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One half of a couple- soft swap only?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Are there any couples where only one half does full swap and the other person just does soft swap? Or no swap/ just watches?

I'm pretty sure I've seen such profiles. For example women of couples that play and the man watches and only plays with his own partner.

How does this work for you? Have you had problems with people being disrespectful to your wishes?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I once meet a couple where she enjoyed watching him play with others... I was a bit wary of whether it was his thing rather than hers so met them in a club so I could walk away no issues but soon realised she was very into it. Turned out to be a fun evening. Think she was curious about joining in but hadn't quite got to the point of being ready so it was like a stepping stone for her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not quite the same but the only time we've had an argument after a club was when I'd happily played with a man but turned out my husband really didn't fancy the mans partner. Took me a while to notice that he wanted to move away

He is a bit fussy though and quite often plays less than me or not at all.

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By *andWCouple
over a year ago

Pontypridd

We have met with couples where only one actually full swaps, the way we tend to play it doesn't really become an issue as we enjoy it to be more a group activity other than separating off into 2 couples, plenty more to get involved in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

only male here fully swaps, fem loves girl girl fun and watching but has no interest in other men, it works for us but we know its not for everyone

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not quite the same but the only time we've had an argument after a club was when I'd happily played with a man but turned out my husband really didn't fancy the mans partner. Took me a while to notice that he wanted to move away

He is a bit fussy though and quite often plays less than me or not at all."

That sounds like us except I'm the fussy one.

Recently there was a few of us in a room and I just wanted to watch while everyone else had fun. I don't want to feel like I'm expected to join in just because everyone else is.

Just not really sure how to mention it as sometimes I'm fine but other times I want to gather my thoughts first, if that makes sense.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One half of us (L) is a very greedy girl and likes both male and female fun.

The other half (I) is more than happy to watch L have fun and is 'soft swap' only....works for us.

Have our fun time later at home

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've met several couples in the past where only the female played but the man either watched as that is what he liked or was only allowed to touch his wife, decided after I had taken a break last year that I didn't want to meet them anymore partially because I like to play with both not one half of a couple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not quite the same but the only time we've had an argument after a club was when I'd happily played with a man but turned out my husband really didn't fancy the mans partner. Took me a while to notice that he wanted to move away

He is a bit fussy though and quite often plays less than me or not at all.

That sounds like us except I'm the fussy one.

Recently there was a few of us in a room and I just wanted to watch while everyone else had fun. I don't want to feel like I'm expected to join in just because everyone else is.

Just not really sure how to mention it as sometimes I'm fine but other times I want to gather my thoughts first, if that makes sense. "

I will sometimes just take a breather and take in the _iew. Mrs P knows I like this and will carry on occupying everyone until I want to join in again.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not quite the same but the only time we've had an argument after a club was when I'd happily played with a man but turned out my husband really didn't fancy the mans partner. Took me a while to notice that he wanted to move away

He is a bit fussy though and quite often plays less than me or not at all.

That sounds like us except I'm the fussy one.

Recently there was a few of us in a room and I just wanted to watch while everyone else had fun. I don't want to feel like I'm expected to join in just because everyone else is.

Just not really sure how to mention it as sometimes I'm fine but other times I want to gather my thoughts first, if that makes sense.

I will sometimes just take a breather and take in the _iew. Mrs P knows I like this and will carry on occupying everyone until I want to join in again. "

It seems to be more acceptable for guys to just watch though....? I'm wary of people thinking I'm only there because he makes me, and I don't want to be there. Which isn't true... I love it!!

Mrs P is a good egg.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not quite the same but the only time we've had an argument after a club was when I'd happily played with a man but turned out my husband really didn't fancy the mans partner. Took me a while to notice that he wanted to move away

He is a bit fussy though and quite often plays less than me or not at all.

That sounds like us except I'm the fussy one.

Recently there was a few of us in a room and I just wanted to watch while everyone else had fun. I don't want to feel like I'm expected to join in just because everyone else is.

Just not really sure how to mention it as sometimes I'm fine but other times I want to gather my thoughts first, if that makes sense.

I will sometimes just take a breather and take in the _iew. Mrs P knows I like this and will carry on occupying everyone until I want to join in again.

It seems to be more acceptable for guys to just watch though....? I'm wary of people thinking I'm only there because he makes me, and I don't want to be there. Which isn't true... I love it!!

Mrs P is a good egg. "

Men are normally more visually stimulated than women. We have met one couple where the female did like to watch a lot though. It was obvious she was enjoying it so not a problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's been a few play occasions where I have sat back and watched, just enjoyed the _iew, and there's been times where he has just sat back and done the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes the _iew is the best bit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have enjoyed a couple of meets where I only soft swap. I find it very horny watching him with another woman, being allowed to join in when told to etc. The sex afterwards is amazing!!

Evie!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Were like that he watches or only plays with me as I play with male or female

Her

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"Sometimes the _iew is the best bit."

I agree

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I find it hard to watch in any circumstances; I just keep spotting chances to shout out witticisms and so on....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometimes the _iew is the best bit.

I agree "

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By *ScotsmanMan
over a year ago

ayrshire


"only male here fully swaps, fem loves girl girl fun and watching but has no interest in other men, it works for us but we know its not for everyone "
bet you it does Mr ya jammy so and so x

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

I used to meet regularly with a couple where the woman used to just watch. Or listen.

They had an en-suite bathroom so she'd often light the candles, pour a glass of wine and have a bubble bath whilst she watched us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mrs is the player here , women , men , both and I love to watch . I rarely join in until the end , when she pleasures me .

And like a few others , we have even more fun when we get home .

There have been a few instances when in a straightforward couple meet the woman has been somewhat perturbed that I haven't played with her , but since they were aware beforehand we didn't feel too bad about it !

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