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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Am I allowed a weekend rant?

Anyway here goes. My ex ( currently still in the same martial home ) until the end of the month is at work and planning on seeing his new girlfriend later tonight and staying with her for 4 days

The cheeky fucking twat sent me a text saying I'm running late at work can you pack some clothes for me so I only have to pop in and collect them. !!!!

Fuming !!!

Haven't packed any although did consider packing and putting a pair of my knickers in there !!!!

Rant over.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you got any itching powder?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd pack for him

But for longer than 4 days

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Is the objection packing for him, his request or that he's away for four days?

I assume you told him to sort himself out and that is what he'll have to do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am I allowed a weekend rant?

Anyway here goes. My ex ( currently still in the same martial home ) until the end of the month is at work and planning on seeing his new girlfriend later tonight and staying with her for 4 days

The cheeky fucking twat sent me a text saying I'm running late at work can you pack some clothes for me so I only have to pop in and collect them. !!!!

Fuming !!!

Haven't packed any although did consider packing and putting a pair of my knickers in there !!!!

Rant over.

Thats a guy thing, I wouldnt think twice about asking my ex the same thing. In my eyes we are best buds and I think she is cool in everything however women think different ALOT DIFFERENT! It is cheeky but him being typical wont of done it on purpose, thats just him seeing you as his best mate cause he thinks you know him better than anyone else thats all!

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By *az_1976Man
over a year ago

Peterborough/Huntingdon

If he's leaving you he is clearly mad so let him off due to his insanity

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

he must think you are a nice person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"he must think you are a nice person."

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Is the objection packing for him, his request or that he's away for four days?

I assume you told him to sort himself out and that is what he'll have to do.

I object packing for him. He will moan if I pack the wrong thing. Also asked me to be at home tomorrow as I am rehoming my two dogs as can't take them into rented accommodation and he would rather be with someone his known 2 weeks to saying good bye to the dogs we have had 6 years

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"he must think you are a nice person."

Yes, and in spite of everything else ..... he is RIGHT, you are!

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By *ip73Man
over a year ago

Stanwell

Pack his case with a selection of your clothes Inc undies that you no longer wear

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Ah fuck off, I can't be arsed ranting

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Is the objection packing for him, his request or that he's away for four days?

I assume you told him to sort himself out and that is what he'll have to do.

Then I hope you told him you wouldn't be packing for him. As for the dogs I doubt they will notice he hasn't said goodbye and maybe he is finding it difficult to say goodbye to them.

Apart from the sadness of saying goodbye to the dogs enjoy the time he isn't around.

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By *itten-xxxWoman
over a year ago

North West

Pack all your old clothes you don't wear and a few jumpers in lol and definitely some of your knickers. Cheeky man!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Pack his case with a selection of your clothes Inc undies that you no longer wear

That would really piss her off pulling out my clothes and his words. ' she wouldn't like you because she don't like fat people ' might put my Bridget jones pants in there !

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Is the objection packing for him, his request or that he's away for four days?

I assume you told him to sort himself out and that is what he'll have to do.

Then I hope you told him you wouldn't be packing for him. As for the dogs I doubt they will notice he hasn't said goodbye and maybe he is finding it difficult to say goodbye to them.

Apart from the sadness of saying goodbye to the dogs enjoy the time he isn't around.

I will find if difficult saying goodbye but it's me that's got to drive 75 miles each way to the dogs trust I needed his support. They don't like car journeys at the best if times

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By *isexmistressWoman
over a year ago

Prestwich

"Is the objection packing for him, his request or that he's away for four days?

I assume you told him to sort himself out and that is what he'll have to do.

Then I hope you told him you wouldn't be packing for him. As for the dogs I doubt they will notice he hasn't said goodbye and maybe he is finding it difficult to say goodbye to them.

Apart from the sadness of saying goodbye to the dogs enjoy the time he isn't around.

Both you and the dogs are well ride of this cretinous sounding plebe..

What you need to help pack is some Kippers,sown into the lining of his briefcase .. add a dollop of clotted cream and old stinky pants might not have such hot weekend..

Feeling for ya ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you parted amicably it would be fine. If the atmosphere is icy then he's being very cheeky, do nothing.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Is the objection packing for him, his request or that he's away for four days?

I assume you told him to sort himself out and that is what he'll have to do.

Then I hope you told him you wouldn't be packing for him. As for the dogs I doubt they will notice he hasn't said goodbye and maybe he is finding it difficult to say goodbye to them.

Apart from the sadness of saying goodbye to the dogs enjoy the time he isn't around.

