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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I much prefer somebody, with wit, humour and intelligence but obviously I can see that on a pic so I'm wondering whether by reading the forums I'll get a good opinion of somebody's personality?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you have to meet someone in person to see their personality

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks are important for me but overall personality is the most important thing.

I don't care how beautiful you are, zero sense of humour or always being uptight and boring would be a seal breaker for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both for me please. I do have to find them attractive for that spark. But personality and a sense of humour is what keeps me interested.

Some of the most prettiest people can even be the most ugliest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I much prefer somebody, with wit, humour and intelligence but obviously I can see that on a pic so I'm wondering whether by reading the forums I'll get a good opinion of somebody's personality? "

You will find a great selection of people within the forums form the criminally insane to the damm right outrageous but you will have lots of fun. You know you might be lucky to find both wit and looks so having your cake and eating him err sorry I mean it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think you have to meet someone in person to see their personality "

This ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are they mutually exclusive....???

I have both...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I much prefer somebody, with wit, humour and intelligence but obviously I can see that on a pic so I'm wondering whether by reading the forums I'll get a good opinion of somebody's personality? "

I can quite often tell from messaging if we'll get on...get on the phone as soon as possible and then meet.

Only way to know.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I do think there has to be a degree of attraction aswell but I do find myself attracted to people I wouldn't usual consider after I get to know them. However, I get a lot of men saying "give me a chance I'm a nice person" on here.... If I gave everyone I didn't fancy a chance I'd have no time for anything else in my life lol x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I much prefer somebody, with wit, humour and intelligence but obviously I can see that on a pic so I'm wondering whether by reading the forums I'll get a good opinion of somebody's personality?

I can quite often tell from messaging if we'll get on...get on the phone as soon as possible and then meet.

Only way to know."

Only trouble is I don't want to talk to them if I'm not attracted to them. I know I could be missing out on lovely men but if I spoke to everyone just on the off chance we'd get on it'd be a full time job haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I am judging people on their looks and I don't like that this makes me look and feel shallow but what is the alternative on this site? I can't access chat!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I much prefer somebody, with wit, humour and intelligence but obviously I can see that on a pic so I'm wondering whether by reading the forums I'll get a good opinion of somebody's personality?

I can quite often tell from messaging if we'll get on...get on the phone as soon as possible and then meet.

Only way to know.

Only trouble is I don't want to talk to them if I'm not attracted to them. I know I could be missing out on lovely men but if I spoke to everyone just on the off chance we'd get on it'd be a full time job haha "

Um you don't have to talk to them....

if you like the look of them then do so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd like to think most of us would opt for someone with a personality unless it's a spontaneous meet in a dark place.

Silk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks like it's the dark room only for me then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks

I don't need to connect with sum1 to shag em and rarely would I repeat meet anyway.

That said, it helps if you do get on with them.

Just as well we only meet guys then eh ? Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why have one when you can have both?!

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By *adyGardenWoman
over a year ago

LONDON (se)

Here it does start on looks but after a social meet what happens after is down to personality and a connection

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If somebody can make me laugh then there more than half way there. Looks are not everything I've had good looking people who were seriously embedded in there own arse , find that a massive turn off x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

both is good... but you can't fuck a personality

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By *imjohnCouple
over a year ago

Clacton on sea, Essex

Personality makes a person sexy...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just thought the forum might be the perfect platform to chat and have a laugh and be able to base my opinion on something other than rock hard abs and model like features lol (I have been very spoilt on here with guys way outta my league :/ ha)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"both is good... but you can't fuck a personality "

No way!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personality before looks for me.

There has to be the connection and chemistry.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

To me it's about confidence, I have met people who I would have said were not beautiful, however their (not over) confidence created both great personality and a very attractive person.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Personality makes a person sexy..."

Totally agree have turned up at club with the most gorgeous men and they have bored the shit outta me and other times less attractive men I've had an absolute ball with and would always choose the latter should I meet again as having fun makes the sex better

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By *imjohnCouple
over a year ago

Clacton on sea, Essex


"Personality makes a person sexy...

