it's cruel to make animals live longer than they should for our own selfish reasons

Whilst your little one won't see it now, it's an important emotional development milestone to deal with loss such as this.

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis

I'm really sad to hear that! You've loved him and he's loved you...so many fond moments of joy and games. Your memory will keep him alive in your heart. I hope your little one will be ok soon. Children seem to forget and bounce back quickly!

Here's a very big (((HUG)) for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know it is such a sad time. Many people told me that i would know when the time had come. I had doubts that would be the case but it was indeed true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

so sorry to hear about this,pets are huge part of your family and give so much love,thoughts are with you hunny xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So sad, and a tough decision to take, but probably the right one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very sad. Was gutted when my cat was put to sleep and I know there not loyal but was waking up to stroke him and he wasn't there but you know when it's time to say goodbye.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So sorry honey, we've had our little monster 8 years now, can't imagine life without her but I couldn't bare to see her suffer either. They trust us to know what's right for them even when it's hard for us. Thoughts are with you and your wee one ((hugs))

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Time has come to do the right thing and lay my best pal to rest

I've had him for 15 years now and his been there with me through thick and thin and the most loyal friend I'll ever had & my little in adores him. Tough few weeks ahead

This helped me, hope it helps you

If it should be that I grow weak,

and pain should keep me from my sleep,

then you must do what must be done,

for this last battle can’t be won.

You will be sad, I understand,

don’t let your grief then stay your hand,

for this day more than all the rest,

your love for me must stand the test.

We’ve had so many happy years,

what is to come can hold no fears,

you’d not want me to suffer so,

the time has come please let me go.

Take me to where my needs they’ll tend,

and please stay with me to the end,

hold me firm and speak to me,

until my eyes no longer see.

Please do not grieve it must be you,

who has this painful thing to do,

we’ve been so close, we two these years,

don’t let your heart hold back the tears

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

Aww, it's a heartbreaking thing to have to do but it's often the last kind thing you can do for them.

- Amy. x

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

"Time has come to do the right thing and lay my best pal to rest

I've had him for 15 years now and his been there with me through thick and thin and the most loyal friend I'll ever had & my little in adores him. Tough few weeks ahead

Rainbow Bridge has plenty of good friends ready to welcome him

Best of luck

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

Aw that's a shame, sounds like he's had a good life and been well loved though. Never an easy decision to make xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sorry to hear your sad news we know only too well what you are going through as we had to have our beautiful big labrador put to sleep nine weeks ago today and we miss him every minute of every day but like your dog he was loved and loved us back unconditionally x

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

The death of a pet can be the first time a child experiences personal loss from death so you may find that your little 'un reacts more dramatically than you expect because it's such a shock to realise that it's forever.

Pets are such a fixture of our lives, always butting a head for a fuss and sticking their noses in, reminding you that they still need to be fed or exercised or attention no matter whether life has turned shifty or stressful or happy. Just by being always there and so simple to love and love you in return they leave a huge space behind them.

Hugs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have 2 dogs, they're only 9, but we already dread having to make that decision.

We were at the vets last week and someone their had a lad whose hips had gone, his eyes looked a mess and his fur was patchy with what looked like a kind of mange. I thought it would be kinder for him to be put asleep.

I really feel for you. Just treasure the good times mate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh no I'm so sorry bud, it's such a hard decision to make, we did the same for our cat nacho.. he lives in our thoughts everyday.

Be strong

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By *mma_j_cdTV/TS
over a year ago

chester

I feel for you

There is no greater loving act than to ease the pain of a loved one xxx

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

Its horrible when a pet is at the end of its life no matter what it is, they bring such joy, treasure your memories. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whilst its breaking your heart , take comfort knowing you are doing the kindest thing you can do for him and that you are doing it out of love

Run free little one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Heart goes out to you. One of my cats is the wrong side of 18 and dreading the day. The poem "If" posted above is great for knowing you have to do the right thing. Sending hugs x

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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That is sad, but sometimes it is the kinder option.