I will find if difficult saying goodbye but it's me that's got to drive 75 miles each way to the dogs trust I needed his support. They don't like car journeys at the best if times

And that's the real issue and probably why you're no longer together. Wouldn't Wood Green Animal Shelter at Royston be closer to you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its very sad that you have to get rid of your dogs, i think you are well rid of him if he doesnt care about your dogs.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

"its very sad that you have to get rid of your dogs, i think you are well rid of him if he doesnt care about your dogs."

I'm with you on that.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Sorry Violet, I meant my last post in the nice nicest possible way, I appologise most humbly. I do not even know where to start again, sorrow is not a word that crosses my lips easily. Unfortunately on this occasion, you have brought a tear to my once dry eye

Now I'm feeling blue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you still have feelings for him?

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"Sorry Violet, I meant my last post in the nice nicest possible way, I appologise most humbly. I do not even know where to start again, sorrow is not a word that crosses my lips easily. Unfortunately on this occasion, you have brought a tear to my once dry eye

Now I'm feeling blue

Sarcasm at it's best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you still have feelings for him?"

In these situations I think it can be hard to bring closure to what you once had.

Even if you have lost the feelings for the other party, it is sad to bring things to a close.

That loss can be more than losing the person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id rip one leg out his jeans the back out his t shirt the heel out his socks the ass out his boxers....n smile sweetly at him....and say there u go sweetheart- enjoy

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Do you still have feelings for him?

In these situations I think it can be hard to bring closure to what you once had.

Even if you have lost the feelings for the other party, it is sad to bring things to a close.

That loss can be more than losing the person."

Hard as been married 23 years and was childhood sweet hearts

His been home packed his stuff for 4 days and gone to hers.

I'm spending this evening with my boys ( dogs)!

I tried wooded green but they don't have any kennel space and could be months

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When life gives you lemons...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you still have feelings for him?

In these situations I think it can be hard to bring closure to what you once had.

Even if you have lost the feelings for the other party, it is sad to bring things to a close.

That loss can be more than losing the person.

Hard as been married 23 years and was childhood sweet hearts

His been home packed his stuff for 4 days and gone to hers.

I'm spending this evening with my boys ( dogs)!

I tried wooded green but they don't have any kennel space and could be months

This post really breaks my heart, I feel so sorry for you and your dogs

hope your ok?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"When life gives you lemons...

Make lemonade

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Feel more sympathy for you poor dogs than either of you two.

Hope to hell you dont have any kids that you can cast aside so easily ..

Animals have feelings too & take a lot longer to settle into a new home than people do.

If your looking for sympathy we dont have any for you .... Move on & get over the break up your on a swing site

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Feel more sympathy for you poor dogs than either of you two.

Hope to hell you dont have any kids that you can cast aside so easily ..

Animals have feelings too & take a lot longer to settle into a new home than people do.

If your looking for sympathy we dont have any for you .... Move on & get over the break up your on a swing site

It's not by choice that the dogs are being rehomed

Lots of marriages break up for a number of reasons

I work full time and moving into a rented flat

So it's the dogs I'm thinking about !!!

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Do you still have feelings for him?

In these situations I think it can be hard to bring closure to what you once had.

Even if you have lost the feelings for the other party, it is sad to bring things to a close.

That loss can be more than losing the person.

Hard as been married 23 years and was childhood sweet hearts

His been home packed his stuff for 4 days and gone to hers.

I'm spending this evening with my boys ( dogs)!

I tried wooded green but they don't have any kennel space and could be months

Ending something that has been the biggest chunk of your life is difficult. When you don't care what he thinks or does then you will know some peace.

We've had all but one of our dogs from Wood Green.

Are you taking them to the new Dogs Trust place? It looks beautiful there and there is a funny story about the place. Their first tenant was a stray cat who wandered in and decided to live there just as they were moving into the offices.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd pack for him. Gets him out of the way, saves having a fight and gives you some peace and quiet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Feel more sympathy for you poor dogs than either of you two.

Hope to hell you dont have any kids that you can cast aside so easily ..

Animals have feelings too & take a lot longer to settle into a new home than people do.

If your looking for sympathy we dont have any for you .... Move on & get over the break up your on a swing site

It's not by choice that the dogs are being rehomed

Lots of marriages break up for a number of reasons

I work full time and moving into a rented flat

So it's the dogs I'm thinking about !!!

The poor animals have not been thought about they will suffer more than you or your ex.

An animal takes months/years to trust a new owner.

A human takes a few meets.

Yes marriages break up but your on a swing site so move on & relax,

As for working full time we both work full time have a collection of animals & rent a home but we will never re-home any of them,

Simply because they are our little family & we could never part with any of them for any reason

Your choice your reasons

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Feel more sympathy for you poor dogs than either of you two.

Hope to hell you dont have any kids that you can cast aside so easily ..

