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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Cheating on a partner just for sex, or being emotionally involved with somebody else, but not having sex with them?

I'm interested to see if men and women think differently on this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

isnt that becoming just a good friend?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"isnt that becoming just a good friend?"

I mean like, being in love with somebody else xD

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"isnt that becoming just a good friend?

I mean like, being in love with somebody else xD "

but we havent even spoke yet...lets get married x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Emotional bonds bother me more

Sex is ten a penny

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If Pip had sex with someone else and didnt tell me I wouldnt be happy although I would know it was "For entertainment purposes only" like going to watch a stripper etc.

If she became emotionally involved with another guy Id be absolutely gutted knowing there would be no real trust anymore and or a feeling we were an exclusive couple.

Sex is light entertainment......

Emotional involvement is the recipe for a disaster movie.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

id be pissed off at both, but the emotional betrayal would hurt me most

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By *wiftieeMan
over a year ago

near Glasgow

Emotions? Thought this was all about NSA. Knew I was going wrong somewhere, must have a re-think!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Emotions? Thought this was all about NSA. Knew I was going wrong somewhere, must have a re-think! "

its a general question, not necessarily aimed at swingers. just a 'what if' situation.

In the lounge all kids of things are talked about

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Mini rant time:

I studied A-level psychology. My teacher was a prick and contradicted everything I said, and belittled me at every turn if I had an opinion of my own.

One of the theories he was adamant about was that men would be more upset by their female partner having sexwith somebody else, as he would be bringing up somebody else's child, not nurturing his own genes. And a woman would be more upset if her male partner was in love with somebody else, as he would be wasting his resources on another woman, rather than her and their children.

I think that's a very outdated theory, as we have more forms of contraception, and men aren't necessarily the main wage earners, so women can provide for themselves.

On a side note, he also said that people always go for somebody of the same 'level of attractiveness'... But if this werettrue then you'd never see a couple where one person is a hell of a lot hotter than the other. (yes I know attraction is based on opinion, but it still happens).

Also, he said that people go for others with a similar body type. Now, as we all know from the bbw posts, there are lots of guys with six packs who fancy larger ladies. (although usually a slimmer lady on their arm and a larger lady in their bed... Probably to do with media and the general opinion of a lot of the public)

And breathe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mini rant time:

I studied A-level psychology. My teacher was a prick and contradicted everything I said, and belittled me at every turn if I had an opinion of my own.

One of the theories he was adamant about was that men would be more upset by their female partner having sexwith somebody else, as he would be bringing up somebody else's child, not nurturing his own genes. And a woman would be more upset if her male partner was in love with somebody else, as he would be wasting his resources on another woman, rather than her and their children.

I think that's a very outdated theory, as we have more forms of contraception, and men aren't necessarily the main wage earners, so women can provide for themselves.

On a side note, he also said that people always go for somebody of the same 'level of attractiveness'... But if this werettrue then you'd never see a couple where one person is a hell of a lot hotter than the other. (yes I know attraction is based on opinion, but it still happens).

Also, he said that people go for others with a similar body type. Now, as we all know from the bbw posts, there are lots of guys with six packs who fancy larger ladies. (although usually a slimmer lady on their arm and a larger lady in their bed... Probably to do with media and the general opinion of a lot of the public)

And breathe. "

Definitely, an outdated attitude.

P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pardon the pun, but if I had a partner, and she slept with someone else, it'd be a kick in the balls, and would question their sexual attraction of me. Fair enough if it was a d*unken accident though.

Platonic, emotional involvement with someone else would hurt the most and would force me to confront them and ask to choose.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Psychology is a lot of bollocks.

I'd be most annoyed if somebody took the last bourbon.

Cheating isn't nice in any form.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Emotional betrayal from C would hurt me the most. He doesn't give his true emotional side away easily so if he had expressed them to anyone else I would be in bits.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Emotional intimacy definitely. I loan out my body but never my heart. That belongs to hubby ..

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By *rtemisiaWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

My partner knows he is free to fuck someone else, but if I thought he was becoming emotionally entangled, I'd be distraught.

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By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich


"Cheating on a partner just for sex, or being emotionally involved with somebody else, but not having sex with them?

I'm interested to see if men and women think differently on this. "

I would find emotional involvement more upsetting than physical involvement.

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By *nne CallanWoman
over a year ago

Nothing to see here. Please move along.


"My partner knows he is free to fuck someone else, but if I thought he was becoming emotionally entangled, I'd be distraught."

Thats exactly how i feel as well.

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By *exycleanerWoman
over a year ago

pontefract


"Cheating on a partner just for sex, or being emotionally involved with somebody else, but not having sex with them?

I'm interested to see if men and women think differently on this. "
my ex did this fell for a woman cos he talked to on the phone when he worked nights ,he fell for her little girl lost ,moaning about her chap ,this was before he actually had sex with her ,he told me he had given her up ,but lied and cheated on me .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

emotionally involved i guess because people dont have to like others who they have sex with.

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By *exycleanerWoman
over a year ago

pontefract

yep its the emotional involvement that is the hardest thing ,my ex spending 6 months

messing my head about with this other woman ,i must have been the only woman in the world whose husband was going to leave her for another woman but took 6 months to do it ,that has destroyed me .no human being should have to suffer that xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"yep its the emotional involvement that is the hardest thing ,my ex spending 6 months

messing my head about with this other woman ,i must have been the only woman in the world whose husband was going to leave her for another woman but took 6 months to do it ,that has destroyed me .no human being should have to suffer that xx"

No your not the only one whos husband took 6 months to do it because a lot of men dont always know what they realy want and cant make up their minds.

If they could have two women they probably would.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"emotionally involved i guess because people dont have to like others who they have sex with."

I don't get that

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By *relanddirectMan
over a year ago

cheshire

Emotionally involved x u are giving a piece of yourself x people can have sex, d*unken sex for example but not even remember it. To give yourself emotionally so that your first and last thought each day is another person is the ultimate betrayal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"emotionally involved i guess because people dont have to like others who they have sex with.

I don't get that "

If they were emotionaly involved they would have feelings for them.

if they are having sex with you then you are just a piece of meat, sratching an itch as it were

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"emotionally involved i guess because people dont have to like others who they have sex with.

I don't get that

If they were emotionaly involved they would have feelings for them.

if they are having sex with you then you are just a piece of meat, sratching an itch as it were "

I would never have sex with someone I don't like

And I'm nobodys piece of meat either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree emotional attachments are worse though

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By *leasures4Couple
over a year ago

East midlands

Emotional involvement would be the worse of the two.

Trust is being broken either way...

Fem x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Emotional intimacy definitely. I loan out my body but never my heart. That belongs to hubby .."

That's quite nicely put, and agreed with here

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By *inkyKimblesWoman
over a year ago

Northants


"emotionally involved i guess because people dont have to like others who they have sex with.

I don't get that

If they were emotionaly involved they would have feelings for them.

if they are having sex with you then you are just a piece of meat, sratching an itch as it were

I would never have sex with someone I don't like

And I'm nobodys piece of meat either "

This is my attitude to it too

Agree the emotional.side of things hurts worse xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can't help being emotionally attached but you can help have sex. So I think sex would be worse. You would be able to trust them again

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over a year ago

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