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relentless amount of timewasters is dragging us down

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

First of all let me say the people that we have met and chatted through this site are amazing and full of great ideas, but the feeling of wasting time is really getting to us both now.

it's nice to meet new people but after all this is a swinging site we want more meets or anyway at least one!!

We've had lots and lots of people saying oooh yea lets meet but when it comes down to it theres some excuse why it aint gunna happen.

we've been on this site a long time now and before this profile had another one but we deleted it as we were getting too many time wasters but we came back to give it another go, but the same things happening again, loads of people saying they wanna meet but dont.

I hope someone does get in touch soon and actually meets us or we'll probably just leave this site and not come back.

If anyone reads this and is interested check out our profile and drop us a line just to say hi or whatever, until then happy swinging xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id contact you but you are a bit young for me and too far, however i do always meet people, i find it more difficult to tell some that ive met, that im not interested in meeting again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey guys,

Just tried to PM you to say hi and don't give up. In truth, having looked at your profile, I've no idea why you're getting so many timewasters, nothing obvious anyway. You're a good looking couple, very upfront so maybe it the folk that are getting in touch that are assholes?

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham

I'm sure the majority of members experience their fair share of time-wasters, us included, we don't allow the time-wasters to have an impact on us, if people chose not to meet us after showing interest, and we've had our fair share, so be it, a match will come along for us, otherwise we wouldn't be on here

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By *ethot69Couple
over a year ago

Merseyside

Would have thought it obvious why you're having limited luck - you're after the elusive bi-female!

Look at it this way - if you were a single girl, would you be leaping towards meeting a strange couple?

I think the bi-fem is a limited commodity on any swinger site - there's the odd few but the ones that do play are selective and careful.

Best advice we can give is to stick at it and be proactive by searching the girls out and writing a detailed message to them.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

even if i wasn't the lowest of the low... a SINGLE MAN (and you really have no idea of how condesending that actually looks and reads) I wouldn't answer your ad...

its all negative.... sorry.. from beginning to end

for example... how would they know they are the type you are after...

tall/short

fat/thin

black/white/yellow/green with purple spots...

smart/thick as two short planks....

the answer is that you wouldn't...

what stands out to make that person think "wow i have to meet that couple!!!"

the question i always ask when i see this type of complaint is this:

if you were the person/couple you were looking for.... hand on heart, would you honestly answer your own ad???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you would probably have a better response if you were looking for a couple with a bi fem, or a bi couple.

Best of luck

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By *ickmealloverWoman
over a year ago

a very plush appartment off junt 7 M5

I think you dont need to change what your looking for

but maybe ask for it in a nicer way

Why meet cpls if you dont want to?

Why meet single men if you dont want to?

Have you thought about going to a club?

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By *-and-KCouple
over a year ago

Back of Beyond

The last time we were not let down was a single guy, that was about a year ago now. Since then I can honestly say 14 couples have let us down, the latest was this weekend, after saying all last week they could meet!

So how do we get around this? we normally only platy at party's now. You find someone who hosts party's ask for an invite, and then with any luck they will find you interesting enough to invite you back time and again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is why if I arrange a meet I meet them in a club or chams and then if they let me down or we are not into each other then I can still have a fun night.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Despite the fact that your after the rarest commodity on the site,you have to keep in mind that a fair proportion of the single women you make contact with will in fact be men.

Perhaps your best bet would be to meet couples,while at the same time keeping an eye out for single women.

At least that way you'd get the meets you say your missing and the G/G fun too.

XXXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The last time we were not let down was a single guy, that was about a year ago now. Since then I can honestly say 14 couples have let us down, the latest was this weekend, after saying all last week they could meet!

So how do we get around this? we normally only platy at party's now. You find someone who hosts party's ask for an invite, and then with any luck they will find you interesting enough to invite you back time and again"

Lucky you get the chance then, i got invited to a party on saturday night, shame they didnt bother to let me know what time and their address, and they've been online since then so if it was cancelled for whatever reason, they could have said something since then. Think in future, unless i meet a couple first, party invites are completely out

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

I agree with not compromising about what you want but you should also be letting people know what you have to offer

As it is at the moment your profile is'nt very appealing as its mainly a whinge about what you don't want and nothing about why a single fem should want to get in touch with you

good luck x

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

firstly EVERYBODY unfortunatly have time wasters contacting them . its gonna happen just brush em off and move on as there are genuine ppl on the site .

what i do have to raise regards ur profile though is as has been said ,it says you strictly wanting bi fem only. thats the holy grail on here so u have set yourself a hard task already (not impossible though just VERY difficult).

so that not gonna be a fast find for anyone one site . then when you do get to talk to a single fem and i speak from exsperience here ,is the safty aspect of meeting on ur own .if youre meeting anyone on your own you have to feel totally comfortable doing that so may take much longer building that rapport and trust .

the major thing that would put questions in my mind though is ur verification and the verification that was left by yourselves .well the male half of you who met the other cpl .that seems alil strange as the cpl that he met also state bi fems only .. so why didnt the girls just meet up ? from verification just said fem spoke too cpl on the phone . as i said all this would raise questions for me and make me very hesitent about meeting you on my own

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"I agree with not compromising about what you want but you should also be letting people know what you have to offer

As it is at the moment your profile is'nt very appealing as its mainly a whinge about what you don't want and nothing about why a single fem should want to get in touch with you

good luck x"

you say that so much more tactfully than me hopefully they take notice...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with others here, your (OP's) profile is rather negative, aggressive and unappealing, if you happened to be seeking couples with Bi fem, we would avoid, sorry, but just trying to help with a little honesty.

You certainly aren't the only ones to get lot's messages from single guys when not seeking them, and let's face it, it's usually those ones that give the better guys a bad name that message when we're not seeking guys. Thing is, there will always be a group of single guys that don't get the idea of swinging and so no matter what, unless you block them, you will always get messages.

Simple answer, block single guys, change your profile by making it sound more positive and appealing.

Generally, we get back what we put into this site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just looked at your profile, nice pictures and nothing obvious to suggest why you dont get the meets. However you are asking for the unicorn on this site... the elusive single bifem. There are a few but demand outweighs supply by something like 50 to 1 (just guessing) so they (single bifems ) can afford to be very choosey in who they meet.

I would suggest you might look at couples and your chances of real meets would increase.

Best of luck xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

have to say we have been let down a few times without even notice or last minute and find like yourselves that loads of couples say yes but have a thousand excuses why last minute they cant..however, there are ...some genuine people on here, we have met a few and had a great time ,oh ,and a few bi fems too, be patient th real people with come to you eventually. we keep gonig on here and slowly but surely you do meet the cool people eventually. x Luisa and Steve.

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By *ansue35Couple
over a year ago

yorkshire

Hi

i agree with what most say you looking for the hardest option in single ladies.

we been swinging for two years and not yet played with a single lady

But again just have a good out look and it most likely will happen

We got let down 30 mins before we where meeting this weekend. But hay still went to a club and had fun and a laugh LOL

s A and K said that couples get let dow nas well.

Good luck

Sue and Ian

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes we got let down twice this week one by a regular bi women though..was not her fault..but we were all dolled up and ready to rock lol.

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