Animals have feelings too & take a lot longer to settle into a new home than people do.

If your looking for sympathy we dont have any for you .... Move on & get over the break up your on a swing site

It's not by choice that the dogs are being rehomed

Lots of marriages break up for a number of reasons

I work full time and moving into a rented flat

So it's the dogs I'm thinking about !!!

The poor animals have not been thought about they will suffer more than you or your ex.

An animal takes months/years to trust a new owner.

A human takes a few meets.

Yes marriages break up but your on a swing site so move on & relax,

As for working full time we both work full time have a collection of animals & rent a home but we will never re-home any of them,

Simply because they are our little family & we could never part with any of them for any reason

Your choice your reasons"

It is very difficult to find rented accommodation that will allow pets.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

A huge amount of landlords will not have people with pets...

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"Feel more sympathy for you poor dogs than either of you two.

Hope to hell you dont have any kids that you can cast aside so easily ..

Animals have feelings too & take a lot longer to settle into a new home than people do.

If your looking for sympathy we dont have any for you .... Move on & get over the break up your on a swing site

Bloody hell that was a bit harsh...we all don't live in a world where our pets can come with us...it's a decision I'm sure she has not made lightly

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Feel more sympathy for you poor dogs than either of you two.

Hope to hell you dont have any kids that you can cast aside so easily ..

Animals have feelings too & take a lot longer to settle into a new home than people do.

If your looking for sympathy we dont have any for you .... Move on & get over the break up your on a swing site

It's not by choice that the dogs are being rehomed

Lots of marriages break up for a number of reasons

I work full time and moving into a rented flat

So it's the dogs I'm thinking about !!!

The poor animals have not been thought about they will suffer more than you or your ex.

An animal takes months/years to trust a new owner.

A human takes a few meets.

Yes marriages break up but your on a swing site so move on & relax,

As for working full time we both work full time have a collection of animals & rent a home but we will never re-home any of them,

Simply because they are our little family & we could never part with any of them for any reason

Your choice your reasons"

So keeping two dogs in a flat all day whilst I'm at work isn't cruel ????

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"A huge amount of landlords will not have people with pets..."

So I saw this landlord walking down the road and his dog said, "Who's a pretty boy then?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Feel more sympathy for you poor dogs than either of you two.

Hope to hell you dont have any kids that you can cast aside so easily ..

Animals have feelings too & take a lot longer to settle into a new home than people do.

If your looking for sympathy we dont have any for you .... Move on & get over the break up your on a swing site

Most of my animals are from rescue - all of them have settled in within a few weeks. I'm sure the op is not, as you say, casting them aside easily. Personally I hate to see pets left home alone all day while their 'loving owners' are at work for 8 hours + per day.

All strength to you Violet for tomorrow and I hope the dogs get rehomed quickly.

As for the ex wanting you to pack for him ........ Sheesh, but he is in 'new pussy land'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sure violet is not giving her dogs away easily, at work all day and in a flat is not practical.

I have a cat, as with any animal if I couldn't look after him anymore, in the right way I would rehome as heart breaking as it is, the only way.

Her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

((((hugs)))) for violet x think of a mpnth from now x then six months x youll be well distant from him x its very hard but stay strong x

the dogs will be lived in a new home xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bloody hell cant believe it ...

Swing sites are the worst of the lot for the "so called single women in trouble"

Ahhh bless

I will help you

Cant upset the "clique on here" lot in the forums

We pay our membership we are allowed an opinion

I Mrs work everyday with animals, they get distressed without their " masters / owners"

They fret, lose fur or feathers & they cant settle for weeks/months so do not try & tell me they will be ok

I have had dogs/ birds come to us that have had to be put to sleep as they have fretted so much,

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Bloody hell cant believe it ...

Swing sites are the worst of the lot for the "so called single women in trouble"

Ahhh bless

I will help you

Cant upset the "clique on here" lot in the forums

We pay our membership we are allowed an opinion

I Mrs work everyday with animals, they get distressed without their " masters / owners"

They fret, lose fur or feathers & they cant settle for weeks/months so do not try & tell me they will be ok

I have had dogs/ birds come to us that have had to be put to sleep as they have fretted so much,

Yes, you're entitled to your opinion. It's not shared by others and my response would be the same for a man posting that he had to give up his dogs.

I have taken rescue animals and they have settled. For anyone who loves their animal/s to have to make the decision to give them up is not easy.

When a relationship ends things change. Landlords are more willing to take children than they are to take dogs/pets.

It doesn't sound like this is a domestic violence case but there are lots where people remain in violent relationships as they can't find anywhere to take their pets.

The sympathy being offered is for that difficult choice people sometimes have to make in life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

23 years is a long time. Love bad best wishes from Lola and me, for what it's worth.

