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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

These repetitive threads have been an ever present part of the forums and probably will be for as long as there is a forum. I don't know whether the discussions on these threads change the original mind sets of the contibutors or what they actually achieve with regard to the specific topic being discussed, but if for some, that is the only measure of these threads then so much is being missed.

People sell themselves in their profiles and therefore attempt to portray an image. These threads on the other hand often give a window into the character traits of those who post on them.

Secure, insecure, spiteful, sycophant, confident, jealous, condescending, tactful, honest, dishonest, realist, fantasist, emotional, intelligent, bigot, thoughtful, reactive, desperate and many more.

I think these threads are the most revealing on FAB when it comes to peoples real characters.

This thread is not about the subject matter of the 'label' threads (as I call them). It's really asking the question on your view of the benefits (or not) of those threads.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

It just makes it clear the people that clearly won't find me attractive and vice versa and those that I would not wish to meet due to extreme views etc..

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"These repetitive threads have been an ever present part of the forums and probably will be for as long as there is a forum. I don't know whether the discussions on these threads change the original mind sets of the contibutors or what they actually achieve with regard to the specific topic being discussed, but if for some, that is the only measure of these threads then so much is being missed.

People sell themselves in their profiles and therefore attempt to portray an image. These threads on the other hand often give a window into the character traits of those who post on them.

Secure, insecure, spiteful, sycophant, confident, jealous, condescending, tactful, honest, dishonest, realist, fantasist, emotional, intelligent, bigot, thoughtful, reactive, desperate and many more.

I think these threads are the most revealing on FAB when it comes to peoples real characters.

This thread is not about the subject matter of the 'label' threads (as I call them). It's really asking the question on your view of the benefits (or not) of those threads.

"
I think your observation is spot on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"These repetitive threads have been an ever present part of the forums and probably will be for as long as there is a forum. I don't know whether the discussions on these threads change the original mind sets of the contibutors or what they actually achieve with regard to the specific topic being discussed, but if for some, that is the only measure of these threads then so much is being missed.

People sell themselves in their profiles and therefore attempt to portray an image. These threads on the other hand often give a window into the character traits of those who post on them.

Secure, insecure, spiteful, sycophant, confident, jealous, condescending, tactful, honest, dishonest, realist, fantasist, emotional, intelligent, bigot, thoughtful, reactive, desperate and many more.

I think these threads are the most revealing on FAB when it comes to peoples real characters.

This thread is not about the subject matter of the 'label' threads (as I call them). It's really asking the question on your view of the benefits (or not) of those threads.

"
I agree although the repetition means I find myself moving into playing the fool mode

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

I am fairly catholic in my tastes (there may be certain physical characteristics that initially draw me to a person but there are definite mental characteristics I go for) and don't tend to post on these threads since I have nothing to add and no personal stake or opinion either way. They are sometimes fascinating though; especially when the thread takes an odd turn. Some of them can prove quite reactionary, and sometimes the reactions are what make me decide to contact or avoid another poster in future.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not that bothered as to what opinions people are forming about banal chat in a swingers forum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am fairly catholic in my tastes (there may be certain physical characteristics that initially draw me to a person but there are definite mental characteristics I go for) and don't tend to post on these threads since I have nothing to add and no personal stake or opinion either way. They are sometimes fascinating though; especially when the thread takes an odd turn. Some of them can prove quite reactionary, and sometimes the reactions are what make me decide to contact or avoid another poster in future."

I'm Catholic - but very uncatholic

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"These repetitive threads have been an ever present part of the forums and probably will be for as long as there is a forum. I don't know whether the discussions on these threads change the original mind sets of the contibutors or what they actually achieve with regard to the specific topic being discussed, but if for some, that is the only measure of these threads then so much is being missed.

People sell themselves in their profiles and therefore attempt to portray an image. These threads on the other hand often give a window into the character traits of those who post on them.

Secure, insecure, spiteful, sycophant, confident, jealous, condescending, tactful, honest, dishonest, realist, fantasist, emotional, intelligent, bigot, thoughtful, reactive, desperate and many more.

I think these threads are the most revealing on FAB when it comes to peoples real characters.

This thread is not about the subject matter of the 'label' threads (as I call them). It's really asking the question on your view of the benefits (or not) of those threads.

I think your observation is spot on. "

would agree with this also..

the lack of humanity from some at times is really saddening and some whom would perhaps not be happy to be looked down upon by others due to participating in this aspect are only too willing to not grant others that same response ..

hey ho..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not that bothered as to what opinions people are forming about banal chat in a swingers forum."

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am fairly catholic in my tastes (there may be certain physical characteristics that initially draw me to a person but there are definite mental characteristics I go for) and don't tend to post on these threads since I have nothing to add and no personal stake or opinion either way. They are sometimes fascinating though; especially when the thread takes an odd turn. Some of them can prove quite reactionary, and sometimes the reactions are what make me decide to contact or avoid another poster in future.

