FabSwingers.com forum: should i let her have bare back

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

well as her other half i do anyway. should i let her with others ? and dont worry i have safety in mind ... if all is good and clean.... your thoughts please ???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No bareback ever for me. Better yes but prefer health

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As long as you discuss it and consider all possible 'side effects', then you should be able to answer your own question

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

How will you know they are 'good and clean'?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

ok no questions just veiws please xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're gonna polarize opinions with this one. At the end of the day, the decision firmly rests with the two of you. You're both grown adults and can choose to or not.

Choose very wisely however, the consequences of a poor choice are wide reaching.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no we wouldnt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Obviously not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No.

Ultimately the decision is yours though.

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By *occerstar579Man
over a year ago

Harrogate

Would say oral and shooting on body fine....but penetration then go with skins!!?

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"ok no questions just veiws please xx"

How can people understand the potential implications and advise accordingly without asking questions? If you want good answers, you need to provide additional information if it's needed.

Good luck dictating how the thread develops anyway. Once it's out here, it's out of your control.

It's like saying only comments from women please, or don't post if you don't agree with me.

To answer, bareback is your decision to make. Just be honest with others so they can make informed decisions.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok I'm not asking if I should or not just asking for views on the subject

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok I'm not asking if I should or not just asking for views on the subject "

You did ask though. Question marks mean questions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok I'm not asking if I should or not just asking for views on the subject

You did ask though. Question marks mean questions. "

They do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always wonder about people that 'let' their partner do things, or not, like they're a possession.

I'd say two adults should make adult decisions by talking to each other, not by consulting people who largely don't know or care about them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"well as her other half i do anyway. should i let her with others ? and dont worry i have safety in mind ... if all is good and clean.... your thoughts please ???

My thoughts, you would be an imbecile to go bareback for several reasons,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you own her?

If she wants too surely she will its not for you to dictate how she decides to do things even if in a couple.

You may or may not like it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok I'm not asking if I should or not just asking for views on the subject

You did ask though. Question marks mean questions. "

No , question marks means he is asking a question,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does she want to do it? Is she happy and informed on the positive and negative aspects of bareback?

Are you happy for her to do it? Are you informed etc etc? Have you both discussed it and are sure its what you both want?

If its a no any of the above, then it may be best to hold off until your both on the same page (so to speak) and then the decision is clear.

If its yes to all of the above then its an informed choice and a mutual decision; crack on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Theres no way to know for sure that the person has an sti/std so i would of thought it would be a massive risk to your health and also any future fun,genital warts can lie dormant and some sti's have no symtoms!Better to be safe and both of your sexual health should be more important to you than not wearing protection,just my opinion altho based on common sense lol,stay safe people and have fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How will you know they are 'good and clean'?"

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Ok I'm not asking if I should or not just asking for views on the subject "

Er, your thread title asks "Should I?"

How is that not asking if you should?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok I'm not asking if I should or not just asking for views on the subject

You did ask though. Question marks mean questions.

No , question marks means he is asking a question, "

Isn't that what I said?

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By *tirling DarkCouple
over a year ago

Stirling

Yeah go for it and don't worry about the drug resistant STDs and HIV it will never infect your partner. You can tell a clean cock easily, you just have to look at the man and the way he dresses

ps the first person I treated for an STD was a university lecturer! Smartly dressed with bow tie. But don't let that put you off am sure your partners health is not that important

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

"No.

Ultimately the decision is yours though."

No it's not. Ultimately the decision is hers.

What she chooses may have a lasting impact on their relationship though.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for the advice people as for the rest that wana pic how I posted the topic and pull it apart carry on ..question or not how it's was posted was not the idea was looking for friendly advice. sorry if I dint put it across right to you ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The consequences would be yours to deal with so the choice is yours.

There's no way of knowing if someone has an sti, as another poster said, many don't have symptoms and many can lie dormant but still be in the system.

Sex with condoms sucks, but I would reckon being told you had an sti would suck even more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok I'm not asking if I should or not just asking for views on the subject

You did ask though. Question marks mean questions.

No , question marks means he is asking a question,

Isn't that what I said?"

Maybe I miss interpreted your reply, I thought you were answering a question, with a question

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The consequences would be yours to deal with so the choice is yours.

There's no way of knowing if someone has an sti, as another poster said, many don't have symptoms and many can lie dormant but still be in the system.