Having been through a marriage break up years ago, it was a shitty time. But. One day soon the sun'll come out. Just wait and see

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"23 years is a long time. Love bad best wishes from Lola and me, for what it's worth.

Having been through a marriage break up years ago, it was a shitty time. But. One day soon the sun'll come out. Just wait and see

And!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am I allowed a weekend rant?

Anyway here goes. My ex ( currently still in the same martial home ) until the end of the month is at work and planning on seeing his new girlfriend later tonight and staying with her for 4 days

The cheeky fucking twat sent me a text saying I'm running late at work can you pack some clothes for me so I only have to pop in and collect them. !!!!

Fuming !!!

Haven't packed any although did consider packing and putting a pair of my knickers in there !!!!

Rant over.

Fucking cheek!

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Would you pack for a girlfriend ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id get my dog to shit in the bag with his clothes in to be honest!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I pack his cloths put letter in with yr knickers say hope she cums like me hope he enjoys grass not greener on orther side not be togeather long he miss his dogs cause hes dog for doining it to you he should be in kennel treated not like a dog

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do feel for the dogs its not there fault they part of famliy when you bring them into yr home its like giveing yr kids up at end of day but they animals xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bastard !

U never done it I hope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bastard !

U never done it I hope "
are you talking to me what ive put or some one else ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Feel more sympathy for you poor dogs than either of you two.

Hope to hell you dont have any kids that you can cast aside so easily ..

Animals have feelings too & take a lot longer to settle into a new home than people do.

If your looking for sympathy we dont have any for you .... Move on & get over the break up your on a swing site

I sort of agree with what you say as i wouldnt move anywhere where i couldnt take my dog, my dog is like a baby to me and i would never be able to stop thinking about her.

Although i think its kinder in some cases to take the dog to an animal shelter because some dogs can get lonely being on their own all day but not so bad if its two dogs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bloody hell cant believe it ...

Swing sites are the worst of the lot for the "so called single women in trouble"

Ahhh bless

I will help you

Cant upset the "clique on here" lot in the forums

We pay our membership we are allowed an opinion

I Mrs work everyday with animals, they get distressed without their " masters / owners"

They fret, lose fur or feathers & they cant settle for weeks/months so do not try & tell me they will be ok

I have had dogs/ birds come to us that have had to be put to sleep as they have fretted so much,

What a load of crock. I too work with animals but all of mine are treated like animals!!! Which they are!!! My cats couldn't give a toss if I'm not there, as long as they're fed!! The horses live out and are happy and healthy, the only exception is the dog that comes with me everyday but I'm lucky enough to do that, the op is being a responsible pet owner and yes you can have your opinion but it's bloody bunny huggers like you that has got all these rescue centres into an over populated mess.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

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"Bloody hell cant believe it ...

Swing sites are the worst of the lot for the "so called single women in trouble"

Ahhh bless

I will help you

Cant upset the "clique on here" lot in the forums

We pay our membership we are allowed an opinion

I Mrs work everyday with animals, they get distressed without their " masters / owners"

They fret, lose fur or feathers & they cant settle for weeks/months so do not try & tell me they will be ok

I have had dogs/ birds come to us that have had to be put to sleep as they have fretted so much,

Yup!!! Animals follow the pack leader. They don't care if that pack leader was different one day to another! Feed them, give them somewhere to sleep that is safe and they are happy.

All this placing human emotions on animals makes me cringe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bloody hell cant believe it ...

Swing sites are the worst of the lot for the "so called single women in trouble"

Ahhh bless

I will help you

Cant upset the "clique on here" lot in the forums

We pay our membership we are allowed an opinion

I Mrs work everyday with animals, they get distressed without their " masters / owners"

They fret, lose fur or feathers & they cant settle for weeks/months so do not try & tell me they will be ok

I have had dogs/ birds come to us that have had to be put to sleep as they have fretted so much,

Some people need to get off their high horse. When people have more sympathy for animals than people perhaps they should just keep their opinions to themselves. After all, every member on here is a human being.

And before you say it I AM an animal lover. I just appreciate how hard this is for violet.

I've had to make similar decisions regarding pets in the past and it's never been easy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bloody hell cant believe it ...

Swing sites are the worst of the lot for the "so called single women in trouble"

Ahhh bless

I will help you

Cant upset the "clique on here" lot in the forums

We pay our membership we are allowed an opinion

I Mrs work everyday with animals, they get distressed without their " masters / owners"

They fret, lose fur or feathers & they cant settle for weeks/months so do not try & tell me they will be ok

I have had dogs/ birds come to us that have had to be put to sleep as they have fretted so much,

And before you say it I AM an animal lover. I just appreciate how hard this is for violet.