I'm Catholic - but very uncatholic "

Has it been a while since you last confessed?!

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

I don't disagree with you OP but then I dont think you can build a charchter profile of someone through what they post.

They could be totally differnt when sat down face to face.

My opinion is some people here take things and themselves far too serious, Im not suggesting you are, what I mean is its only the internet. 'Only'.... yeah right.

I dont think theres one person here who could genuienly personally offend me as they dont know me and I dont have enough respect for them to be hurt by what they type.

The most I think is 'What the fuck you on about you fool, your talking utter shit' rather than 'Omg your a psycopath'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm just me. And i will be in every thread. I don't know what people think of me, whether they like me or not. But, i can't change how i am.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"I'm not that bothered as to what opinions people are forming about banal chat in a swingers forum."

would agree where it is 'banal' but on some of the threads the OP refers to there are some pretty extreme views albeit some wont come right out and fully say what they think..

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"These repetitive threads have been an ever present part of the forums and probably will be for as long as there is a forum. I don't know whether the discussions on these threads change the original mind sets of the contibutors or what they actually achieve with regard to the specific topic being discussed, but if for some, that is the only measure of these threads then so much is being missed.

People sell themselves in their profiles and therefore attempt to portray an image. These threads on the other hand often give a window into the character traits of those who post on them.

Secure, insecure, spiteful, sycophant, confident, jealous, condescending, tactful, honest, dishonest, realist, fantasist, emotional, intelligent, bigot, thoughtful, reactive, desperate and many more.

I think these threads are the most revealing on FAB when it comes to peoples real characters.

"

I am sure you are right. Sometimes people will get carried away by the feeding frenzy or lynchmob mentality, but it often makes for fascinating reading. Funny how one post can totally turn you off a person!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think we have displayed all of the traits you mention at one time or another !

The threads do keep coming up , actually to be honest we are really only bothered about what people think of us when they actually meet us , not what they base us on for what we post .

Clearly there are many forum posters who have a very different perspective to us , or a completely different sense of humour . That may be a good filter either way lol !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find them very revealing and cause me to use the block button a lot ! Lol

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

I don't mind the repetitive nature. Just because I have seen this 'label thread' doesn't mean every one else has seen it, therefore make another why don't you, internet paper is free!

Regarding these threads revealing certain character traits of the posters, I agree, but that is the case in any thread, even my 'dead grandmother ANEL' threads.

End of the day it's just the internets. It's all full of shit, take out of it what you will!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with much of your sentiment, however as you touched upon....how much is achieved or are mindsets altered ?

I have cringed at some content and lack of tact but...and a big but....its better that it's openly discussed and opinions offered than for people to assume their perspective is the widely held and acceptable one ?

I've been wrong on plenty of things and I guess it's only via others perspectives you get the bigger picture to help you decide your choices in life ?

Though after all that I do find the critics of the fuller figured ladies are most comical as without doubt those males will generally jump at the chance. It's all about tastes and tolerance and respect or failing that just keep your mouth shut.

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff


"I find them very revealing and cause me to use the block button a lot ! Lol "

You still see their forum posts though don't you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't mind the repetitive nature. Just because I have seen this 'label thread' doesn't mean every one else has seen it, therefore make another why don't you, internet paper is free!

Regarding these threads revealing certain character traits of the posters, I agree, but that is the case in any thread, even my 'dead grandmother ANEL' threads.

End of the day it's just the internets. It's all full of shit, take out of it what you will!"

All full of shit.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

These type of threads do get a bit repetitive, but I don't have to read them. Quite a few people reveal more than they intend about their views.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't disagree with you OP but then I dont think you can build a charchter profile of someone through what they post.

They could be totally differnt when sat down face to face.

My opinion is some people here take things and themselves far too serious, Im not suggesting you are, what I mean is its only the internet. 'Only'.... yeah right.

I dont think theres one person here who could genuienly personally offend me as they dont know me and I dont have enough respect for them to be hurt by what they type.

The most I think is 'What the fuck you on about you fool, your talking utter shit' rather than 'Omg your a psycopath'"

I agree, you may get someone's opinion at the time of something but you can't use it to make an informed judgement of them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't mind them. It helps new forum users get an idea of what they can expect. It can be very insightful, not to just their views and opinions but how immersed they are in the world of Fabs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't disagree with you OP but then I dont think you can build a charchter profile of someone through what they post.

They could be totally differnt when sat down face to face.

My opinion is some people here take things and themselves far too serious, Im not suggesting you are, what I mean is its only the internet. 'Only'.... yeah right.