Sex with condoms sucks, but I would reckon being told you had an sti would suck even more. "

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"No.

Ultimately the decision is yours though.

No it's not. Ultimately the decision is hers.

What she chooses may have a lasting impact on their relationship though."

She's not an object or a possession.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok I'm not asking if I should or not just asking for views on the subject

You did ask though. Question marks mean questions.

No , question marks means he is asking a question,

Isn't that what I said?

Maybe I miss interpreted your reply, I thought you were answering a question, with a question "

If it were a question, I would have used a question mark xD

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Not after abuse thanks...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not after abuse thanks..."

Who's abusing you?

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Thanks for the advice people as for the rest that wana pic how I posted the topic and pull it apart carry on ..question or not how it's was posted was not the idea was looking for friendly advice. sorry if I dint put it across right to you .."

You're complaining that you got answers to the question you asked, not to what you meant? Seriously?

Nobody "picked apart" your thread, they just pointed out, when you complained some were answering something you hadn't asked, that the answers were to exactly what you had asked.

If you want a discussion on views, you have to be open to people asking questions too.

I don't have my telepathy chip in this morning!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're complaining that you got answers to the question you asked, not to what you meant? Seriously?

Nobody "picked apart" your thread, they just pointed out, when you complained some were answering something you hadn't asked, that the answers were to exactly what you had asked.

If you want a discussion on views, you have to be open to people asking questions too.

I don't have my telepathy chip in this morning!"

This!

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

Cant abide the 'should I let her' and similar statements about ownership of another person..

however that's how some are so hey bloody ho..

on the question posed OP, if she wants to she will..

given your lack of knowledge about the possible consequences perhaps look into this issue a bit more which is ultimately about the health of you both and possibly any future children you may have..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"well as her other half i do anyway. should i let her with others ? and dont worry i have safety in mind ... if all is good and clean.... your thoughts please ???

My thoughts ?

You're either naive or deluded (or both)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Cant abide the 'should I let her' and similar statements about ownership of another person..

however that's how some are so hey bloody ho..

on the question posed OP, if she wants to she will..

given your lack of knowledge about the possible consequences perhaps look into this issue a bit more which is ultimately about the health of you both and possibly any future children you may have..

Implied or explicit ownership is part of some peoples D/s dynamic within BDSM, which the OPs may be in a 24/7 lifestyle or its part of role-play (its never been explicitly stated either way).

Some D/s dynamics [for example] use creamplies as punishment, reward or a combination of both.

As long as the OPs are engaging in SCC or RACK play then its all good. Whilst we can suggest a course of action based on our own particular point of view in the world (because so many things are subjective) or give opinion/advice based in fact or emotion it boils down to the fact that each of us makes our choice and we live with the consequences (good and bad) of that choice.

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By *kin BohnerMan
over a year ago

derby

Seeing as the male half of the couple already plays bareback I would give them a wide berth. You should mention this on your profile as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How on earth do you know anyof the guys shes going to have sex with are safe, they may produce a certificate from the GUM clinic from 4 weeks ago but may have been infected since.

You want straight advice then NO dont do it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Seeing as the male half of the couple already plays bareback I would give them a wide berth. You should mention this on your profile as well. "

He states he plays bareback with is partner, but I can't see him stating he plays with others that way - unless I missed something?

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"Cant abide the 'should I let her' and similar statements about ownership of another person..

however that's how some are so hey bloody ho..

on the question posed OP, if she wants to she will..

given your lack of knowledge about the possible consequences perhaps look into this issue a bit more which is ultimately about the health of you both and possibly any future children you may have..

Implied or explicit ownership is part of some peoples D/s dynamic within BDSM, which the OPs may be in a 24/7 lifestyle or its part of role-play (its never been explicitly stated either way).

Some D/s dynamics [for example] use creamplies as punishment, reward or a combination of both.

have some experience in sub dom and whilst i would agree in general that in that scenario and for some yes it is 24 hr etc in this case I think its just plain old misogyny..

as I said hey ho..

on the choices issue again I would agree 'if' it was apparent that the person talking abut whatever had considered the consequences, nothing I have read leads me to conclude that..

more than likely its a wanking fantasy thread but again hey ho..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's something that both of you should discuss and agree if you're couple - you're both partners in this.

A lot of people in this day and age have become a bit too complacent regarding the risks of STIs and HIV especially.