I've had to make similar decisions regarding pets in the past and it's never been easy."

Theres nothing wrong with having more sympathy for animals than people if thats what people choose to do.

just because you think its wrong.

doesnt mean it is, thats just your opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bloody hell cant believe it ...

Swing sites are the worst of the lot for the "so called single women in trouble"

Ahhh bless

I will help you

Cant upset the "clique on here" lot in the forums

We pay our membership we are allowed an opinion

I Mrs work everyday with animals, they get distressed without their " masters / owners"

They fret, lose fur or feathers & they cant settle for weeks/months so do not try & tell me they will be ok

I have had dogs/ birds come to us that have had to be put to sleep as they have fretted so much,

And before you say it I AM an animal lover. I just appreciate how hard this is for violet.

I've had to make similar decisions regarding pets in the past and it's never been easy.

Theres nothing wrong with having more sympathy for animals than people if thats what people choose to do.

just because you think its wrong.

doesnt mean it is, thats just your opinion.

I agree, in life in general. But this is a swingers site where all members are people. I prefer animals to people but that doesn't mean I can't empathise with Violet and feel her pain! More concerned about her than the dogs, sorry! Get a grip people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bloody hell cant believe it ...

Swing sites are the worst of the lot for the "so called single women in trouble"

Ahhh bless

I will help you

Cant upset the "clique on here" lot in the forums

We pay our membership we are allowed an opinion

I Mrs work everyday with animals, they get distressed without their " masters / owners"

They fret, lose fur or feathers & they cant settle for weeks/months so do not try & tell me they will be ok

I have had dogs/ birds come to us that have had to be put to sleep as they have fretted so much,

And before you say it I AM an animal lover. I just appreciate how hard this is for violet.

I've had to make similar decisions regarding pets in the past and it's never been easy.

Theres nothing wrong with having more sympathy for animals than people if thats what people choose to do.

just because you think its wrong.

doesnt mean it is, thats just your opinion.

What do you mean by all members on here are people

they wouldnt be animals would they.

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over a year ago

"Bloody hell cant believe it ...

Swing sites are the worst of the lot for the "so called single women in trouble"

Ahhh bless

I will help you

Cant upset the "clique on here" lot in the forums

We pay our membership we are allowed an opinion

I Mrs work everyday with animals, they get distressed without their " masters / owners"

They fret, lose fur or feathers & they cant settle for weeks/months so do not try & tell me they will be ok

I have had dogs/ birds come to us that have had to be put to sleep as they have fretted so much,

And before you say it I AM an animal lover. I just appreciate how hard this is for violet.

I've had to make similar decisions regarding pets in the past and it's never been easy.

Theres nothing wrong with having more sympathy for animals than people if thats what people choose to do.

just because you think its wrong.

doesnt mean it is, thats just your opinion.

What do you mean by all members on here are people

they wouldnt be animals would they.

Sorry, did someone say something?! What a ridiculous comment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bloody hell cant believe it ...

Swing sites are the worst of the lot for the "so called single women in trouble"

Ahhh bless

I will help you

Cant upset the "clique on here" lot in the forums

We pay our membership we are allowed an opinion

I Mrs work everyday with animals, they get distressed without their " masters / owners"

They fret, lose fur or feathers & they cant settle for weeks/months so do not try & tell me they will be ok

I have had dogs/ birds come to us that have had to be put to sleep as they have fretted so much,

And before you say it I AM an animal lover. I just appreciate how hard this is for violet.

I've had to make similar decisions regarding pets in the past and it's never been easy.

Theres nothing wrong with having more sympathy for animals than people if thats what people choose to do.

just because you think its wrong.

doesnt mean it is, thats just your opinion.

What do you mean by all members on here are people

they wouldnt be animals would they.

Sorry, did someone say something?! What a ridiculous comment. "

Well sorry but i was thinking the same.

sort of stating the obvious, that swingers are people and not animals.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Back from an emotional morning thank you for your nice comments and some not so nice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Feel more sympathy for you poor dogs than either of you two.

Hope to hell you dont have any kids that you can cast aside so easily ..

Animals have feelings too & take a lot longer to settle into a new home than people do.

If your looking for sympathy we dont have any for you .... Move on & get over the break up your on a swing site

It's not by choice that the dogs are being rehomed

Lots of marriages break up for a number of reasons

I work full time and moving into a rented flat

So it's the dogs I'm thinking about !!!

The poor animals have not been thought about they will suffer more than you or your ex.

An animal takes months/years to trust a new owner.

A human takes a few meets.