Totally agree have turned up at club with the most gorgeous men and they have bored the shit outta me and other times less attractive men I've had an absolute ball with and would always choose the latter should I meet again as having fun makes the sex better "

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By *onkers 76Man
over a year ago

pontypool

has to be some level of attraction but personality goes a hell of a way for me. And tbh I hope mine counts as im not the best looking guy some might say an acquired taste lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I much prefer somebody, with wit, humour and intelligence but obviously I can see that on a pic so I'm wondering whether by reading the forums I'll get a good opinion of somebody's personality? "

The forums are a good place to get a sense if someone's personality but as only a small percentage of Fab users use the forums it limits your choice. That said all the best people are on here

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

Swinging ...looks

Life partner....both.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personality makes a person sexy..."

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks first has to be something about her I really like personality after a bit of brains and common sense goes a long way

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"Are they mutually exclusive....???

I have both... "

I wont tell you again to stop looking through my letterbox Mr Euro

But seriously folks, personality means more to me

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville


"I much prefer somebody, with wit, humour and intelligence but obviously I can see that on a pic so I'm wondering whether by reading the forums I'll get a good opinion of somebody's personality? "

lol you absolutely will! Nice people turn deadly in an instant!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both are needed in various measures, a club meet limited conversation, no need to see again, looks are probably going to be the best asset, a continuing friendship then personality takes precedence.

Someone who is average in both will probably be the strongest appeal to us, though some I find physically attractive L doesn't and vice versa.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are they mutually exclusive....???

I have both...

I wont tell you again to stop looking through my letterbox Mr Euro

But seriously folks, personality means more to me "

You know I only look through ya letterbox when I needs a break from lickin ya windows...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both. No compromise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Must be sociable but for sex meets its looks everytime

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By *MaleMan
over a year ago

Both although no matter how good someone looks if the personality's brown coloured it aint gonna work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I much prefer somebody, with wit, humour and intelligence but obviously I can see that on a pic so I'm wondering whether by reading the forums I'll get a good opinion of somebody's personality? "

So many are so different in real life from the way they try to portray themselves on the forums. You just start smiling and sake the forum personality with a pinch of salt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think you have to meet someone in person to see their personality "

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"Both. No compromise. "

He would need a very tall ladder to reach my windows

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By *isexmistressWoman
over a year ago

Prestwich

I work with models week in week out and for me its personality over looks every time .

If I ENJOY the company of a person,guy or girl,with effortless banter and lots of laughing,thats a huuuge plus..

I also like minimal messaging(busy girl/inundated).

So,read the profile,check meet dates,Get to the point,quickly

AND MEET..

There is no substitute for actual meeting to see how well you get on with someone..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I work with models week in week out and for me its personality over looks every time .

If I ENJOY the company of a person,guy or girl,with effortless banter and lots of laughing,thats a huuuge plus..

I also like minimal messaging(busy girl/inundated).

So,read the profile,check meet dates,Get to the point,quickly

AND MEET..

There is no substitute for actual meeting to see how well you get on with someone.."

Totally agree only problem is I only wanna meet the good looking ones Lol

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

Looks, looks, looks.

Then personality.

I'm shallow like that.

Or am I just honest?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Looks, looks, looks.

Then personality.

I'm shallow like that.

Or am I just honest? "

Honest I think. Majority of the time that what first attracts you. I'm only ever attracted to people I wouldnt initially be attracted to when I spend time with them ie. Work etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I much prefer somebody, with wit, humour and intelligence but obviously I can see that on a pic so I'm wondering whether by reading the forums I'll get a good opinion of somebody's personality? "

i think you can get a feel for someone's personality on here but you need to meet them to know for sure

there are some that i just know i wouldn't get on with from their posts on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Both for me please. I do have to find them attractive for that spark. But personality and a sense of humour is what keeps me interested.

Some of the most prettiest people can even be the most ugliest.

"

I agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To the lurkers sending me abuse from this thread. You're most probably reading this anyway.

I prefer to fuck those who can spell too if they were to send me messages.

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