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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I go through many phases and have had many different profiles over the years. I want to Dom, I want to be dommed, want to explore fetishes and taboos, only do clubs, only do hotels, only if you accommodate, single only, married only, regular fb, only one off!!! The list is endless lol. Yes I finicky and indecisive (I like to think experimental lol) but I feel as long as I'm expressing what I want its all good. However, I'd say that 90% of my messages are from the same guys and the message is cut and pasted with no reference to what I'm wanting. Why don't guys take the time to read and see if the fit the woman's requirements then they will be less moaning about not getting replies. Or are they playing the numbers game and just hoping somebody will say yes and the don't care what the sexual scenario is??

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By *LCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk

Its probably the latter.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

your profile doesnt say that much!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because some men are desperate

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"your profile doesnt say that much!"

I used to write war and peace but nobody read so now I just keep it short and simple, but do you know what in the cpl of months I've been on I've not had one single message regarding fetishes!

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville


"your profile doesnt say that much!

I used to write war and peace but nobody read so now I just keep it short and simple, but do you know what in the cpl of months I've been on I've not had one single message regarding fetishes! "

all the same - you've not pu on what you do like or what you're looking for. Guys dont know you so put on a bit of what you are after. Or, search for people that may interest you and message ??

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Its probably the latter. "

Some might be in for the fright of there life if they turned up for a meet and I'm there with hammer and nails wanting to hammer into their sack lmao (not that I do that but I know people who do) and it'd serve them right if it was all there in black and white lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mainly because you say 'if you don't attach a pic I'll delete without reading' but also you don't have a picture handy in your profile. As a guy this speaks as 'she's very self conscious and easy to bed'

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

Just can't be arsed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just can't be arsed."

And quite a lot of this as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I go through many phases and have had many different profiles over the years. I want to Dom, I want to be dommed, want to explore fetishes and taboos, only do clubs, only do hotels, only if you accommodate, single only, married only, regular fb, only one off!!! The list is endless lol. Yes I finicky and indecisive (I like to think experimental lol) but I feel as long as I'm expressing what I want its all good. However, I'd say that 90% of my messages are from the same guys and the message is cut and pasted with no reference to what I'm wanting. Why don't guys take the time to read and see if the fit the woman's requirements then they will be less moaning about not getting replies. Or are they playing the numbers game and just hoping somebody will say yes and the don't care what the sexual scenario is??"
Why not put "Some men are not fussy " ? Its a very sweeping statement when you suggest all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I want to Dom, I want to be dommed, want to explore fetishes and taboos, only do clubs, only do hotels, only if you accommodate, single only, married only, regular fb, only one off!!! The list is endless lol. "

So you are up for anything then... pretty much what your profile says so how do men hit your particular interests? As above they are probably playing the numbers game, if you like the look and reply then it may get more personal and filter down to what you are after at that particular time.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"your profile doesnt say that much!

I used to write war and peace but nobody read so now I just keep it short and simple, but do you know what in the cpl of months I've been on I've not had one single message regarding fetishes!

all the same - you've not pu on what you do like or what you're looking for. Guys dont know you so put on a bit of what you are after. Or, search for people that may interest you and message ?? "

Because I don't have any fetishes but I'm intrigued to explore and find out more see if anything turns me on....tired of the same run of the mill boring stuff want a guy to introduce me to new thing. And obviously I look and message ONLY the ones that interest me, not paste a message to every man in a 10 mile radius

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i love a girl in rubber is that fetish enough

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It was a question, and how can it be a sweeping statement if I wrote "some" implying not all?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I go through many phases and have had many different profiles over the years. I want to Dom, I want to be dommed, want to explore fetishes and taboos, only do clubs, only do hotels, only if you accommodate, single only, married only, regular fb, only one off!!! The list is endless lol. Yes I finicky and indecisive (I like to think experimental lol) but I feel as long as I'm expressing what I want its all good. However, I'd say that 90% of my messages are from the same guys and the message is cut and pasted with no reference to what I'm wanting. Why don't guys take the time to read and see if the fit the woman's requirements then they will be less moaning about not getting replies. Or are they playing the numbers game and just hoping somebody will say yes and the don't care what the sexual scenario is??"

Love the way the women on here think they deserve the best all the time.

Men are visual creatures so if, like you, there is no images your not giving them much to work with.