Yes marriages break up but your on a swing site so move on & relax,

As for working full time we both work full time have a collection of animals & rent a home but we will never re-home any of them,

Simply because they are our little family & we could never part with any of them for any reason

Your choice your reasons"

I totally agree. The OP and her husband should clearly have stayed together for the sake of the dogs

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over a year ago

"Back from an emotional morning thank you for your nice comments and some not so nice

Really hope your ok, know you've done the right thing. People like that should be greatful they've never been in your position xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Back from an emotional morning thank you for your nice comments and some not so nice

Really hope your ok, know you've done the right thing. People like that should be greatful they've never been in your position xx"

Never thought I would have been in the position to rehome and wouldn't wish that on anyone. Physically and emotionally draining.

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over a year ago

"Back from an emotional morning thank you for your nice comments and some not so nice

Really hope your ok, know you've done the right thing. People like that should be greatful they've never been in your position xx

Never thought I would have been in the position to rehome and wouldn't wish that on anyone. Physically and emotionally draining. "

Aw that's shit hunni - hope you're okay, you must be feeling awful

I shouldn't be surprised at some comments above I suppose

but I think the insensitive comments towards the OP are misguided. She is trying to do the best she can under the circumstances. Surely the idiots are the people that just thrown their pets out, leaving them to fend for themselves ? Then one could understand the tone of such comments.

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over a year ago

"Back from an emotional morning thank you for your nice comments and some not so nice

Really hope your ok, know you've done the right thing. People like that should be greatful they've never been in your position xx

Never thought I would have been in the position to rehome and wouldn't wish that on anyone. Physically and emotionally draining. "

You've totally done the right thing for your circumstances...there's no way you can work full time, look after 2 dogs & be in rented accommodation.

They will be rehomed (possibly together) and they will be fine. All of my pets have been from Battersea and they've settled in just fine.

Big hugs to you xxx

Just want to add I can't believe how harsh a minority of people have been ~ I know it's a forum & everyone is intitled to an opinion, but really..!!!

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Now I've moved into a house with a garden I'm in a position to have pets however I work over 8 hours a day and the thought of the dog being in the house all day..it's not fair on animals to be in the house on their own for long periods of time..I'm sorry that you have had to give up your animals it is a sad event for anyone...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Next I have to say goodbye to my two donkeys.

Living with 6 acres and down sizing to a flat.

I didn't get the animals thinking at any point they would need to go. In our 23 yr marriage we have had many animals all lost to illness or age. Some if which I adopted.

I know my animals will be looked after by the new families that adopt them

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over a year ago

"Next I have to say goodbye to my two donkeys.

Living with 6 acres and down sizing to a flat.

I didn't get the animals thinking at any point they would need to go. In our 23 yr marriage we have had many animals all lost to illness or age. Some if which I adopted.

I know my animals will be looked after by the new families that adopt them

You see lots of dogs from battersea dogs home on paul o gradys for the love of dogs who get re homed and go and live with some realy nice people, so its not all bad, there are some decent people out there who are kind to animals and you sound like a nice lady who has had some bad luck.

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over a year ago

Step away from fab you won't find what you looking for from here . You will end up doing crazy stuff becuase you are upset .

You are on here whilst married

Now split up with your husband

So you obviously didn't want to be with him anyway ...

Take time out and focus on yourself

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"Step away from fab you won't find what you looking for from here . You will end up doing crazy stuff becuase you are upset .

You are on here whilst married

Now split up with your husband

So you obviously didn't want to be with him anyway ...

Take time out and focus on yourself

I think you have jumped the gun there a bit...they are separated living in the same home due to whatever reason...I'm sure she was not on fab when they were together.....

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over a year ago

"Step away from fab you won't find what you looking for from here . You will end up doing crazy stuff becuase you are upset .

You are on here whilst married

Now split up with your husband

So you obviously didn't want to be with him anyway ...

Take time out and focus on yourself

I think you have jumped the gun there a bit...they are separated living in the same home due to whatever reason...I'm sure she was not on fab when they were together..... "

Oh I see ok sorry

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over a year ago

i dont get the rant, tbh.

he asked you a perfectly reasonable request.

IF you were mates and he was having a holiday away, and running late, you would pack him a bag

IF you were still together, and he was going for a business trip, you would have packed him a bag.

im sure there are things you have asked him to do since you 'separated' that could have been judged as being just the same as this request (i dunno, washing your dishes, or doing your laundry, taking care of your car, helping with the bills or whatever, it makes no difference what)

as for saying goodbye to the dogs, well, i see myself as a dog person, and yet, even i can sit here and say they are dogs. just dogs. not kids.

if you have formed too strong a bond with them (as you seem to have seeings as you called them your boys) then thats your problem, not his.

he is your ex.

he doesnt have to be there to support you.

you let him off that little requirement when you agreed to part with him, and indeed, he you.

im sorry its hitting you hard (although you seem to have found yourself enough fun on here so you dont have to miss him too much), you will have to move on from it and get yourself together for your move.