Back in the 80s and 90s, HIV was very prominent in the media. Now, it's virtually unheard of.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Cant abide the 'should I let her' and similar statements about ownership of another person..

however that's how some are so hey bloody ho..

on the question posed OP, if she wants to she will..

given your lack of knowledge about the possible consequences perhaps look into this issue a bit more which is ultimately about the health of you both and possibly any future children you may have..

Implied or explicit ownership is part of some peoples D/s dynamic within BDSM, which the OPs may be in a 24/7 lifestyle or its part of role-play (its never been explicitly stated either way).

Some D/s dynamics [for example] use creamplies as punishment, reward or a combination of both.

If this dynamic were the case for the OP though, he would (IMO) be unlikely to say should he "let" her bareback with others.

The OP reads to me as assuming a right to dictate permitted behaviour without any such agreement being in place.

Apparently others see it in a similar way.

Of course, their dynamic may be other than the norm (whatever that is) but we'd need more information to know that.

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia

My thoughts : Should you let her? Well perhaps you should let her make her own mind up? However that done its worth thinking of any implications your actions have , for example there are many ( us included) who choose not to meet those who activly partake in bare back sex . Every action has a reaction!

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By *eKoopleCouple
over a year ago

Germany / Manchester

"You're gonna polarize opinions with this one. At the end of the day, the decision firmly rests with the two of you. You're both grown adults and can choose to or not.

Choose very wisely however, the consequences of a poor choice are wide reaching."

Very well written. One night of risky passion for a possible lifetime of health issues hardly seems worth it. " No Glove, No Love"

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By *ombshellWoman
over a year ago

islington

NO NO NO definitely not!

keep the bareback for each other only, that makes it special between you both

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By *kin BohnerMan
over a year ago

derby

"Seeing as the male half of the couple already plays bareback I would give them a wide berth. You should mention this on your profile as well.

He states he plays bareback with is partner, but I can't see him stating he plays with others that way - unless I missed something?"

Read the first eight words of the op, it is very clearly implied.

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By *owboykidMan
over a year ago

oil patch

As for the safety reasons..... The only way I could do that is if I knew the other party was clean.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Seeing as the male half of the couple already plays bareback I would give them a wide berth. You should mention this on your profile as well.

He states he plays bareback with is partner, but I can't see him stating he plays with others that way - unless I missed something?

Read the first eight words of the op, it is very clearly implied. "

I took that to mean that as her other half he barebacks with her already, not that he barebacks with others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Seeing as the male half of the couple already plays bareback I would give them a wide berth. You should mention this on your profile as well.

He states he plays bareback with is partner, but I can't see him stating he plays with others that way - unless I missed something?

Read the first eight words of the op, it is very clearly implied.

I took that to mean that as her other half he barebacks with her already, not that he barebacks with others."

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

These threads never go totally as foreseen by the OP. Still it can help with the figures for FORUM INSURANCE

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

"well as her other half i do anyway. should i let her with others ? and dont worry i have safety in mind ... if all is good and clean.... your thoughts please ???

if you are fucking bare - any infections you have she will have so what is the difference.

None.

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

"How on earth do you know anyof the guys shes going to have sex with are safe, they may produce a certificate from the GUM clinic from 4 weeks ago but may have been infected since.

You want straight advice then NO dont do it "

that's the thing you can only claim to be clean after being tested if you have not been with someone else since you last test

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"How on earth do you know anyof the guys shes going to have sex with are safe, they may produce a certificate from the GUM clinic from 4 weeks ago but may have been infected since.

You want straight advice then NO dont do it

that's the thing you can only claim to be clean after being tested if you have not been with someone else since you last test"

Even then some infections can take a while to show up on tests.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would have thought that this is the sort of thing where it doesn't matter what other people's opinions are. If you and your wife and the other guy want to then surely that's up to you all to decide if you're all happy with the associated risks. No need for anyone elses opinion.....including mine

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

"Would say oral and shooting on body fine....but penetration then go with skins!!?"

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By *erotic_adventureMan
over a year ago

London, Scotland & The North,

"well as her other half i do anyway. should i let her with others ? and dont worry i have safety in mind ... if all is good and clean.... your thoughts please ???

From reading your verifications your first priority might be to meet with someone first......before contemplating such!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"well as her other half i do anyway. should i let her with others ? and dont worry i have safety in mind ... if all is good and clean.... your thoughts please ???

I reckon that the decision is hers alone, not yours.

