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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

What does it take to be a father in modern times?

I know a day like this can be difficult if you can't be with your child/children. My sympathy to those in that position.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

About a Teaspoon of Semen ?

Gimp

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"About a Teaspoon of Semen ?

Gimp"

That's one interpretation.

A child I know gave his significant male parent a card that said "any man can be a father but only great men can be a dad". His dad was not his biological father but the bond between them stronger than any I have ever seen. He didn't leave his dad's bedside when he was dying but equally he enjoyed spending time with him when he was fully alive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is the one day I dread for my kids, as they don't see their dad.

However the bond they have with my dad, is incredible, it is all about the man that is there.

Her

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"This is the one day I dread for my kids, as they don't see their dad.

However the bond they have with my dad, is incredible, it is all about the man that is there.

Her"

So being there is an important part of being a father.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me a father is just a term for a man who helped create a child

a dad is the term for the man who loves and nurtures that child to be the best that child can possibly be, to encourage dreams, to help understand life, be there to support when things dont go quite right.

To be an inspiration and role model, to teach and learn right from wrong..

takes someone special to be a dad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is the one day I dread for my kids, as they don't see their dad.

However the bond they have with my dad, is incredible, it is all about the man that is there.

Her

So being there is an important part of being a father."
I think so yes, as they say anyone can father a child, takes a real man to fulfill it.

Her

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"For me a father is just a term for a man who helped create a child

a dad is the term for the man who loves and nurtures that child to be the best that child can possibly be, to encourage dreams, to help understand life, be there to support when things dont go quite right.

To be an inspiration and role model, to teach and learn right from wrong..

takes someone special to be a dad.

"

Isn't that the same for a female parent? I don't disagree with what you say but I am trying to work out what the difference is.

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By *erseyridersCouple
over a year ago

wallasey

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me a father is just a term for a man who helped create a child

a dad is the term for the man who loves and nurtures that child to be the best that child can possibly be, to encourage dreams, to help understand life, be there to support when things dont go quite right.

To be an inspiration and role model, to teach and learn right from wrong..

takes someone special to be a dad.

Isn't that the same for a female parent? I don't disagree with what you say but I am trying to work out what the difference is.

"

Dont think there is a difference between being a mum and being a dad.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

If I could find a man that had the same qualities as my father id be one lucky woman...my dad has been an absolute fantastic dad...he also has his faults and can be infuriating at times...when I had all the shit when I was pregnant and the bloke did a runner I was sad that my child would not have a father...things didn't turn out how I expected and I did not experience motherhood...not sure if any of the above makes sense lol

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"For me a father is just a term for a man who helped create a child

a dad is the term for the man who loves and nurtures that child to be the best that child can possibly be, to encourage dreams, to help understand life, be there to support when things dont go quite right.

To be an inspiration and role model, to teach and learn right from wrong..

takes someone special to be a dad.

Isn't that the same for a female parent? I don't disagree with what you say but I am trying to work out what the difference is.

"

No one is saying there's a difference. But the thread is about Father's Day and it is Father's Day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If we are talking stereo typically i guess a father/dad is a protector, generally the one to financially support his family, possibly the sporty influence, the one to do DIY, the one to tinker about n fixes cars

Could also depend if its a male or a female child..

a dad would look after his daughter more whilst teach his lad about car engines and play rugby..

As a child thats how i viewed my dad (technically step dad),, but as a mum myself if i had a boy id struggle with some of the above issues, but wouldnt be impossible to educate myself then pass on that knowledge.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As I was told by an old person way back aney dog can fill a pram it takes a real man to be a dad and to steep up to the mark

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"As I was told by an old person way back aney dog can fill a pram it takes a real man to be a dad and to steep up to the mark"

The stepping up, not running away theme is strong.

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By *s53Man
over a year ago

leeds

i still get a kick out of a card on fathers day from my step daughter and own kids

even though her mum and i are long divorced and our kids left home

being accepted by my stepdaughter as dad was a proud moment

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"i still get a kick out of a card on fathers day from my step daughter and own kids

even though her mum and i are long divorced and our kids left home

being accepted by my stepdaughter as dad was a proud moment

"

That makes you special.

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By *horltzMan
over a year ago

heysham

I didn't get a card. , but as I'm typing my son is doing all the housework instead

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

I think its the same things regardless of the times we live in, the need to provide and to support ones kids as you raise them together..

kids need guidance, boundaries to grow as their own person and an understanding that when they err there will be sanctions..

love and cuddles..

only done it as a partner and my hat goes out to those dads who raise kids on their own for whatever reason..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I didn't get a card. , but as I'm typing my son is doing all the housework instead "

Wow. you have got him well trained.

