FabSwingers.com forum: damned if you do damned if you dont :/

By *inkyKimbles OP Woman
over a year ago

Northants

Ok so im a very polite and friendly person, and once someone grabs my attention im happy to chat and get to know each other a bit and see if there is chemistry there and we want to plan a meet,, that being said I get a fair few messages and I have no intention what so ever in sleeping my way through the site

I am a mum and for me its not about notches on a bed post I wont sleep with someone just for the sake of it I would rather befriend and stick to a select few,, so then theres the Question,, how do you say thanks but no thanks politely??

I dont like to just ignore but will admit I do if the message is lame ie "hi wanna have some fun" or a picture of a cock with the message "what do you think" now come on im sure people can do better than that...

So then I send a message saying im not engaging in that kind of meet at the moment and get blocked and told.im rude

Help a girl.out please luvlies?? Whats the remedy xxx

Kinky K

Hoping you are all having a great weekend xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stop chatting to bellends?

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

Do what you are comfortable with and keep yourself happy... I always reply Thank you for your message but no thank you if I'm not interested, but. You need to do what you feel most comfortable with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I think it's rude for guts to message like that - especially knowing how difficult it is for a guy to get a meet on here.

You sound very nice and I think it's very nice to at least reply to messages.

If you say 'no thanks' then guys should accept your decision and not come crying back asking 'why?'

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By *cottishsexgoddessWoman
over a year ago

Glenrothes

No thank you works for me as does thank you for your message but you are not what I'm looking for. I make a note for future ref. if they get pissy, I block.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I just say, thanks but no thanks if they have made an effort, for the one liners I just ignore.

I don't care if people think I am rude, I've had enough abuse over the years.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Just say no thanks and move on. Don't fret about them sending a mean message and blocking you, as you weren't going to meet them anyway. Delete and smile to yourself that he's the one who is in a bad mood.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I doubt anyone on here fucks every person that mails them.

Just say "no thank you". Simple. (Once you have said no don't ever reply to them again. Otherwise you end up in a pointless conversation.)

Or take men off your 'looking for' list and it will take you off the searches. That way you can look for guys you want to meet.

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By *inkyKimbles OP Woman
over a year ago

Northants

"Stop chatting to bellends?"

really?? How can I decipher who is a bellend before ive even gave them a polite no.

Thank you for all your replies I much appreciate them

I send a polite message back basically thank you for your message but im not interested at this time and I got a message back saying "how rude"

And have been blocked xx

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By *inkyKimbles OP Woman
over a year ago

Northants

For me sex is always better if there has been time taken to make a connection instead of a one liner saying fancy a fuck lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I doubt anyone on here fucks every person that mails them.

Just say "no thank you". Simple. (Once you have said no don't ever reply to them again. Otherwise you end up in a pointless conversation.)

Or take men off your 'looking for' list and it will take you off the searches. That way you can look for guys you want to meet.

Can you imagine if we did

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"Stop chatting to bellends?

really?? How can I decipher who is a bellend before ive even gave them a polite no.

Thank you for all your replies I much appreciate them

I send a polite message back basically thank you for your message but im not interested at this time and I got a message back saying "how rude"

And have been blocked xx"

Why does it bother you? You already said you didn't want to meet them

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

I tell them I have a cheesy cock, then just pray they don't like Wotsits.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

Why does it bother you? You already said you didn't want to meet them

this.......

i think people get annoyed is that the decision with regards to terminating a conversation was in effect taken out of their hands........

as for people "shagging their way thru the site...." its one of those phrases that instantly gets backs up... because it isn't true... and quite a petty thing to suggest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I doubt anyone on here fucks every person that mails them.

Just say "no thank you". Simple. (Once you have said no don't ever reply to them again. Otherwise you end up in a pointless conversation.)

Or take men off your 'looking for' list and it will take you off the searches. That way you can look for guys you want to meet.

Can you imagine if we did

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

why care..... just block them if it causes angst.

the sacrifices people make on here to try and keep strangers happy beggars belief.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I prefer they block me than spend the next 5 messages trying to change my mind. Count your blessings.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Stop chatting to bellends?

really?? How can I decipher who is a bellend before ive even gave them a polite no.

Thank you for all your replies I much appreciate them

I send a polite message back basically thank you for your message but im not interested at this time and I got a message back saying "how rude"

And have been blocked xx"

That's not really that bad, I've had a lot worse for a polite no thanks, abuse, personal insults. Just makes me laugh at how pathetic they are and that my decision not to want to meet them was the correct one. You could always block after a no thanks then there's no comeback and they won't message again weeks/months down the line forgetting they'd messaged before which happens a lot. If people get snotty, its just not worth stressing about it, its their problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why not just put not meeting at the moment right at the top of you're profile ? If I see this at the beginning the. I know that there is no point I. Sending you a message.

Just like if I see that a couple or a female is only looking for couples or something that I am not then I don't message them either

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By *inkyKimbles OP Woman
over a year ago

Northants

Maybe I need to stop caring so much and be less worried about hurting someones feelings by saying no.. I just wanted to try and be polite ,, thanks for replies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I tell them I have a cheesy cock, then just pray they don't like Wotsits. "

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By *ristofskiTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

I actually prefer someone to just ignore my message if they're not interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

they only block who rejects them to help them keep track of who they have and havent messaged already!! Scattergun dating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I actually prefer someone to just ignore my message if they're not interested. "

I preffer them to block me as it stops me bothering them again or even looking at thier profile and thus anoying them that way LoL.

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