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By *erotic_adventureMan
over a year ago

London, Scotland & The North,

Ultimately its the couples prerogative to decide however in courting others views and opinions must accept the varied answers in reply.

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By *quirrelMan
over a year ago

East Manchester

BB feels great and it stops the man going soft fumbling to try and get the condom on, problem is although you think its safe because the guys profile hints at them being safe and clean what about their previous sexual partners? can you say with 100% certainty that they were clean? this is a swingers site for people to arrange sexual meets with a variety of different partners.

There are so many sexually transmitted diseases around that they are not named individually but classed as a single group of infections (STI's)

Forget BB and have worry free fun without the nagging doubt of whether you may have caught something because it somehow feels a bit more uncomfortable when you take a pee.

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By *ancpl05Couple
over a year ago

Bridgend

Only you two really know. There is always some risk but that is in real life to so if your both happy to then why not. Just be careful and choose wisely !!! x

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By *vsnikkiTV/TS
over a year ago

Limavady

"No.

Ultimately the decision is yours though."

Is it not hers?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Each to their own. No amount of ridicule and berating will stop this happening on fabs.

OP, You can account for your current state of health but not theirs. So it's all about trust, honesty and getting checked. There's no such thing as safe sex, only safer sex. However, it's your partner's decision, not yours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No No and No again for me at least . How can you possibly know another person is clean and safe? Do they have a clean and save certificate signed by there mum lol.... In all seriousness its not something I would be happy to run the risk off .... Being up to your knee's in STD's is not appealing but its a decision only you and your partner can make

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

Ok. Being as we are not allowed questions, and you just want views. Its a fucking stupid idea, russian roulette with your sexual health, and the good and clean comment is niave at best.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why for something that's is supposed to be safe fun would you take the risk of anything happening ?

Playing Russian roulette at least it's just you that's at risk !

Sti's can hang round for ages without showing ? How many casualties of a bare back bit of fun ??

Oh yeah NO!!!

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

"well as her other half i do anyway. should i let her with others ? and dont worry i have safety in mind ... if all is good and clean.... your thoughts please ???

You don't know how 'clean' others are - don't forget that you're also having bareback with the blokes that she goes bareback with - how on earth would any one even consider bare back sex with strangers - I just think it's a self destruct mechanism! Would you change your profile to say 'we both play bareback' if she has just one bonk bareback with a stranger? The ramifications are horrendous! Z

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely no way! Russian roulette springs to mind!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is what you should do

1. Pick a suitable guy

2. Lock him up in a cage for three months so he cant have sex with anyone else

3. Take him up to the HIV and STI teat centres and get him tested after the 3 months

4. Get the ALL CLEAR - then enjoy bareback - then lock him back up to keep him safe

( joking )

But thats the only way to ensure " clean and DD free " safe bareback

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The consequences would be yours to deal with so the choice is yours.

There's no way of knowing if someone has an sti, as another poster said, many don't have symptoms and many can lie dormant but still be in the system.

Sex with condoms sucks, but I would reckon being told you had an sti would suck even more. "

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"ok no questions just veiws please xx"

Unless you have the facilities to test whether someone is 'good and clean' (like a medical testing laboratory) you will not know if they are 'good and clean' regardless of any assurances people may give you.

Therefore, you will have to ask yourself if the pleasure of bareback is worth the risk to your and your partner's sexual health.

In my opinion, it is not. Some STIs, as we all know, are deadly. Many others incurable. Others still are now becoming antibiotic - resistant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say yes.. love it

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over a year ago

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By *unPeteMan
over a year ago

Near Bristol

You asked for my thought ...

NO ! use condom every time!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"BB feels great and it stops the man going soft fumbling to try and get the condom on, problem is although you think its safe because the guys profile hints at them being safe and clean what about their previous sexual partners? can you say with 100% certainty that they were clean? this is a swingers site for people to arrange sexual meets with a variety of different partners.

There are so many sexually transmitted diseases around that they are not named individually but classed as a single group of infections (STI's)

Forget BB and have worry free fun without the nagging doubt of whether you may have caught something because it somehow feels a bit more uncomfortable when you take a pee. "
But also not to forget haveing seen in similar

posts your safer useing a condom but

not 100% safe what is safe..

well as safe as you can be if out and about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. Condoms are for Fab, bare back is for real life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No. Condoms are for Fab, bare back is for real life."
If You get hiv

you won,t have a life or anyone else you go with ignorance breeds contempt in a world that needs no more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We both got checked before we entered our relationship, and get checked every 3 months. We only fuck people that wear condoms and we are very careful regarding our sexual health.

