FabSwingers.com forum: Rudeness and disrespect

By *adyGarden OP Woman
over a year ago

LONDON (se)

Young kids today are in general (at least where I live) are so rude and disrespectful.

On a packed bus home from school, an older lady with a crutch hobbled onto the bus. Kids didn't even move out of the way for her to pass and get in the bus properly. The ones sitting just looked at her. My 8 year old has more respect in her little finger than these rude rats. She always offers her seat up to those in need of it more than her. I don't even need to prompt her to be nice and polite.

Just sickens me that most are just being dragged up by their parents.

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By *he Master JMan
over a year ago

Southall

I brought my kids up the old way and the nicest things I hear are my older neighbours telling me how polite my kids are and what manners they have

Unlike my mates kids when he was telling me that I was being too hard on them and his kids have turned out to be proper shits

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By *adyGarden OP Woman
over a year ago

LONDON (se)

"I brought my kids up the old way and the nicest things I hear are my older neighbours telling me how polite my kids are and what manners they have

Unlike my mates kids when he was telling me that I was being too hard on them and his kids have turned out to be proper shits"

Says a lot to be honest.

I'm always being complimented by strangers as to how well behaved and well mannered they are

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By *awty MaxWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

And taking time to say to your own kids this is what you do when... Does not take long.

Someone gives you something... What do you say?

Kids also learn watching their parents behaviour.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Attitudes and respect all round is poor these hays.

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

It is nice to hold a door open for a family in a shop, only for the adults all to ignore me but the youngest says thank you. I always say something nice back to.the kid. I blame the parents & TV, god I am old to blame TV....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ive encountered rudeness from all age groups, im not in contact with many teenagers but the younger children i know are on the whole a bunch of good eggs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Up yours the lot of yer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Encountered a lot more rude older people than I have children.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"ive encountered rudeness from all age groups, im not in contact with many teenagers but the younger children i know are on the whole a bunch of good eggs "

Good eggs, they're very young children.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always say thank you to people who hold open doors or let me go first. It's a shame when I board a packed train with old people and no one gives up their seat for them.

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By *adyGarden OP Woman
over a year ago

LONDON (se)

Old people on a bus packed of school kids make me laugh when they moan about them being noisy and singing on the bus. Kids can't choose the time they travel but the old folf have all day to travel as and when they like. Sitting there on their high horses say how loud the youth of today are and their boisterousness.

Yhey are easily avoided if you don't travel during the school run

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Old people on a bus packed of school kids make me laugh when they moan about them being noisy and singing on the bus. Kids can't choose the time they travel but the old folf have all day to travel as and when they like. Sitting there on their high horses say how loud the youth of today are and their boisterousness.

Yhey are easily avoided if you don't travel during the school run

Maybe they can't avoid the school run

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

I sat at a bus stop a few weeks ago. A teenager got a bag of sweets out of her pocket, tore off the top and brazenly chucked it on the ground beside her.

There was a bin 3 or 4 metres away but she didn't even bother to look to see if there was one, never mind consider using it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I work shifts in a pub and often stop to let people pass when I am taking food out yet out of 10 people only one will say thanks, yet I always thank people, and I brought my kids up to be the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Encountered a lot more rude older people than I have children. "

Definitely. How any people of any age get up to offer a seat? I've been left standing for a 3 hour train ride with two children under 4 - they had to sleep on suitcases. Only one person offered any kind of help.

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By *adyGarden OP Woman
over a year ago

LONDON (se)

Yhey are easily avoided if you don't travel during the school run

Maybe they can't avoid the school run

Generally they can unless they are unfortunate enough to still be working. Plus they are not even supposed to use their freedom passes before half 9 yet try to push their luck before 9.

I think yhe offending oldies I'm referring to finally admitted defeat as not seen any of them on the school run for several months now

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By *adyGarden OP Woman
over a year ago

LONDON (se)

"Encountered a lot more rude older people than I have children.

That is bloody shocking.

If I was in that position I would ask politely for someone to move. I have asked other kids to give their seat up for a pregnant woman too polite to ask herself. Had offend child kiss their teeth at me and roll their eyes but gave it up. If my own younger daughter was not with me I so would have said something to the little rat

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"Encountered a lot more rude older people than I have children.

That is bloody shocking.

If I was in that position I would ask politely for someone to move.

and if they had said no what would have happened then? as those people probably want to sit rather than stand on a train journey for three hours too?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not that young but can I restore the faith in the maturer lady ;p

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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Yhey are easily avoided if you don't travel during the school run

Maybe they can't avoid the school run

Generally they can unless they are unfortunate enough to still be working. Plus they are not even supposed to use their freedom passes before half 9 yet try to push their luck before 9."

What if it was the only time they had an docs appointment etc and needed the bus then? They have probably bought a ticket if it was passed the time of their Twirly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Encountered a lot more rude older people than I have children.

That is bloody shocking.

If I was in that position I would ask politely for someone to move.

and if they had said no what would have happened then? as those people probably want to sit rather than stand on a train journey for three hours too?"

To be fair it was packed in like a cattle train, I couldn't even get to the carriage to ask for a seat - and it was after a 13 hour flight so too shattered to kick up a fuss. But after I did think if it had been me observing somebody in a similar position I'd have asked on their behalf. Nobody did, just one man helped to organise the suitcases for the kids to sleep on.

Culturally we've become a very selfish society for which I don't blame teenagers. I blame the ignorant people that are bringing them up.

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By *rumCoupleCouple
over a year ago

birmingham

Of course there's the opposite experience ... Recently MrsJ and I went swimming. I left MrsJ to finish getting dressed and waited in the reception. As she went to leave to push open a door, a couple of kids -9 or 10 - rushed up and offered to help. They then walked in front of her, and opened the next two doors as well. All with nice smiles.

A few weeks ago we were having a snack in Morrisons. It wasn't at all busy, and 4 older folk (i.e. in their 60s) had chosen to plonk themselves at the table reserved for wheelchair users. They were waiting for their food. Now MrsJ can transfer, so it isn't essential for her. However, the lady in front of us in the queue couldn't. As she paid, and looked for somewhere to sit, she politely approached the table and asked if they could move, as she couldn't sit anywhere else. They told her to piss off, and started going on about disabled folk wanting everything. I wished I'd caught it on video, for YouTube. Luckily one of the members of staff overheard, and repeated the suggestion, pointing out the notice. "Oh, we didn't see that" they said, moving.

I don't think there's a age monopoly on ignorance, and rudeness.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Young kids are nearly always really helpful if you ask them. For that matter so are most people, it's just that we're immersed so much in our own worlds now, we're largely oblivious to others.

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By *adyGarden OP Woman
over a year ago

LONDON (se)

" I don't think there's a age monopoly on ignorance, and rudeness."

I don't believe I said all kids or just kids. Neither did I say it was all the time. I'm just saying what I have witnessed and experienced.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

For society to work properly there needs to be a good level of respect for others, most of whom will not be known. This means not inconveniencing them, such as on buses, or any way that they could impact on them. It goes all ways, no one is excluded. The me, me, me attitude is sickening and degrading to well being. Overall, one should glide through life near silently, causing barely a ripple for others, unless it is positive. No ifs or buts, otherwise you are the problem.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Id agree with others, this is not exclusively tied to younger people, it spans generations. I think many kids have poorer parenting than needed, and society's influences have gotten to lower standards too, degrading things.

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