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over a year ago

"i dont get the rant, tbh.

he asked you a perfectly reasonable request.

IF you were mates and he was having a holiday away, and running late, you would pack him a bag

IF you were still together, and he was going for a business trip, you would have packed him a bag.

as for saying goodbye to the dogs, well, i see myself as a dog person, and yet, even i can sit here and say they are dogs. just dogs. not kids.

if you have formed too strong a bond with them (as you seem to have seeings as you called them your boys) then thats your problem, not his.

he is your ex.

he doesnt have to be there to support you.

you let him off that little requirement when you agreed to part with him, and indeed, he you.

How unfeeling can you get. This lady has had a desperate 24 hours, all things considered. You make it sound like they are just a couple of happy go lucky housemates, which they are clearly far from. 23 years of marriage is a long time, you can't switch off your feelings for the other person. Sometimes, life is not as simple as just being able to leave when you feel like it; very often, circumstances will keep you in a place because you aren't able to afford to move. She sounds like she's trying to do the best she can and simply aired her distaste for a thoughtless act by her ex in a forum where she is a member.

And no. This is not some man hating woman typing. It's Joe. I recognise that sometimes - just sometimes - us blokes can be twats.

Here endeth.

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By *LCoupleCouple
over a year ago

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Violet I hope none of the negative posts on here have got to you. Chin up hunny things will get better.

Mr KL.

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over a year ago

"i dont get the rant, tbh.

he asked you a perfectly reasonable request.

IF you were mates and he was having a holiday away, and running late, you would pack him a bag

IF you were still together, and he was going for a business trip, you would have packed him a bag.

as for saying goodbye to the dogs, well, i see myself as a dog person, and yet, even i can sit here and say they are dogs. just dogs. not kids.

if you have formed too strong a bond with them (as you seem to have seeings as you called them your boys) then thats your problem, not his.

he is your ex.

he doesnt have to be there to support you.

you let him off that little requirement when you agreed to part with him, and indeed, he you.

And no. This is not some man hating woman typing. It's Joe. I recognise that sometimes - just sometimes - us blokes can be twats.

Here endeth.

how can one suggest a person still has deep feelings for an ex partner, whilst said person is carving out a good passtime of recreational sex with people off the internet?

you cant just have it both ways you know.

if you love the person you are separated from, then you would try everything to get them back.

if you are happy to go off and enduce carnal activity with others, then your feelings must have dissipated somewhat.

yes Joe, i appreciate some men can obviously be twats, however, shite knights generally only come with balls, whether they have a partner or not.

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over a year ago

i have absolutely nothing against violet.

she is a lovely woman, every time i have spoken with her.

i just dont get what the rant is about.

him asking a favour

him not being there to get rid of the pets

him having a girlfriend?

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over a year ago

Does it really matter what the rant was about?

Violet obviously thought it was a tad cheeky of her ex to ask her to pack him a bag so that he could spend 4 days with his new GF..

We are all entitled to a rant now and then!!

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"i have absolutely nothing against violet.

she is a lovely woman, every time i have spoken with her.

i just dont get what the rant is about.

him asking a favour

him not being there to get rid of the pets

him having a girlfriend?"

So say for arguments sake you and V had been together 23 years had split up and was still living in the same house and she phoned you up and said do me a favour I'm off to my new blokes house and I've not got time to pack a bag would you do it for me??? Would you not be slightly pissed off??

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over a year ago

I would of just said yes my dear i will pack some for you 26 black bags later wow look at all this extra space i have now got

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over a year ago

"i have absolutely nothing against violet.

she is a lovely woman, every time i have spoken with her.

i just dont get what the rant is about.

him asking a favour

him not being there to get rid of the pets

him having a girlfriend?

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

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how can one suggest a person still has deep feelings for an ex partner, whilst said person is carving out a good passtime of recreational sex with people off the internet?"

You do read the forums don't you?

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over a year ago

"i have absolutely nothing against violet.

she is a lovely woman, every time i have spoken with her.

i just dont get what the rant is about.

him asking a favour

him not being there to get rid of the pets

him having a girlfriend?

lol

we dont even live together now.....

but thats what i dont get.

miss V (the OP, not mine) has a 'special friend', and also has 'fun friends' and im almost certain her ex fella has to do things to facilitate her hooking up with others, even if its just being somewhere else, or whatever.

its all supposition, obviously, but there seems to be more than a little its ok for one, but not for the other, going on.

i really dont see what he has done wrong.

would it have been any better had he rung and said 'im running late, can you make sure you chuck some petrol in the car/get me some money out the bank/get me some food to take away with me for the weekend, on your way home from shopping, please'?