So condoms are for fab. Our own sex life is very different, but it is our choice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it only me that gets totally astounded at the low level of the intelligence of some questions asked on this site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No. Condoms are for Fab, bare back is for real life. If You get hiv

you won,t have a life or anyone else you go with ignorance breeds contempt in a world that needs no more.

Do you have kids? If so how did these kids appear?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am sure most men would say yes to bareback if the situation arises lol.

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By *oulou45Woman
over a year ago

Bucks

It's not just the worry of stds etc. There are things like cervical cancer to think about as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=5yC7HwPh6Es

(Should answer your stupid question)!!

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By *adyGardenWoman
over a year ago

LONDON (se)

Hell no

and totally agree it is a stupid question

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over a year ago

Well my opinion is always safe sex and will always go with what the woman wants. If. She feels comftable after using a condom and sayes she would rather not then I would do bareback. But I always respect what the woman wants. So I agree with chatty BBW

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The question is can you trust a stranger to be honest about their sexual health? In my experience, the answer is no. So for that reason, if you care anything for your partner I would advise neither of you indulge in unprotected sex.

Or look at it like this. Are you willing to risk you or your partner getting HIV / AIDS?

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By *vsnikkiTV/TS
over a year ago

Limavady

"I am sure most men would say yes to bareback if the situation arises lol."

I don't think they would but it's interesting to see the number of supporters of bareback that have "safe seX" as an interest on their profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its really not worth the risk in this lifestyle, not worth risking your health for a bit of fun but its up to the individual I guess.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the worse outcome of playing bareback that can happen is becoming HIV. if both yourself and your partner are prepared for the worst possible thing to happen, and can cope with that, bash on and have many happy encounters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am sure most men would say yes to bareback if the situation arises lol.

I don't think they would but it's interesting to see the number of supporters of bareback that have "safe seX" as an interest on their profile."
well people often look at peoples

profiles on here as yourself to check out

if what they say is true it makes no sense

to me why they say one thing on their proiles and another on chat when people

can suss them out by checking them out On their profiles.. yes it is interesting like you say but I also find

It frightening that they can,t be honest

With people...

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

"I am sure most men would say yes to bareback if the situation arises lol."

might make your willy fall off though lol

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

op check out images of stis and tell me you are still keen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always wonder about people that 'let' their partner do things, or not, like they're a possession.

I'd say two adults should make adult decisions by talking to each other, not by consulting people who largely don't know or care about them."

Well maybe if your ex put his foot down and said no to you guys swinging, you wouldn't of turned into a lesbian lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"well as her other half i do anyway. should i let her with others ? and dont worry i have safety in mind ... if all is good and clean.... your thoughts please ???

Yes, but only if you can be absolutely certain that the guy is totally sti free.

The problem being, that to be certain, you are investing a lot of trust. The bareback isn't the problem. Its the trust.

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By *picyrodMan
over a year ago

Leicestershire

When u sleep with some it's there history ur sleeping with visa versa

Me no way condoms always why take the risk

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

"ok no questions just veiws please xx"

As there is no way to GUARANTEE that all will be "safe and clean", no. We wouldn't.

- VincentandAmy. x

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

Interesting that the op hasn't posted for 9 hours. Maybe he didn't get the response he wanted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

[Removed by poster at 10/06/14 18:57:26]

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Obviously NO!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Interesting that the op hasn't posted for 9 hours. Maybe he didn't get the response he wanted. "

generally people who ask really stupid questions rarely reply back on their own threads.

Could this be one of them ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"well as her other half i do anyway. should i let her with others ? and dont worry i have safety in mind ... if all is good and clean.... your thoughts please ???

Stirring someone else's stale porridge never appeals to me! And if that fails just Google

Sti pictures and tell us if you think it's still ok.

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By *all-Eddies QosCouple
over a year ago

wirral

Wouldn't worry too much.....don't think you can catch anything via webcam

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wouldn't worry too much.....don't think you can catch anything via webcam "

Well noticed. Might catch an eye infection.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly its your choice and we wouldn't presume to tell you what you should do, if you are both comfortable with it and can find people who are sti free then why not ?

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By *ranthamThroatMan
over a year ago

Grantham.