I put effort into my messages but seeing things like 'don't message me without a face pic' on a profile that doesn't have a single image to show do make me laugh. Especially when the same person wants to have a whinge about the calibre of people they receive messages from

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You kinda gotta know what your kinks are before delving into fetishism. Vaguely at least.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It was a question, and how can it be a sweeping statement if I wrote "some" implying not all?"
The title says . Men are not fussy . Stopped reading after that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You don't really give the men much to go in your profile, so how are they meant to know if they fit what your looking for?.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I go through many phases and have had many different profiles over the years. I want to Dom, I want to be dommed, want to explore fetishes and taboos, only do clubs, only do hotels, only if you accommodate, single only, married only, regular fb, only one off!!! The list is endless lol. Yes I finicky and indecisive (I like to think experimental lol) but I feel as long as I'm expressing what I want its all good. However, I'd say that 90% of my messages are from the same guys and the message is cut and pasted with no reference to what I'm wanting. Why don't guys take the time to read and see if the fit the woman's requirements then they will be less moaning about not getting replies. Or are they playing the numbers game and just hoping somebody will say yes and the don't care what the sexual scenario is??

Love the way the women on here think they deserve the best all the time.

Men are visual creatures so if, like you, there is no images your not giving them much to work with.

I put effort into my messages but seeing things like 'don't message me without a face pic' on a profile that doesn't have a single image to show do make me laugh. Especially when the same person wants to have a whinge about the calibre of people they receive messages from "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you also thought that if you go through phases that men might go through then as well?

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden


"Just can't be arsed.

And quite a lot of this as well."

No, I meant me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just can't be arsed.

And quite a lot of this as well.

No, I meant me."

Me too!

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By *estlands4Man
over a year ago

Sidmouth

Question for you - you have no photos but are expecting face shots in the intro message and you are complaining about the lack of detail in the message - meet the men halfway

Busty and average could mean absolutely anything on here how can a man spend time putting into words what he'd like to explore with you when there is so little to work with?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm fussy. I read profiles and I'm here to please and be pleased.

That I tick their boxes and that they tick mine are equally important. Well, 45%-55%

Quality over quantity when it comes to my meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Question for you - you have no photos but are expecting face shots in the intro message and you are complaining about the lack of detail in the message - meet the men halfway

Busty and average could mean absolutely anything on here how can a man spend time putting into words what he'd like to explore with you when there is so little to work with? "

Good point!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Have you also thought that if you go through phases that men might go through then as well?"

I certainly have and I was going to make that point at the beginning but if I was getting them from the same guy that one time said I love to be dommed and the next said I want a sub etc I would totally understand. But when I get the copy and pasted message (that being my point) I know they haven't even read.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Question for you - you have no photos but are expecting face shots in the intro message and you are complaining about the lack of detail in the message - meet the men halfway

"

I request to see pics first due to my position but totally respect those that choose not to message me because of that fact, as I also respect guys decision not to put pics up. I don't message them abusively, I move on to the next profile as I assume a lot of men do with mine. If they choose to message me with a photo and I like then I reply with mine. I don't force anyone to message me so I feel this is an irrelevant and laboured point that I have to justify continuously.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm fussy. I read profiles and I'm here to please and be pleased.

That I tick their boxes and that they tick mine are equally important. Well, 45%-55%

Quality over quantity when it comes to my meets. "

I like that. I would never meet a guy with a copy and pasted message I feel he's just desperate and don't care about who he's messaging. A simple hi, here's my pic if you like me reply and we can discuss how I think we are suited would suffice.

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden


"Just can't be arsed.

And quite a lot of this as well.

No, I meant me.

Me too! "

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By *estlands4Man
over a year ago

Sidmouth


"I'm fussy. I read profiles and I'm here to please and be pleased.

That I tick their boxes and that they tick mine are equally important. Well, 45%-55%

Quality over quantity when it comes to my meets.

I like that. I would never meet a guy with a copy and pasted message I feel he's just desperate and don't care about who he's messaging. A simple hi, here's my pic if you like me reply and we can discuss how I think we are suited would suffice. "

But that's my point because of your I want photos but won't show any rule you are more likely to get the copy and paste desperate do the numbers thing guys as they don't realty know what you look like or what you are after

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A certain type of man will mail a profile with no pics and not much info. I know this because like you, I usually have very little in my profile text and only one pic.

I don't want to meet the type of man that will mail someone with a crap profile like mine...!!

So.... I go looking for myself. I send a mail to people I like the sound of, with info about me and some pics in it. I also explain why my profile is crap- to put people off mailing and so I can choose who sees my info/ pics. Also like you, I change my mind often about what I'm looking for, so I change my mail to suit that.

I find that works really well for me. Maybe give that a try?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm fussy. I read profiles and I'm here to please and be pleased.

That I tick their boxes and that they tick mine are equally important. Well, 45%-55%

Quality over quantity when it comes to my meets.