I dont think theres one person here who could genuienly personally offend me as they dont know me and I dont have enough respect for them to be hurt by what they type.

The most I think is 'What the fuck you on about you fool, your talking utter shit' rather than 'Omg your a psycopath'

I agree, you may get someone's opinion at the time of something but you can't use it to make an informed judgement of them"

Perhaps not in the context of one thread, but over a period of time the posters may show particular traits that you view as negative such as intolerance or aggressiveness.

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By *ittyticklerCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

As a newbie to swinging, and a feminist, I was pleasantly surprised at the egalitarianism of swingers. Women are celebrated as "big beautiful women", no one is a tart, slag etc (unless they want to be) and it's a good thing to be female and have plenty of sex with different people.

It just goes to show how there is something (at least sexually) for everyone.

I am uncomfortable with the "knowingness" about BBC. Racial stereotyping, however positive that I don't like at all. There's also a club night near us called "Jungle Fever", which I find the title of offensive.

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff


"I don't disagree with you OP but then I dont think you can build a charchter profile of someone through what they post.

They could be totally differnt when sat down face to face.

My opinion is some people here take things and themselves far too serious, Im not suggesting you are, what I mean is its only the internet. 'Only'.... yeah right.

I dont think theres one person here who could genuienly personally offend me as they dont know me and I dont have enough respect for them to be hurt by what they type.

The most I think is 'What the fuck you on about you fool, your talking utter shit' rather than 'Omg your a psycopath'

I agree, you may get someone's opinion at the time of something but you can't use it to make an informed judgement of them

Perhaps not in the context of one thread, but over a period of time the posters may show particular traits that you view as negative such as intolerance or aggressiveness."

Its that old line I suppose:

Some people will, some wont. That dosent help I know.

What I mean is some people will be totally differn't in real life, even after typing with the same attitude for years.

Typing almost allows a certain amount of Jekyl and Hyde, an alter ego is you like.

In regards to myself, the people off the internet confirmed that I am in real life, as I am on a forum once we had met. Im not on about this place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Could equally say that people could make judgements about these kinds of discussions - the underlying accusations, the dreaded threats of being blocked, the stalkerish analysis of what and how people express viewpoints.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't mind the threads. It's the people who have no opinion who can't wait to get the popcorn or tin hat out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am fairly catholic in my tastes (there may be certain physical characteristics that initially draw me to a person but there are definite mental characteristics I go for) and don't tend to post on these threads since I have nothing to add and no personal stake or opinion either way. They are sometimes fascinating though; especially when the thread takes an odd turn. Some of them can prove quite reactionary, and sometimes the reactions are what make me decide to contact or avoid another poster in future."

My family are all catholic. But all that potpourri gets up my nose!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most the forum threads reveal a little bit about posters character an gives little insights into there personality. Personally I take a bit of salt with everything sweet and a sprinkle of sugar with everything sour

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is just an online forum. Nobody actually says what they mean. It's not a true reflection of who you are in real life I don't think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like the threads. Even if they get posted a few times a week- for those of us here a while it may seem repetitive. But for someone new to the forums it's a new topic for them and I think it's unfair when people jump on them saying it's been posted before.

I have never blocked anyone because of their views on a thread. It's just words on a screen. I like the banter and debate and how people put their opinions across.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is just an online forum. Nobody actually says what they mean. It's not a true reflection of who you are in real life I don't think "

I'm pretty much the same here as in the street....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is just an online forum. Nobody actually says what they mean. It's not a true reflection of who you are in real life I don't think

I'm pretty much the same here as in the street...."

Do you walk around the street in just your knickers as well? Kudos! Live the dream!

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By *irtysnapperMan
over a year ago

Bromsgrove

People make exactly the same judgements in real life too, based on first impressions, and they're very often wrong once you get to know people. And lots of people put on a persona in public that's very different from how they actually are. Or a different persona depending on where they are and who they're with, which can be a useful skill sometimes. The internet is no different, although I think you do get closer to the 'real' person because they're generally not so guarded on forums as they might be face to face.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is just an online forum. Nobody actually says what they mean. It's not a true reflection of who you are in real life I don't think

I'm pretty much the same here as in the street...."

You not even slightly more argumentative? Stick to your guns rather then let things go? Say things just to wind people up? More passive aggressive on here? Maybe overly nice to get meets etc? I think most people can say they are different on forums to normal life. I mean many things are said which you couldn't say in normal life and you wouldn't dream of saying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like the threads. Even if they get posted a few times a week- for those of us here a while it may seem repetitive. But for someone new to the forums it's a new topic for them and I think it's unfair when people jump on them saying it's been posted before.

I have never blocked anyone because of their views on a thread. It's just words on a screen. I like the banter and debate and how people put their opinions across. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is just an online forum. Nobody actually says what they mean. It's not a true reflection of who you are in real life I don't think

I'm pretty much the same here as in the street....