"well as her other half i do anyway. should i let her with others ? and dont worry i have safety in mind ... if all is good and clean.... your thoughts please ???

hmmmmmm " let her have bareback" highly offensive & very scary on more than one level.

Hope you both have a happy and healthy long life!

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Wouldn't worry too much.....don't think you can catch anything via webcam "

Can you get a virus that way?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bareback

Hell noooooo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Big No!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is what you should do

1. Pick a suitable guy

2. Lock him up in a cage for three months so he cant have sex with anyone else

3. Take him up to the HIV and STI teat centres and get him tested after the 3 months

4. Get the ALL CLEAR - then enjoy bareback - then lock him back up to keep him safe

( joking )

But thats the only way to ensure " clean and DD free " safe bareback

This is exactly right. Whilst some STDs can be detected reasonably soon HIV cannot. There has to be a total break with no sexual contact with ANYONE for three, yes, that's three months before the test can be taken for HIV. Now, a few days or ten days later your mobile buzzes and the text message says 'congratulations your HIV results are all negative.....great!.....feeling relieved and on a bit of a high and very horny after three months off, you go for for coffee, get chatting to some good looking stranger you meet in the cafe and an hour later you finish up shagging each other senseless and bareback. Guess what? Yep! You're back to square one and have just spent the last three months of you're life only to finish up in the same situation you started with. Remember, even in a closed group of trusted friends it only takes one person to stray off the rails and bareback just once to expose the whole group to the possibility of STDs.

What are the odds of that happening. Too high most would say in any multiple partner lifestyle. The decision however ls up to the individuals involved but, they MUST inform anyone they intend to be sexually involved with BEFORE it takes place as it is a known health risk....if not then it could be interpreted as non consensual sex with all the consequences that may follow.

My opinion is don't do bareback, the risks while following a swinging type lifestyle are too high.

Well, you did ask for opinions, this is just one, to be agreed or disagreed with depending on whoever reads it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab icons.

1. Bareback - Hell no! Russian roulette you will due in agony in days.

2. Married men - bloody cheaters!

3. Married women - we understand let's fuck.

4. Time wasters - description used by unverified men with black profile pictures, 5 word profile texts and an opening message that says "How r u?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you own her?

If she wants too surely she will its not for you to dictate how she decides to do things even if in a couple.

You may or may not like it."

Of course he does not own her but he absolutely has the right to say if this is acceptable within their marriage. this is an issue that affects the both of them and should be discussed and agree too by both partners. I don't own my husband but i wouldn't consent to him going bareback with anyone other than me. If he decided to anyway because I don't "own" him it would quite possibly end our marriage as I would not continue to have sex with him knowing he was being reckless.

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By *lwaysup4it69Couple
over a year ago

Kirkby in Ashfield

Come on people cut the OP a bit of slack. Wether u like his wording or not he was just asking what people think of bareback, I don't see it has him letting her or not, as a previous post said it has to something both happy with.

No on to the subject of bareback I am sure many out there have a had a d*unken 1 night stand, with someone they met in a pub, and have done bareback because the drink and the heat of the moment have taken over. If this couple want to do bare it is there right to choose, the poor guy only asked for an opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=5yC7HwPh6Es

(Should answer your stupid question)!! "

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"Come on people cut the OP a bit of slack. Wether u like his wording or not he was just asking what people think of bareback, I don't see it has him letting her or not, as a previous post said it has to something both happy with.

I certainly haven't. Not ever.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"well as her other half i do anyway. should i let her with others ? and dont worry i have safety in mind ... if all is good and clean.... your thoughts please ???

If its with a regular friend who you trust and the regular friend is proven clean and doesn't play with others then yes

but it only takes one person outwith the trust & contact to pass on something nasty, so only you and your mrs along with the persons involved will know if the trust & respect is there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, I think you're probably right on this. I suppose the only thing you can say about the odd one night stand/rip each other's clothes off moments of passion with a comparative stranger is that it's much less frequent and indeed, it might only be the one time for most people. The risk is still the same per encounter so you could still be unlucky and catch something so get yourself tested anyway. But, if you deliberately take a decision to bareback with relative strangers on a frequent swinger basis the risk is still the same per encounter but, because the increased number of partners is more, the chances of coming away unscathed gets less.

What we're talking about here is playing the odds. For whatever reasons some people do it once and get caught. Some do it all the time and never get a scratch. No, it not fair, but that's life so welcome to the world of personal risk management.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sensible posts.