I like that. I would never meet a guy with a copy and pasted message I feel he's just desperate and don't care about who he's messaging. A simple hi, here's my pic if you like me reply and we can discuss how I think we are suited would suffice.

But that's my point because of your I want photos but won't show any rule you are more likely to get the copy and paste desperate do the numbers thing guys as they don't realty know what you look like or what you are after "

Agree!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm fussy. I read profiles and I'm here to please and be pleased.

That I tick their boxes and that they tick mine are equally important. Well, 45%-55%

Quality over quantity when it comes to my meets.

I like that. I would never meet a guy with a copy and pasted message I feel he's just desperate and don't care about who he's messaging. A simple hi, here's my pic if you like me reply and we can discuss how I think we are suited would suffice.

But that's my point because of your I want photos but won't show any rule you are more likely to get the copy and paste desperate do the numbers thing guys as they don't realty know what you look like or what you are after

Agree! "

Fair point, I'll just have to continue sifting through the knobs that cut and paste and hope for the best I managed to meet a lot of amazing people so I guess my selection process is working

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"A certain type of man will mail a profile with no pics and not much info. I know this because like you, I usually have very little in my profile text and only one pic.

I don't want to meet the type of man that will mail someone with a crap profile like mine...!!

So.... I go looking for myself. I send a mail to people I like the sound of, with info about me and some pics in it. I also explain why my profile is crap- to put people off mailing and so I can choose who sees my info/ pics. Also like you, I change my mind often about what I'm looking for, so I change my mail to suit that.

I find that works really well for me. Maybe give that a try?"

I like your thinking mines crap coz I'm sick of writing to be ignored or critised for only stating what I'm looking for!! Also because I change profile often to avoid all the guys that mither me. In the beginning they where too descriptive and people I didn't want to recognized me so now I keep it basic x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A certain type of man will mail a profile with no pics and not much info. I know this because like you, I usually have very little in my profile text and only one pic.

I don't want to meet the type of man that will mail someone with a crap profile like mine...!!

So.... I go looking for myself. I send a mail to people I like the sound of, with info about me and some pics in it. I also explain why my profile is crap- to put people off mailing and so I can choose who sees my info/ pics. Also like you, I change my mind often about what I'm looking for, so I change my mail to suit that.

I find that works really well for me. Maybe give that a try?

I like your thinking mines crap coz I'm sick of writing to be ignored or critised for only stating what I'm looking for!! Also because I change profile often to avoid all the guys that mither me. In the beginning they where too descriptive and people I didn't want to recognized me so now I keep it basic x"

Same here. I am meeting really... but don't tell anyone! Shhhh.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Haha my lips are sealed x

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By *ScotsmanMan
over a year ago

ayrshire

You again..Thats a full week away and it only takes 3hours to get here and I'll take you to culzean castle for a right good humping. X x X

i have seen her by the way

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You again..Thats a full week away and it only takes 3hours to get here and I'll take you to culzean castle for a right good humping. X x X

i have seen her by the way "

Shhh don't tell anyone what I look like think we'll be up soon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"your profile doesnt say that much!

I used to write war and peace but nobody read so now I just keep it short and simple, but do you know what in the cpl of months I've been on I've not had one single message regarding fetishes! "

I'm sorry if I might buck the trend I think your profile is short and to the point ! It tells the reader( if anyone bothers?) that really you want to be contacted by someone into fetishes and would like to explore that avenue of your sexuality?

Pictures hey ! If you don't want to put them up its your choice and why should you !

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"your profile doesnt say that much!

I used to write war and peace but nobody read so now I just keep it short and simple, but do you know what in the cpl of months I've been on I've not had one single message regarding fetishes!

I'm sorry if I might buck the trend I think your profile is short and to the point ! It tells the reader( if anyone bothers?) that really you want to be contacted by someone into fetishes and would like to explore that avenue of your sexuality?

Pictures hey ! If you don't want to put them up its your choice and why should you !"

Well thank you, when it was longer and more descriptive people would critcise and say that its too long to read (I timed myself it was 90 secs lol) don't think that's long if you wanna invite them to fuck you haha xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You kinda gotta know what your kinks are before delving into fetishism. Vaguely at least."

That's true but as a sub with amazing doms, they are showing me kinks I never dreamed I'd want to try and end up loving

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wahey!! Tarnished by the brush yet again!!

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By *andS66Couple
over a year ago

Derby

Wow! Your profile is, frankly, shockingly bad, and you insist on pics yet have none of your own....

WTF do you expect?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You kinda gotta know what your kinks are before delving into fetishism. Vaguely at least.

