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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok, soooooo......

In a weird synthesis of a thread I read this morning and one I posted several days ago, I'm beginning to wonder about the can Vs should mindset. There are many things in life that we all know that we 'can't do, and many of us do just because we 'can'. My question is, how many of us stop and question whether we 'should'do something? This can range from posting on social media, actions in our daily lives, posting a response in a thread, or even becoming offended at the actions of others. And to further the question.... Where do my fellow forumites feel that intent weighs into the debate? How much does intent hold sway outside of a court of law to mitigate the actions of ourselves and others?

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By *extoysareusCouple
over a year ago

kinky heaven


"Ok, soooooo......

In a weird synthesis of a thread I read this morning and one I posted several days ago, I'm beginning to wonder about the can Vs should mindset. There are many things in life that we all know that we 'can't do, and many of us do just because we 'can'. My question is, how many of us stop and question whether we 'should'do something? This can range from posting on social media, actions in our daily lives, posting a response in a thread, or even becoming offended at the actions of others. And to further the question.... Where do my fellow forumites feel that intent weighs into the debate? How much does intent hold sway outside of a court of law to mitigate the actions of ourselves and others? "

I kinda do what I want

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By *eliciouslyNastyMan
over a year ago

London

Woh!... Deep... Your asking for contemplation and reflection...

Do any of us do so?

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By *awty MaxWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Got a sore heid now lol

Will get back to you later lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After puzzling about what a tin of V was I finally got it that you mean Can verses Should

On forums there is many a post that falls into neither category, it's why there is a delete option for those who think about what they posted quickly enough!

Many people forget that the Internet is public and permanent, which is weird as they seem to have more control over their lips than their fingers. some posts on here I could never imagine the poster actually saying out loud in a public space.

I hate it when people know where I was because I got tagged in someone's photo on facetube. My location is not secret as such, but it should be private.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


". My question is, how many of us stop and question whether we 'should'do something? This can range from posting on social media, actions in our daily lives, posting a response in a thread, or even becoming offended at the actions of others. And to further the question.... Where do my fellow forumites feel that intent weighs into the debate? How much does intent hold sway outside of a court of law to mitigate the actions of ourselves and others? "

Yes, I do all the time try to only do what I should.

And yes, in matters of morality and 'truth' in the broader sense, intent is very important, I always try to discern it in others.

Horses will teach you that - they read intent very clearly, I think a lot of animals do.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"After puzzling about what a tin of V was I finally got it that you mean Can verses Should

On forums there is many a post that falls into neither category, it's why there is a delete option for those who think about what they posted quickly enough!

Many people forget that the Internet is public and permanent, which is weird as they seem to have more control over their lips than their fingers. some posts on here I could never imagine the poster actually saying out loud in a public space.

I hate it when people know where I was because I got tagged in someone's photo on facetube. My location is not secret as such, but it should be private."

Sorry, I'm American so I use vs to abbreviate versus. I still forget the British use 'v' instead.

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By *awty MaxWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

[how many of us stop and question whether we 'should' do something?]

I do... as what I do has an effect on myself and others, this could be a positive or negative effect. Am not talking about questioning for hours before doing something though.

But I believe you have to think about the consequences of what you do or do not do.

As for the forum, I say online what I would say to people face to face. I would probably say more face to face to be honest lol.

Phew! That challenged my English, hope it makes sense

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I was given a real dilemma on Monday night. It was something that I could do, but which would possibly have a not wholly positive outcome.

On the good side, it could have lead to a life changing event, on the downside, perhaps to me being outed to everyone and losing my job. All possibly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I want to reply, but I'm not sure I should..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I want to reply, but I'm not sure I should.."

This right here

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I was given a real dilemma on Monday night. It was something that I could do, but which would possibly have a not wholly positive outcome.

On the good side, it could have lead to a life changing event, on the downside, perhaps to me being outed to everyone and losing my job. All possibly.

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This, then, might highlight a flip side of the argument... I. E. In the 'I can but should I' question.... Where do you fall in a situation where you risk either incredible gain or losing all. Is it still a 'I can but should I' situation or does it morph into something else at that point?

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