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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I don't mind being rejected it vs opens we r adults but what annoys me is people who read your message view your pics and don't bother to reply, we took the effort to write to your so politeness dictate make an effort, even a "thanks but not interested sorry" is polite.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Because we don't know if you're the type of guy that gets nasty with the word no.

I have gone from sexy to slap in one simple message. Why would I risk that every time I don't want to fuck someone?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Sorry to hear that I understand it's just a shame a handful of male and female ruin it for the rest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nobody dictates anything to us, you're not entitled to a reply regardless of how much you think so. We reply to people we're interested in and the occasional forum friends messages. The rest get filed B1N

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No reply is a reply....

Replying opens up the floodgates for guys trying to convince me I am interested or abuse.

Why should I spend my time replying to the ones that clearly haven't read my profile? I ask for a face pic as I'm not going to meet based on a cock pic. It's written right at the start of my profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

why not just be mature and shrug it off by thinking 'im not for them'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Here's a thought, OP - shift your perspective. You found out they were not the sort of people you would want to meet very early on due to their 'ignorance'; feel accomplished, then move on.

From a negative to a positive. Thats basically turning a frown upside down.

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

Here we go again...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My profile says no reply means no thanks, the site rules say no reply means no thanks

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By *a-ra-ra-boom-de-ayCouple
over a year ago

Wish it was the Algarve! Aberdeenshire

Here here Evie! I agree, but does the op realise that just sometimes you can get so many messages, answering them can be just impossible! It doesn't mean everyone is rude. We sometimes forget to message back as we are at that moment having a good old chinwag with friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't mind being rejected it vs opens we r adults but what annoys me is people who read your message view your pics and don't bother to reply, we took the effort to write to your so politeness dictate make an effort, even a "thanks but not interested sorry" is polite. "

Would you accept a 'thanks but no thanks' and then being blocked any better than you would a non reply ?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

If I notice someone nice looking at my profile, I will sometimes send a thanks for wink/looking message but don't expect a reply. No need. No reply is not rude on Fab. A no reply is a no thanks.

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend


"Sorry to hear that I understand it's just a shame a handful of male and female ruin it for the rest "

I'm sorry, but that is such a cop out. No one ruins it for anyone else. How can an inbox full of 'no thanks' be any better then a no reply?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with your title, but why would

you want to go back to an ignorant message.

After a while you grow a tough skin and Think " next"

You are online, like thousands others, nobody owes you a favour.

Her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe the people you are messaging are using googles reverse image search. Just a thought.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think if a male knew how many messages single females get they'd understand more....... It can be really overwhelming and as stated if you politely reply no you actually don't get left alone x x x x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't mind being rejected it vs opens we r adults but what annoys me is people who read your message view your pics and don't bother to reply, we took the effort to write to your so politeness dictate make an effort, even a "thanks but not interested sorry" is polite. "

Once again the Pizza analogy comes into play, the message you carefully craft and send is no more than junk mail offering a product, do you phone the local Pizza place and tell them thanks but no thanks when they put a leaflet through your door?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't mind being rejected it vs opens we r adults but what annoys me is people who read your message view your pics and don't bother to reply, we took the effort to write to your so politeness dictate make an effort, even a "thanks but not interested sorry" is polite. "

Having prefrences isn't ignorance, these ladies need to free up their time to respond to my messages so can't get bogged down with rejection letters

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

"Thanks but you're not for us, happy swinging"

"Why not"

(at this point do you tell the truth? e.g. sorry you have a face like a bucket full of worms, or do you get diplomatic?)

OK we'll go for diplomacy

"Sorry we just can't see any attraction"

"But if you meet me you'll see what a great guy I am"

"Look, just NO"

"Fuck off then you pair of fat cunts, I wouldn't waste my time on you"

See how it goes?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it more simple to just block people straight away when u receive a message and not interested, sounds harsh but then u don't have to bother with them again,"

My block list can't hold that many people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe the people you are messaging are using googles reverse image search. Just a thought. "
busted

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich


"I don't mind being rejected it vs opens we r adults but what annoys me is people who read your message view your pics and don't bother to reply, we took the effort to write to your so politeness dictate make an effort, even a "thanks but not interested sorry" is polite.

Once again the Pizza analogy comes into play, the message you carefully craft and send is no more than junk mail offering a product, do you phone the local Pizza place and tell them thanks but no thanks when they put a leaflet through your door?"

Do you advertise for Pizza menus? See that's where this analogy falls down. It only works if your profile says you are looking for one type and another type sends a message e.g. you are advertising for FF couples and a single or a MF couple messages you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seen as half your pictures aren't yours I'm not surprised

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe the people you are messaging are using googles reverse image search. Just a thought. busted "

Plagiarism is unattractive too.

