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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm relatively new to this...do people prefer a rude naughty opening message or something polite....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm relatively new to this...do people prefer a rude naughty opening message or something polite...."

Depends, try a bit of both, like Hi, how's things? Fancy sucking my cock ? Might work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

Polite. I don't like getting rude messages from people I've never even spoken to or expressed any interest in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Considering the amount of messages females and couples get I would hardly say it would be original.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Tried alsorts like..hi I think ur well fit an that's all I have to say about that....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm relatively new to this...do people prefer a rude naughty opening message or something polite...."

Polite will get you more results.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Read the profile and tailor your message to reflect that. People are different and want different things. Just keep it personal to the person you're writing to and hopefully you'll get a response. Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I delete the duck my cock now and meet now ones ! Better of with a pic and nice message xx

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

I prefer polite with really filthy pictures. Like really filthy. Filthy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I delete the duck my cock now and meet now ones ! Better of with a pic and nice message xx "

Quack!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tried alsorts like..hi I think ur well fit an that's all I have to say about that...."

Maybe you don't get a response because they think you are twelve.

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

Polite and using half decent English and not text speak - I'm not the only one who has that bias.

So you're not ur please. Oh and I prefer not to be called hun or babes.

I don't mind a one liner but some don't like them. In my opinion "hi, how are you" is perfectly acceptable - if you'd say it to my face in a bar and not get slapped for it then I'll reply. It's how you continue the conversation that matters to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Common sense is such a virtue. Get it in your armoury lad and use it! Then this site won't be as daunting as others make it out to be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I prefer polite with really filthy pictures. Like really filthy. Filthy."

FILTH!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tried alsorts like..hi I think ur well fit an that's all I have to say about that...."

Well that fits into neither category, but from the forum experience missing the Y O E and not forgetting the ' will get you a quick delete without reply from a high percentage. The entire demi sentence probably would probably not score well with many, and Forrest Gump is not often considered the sexiest character created.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Polite please

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Read the profile and tailor your message to reflect that. People are different and want different things. Just keep it personal to the person you're writing to and hopefully you'll get a response. Good luck. "

This!

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden


"I prefer polite with really filthy pictures. Like really filthy. Filthy.

FILTH!!! "

Yeah!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't listen to the single guys they don't want competition and most say they never get meets lol listen to the lady's there always right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Read the profile and tailor your message to reflect that. People are different and want different things. Just keep it personal to the person you're writing to and hopefully you'll get a response. Good luck. "
this make sure that what you message suits the profile your messaging

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By *ent_LifeMan
over a year ago

East Malling

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By *ent_LifeMan
over a year ago

East Malling

I read the profile and tailor the message to it but

Whats the best opener for a message then. I like to start hi how are you.... I liked your profile or, you two seem like a good couple or was wondering.

Do people stop reading after this line?

Any suggestions on improvements upon this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Read their profile first if they have a key word put in the title, introduce yourself a brief description of you always be polite and use real words no text language make sure you send recent pictures face pictures and a unclothed one.

Make them want to view your profile and if they say no be polite don't take it personally and if you do get replies don't hound them that's shows your desperate which is a real turn off.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

i always write polite introductory messages .. and try to make sure they are spelt correctly .. why put someones back up before you even get a reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like polite but then somethin different u do need too stand out from the rest but I generally reply too all message' s sent!

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"Tried alsorts like..hi I think ur well fit an that's all I have to say about that...."

A message like that to me would just be deleted.

It's a statement nothing more than that!

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I prefer entertaining

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This one is good: Hi, nice tits, fancy a shag tonight lol.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent


"This one is good: Hi, nice tits, fancy a shag tonight lol."

I can't read the word shag without thinking of Austin powers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This one is good: Hi, nice tits, fancy a shag tonight lol.

I can't read the word shag without thinking of Austin powers "
That's good lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All messages should be polite and respectful and relevant to the profile your viewing. A little humor when required will go along way so good luck and hope everything works well for you.

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By *awty MaxWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"I prefer entertaining "

And polite after reading the profile... Please

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"I'm relatively new to this...do people prefer a rude naughty opening message or something polite...."

Imagine you are approaching a woman in a bar who you are interested in. Would your opening line be, 'Nice tits, fancy sucking my cock whilst I finger you till you gush'?

If it would be, what reaction would you expect to get?

a) she drops her knickers and to her knees instantly

b) she knees you in the bollocks

c) she ignores you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Any examples lol...please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I also think expanding your profile as to what you are looking for may help as I always look at a guys profile before opening a message and if there is not enough information on it to entice me I tend to not bother reading the message and good body pics and not too many cock shots always helps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The first message is always hard..but as I was a single female to open up

U got whatsapp

U got kik

Fancy a fuck..pisses you off.

A nice easy conversation and let her lead the way she wants, goes a long way.

Her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not much point offering help and advise if you're not going to listen to it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm relatively new to this...do people prefer a rude naughty opening message or something polite...."

Yuo send the following message with choices over the/

"By eck luv thats a fukin (hairy/bald) minge you have there do you want it pumpin (till your eyes pop/fart like a hippo)I do it pretty good you know".

Stand back then and wait for the reaction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The best way forward for you my friend is to be rude, get pissed off and decide this is all a waste of time, then leave the site, taking the piss out of your mate who recommended it because quite frankly we need less men here who don't know what their doing so these gorgeous ladies aren't so sceptical all the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Polite, humorous... Try and tailor it to them and their profile. Doesn't have to be war and peace. A face piccy is good too. Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Something tailored to fit the people you are messaging, humorous always goes down well, unless they don't find you funny.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Updated my profile...its a little different though...what do you think?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Polite but if you haven't read my profile it's going to get a polite rejection message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer polite. I like to be reeled in gently. Some on here are different though. It's all about reading their profile text, and judging based on what they say, what they may like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm relatively new to this...do people prefer a rude naughty opening message or something polite....

Yuo send the following message with choices over the/

"By eck luv thats a fukin (hairy/bald) minge you have there do you want it pumpin (till your eyes pop/fart like a hippo)I do it pretty good you know".

Stand back then and wait for the reaction."

Well I would definirely reply to that. Not sure if he'd like what I have to say though! Lol

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