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over a year ago

"i have absolutely nothing against violet.

she is a lovely woman, every time i have spoken with her.

i just dont get what the rant is about.

him asking a favour

him not being there to get rid of the pets

him having a girlfriend?

lol

we dont even live together now.....

but thats what i dont get.

its all supposition, obviously, but there seems to be more than a little its ok for one, but not for the other, going on.

i really dont see what he has done wrong.

Good point and an interesting way of looking at it. Life's not black and white. Nice one H.

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over a year ago

"i dont get the rant, tbh.

he asked you a perfectly reasonable request.

IF you were mates and he was having a holiday away, and running late, you would pack him a bag

IF you were still together, and he was going for a business trip, you would have packed him a bag.

as for saying goodbye to the dogs, well, i see myself as a dog person, and yet, even i can sit here and say they are dogs. just dogs. not kids.

if you have formed too strong a bond with them (as you seem to have seeings as you called them your boys) then thats your problem, not his.

he is your ex.

he doesnt have to be there to support you.

you let him off that little requirement when you agreed to part with him, and indeed, he you.

And no. This is not some man hating woman typing. It's Joe. I recognise that sometimes - just sometimes - us blokes can be twats.

Here endeth.

how can one suggest a person still has deep feelings for an ex partner, whilst said person is carving out a good passtime of recreational sex with people off the internet?

you cant just have it both ways you know.

if you love the person you are separated from, then you would try everything to get them back.

if you are happy to go off and enduce carnal activity with others, then your feelings must have dissipated somewhat.

yes Joe, i appreciate some men can obviously be twats, however, shite knights generally only come with balls, whether they have a partner or not.

I didn't say deep feelings, I simply said you can't just turn off your emotions after such a long time. Whether the lady here has had sexual encounters from here or wherever is not relevant, unless she too has asked her ex to help her 'pack a bag' to do so of course! Help me out here, OP, you didn't do that did you? I think at the heart of this is a simple thing called consideration. It's a bit like rubbing ones nose in it, don't you think (sorry for the dog analogy, given the subject matter)?

As an aside, I didn't understand the shit knights thing. Me being thick maybe. Gouts playing up something chronic and concentration is a challenge!

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over a year ago

Ok ...... A couple of years ago we agreed ( me and husband ) to have an open relationship we could see others for sex hence I joined fab. On the understanding it was no strings and we didn't bring it home. I am lead to believe he joined another site but we never discussed it.

Anyway he since found a new partner and told me it was over

Hence why we have decided to seperate and me move out ( we currently live in a farmers cottage on his parents farm ) hence the animals

I was upset about the text about the clothes as one I would never ask him to do that or similar and two he told me he would be there Sunday when I rehome the dogs instead he went to hers. That's why I ranted

To top it all off. I got made redundant yesterday

So .........

Thank you for your supportive messages xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He sounds like a selfish bastard you are better off without someone like that.

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over a year ago

Fucks sake honey . It's all shit right now hey xx chin up xxxx coffee if required x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Fucks sake honey . It's all shit right now hey xx chin up xxxx coffee if required x"

Thank you xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Violet you shouldn't have to justify yourself to anyone...

Keep your chin up lovely

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over a year ago

"Violet you shouldn't have to justify yourself to anyone...

Keep your chin up lovely

This

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over a year ago

V, on the jobs front, things are looking up. the recession is lifting, people are taking on, there is work out there, if you want it. no longer are we at the mercy of bosses that want more and give us nothing, or at least its the start lol

silver linings and clouds, further opportunities and so on.

use this as an opportunity to grow and take the next step onto another plain that is the new and better miss V.

the same goes for your relationship.

tying yourself into a relationship with your ex, whether open or not, is still being tied down.

you may be having sex with others, and he also, but you are still entwined with each other.

he has already moved on, and see you more as a housemate rather than a partner (hence the perfectly reasonable request, imo, although seems im alone)

when you both decided the relationship had run its course, you should have made moves to change your situation, but didnt (not just you, but either of you) probably as you got want you wanted out of the situation, then, but things have moved on and he has changed the dynamic.

as for the animals, im guessing because its his parents farm, he has been brought up with animals, so doesnt get bogged down with that close bond with them anymore (again, pure guess work, but getting close to sheep/pigs you will be eating on sunday probably gets old hat quite quickly) so he is never going to support you in saying goodbye to the dogs when he has possibly said goodbye to hundreds of animals since he was young.

as i started this off, take the opportunity to have a fresh start, both personally and professionally. you will come out of it in better shape with a better life, i have no doubt.

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