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple
over a year ago

Fareham

This thread has had me in tears - especially the poem. It's brought back the day I had to take my little pooch on that last journey when she was suffering from cancer. A hard time but it's the right thing to do. Thinking of you OP x

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

Like many others we have been there and know what your going through..

hard decision but necessary to ease their suffering, and the right thing to do..

will be tough for you all in the days ahead but there will have been so many good times and memories from happier days..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I took the day of work when my dog died its horrible it's a brave decision your making and the right one don't think I could do it myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The loss of a pet is always hard however the die.

Big hug xxx

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By *ig1gaz1Man
over a year ago

bradford

id lost the family pet on xmas eve of all times shed lasted for years and just kept going but the last stroke got her had to take her in

i wanted another one straight away and overuled the family in end and got another same day is my best advise

you never forget the other but you are kinda a little busy with the new one and best of all they are great company and hes a little swine fast as hell bossy and stuborn for a yorkshire terrier

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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We couldn't get another one that quick...if at all ( we havn't replaced ours yet )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I knew when the time had come to say goodbye to my beloved gordie dog. We kept him going two years longer than expected. Still miss him and his antics.

big hugs for you xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My sympathies to you, and best of luck to your little friend on his next adventure. I've just come back from a dreaded trip to the vet with my little cat - we were expecting the worst, she had what the vet thought was a tumour on her heart but she's put on good weight, her chest is clearer and she's bouncing about like a kitten. They don't live forever, but the joy they bring throughout their lives is worth the heartbreak when they go. You've given your little friend 15 years of love, care and happiness, and he has done the same for you. You're both richer for that time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never get a pet. They lead you into a false sense of security!

Then they wrench out your heart so that from then on life never will be the same again!

I'm with you buddy. Hardest thing I've ever had to do.

Life is such a cruel mistress.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

My animals have meant the world to me over the years so you have my true sympathy and empathy. To all those struggling with that decision I'd say

'Better a week early than a day late.'

The best we can do for them ultimately is to prevent suffering.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

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Really sorry for you loss... Sending hugs and comfort.

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By *W69Couple
over a year ago

Bournemouth

We will be in a similar position with one of our four legged friends soon so can really empathise with your post.

Hugs

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Never good. I've lost various members of my family and remained chipper throughout, but losing a dog gets the waterworks going for me every time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had to go through this last October when I lost my beloved 13 yr old springer spaniel. It was dreadful and I cried a lot. The vets were great tho and organised an individual cremation with a company who were also very sensitive. She now sits on my hearth in a spaniel shaped casket.

I loved her and she was an important part of our family. The house felt wrong without her. After 4 months I had another springer pup and ahead keeps me on my toes. Will always miss my other girl tho.

Best wishes to you OP x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Overwhelmed by your comments and thoughts - thank you all. Thankfully his other half should be with me a few more years so no rushing into getting another, although I'm worried what him going will do to her.

Just so glad money isn't an issue like it was a few years ago and have just booked a proper send off with a memorial plaque in the local park he used to love running in x

Thanks again all, crazy how fab can be a place to share your woes as well as your fantasies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very raw subject for us - we had to have our 9yr old chocolate lab put to sleep on sat due to an inoperable cancerous tumour. She was a typical lab - friendly, laid back gorgeous dog and we miss her - mind not as much as our other dog - a rescue staffy we have had for 3 yrs. The lab accepted her into her home and they were inseperable - the staffy is such a lost little sole since sat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My animals have meant the world to me over the years so you have my true sympathy and empathy. To all those struggling with that decision I'd say

'Better a week early than a day late.'

The best we can do for them ultimately is to prevent suffering.

xx"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never get a pet. They lead you into a false sense of security!

Then they wrench out your heart so that from then on life never will be the same again!

I'm with you buddy. Hardest thing I've ever had to do.