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By *ipmummxWoman
over a year ago

milton keynes


"I don't mind being rejected it vs opens we r adults but what annoys me is people who read your message view your pics and don't bother to reply, we took the effort to write to your so politeness dictate make an effort, even a "thanks but not interested sorry" is polite.

Once again the Pizza analogy comes into play, the message you carefully craft and send is no more than junk mail offering a product, do you phone the local Pizza place and tell them thanks but no thanks when they put a leaflet through your door?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ignorance no

Rudeness yes - there's a difference.

But why get sooooo het up about it- move on x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seen as half your pictures aren't yours I'm not surprised "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't mind being rejected it vs opens we r adults but what annoys me is people who read your message view your pics and don't bother to reply, we took the effort to write to your so politeness dictate make an effort, even a "thanks but not interested sorry" is polite.

Once again the Pizza analogy comes into play, the message you carefully craft and send is no more than junk mail offering a product, do you phone the local Pizza place and tell them thanks but no thanks when they put a leaflet through your door?"

Quite honestly, if someone thought of me as nothing more than a Pizza leaflet, Im glad it never went any further.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich


"Maybe the people you are messaging are using googles reverse image search. Just a thought. "

I suspect everyone has now pmsl

Forum suicide

"OOh I've got a profile full of fake pics, I know, I'll post on the forum and draw attention to it"

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By *ivilizedkinkCouple
over a year ago

harrow


"Nobody dictates anything to us, you're not entitled to a reply regardless of how much you think so. We reply to people we're interested in and the occasional forum friends messages. The rest get filed B1N"

really dont like the use of the word dictate .

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By *dventuroususCouple
over a year ago

sunderland


"I don't mind being rejected it vs opens we r adults but what annoys me is people who read your message view your pics and don't bother to reply, we took the effort to write to your so politeness dictate make an effort, even a "thanks but not interested sorry" is polite. "

not replying has nothing to do with been polite, a no reply is an answer in itself it means not interested, read the site rules, do a forum search on the same subject it will tell you all you need to no, it isnt bad manners or impolite not to reply to a message you didnt ask for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't mind being rejected it vs opens we r adults but what annoys me is people who read your message view your pics and don't bother to reply, we took the effort to write to your so politeness dictate make an effort, even a "thanks but not interested sorry" is polite.

not replying has nothing to do with been polite, a no reply is an answer in itself it means not interested, read the site rules, do a forum search on the same subject it will tell you all you need to no, it isnt bad manners or impolite not to reply to a message you didnt ask for."

Logical fallacy - if no one messaged without first being asked, no one would message at all. Someone has to initiate the conversation!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think if a male knew how many messages single females get they'd understand more....... It can be really overwhelming and as stated if you politely reply no you actually don't get left alone x x x x"

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By *dventuroususCouple
over a year ago

sunderland


"I don't mind being rejected it vs opens we r adults but what annoys me is people who read your message view your pics and don't bother to reply, we took the effort to write to your so politeness dictate make an effort, even a "thanks but not interested sorry" is polite.

Once again the Pizza analogy comes into play, the message you carefully craft and send is no more than junk mail offering a product, do you phone the local Pizza place and tell them thanks but no thanks when they put a leaflet through your door?

Do you advertise for Pizza menus? See that's where this analogy falls down. It only works if your profile says you are looking for one type and another type sends a message e.g. you are advertising for FF couples and a single or a MF couple messages you."

no it doesnt fall down at all, just because you have a profile on a swingers site saying you are looking for m,f and mf doesnt mean that everyone of those is going to match what you have on your profile, half dont read it but message anyway, many others will read it and not match preferences but message anyway, others just simply arent what we are attracted to, it is the easiest and best way to concentrate on the ones we are interested in (since thats what we are here for) and not the ones we arent, then you see them crying on here about not getting a no thanks message and think, im pleased I didnt reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't mind being rejected it vs opens we r adults but what annoys me is people who read your message view your pics and don't bother to reply, we took the effort to write to your so politeness dictate make an effort, even a "thanks but not interested sorry" is polite.

Once again the Pizza analogy comes into play, the message you carefully craft and send is no more than junk mail offering a product, do you phone the local Pizza place and tell them thanks but no thanks when they put a leaflet through your door?"

What a great analogy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


""Thanks but you're not for us, happy swinging"

"Why not"

(at this point do you tell the truth? e.g. sorry you have a face like a bucket full of worms, or do you get diplomatic?)

OK we'll go for diplomacy

"Sorry we just can't see any attraction"

"But if you meet me you'll see what a great guy I am"

"Look, just NO"

"Fuck off then you pair of fat cunts, I wouldn't waste my time on you"

See how it goes?"