That's true but as a sub with amazing doms, they are showing me kinks I never dreamed I'd want to try and end up loving"

That's what I want, I've googled and researched and not found anything I haven't done need someone to give me new exciting ideas. Plus if, for example, I put on I had a foot fetish I'd have hundreds of men claiming that's there's too who actually had no idea about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I go through many phases and have had many different profiles over the years. I want to Dom, I want to be dommed, want to explore fetishes and taboos, only do clubs, only do hotels, only if you accommodate, single only, married only, regular fb, only one off!!! The list is endless lol. Yes I finicky and indecisive (I like to think experimental lol) but I feel as long as I'm expressing what I want its all good. However, I'd say that 90% of my messages are from the same guys and the message is cut and pasted with no reference to what I'm wanting. Why don't guys take the time to read and see if the fit the woman's requirements then they will be less moaning about not getting replies. Or are they playing the numbers game and just hoping somebody will say yes and the don't care what the sexual scenario is??"

To a horny single the first line of your profile seals the deal and the message is sent

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

For example I put on my status today that I'd had a shag in the woods and had about 50 messages saying that was their fetish! I want people to tell me not go along with anything I say to get laid. I do have an idea but won't state it and also as explained I am open to new things so don't just want a string of messages agreeing with me. If I meet somebody that intrigues me I'll tell them mine and see if we can explore together x

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"For example I put on my status today that I'd had a shag in the woods and had about 50 messages saying that was their fetish! I want people to tell me not go along with anything I say to get laid. I do have an idea but won't state it and also as explained I am open to new things so don't just want a string of messages agreeing with me. If I meet somebody that intrigues me I'll tell them mine and see if we can explore together x"

If you put a status like that then of course men will chance their arm and message you..block all single men and message the ones that interest you if it's bothering you so much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I go through many phases and have had many different profiles over the years. I want to Dom, I want to be dommed, want to explore fetishes and taboos, only do clubs, only do hotels, only if you accommodate, single only, married only, regular fb, only one off!!! The list is endless lol. Yes I finicky and indecisive (I like to think experimental lol) but I feel as long as I'm expressing what I want its all good. However, I'd say that 90% of my messages are from the same guys and the message is cut and pasted with no reference to what I'm wanting. Why don't guys take the time to read and see if the fit the woman's requirements then they will be less moaning about not getting replies. Or are they playing the numbers game and just hoping somebody will say yes and the don't care what the sexual scenario is??"

Sometimes when I do a search I come across a profile that makes me think about what I am going to say in the message. So I have a think and send it later.

Your profile puts all the emphasis on the sender. It's almost like you expect to be entertained.

I think doing your own searching is the way forward.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I go through many phases and have had many different profiles over the years. I want to Dom, I want to be dommed, want to explore fetishes and taboos, only do clubs, only do hotels, only if you accommodate, single only, married only, regular fb, only one off!!! The list is endless lol. Yes I finicky and indecisive (I like to think experimental lol) but I feel as long as I'm expressing what I want its all good. However, I'd say that 90% of my messages are from the same guys and the message is cut and pasted with no reference to what I'm wanting. Why don't guys take the time to read and see if the fit the woman's requirements then they will be less moaning about not getting replies. Or are they playing the numbers game and just hoping somebody will say yes and the don't care what the sexual scenario is??

Sometimes when I do a search I come across a profile that makes me think about what I am going to say in the message. So I have a think and send it later.

Your profile puts all the emphasis on the sender. It's almost like you expect to be entertained.

I think doing your own searching is the way forward."

I do my own searches, I said that early.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"For example I put on my status today that I'd had a shag in the woods and had about 50 messages saying that was their fetish! I want people to tell me not go along with anything I say to get laid. I do have an idea but won't state it and also as explained I am open to new things so don't just want a st ring of messages agreeing with me. If I meet somebody that intrigues me I'll tell them mine and see if we can explore together x

If you put a status like that then of course men will chance their arm and message you..block all single men and message the ones that interest you if it's bothering you so much "

What do you think is bothering me? I never said anything does (I don't think ) don't want to block all single men just wish some would make the effort to read the profile first. However, I've had a light bulb moment, I get all the dickheads coz I don't have a photo up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I go through many phases and have had many different profiles over the years. I want to Dom, I want to be dommed, want to explore fetishes and taboos, only do clubs, only do hotels, only if you accommodate, single only, married only, regular fb, only one off!!! The list is endless lol. Yes I finicky and indecisive (I like to think experimental lol) but I feel as long as I'm expressing what I want its all good. However, I'd say that 90% of my messages are from the same guys and the message is cut and pasted with no reference to what I'm wanting. Why don't guys take the time to read and see if the fit the woman's requirements then they will be less moaning about not getting replies. Or are they playing the numbers game and just hoping somebody will say yes and the don't care what the sexual scenario is??

