FabSwingers.com forum: Grrrrr! Fathers.

By *ee Viante OP Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Who'd have them?!

Does anyone want mine? He's being a git.

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By *ee Viante OP Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

C'mon someone must want him?

He's great with gardens but a bit proriatorial over them. And any sheds or garages. And any tools.

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By *ee Viante OP Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

proprietorial* even

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm afraid I enough problems with the one I have to be taking on another one, sorry. Although I've one going spare if you fancy trialling a new one? Lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wish I still had my father around

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some of us are ok

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By *appyguy17Man
over a year ago

walthamstow

Same here !!!

My dad wasn,t easy...but i still miss him....

Now i,m a father.....and i get on so well with my daughter xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine (m) died 20 years ago. You'll miss him when he has gone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So this isn't about priests?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wish I still had my father around

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Same here !!!

My dad wasn,t easy...but i still miss him....

Now i,m a father.....and i get on so well with my daughter xx"

mine was an old git but I miss him like hell 10 years down the line

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By *appyguy17Man
over a year ago

walthamstow

Same here !!!

My dad wasn,t easy...but i still miss him....

Now i,m a father.....and i get on so well with my daughter xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't feel like I'll miss mine much.

Violent alcoholic all my living memory.

Cared for him for three years when he came out of hospital after surviving a burst ulcer.

He kicked off at our wedding party.

Now I just getup when care line call like last night at 2am to pick him up off the floor. Hose him down and put him to bed.

Really not sure I'll miss him much.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wish I still had mine

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By *oulou45Woman
over a year ago

Bucks

I would miss mine if he wasn't here. Going to see him today and take his great grandson with me.

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

My Shed.. My Rules

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My dad died 16 years ago on 26 May. miss him terribly still, wish he was still here

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I have the most amazing father, I could not wish for a better father...

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

Mum seperated when I was 4. Never had a father and all the great things that come with it......best of all how much easier mums life would have been.

Count your blessings and remember, life would have been far worse without him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

HIM) I had four fathers, don't know which one to miss!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't miss mine

Walked out on us when I was 9

Total piss head

In and out of prison

Put his last wife in hospital

Vile man !

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

I am sorry to hear that V. At least you escaped the worst of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine's in America. He hit the bottle when he left Army. That said he stuck around made me the man I am today, minus the bottle!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mum seperated when I was 4. Never had a father and all the great things that come with it......best of all how much easier mums life would have been.

Count your blessings and remember, life would have been far worse without him."

You assume positivity with a father who is present. That's sweet but unfortunately there's the other side of the coin....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine died 30 years ago, I would give anything for just a hour with him, to say all the things I should have when he was around

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am sorry to hear that V. At least you escaped the worst of it."

It made me a better person

I don't drink as I saw what it does to a family and thankfully I haven't been in prison.

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By *LCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk

"Wish I still had my father around

Me too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

It made me a better person

I don't drink as I saw what it does to a family and thankfully I haven't been in prison. "

I have been in Prison a lot.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my dad was quite nasty to me a lot of the time not when i was little though.

i was a bit frightened of him but miss him ocasionaly because when people or pets die i seem to remember their good bits not their bad bits.

I remember when i had to move back home when my son was a baby and he made feel feel like a burden, where as when my son moved back home i was glad of his company.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope sorry, no one could replace mine. Treasure them you only get one x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

had my ups and downs with my dad, but love him to bits unfortunately earlier this year he was diagnosed with alzheimers, pretty heartbreaking, just gotta be there for my mum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wish I still had my father around

Me too

Me too, I was so lucky with my dad. One of life's true gentlemen. Miss him so much xx

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By *ee Viante OP Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"My Shed.. My Rules

Actually, they're my sheds.

His sheds are at his house!

I'm not allowed to use my sheds. There are 2 here, and a garage.

I wanted to get a pressure washer. Where are you going to keep it? he wanted to know. It'll just be in my way.

Excuse me? I thought I live here and pay the rent, not you!

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By *opinovMan
over a year ago

Point Nemo, Cumbria

"I have the most amazing father, I could not wish for a better father...

Me too... and my mum - they're both amazing, and it's inspiring to see two people in their eighties who are still every bit in love with each other as they were fifty years ago. They're living proof that life-long love really is possible... which is a bit of a comfort whenever I feel a bit down.

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

my first fathers day without mine

cherish him while you can

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I always thought Father Jack came out with the best lines, but was wasted in the 3rd series.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love my dad

Her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've got 2 dad's if anyone wants one? :D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am sorry to hear that V. At least you escaped the worst of it.

It made me a better person

I don't drink as I saw what it does to a family and thankfully I haven't been in prison. "

Ditto

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"I have the most amazing father, I could not wish for a better father...

I couldn't agree more

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By *a-ra-ra-boom-de-ayCouple
over a year ago

Wish it was the Algarve! Aberdeenshire

My father was a great guy, died 14 years ago, a bit of me went with him! My mother is hard work but because of him I let her get away with a lot, but in a way I'm still lucky & glad to have her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My real dad left when I was 6 my step dad was a right twat and not spoken to him in 8 years and he has not seen either of my kids and he does not want to. Met my real dad came back into my life after 30 odd years and did not bother sticking around again as he was an alcoholic and wanted money from me. I swore then I would be the best dad I could be to my kids. And show them as good a father figure/ role model I could. Your dad may be being a git at the moment but at least he is around. Try telling him how you feel before it gets to a point where you can't sort it out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My mum and dad adopted me as a baby. So somewhere I may have two more parents. But the ones who adopted me and saved me from a children's home in Jersey, were the best and I had a great life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mind died 22 years ago. I wish it had been my mother, the manipulative, shrewish, paranoidal hateful cow. She wonders why I dont visit. Never liked her and never felt any love for her. She hasnt a good word to say about anyone. My father deserves a sainthood.