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By *horltzMan
over a year ago

heysham


"I didn't get a card. , but as I'm typing my son is doing all the housework instead

Wow. you have got him well trained."

Bed a good lad , takes after his dad

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"I didn't get a card. , but as I'm typing my son is doing all the housework instead

Wow. you have got him well trained.

Bed a good lad , takes after his dad "

That's a lovely thing for him to do and if you have given him those life skills it is a wonderful thing you have done.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me a father is just a term for a man who helped create a child

a dad is the term for the man who loves and nurtures that child to be the best that child can possibly be, to encourage dreams, to help understand life, be there to support when things dont go quite right.

To be an inspiration and role model, to teach and learn right from wrong..

takes someone special to be a dad.

"

This.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my son used to be helpful when he was little but changed as he got older, he did get part time jobs though before he left school.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A father cares. Doesn't matter if he's poor or can't spend lots of time with his children. His children know he cares and that's enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Daughter is 19 months old

daddy left when she was 6 months 5 days old

last year on fathers day despite the split still being horrifically raw I not only sent him a card from her (which is still on the floor in his car where he threw it). This year even though it's not his weekend I offered for her to spend the weekend with him gf and her kid's. He accepted, collected her and half an hour later cancelled as I was being unreasonable "expecting" him to have her. On thurs he was having her because he didnt have her the previous weekend (he bought dog phobic gf a dog and went to a fight instead). So im afraid I have not got the answer as to your question but I can safely say that my daughter has a sperm donor not a father, he even complains that he has to pay £100 month csa as "theys no way she needs that much".

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By *ScotsmanMan
over a year ago

ayrshire

I didn't even get a fucking card.little wankers

when i send the kids texts during the year i get one word answers.usually just aye or no .so they send me a text saying happy fathers day so i sent back just "aye"

im not trying to make them feel guilty it doesnt bother me

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Daughter is 19 months old

daddy left when she was 6 months 5 days old

last year on fathers day despite the split still being horrifically raw I not only sent him a card from her (which is still on the floor in his car where he threw it). This year even though it's not his weekend I offered for her to spend the weekend with him gf and her kid's. He accepted, collected her and half an hour later cancelled as I was being unreasonable "expecting" him to have her. On thurs he was having her because he didnt have her the previous weekend (he bought dog phobic gf a dog and went to a fight instead). So im afraid I have not got the answer as to your question but I can safely say that my daughter has a sperm donor not a father, he even complains that he has to pay £100 month csa as "theys no way she needs that much"."

That is sad for both him and your daughter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You know as a father and a grandfather I have always been tormented if I am a good dad or not.

Just like being a mum there is no handbook we can refer to, no way of knowing if you are doing well.

All you can do is teach them right and wrong, be there for them,provide love and advice.

I think the proof is seeing your kid's become parents and how they get on. Very proud to say my son is a wonderful father and certain my daughter will be a great mother. Your a father because of nature, your a dad because of love.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it must be harder to be a single dad than it would be to be a single mum..

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By *xpresMan
over a year ago

Elland

I have my boys from Saturday morning to Sunday evening i try my best to cook good foodd take them to the sports they do football rugby gymnastics etc i try n make it to school events but i work away Monday to Friday so i do what i can

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What does it take to be a father in modern times?

I know a day like this can be difficult if you can't be with your child/children. My sympathy to those in that position.

"
. It takes the same things today as it always did. There are some things that remain constant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it must be harder to be a single dad than it would be to be a single mum..

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Not if you have a boy i dont think.

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By *xpresMan
over a year ago

Elland


"Daughter is 19 months old

daddy left when she was 6 months 5 days old

last year on fathers day despite the split still being horrifically raw I not only sent him a card from her (which is still on the floor in his car where he threw it). This year even though it's not his weekend I offered for her to spend the weekend with him gf and her kid's. He accepted, collected her and half an hour later cancelled as I was being unreasonable "expecting" him to have her. On thurs he was having her because he didnt have her the previous weekend (he bought dog phobic gf a dog and went to a fight instead). So im afraid I have not got the answer as to your question but I can safely say that my daughter has a sperm donor not a father, he even complains that he has to pay £100 month csa as "theys no way she needs that much".

That is sad for both him and your daughter."

i feel for you he will realise about what he is doing but by then it may be too late. When i split from my exwife i hated her all she stood for but wounds heel my boys come 2nd to nobody hofuly oneday he will see it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it must be harder to be a single dad than it would be to be a single mum..

Not if you have a boy i dont think."

Single dad to a girl... or single mum to a boy are the difficult options.

Think the mother to the lad would cope better.

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