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By *illwill69uMan
over a year ago

moston

@OP

Don't be so 'sensitive'. Most single women and couples here get hit on by single males so much that they end up blocking single males. If you mail a girl or couple and they read your mail then reply just accept it and move on. At least they opened your mail, that's more than happens to lots of messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its all about egos.

It makes me laugh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe the people you are messaging are using googles reverse image search. Just a thought. busted "

Oh dear! I can't view his profile either on this account or my couples one, has he been naughty??!

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Opps someone got busted lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its all about egos.

It makes me laugh.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts


"Maybe the people you are messaging are using googles reverse image search. Just a thought. "

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By *aveandkate35Couple
over a year ago

telford


"I don't mind being rejected it vs opens we r adults but what annoys me is people who read your message view your pics and don't bother to reply, we took the effort to write to your so politeness dictate make an effort, even a "thanks but not interested sorry" is polite. "

To me, anyone who expects a reply on an adult contact website, is the type of person I won't reply to. Needy people, in this lifestyle, are like pubic hairs on a pizza.

And, people unable to use a search function. Who continuously raise the same point on a public forum that's been done to death more times than a victor meldrew impression. It just gets worse and more unbearable every time you hear it.

And yes I have a headache !

;-)

D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP maybe if you werent so pushy in messages and didnt block people before they had a chance to reply it might help. Then again you saved me a click in the Block button

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"Is it more simple to just block people straight away when u receive a message and not interested, sounds harsh but then u don't have to bother with them again,

My block list can't hold that many people. "

Don't tell me there is now a bloody limit in my blocked folder now. The current one is about to combust with activity though.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"OP maybe if you werent so pushy in messages and didnt block people before they had a chance to reply it might help. Then again you saved me a click in the Block button"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't mind being rejected it vs opens we r adults but what annoys me is people who read your message view your pics and don't bother to reply, we took the effort to write to your so politeness dictate make an effort, even a "thanks but not interested sorry" is polite. "

You sound like the kind of man who really needs to relax.

I am learning on here not to be such a nincompoop and chill out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP maybe if you werent so pushy in messages and didnt block people before they had a chance to reply it might help. Then again you saved me a click in the Block button"

I got blocked too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP maybe if you werent so pushy in messages and didnt block people before they had a chance to reply it might help. Then again you saved me a click in the Block button

"

Oh that's just impatience then on OP's part, tut...not attractive at all!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP maybe if you werent so pushy in messages and didnt block people before they had a chance to reply it might help. Then again you saved me a click in the Block button

I got blocked too "

Me too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP maybe if you werent so pushy in messages and didnt block people before they had a chance to reply it might help. Then again you saved me a click in the Block button

I got blocked too "

I've got a feeling his account has been suspended

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP maybe if you werent so pushy in messages and didnt block people before they had a chance to reply it might help. Then again you saved me a click in the Block button

I got blocked too

I've got a feeling his account has been suspended "

Oh dear!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP maybe if you werent so pushy in messages and didnt block people before they had a chance to reply it might help. Then again you saved me a click in the Block button

I got blocked too

I've got a feeling his account has been suspended "

Oh dear

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich


"I don't mind being rejected it vs opens we r adults but what annoys me is people who read your message view your pics and don't bother to reply, we took the effort to write to your so politeness dictate make an effort, even a "thanks but not interested sorry" is polite.

Once again the Pizza analogy comes into play, the message you carefully craft and send is no more than junk mail offering a product, do you phone the local Pizza place and tell them thanks but no thanks when they put a leaflet through your door?

Do you advertise for Pizza menus? See that's where this analogy falls down. It only works if your profile says you are looking for one type and another type sends a message e.g. you are advertising for FF couples and a single or a MF couple messages you.

no it doesnt fall down at all, just because you have a profile on a swingers site saying you are looking for m,f and mf doesnt mean that everyone of those is going to match what you have on your profile, half dont read it but message anyway, many others will read it and not match preferences but message anyway, others just simply arent what we are attracted to, it is the easiest and best way to concentrate on the ones we are interested in (since thats what we are here for) and not the ones we arent, then you see them crying on here about not getting a no thanks message and think, im pleased I didnt reply."

But you are soliciting messages

Fair enough, the ones that don't meet your written criteria are unsolicited but if you ask for single men of a certain age and don't happen to like their photo that doesn't mean the message from them was like a Pizza menu.

Don't get me wrong, I don't think people have to reply, it's just the analogy that is wrong.

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By *awty MaxWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Pmsl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One door closes, another will open.

Close thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP maybe if you werent so pushy in messages and didnt block people before they had a chance to reply it might help. Then again you saved me a click in the Block button

I got blocked too

I've got a feeling his account has been suspended

Oh dear "

My fb is with me and can't view his profile either. Seems he shot himself in the foot with this thread!!

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