You not even slightly more argumentative? Stick to your guns rather then let things go? Say things just to wind people up? More passive aggressive on here? Maybe overly nice to get meets etc? I think most people can say they are different on forums to normal life. I mean many things are said which you couldn't say in normal life and you wouldn't dream of saying. "

I'll say it again...pretty much the same personality here as in the street.

I didn't say I walk around discussing gangbangs with the other mummies...I am saying my traits are the same...cheeky and feisty...etc.

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff


"I like the threads. Even if they get posted a few times a week- for those of us here a while it may seem repetitive. But for someone new to the forums it's a new topic for them and I think it's unfair when people jump on them saying it's been posted before.

I have never blocked anyone because of their views on a thread. It's just words on a screen. I like the banter and debate and how people put their opinions across. "

I try not to tell people its been posted before, no harm in saying 'there is one going already', with a search button its pretty lazy if you post a thread thats already on the front page.

The world cup is a fine example of that.

Same with RIP threads when a celeb departs.

These type threads arn't the kind the OP is on about though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is just an online forum. Nobody actually says what they mean. It's not a true reflection of who you are in real life I don't think

I'm pretty much the same here as in the street....

You not even slightly more argumentative? Stick to your guns rather then let things go? Say things just to wind people up? More passive aggressive on here? Maybe overly nice to get meets etc? I think most people can say they are different on forums to normal life. I mean many things are said which you couldn't say in normal life and you wouldn't dream of saying.

I'll say it again...pretty much the same personality here as in the street.

I didn't say I walk around discussing gangbangs with the other mummies...I am saying my traits are the same...cheeky and feisty...etc.

"

Well I not seen you be feisty yet so will wait and see when that charteristic comes up in the forums

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia


"These repetitive threads have been an ever present part of the forums and probably will be for as long as there is a forum. I don't know whether the discussions on these threads change the original mind sets of the contibutors or what they actually achieve with regard to the specific topic being discussed, but if for some, that is the only measure of these threads then so much is being missed.

People sell themselves in their profiles and therefore attempt to portray an image. These threads on the other hand often give a window into the character traits of those who post on them.

Secure, insecure, spiteful, sycophant, confident, jealous, condescending, tactful, honest, dishonest, realist, fantasist, emotional, intelligent, bigot, thoughtful, reactive, desperate and many more.

I think these threads are the most revealing on FAB when it comes to peoples real characters.

This thread is not about the subject matter of the 'label' threads (as I call them). It's really asking the question on your view of the benefits (or not) of those threads.

"
Hallelujah! Well said!

If there is any benefit to the ' label' threads it is the insight, to not only the OP who initiates the debate, but also the responses they provoke , with the twists and turns as the threads progresses. Sometimes amusing and often real cringe worthy. The true colours of the person oozes out a bit more. Sadly many insecurities are often shared which are then fed more and the circle carries on ....

There are some very strong , sometimes extream views out there! For us it helps fill our block list! So every cloud has a silver linning!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"These repetitive threads have been an ever present part of the forums and probably will be for as long as there is a forum. I don't know whether the discussions on these threads change the original mind sets of the contibutors or what they actually achieve with regard to the specific topic being discussed, but if for some, that is the only measure of these threads then so much is being missed.

People sell themselves in their profiles and therefore attempt to portray an image. These threads on the other hand often give a window into the character traits of those who post on them.

Secure, insecure, spiteful, sycophant, confident, jealous, condescending, tactful, honest, dishonest, realist, fantasist, emotional, intelligent, bigot, thoughtful, reactive, desperate and many more.

I think these threads are the most revealing on FAB when it comes to peoples real characters.

This thread is not about the subject matter of the 'label' threads (as I call them). It's really asking the question on your view of the benefits (or not) of those threads.

"

You forgot the repetitive threads complaining about repetitive threads too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like the threads. Even if they get posted a few times a week- for those of us here a while it may seem repetitive. But for someone new to the forums it's a new topic for them and I think it's unfair when people jump on them saying it's been posted before.

I have never blocked anyone because of their views on a thread. It's just words on a screen. I like the banter and debate and how people put their opinions across.

I try not to tell people its been posted before, no harm in saying 'there is one going already', with a search button its pretty lazy if you post a thread thats already on the front page.

The world cup is a fine example of that.

Same with RIP threads when a celeb departs.

These type threads arn't the kind the OP is on about though"

If the threads are all called the same thing, for example 'world cup' it's easy to search. But someone might post 'what do you think' as the title and be asking about the world cup.... so it's not always easy to find similar threads.

But yeah.. if you look down the page and there's 4 threads all called the same thing...... !

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Some very interesting posts. Thank you for the contribution.

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