Sometimes when I do a search I come across a profile that makes me think about what I am going to say in the message. So I have a think and send it later.

Your profile puts all the emphasis on the sender. It's almost like you expect to be entertained.

I think doing your own searching is the way forward.

I do my own searches, I said that early."

Would you message a guy with a profile like yours?

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"For example I put on my status today that I'd had a shag in the woods and had about 50 messages saying that was their fetish! I want people to tell me not go along with anything I say to get laid. I do have an idea but won't state it and also as explained I am open to new things so don't just want a st ring of messages agreeing with me. If I meet somebody that intrigues me I'll tell them mine and see if we can explore together x

If you put a status like that then of course men will chance their arm and message you..block all single men and message the ones that interest you if it's bothering you so much

What do you think is bothering me? I never said anything does (I don't think ) don't want to block all single men just wish some would make the effort to read the profile first. However, I've had a light bulb moment, I get all the dickheads coz I don't have a photo up."

It must be bothering you as you pretty much slated them in your opening post about not making an effort etc..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is just my way of thinking but I reckon the "person" Who started this thread just wants to read the filthy messages and not really act on them, why not show us your pic?

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"This is just my way of thinking but I reckon the "person" Who started this thread just wants to read the filthy messages and not really act on them, why not show us your pic?"

To be fair she doesn't have to if she doesn't want to...however nor do others have to show her their photos if they do not wish too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well, maybe you should put what you enjoyed in the past, so then people can paint a picture of your likes, you have to know what it is that turned you on. For example: I love anal play (giving) I love oral sex (giving) orgasm control (giving) restrain (both) shibari (giving) lingerie, biting, voyeurism, breath play (giving) sensory deprivation (giving) pinwheel play, begging, kissing I got some others that i have experience with but I fear people would judge me for them... On a swingers site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I go through many phases and have had many different profiles over the years. I want to Dom, I want to be dommed, want to explore fetishes and taboos, only do clubs, only do hotels, only if you accommodate, single only, married only, regular fb, only one off!!! The list is endless lol. Yes I finicky and indecisive (I like to think experimental lol) but I feel as long as I'm expressing what I want its all good. However, I'd say that 90% of my messages are from the same guys and the message is cut and pasted with no reference to what I'm wanting. Why don't guys take the time to read and see if the fit the woman's requirements then they will be less moaning about not getting replies. Or are they playing the numbers game and just hoping somebody will say yes and the don't care what the sexual scenario is??"
Your post is somewhat of a juxtaposition with your profile?

As the ratio to (supposedly) single men to women on this site is around 1000:1 statics would suggest that of those potential 999 suitors a good proportion are purveyors of panda type sex!

Quality is hard to find in most aspects of life and a free to enter random sex site then quality will be at a premium.

I do not understand what you expect when you analyse the ratios? A good proportion of those single contacts will send out tens of e mails in a day in the off chance they will get a bite probably from one who is as less disconcerting as them.

There is nothing wrong with having strict and qualitative standards I fear you will search a long time in satisfying them on this site?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Well, maybe you should put what you enjoyed in the past, so then people can paint a picture of your likes, you have to know what it is that turned you on. For example: I love anal play (giving) I love oral sex (giving) orgasm control (giving) restrain (both) shibari (giving) lingerie, biting, voyeurism, breath play (giving) sensory deprivation (giving) pinwheel play, begging, kissing I got some others that i have experience with but I fear people would judge me for them... On a swingers site "

Tried hun. I only ever get "I like that too", I want people to be original and think for themselves. Was shibari BTW? You are the kinda person I'd like to meet shame you are far away x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shibari is Japanese rope bondage. Check your messages, just sent you one

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Shibari is Japanese rope bondage. Check your messages, just sent you one"

Oh I've tried that just didn't know the name. He said he was an expert but couldn't do it! I was very disappointed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile is vague so the messages you get will also be vague. If you're looking for something specific is unlikely to happen without some kind of clue about what direction you're heading in as fetishes can be very varied . Mentioning you're switch for example might be a start to give someone an idea what you might want. There is also the fact that some may not want to tell you their specific fetish straight off as they may feel it'd scare you off, or that the vagueness of your profile simply means you don't know what you want. And you need to remember that this is a swinger's site, not a kink one... Yes there are some kinky folk but most will want to establish a level of trust before indulging in certain activities.

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