The statistical probability of a woman contracting HIV from an already infected man is 1:1000. This does not mean she is safe if she stops at 999 as she could catch it at number 1. It is however a great deal better than the oft quoted Russian Roulette's 1:6 for certain death.

It seems from what the GUM clinic say that those swingers that do bareback regularly are only slightly more likely to catch a sti than the permanent baggers. This is because they tend to get comprehensively tested very regularly and advise fellow barebackers if they have a problem.

The ones that get caught out are teenagers who do not go to the clinic and, oddly, the more mature to whom a trip to the "clap clinic" is embarrassing. The other group are those that think a condom is a 100% insurance and never go.

But it is all down to your willingness to accept the risks in the end.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok sneaky (f) here ... bones as he has stated was asking for views ... The reason being is i do prefer bareback and there is one guy who I would love to have that feeling with... so stop with the feminist in views that I may come across as his possession ... I'm not but I am with him ... I obviously understand any risks that may happen I'm not a Virgin or a stag that sleeps about with whoever all the time ...

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Wow! 39 weeks old and you've dug it back up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wow! 39 weeks old and you've dug it back up

Slow reader

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

do what works for you.

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia

"Wow! 39 weeks old and you've dug it back up

Slow reader

Lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just bored I guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's a decision you'll both have to make.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If your looking for problems then that's your answer,yes.me,definitely no,both the choice is for you both only......

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for your views guys ... We do know the risks of we was too we are adults so we're not naive to the risks ... and of course the doubt is if we do the risks that mean we wouldn't be able to lead the same lives we live today xx

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

COC... Condoms Of Course

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By *dventuroususCouple
over a year ago

sunderland

"Seeing as the male half of the couple already plays bareback I would give them a wide berth. You should mention this on your profile as well.

He states he plays bareback with is partner, but I can't see him stating he plays with others that way - unless I missed something?

Read the first eight words of the op, it is very clearly implied. "

no where does he imply he has bareback with strangers, the 1st 8 words are clearly implying that as her partner he has bareback with her.

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By *dventuroususCouple
over a year ago

sunderland

Op, its both your decision to make, aswell as the other party, many people put the frighteners on bareback going totally over the top in the process, yes of course there are risks, more so if either or both are going round having bareback sex with anyone, but you can reduce the risks if its something you really want to do, many so called safe sex enthusiasts are actually less safe because they think a condom is bullet proof, therefore even in a lifestyle like this they never get themselves checked, whereas the truth is a condom reduces those risks it doesnt eliminate them, far from it, bareback with strangers is not for us, but neither is condemning someone for there choices, at the end of the day you two need to discuss this, then if you decide its what you want to do, you need to discuss it with the other party in order to reduce the risks as low as you can.

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By *adysueandneroCouple
over a year ago

witney

"well as her other half i do anyway. should i let her with others ? and dont worry i have safety in mind ... if all is good and clean.... your thoughts please ???

Did you let her?

Was just wondering.

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

"No.

Ultimately the decision is yours though."

Hers surely?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No.

Ultimately the decision is yours though.

Hers surely?

I'd say as a couple its something you agree on together x and if one isn't happy you would respect that x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"well as her other half i do anyway. should i let her with others ? and dont worry i have safety in mind ... if all is good and clean.... your thoughts please ???

How you gonna be sure they haven't had sex in the 4 weeks prior to being tested and since the test?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't see that it would improve things drastically. Sex gets better the more emotionally involved you are with a person... not the less layers you have on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can't see that it would improve things drastically. Sex gets better the more emotionally involved you are with a person... not the less layers you have on

To be honest sex with a condom is pretty awful but also pretty needed when having multiple partners. If they found a cure for all bareback would go through the roof I think x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"well as her other half i do anyway. should i let her with others ? and dont worry i have safety in mind ... if all is good and clean.... your thoughts please ???

Are you serious!?!?!? Are you mystic meg now, thinking you will know anyone is safe and clean??

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over a year ago

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Resurrect a year old thread just to give it the thumbs up. That's dedication to something. Not sure what, but still

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Let sleeping dogs lie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not after abuse thanks..."
if you're both comfortable with it then yh why not who cares what others thinks do whst you two want to do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I much prefer bareback. As does my wife with her lovers.

Shaving her pussy completely for him, hiding it from me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most definitely she should feel another man's spunk in her. But get her to wash out afterwards as multiple injections of spunk from different men can be an irritant, after you have finished licking out as much as you can of course.

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