Life is such a cruel mistress. "

"It's better to have loved and lost, than to never have loved at all"

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By *ovecuckoldfunMan
over a year ago

SHEFFIELD

ive no dogs now as lost both one was 15 other border collie was 20years old my daughter and me was heart broken she grew up with him from being 4years old girl to a woman of 24 so was hard for us both always had a dog but still hurts so got no replacement miss them both xxtrev

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Overwhelmed by your comments and thoughts - thank you all. Thankfully his other half should be with me a few more years so no rushing into getting another, although I'm worried what him going will do to her.

Just so glad money isn't an issue like it was a few years ago and have just booked a proper send off with a memorial plaque in the local park he used to love running in x

Thanks again all, crazy how fab can be a place to share your woes as well as your fantasies

That's such a lovely idea to have a memorial plaque in his favourite park xx

Big hugs, as hard as it is you know your doing the right thing for him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

All booked for Monday, now to soil him rotten till then with steak dinners and chocolate

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

I've been through this several times and it's always heart wrenching. I feel for you.

You can, at least, know you've done your absolute best for him right until the very end, in not letting him suffer.

My beloved rescue cats are well into their senior years now and signs of age are beginning to show. I dread the day I have to make the decision for them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"All booked for Monday, now to soil him rotten till then with steak dinners and chocolate

Wetting myself!!! That's meant to say spoil!!!!!

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Never get a pet. They lead you into a false sense of security!

Then they wrench out your heart so that from then on life never will be the same again!

I'm with you buddy. Hardest thing I've ever had to do.

Life is such a cruel mistress. "

The joy outweighs the pain thousands of times over. I wouldn't be without my pets even though I know I'll lose them at some point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"All booked for Monday, now to soil him rotten till then with steak dinners and chocolate

Enjoy the weekend with him.

We, unfortunately, don't come with armour plated hearts at times like this.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"Never get a pet. They lead you into a false sense of security!

Then they wrench out your heart so that from then on life never will be the same again!

I'm with you buddy. Hardest thing I've ever had to do.

Life is such a cruel mistress.

The joy outweighs the pain thousands of times over. I wouldn't be without my pets even though I know I'll lose them at some point."

this..

one of our collies developed idiopathic epilepsy last Jul and whilst it was horrible seeing him have seizures and his reaction to one type of meds we both feel that his quality of life is the best we can give him..

if we lost him through this we have had many happy times with him and wouldn't swap that..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Time has come to do the right thing and lay my best pal to rest

I've had him for 15 years now and his been there with me through thick and thin and the most loyal friend I'll ever had & my little in adores him. Tough few weeks ahead

Really sorry to hear about your sad decision. We know how this feels. Its gut wrenching.

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By *ap AdgeMan
over a year ago

Wirral

Lots of strokes before goodbye lots of fond memories. A blue cross donation in.his or her memory paul

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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago

Pleasuretown

"Time has come to do the right thing and lay my best pal to rest

I've had him for 15 years now and his been there with me through thick and thin and the most loyal friend I'll ever had & my little in adores him. Tough few weeks ahead

so sorry, all the hugs in the world to ya

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Today the dreaded day

as a friend said. I have to take the pain so he doesn't have to anymore. See you on the other side bud

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

so sorry, it's such a hard thing to do xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Awe so sad, bigs hugs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Today the dreaded day

as a friend said. I have to take the pain so he doesn't have to anymore. See you on the other side bud

My thoughts are with you buddy. I had to do the same on my birthday last year.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just to clarify, we are talking about a pet and not a human being right? The messages and poems etc are confusing me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hugs to you today hunny be strong and remember all the fun times

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just to clarify, we are talking about a pet and not a human being right? The messages and poems etc are confusing me "

Title of the thread sort of gives it away!

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"Today the dreaded day

as a friend said. I have to take the pain so he doesn't have to anymore. See you on the other side bud

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Good luck darlin.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Today the dreaded day

as a friend said. I have to take the pain so he doesn't have to anymore. See you on the other side bud

Sad...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just to clarify, we are talking about a pet and not a human being right? The messages and poems etc are confusing me

Title of the thread sort of gives it away!"

Some people are more animal, than people lovers. Those that are, are reminded why....as animals don't leave silly comments, like this, at times of loss.

Trolls are still human, even though they may look like animals.

Sorry for your loss OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hugs to you on this sad day

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"Just to clarify, we are talking about a pet and not a human being right? The messages and poems etc are confusing me "

Yes, I am guessing you know this because of the title of the thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just to clarify, we are talking about a pet and not a human being right? The messages and poems etc are confusing me

Yes, I am guessing you know this because of the title of the thread.

People's reactions made it seem like it was his mother that's all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thinking about you xxx

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"Just to clarify, we are talking about a pet and not a human being right? The messages and poems etc are confusing me

Yes, I am guessing you know this because of the title of the thread.

People's reactions made it seem like it was his mother that's all "

If you want to start a thread on who you are allowed to grieve for then thats fine, but let's leave this thread for what it was intended for please.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just to clarify, we are talking about a pet and not a human being right? The messages and poems etc are confusing me

Yes, I am guessing you know this because of the title of the thread.

People's reactions made it seem like it was his mother that's all

If you want to start a thread on who you are allowed to grieve for then thats fine, but let's leave this thread for what it was intended for please.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Today the dreaded day

as a friend said. I have to take the pain so he doesn't have to anymore. See you on the other side bud

Big hugs to you it was never going to be easy. I to had to do this to a beloved pet. Cherish the memories

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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago

Pleasuretown

"Time has come to do the right thing and lay my best pal to rest

I've had him for 15 years now and his been there with me through thick and thin and the most loyal friend I'll ever had & my little in adores him. Tough few weeks ahead

I've been there, all the hugz in the world to ya

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Please all, everyone is entitled to their opinion whatever that may be and I really didn't wish for this to he a thread to cause arguments. Maybe it's not as serious as say losing my dad which happened 6 months ago but to me he meant everything. That's why just watching the life being drawn from him has broken my heart no matter how pathetic that may sound just because it's a pet. RIP buddy, you will be sorely missed by me and my little un x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A pet is not just an animal. A pet becomes part of your family and you love them as much as you do a human being. Some people just have no feelings

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

"Please all, everyone is entitled to their opinion whatever that may be and I really didn't wish for this to he a thread to cause arguments. Maybe it's not as serious as say losing my dad which happened 6 months ago but to me he meant everything. That's why just watching the life being drawn from him has broken my heart no matter how pathetic that may sound just because it's a pet. RIP buddy, you will be sorely missed by me and my little un x"

Don't need to explain. Some people are just heartless and devoid of human emotions it seems, not sure why the need for nasty sarcastic comments, hope you are ok, xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Today the dreaded day

as a friend said. I have to take the pain so he doesn't have to anymore. See you on the other side bud

Aw thoughts are with you, it's not easy to say goodbye to any pet! Xx

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By *randmrsminxyCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

3 years ago on the 20/6/11 I lost my cat Charlie after 16 years together . Still have a little cry and still have the receipt from the vets in my wallet . Her box with the flowers from the animal crematorium are in the front room . Its gets better but you never forget a pet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Time has come to do the right thing and lay my best pal to rest

I've had him for 15 years now and his been there with me through thick and thin and the most loyal friend I'll ever had & my little in adores him. Tough few weeks ahead

This helped me, hope it helps you

If it should be that I grow weak,

and pain should keep me from my sleep,

then you must do what must be done,

for this last battle can’t be won.

You will be sad, I understand,

don’t let your grief then stay your hand,

for this day more than all the rest,

your love for me must stand the test.

We’ve had so many happy years,

what is to come can hold no fears,

you’d not want me to suffer so,

the time has come please let me go.

Take me to where my needs they’ll tend,

and please stay with me to the end,

hold me firm and speak to me,

until my eyes no longer see.

Please do not grieve it must be you,

who has this painful thing to do,

we’ve been so close, we two these years,

don’t let your heart hold back the tears"

Beautiful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Today the dreaded day

as a friend said. I have to take the pain so he doesn't have to anymore. See you on the other side bud

we still mourn the loss of our beloved gordie. Big hugs xx

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