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

My dad hasn't been a part of my life since I was a teenager. I prefer it that way for quite a few reasons. I've heard he's getting the dad thing right with his new young wife and my half-sisters though so maybe people do change. My mum is all the parent I need since she totally rocks even if she does still tell me off all the time for not being ladylike.

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By *0shadesofashWoman
over a year ago

DUBLIN

Mines Locked up for murder iv never spoke to him best place for him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mum seperated when I was 4. Never had a father and all the great things that come with it......best of all how much easier mums life would have been.

Count your blessings and remember, life would have been far worse without him.

You assume positivity with a father who is present. That's sweet but unfortunately there's the other side of the coin...."

Not spoken to my parents for years My father is a vile controlling bully and I doubt we'll ever see each other again. I envy those with a close relationship but do wish people would remember and respect that not all of us play happy families and not all parents deserve being put on a pedestal with unconditional love

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By *ee Viante OP Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

In some ways my dad is great.

In others he's incredibly fucking annoying.

A dictatorship over my sheds, to the extent I can't use them is part of the incredibly fucking annoying category!

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

"In some ways my dad is great.

In others he's incredibly fucking annoying.

A dictatorship over my sheds, to the extent I can't use them is part of the incredibly fucking annoying category!"

Time to have a chat and reclaim at least one shed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mum seperated when I was 4. Never had a father and all the great things that come with it......best of all how much easier mums life would have been.

Count your blessings and remember, life would have been far worse without him.

You assume positivity with a father who is present. That's sweet but unfortunately there's the other side of the coin....

This!!!!

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

"Mum seperated when I was 4. Never had a father and all the great things that come with it......best of all how much easier mums life would have been.

Count your blessings and remember, life would have been far worse without him.

You assume positivity with a father who is present. That's sweet but unfortunately there's the other side of the coin....

I am fully aware of this and work with some very damaged people in my vocation.

However the OP was in a tone that indicated love but current frustration with her father....not a life of abuse. Hence the tone of my reply.

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By *ee Viante OP Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Mum seperated when I was 4. Never had a father and all the great things that come with it......best of all how much easier mums life would have been.

Count your blessings and remember, life would have been far worse without him.

You assume positivity with a father who is present. That's sweet but unfortunately there's the other side of the coin....

Very true.

I have a better relationship with my dad now than I've ever had before but we still, and probably always will, butt heads about his caveman attitude to women.

He's not a bad guy at all. He's not alcoholic or abusive and he's always been there for me. I love him for those things.

But it's still fucking annoying when he tells me what I can't do because I'm a woman, (drive well, put up shelves, weld, use any sort of tools...) and when he takes over my sheds, questioning my need, and right, to store anything in them!

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over a year ago

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By *ee Viante OP Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Mum seperated when I was 4. Never had a father and all the great things that come with it......best of all how much easier mums life would have been.

Count your blessings and remember, life would have been far worse without him.

You assume positivity with a father who is present. That's sweet but unfortunately there's the other side of the coin....

I am fully aware of this and work with some very damaged people in my vocation.

However the OP was in a tone that indicated love but current frustration with her father....not a life of abuse. Hence the tone of my reply."

Indeed, he's not abusive. He can try to be overly-assertive, but that made me the strong person I am, because I've never tolerated it.

And yes, I'm very frustrated with him at the moment.

He was easier to live with when I was 200 miles away.

However, I moved back to help support my parents through a difficult time, even though I didn't want to move back to Norfolk and don't want to be here. So it's not like I don't appreciate him.

I'm finding living so close to my parents now difficult in some ways. He's very controlling. At least he tries to be and it's exhausting.

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By *ee Viante OP Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"In some ways my dad is great.

In others he's incredibly fucking annoying.

A dictatorship over my sheds, to the extent I can't use them is part of the incredibly fucking annoying category!

Time to have a chat and reclaim at least one shed."

A chat is definitely on the cards. He's incredibly difficult to get through to when he doesn't want to hear something though. It's a good job we're both as stubborn as each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wish I still had my father around

This thread made me think the same thing!!!

You'll miss him when he has gone.

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By *ddie02Couple
over a year ago

northern

My dad passed away just a month ago, would give anything to have him back. He was a great man, taught me everything I know. Miss him terribly. Only problem I had was he moved here to Florida to have me. Being English dad, Irish mom, my skin doesn't exactly get along with the sun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My parents are really good people and I owe them a lot - they've put up with a lot of my shit over the years.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

I would give my right arm to have mine back...so go on, I will borrow him till you want him back, because you know you will miss him.

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By *ee Viante OP Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"I would give my right arm to have mine back...so go on, I will borrow him till you want him back, because you know you will miss him.

He was a lot easier to cope with when he was 200 miles away though.

I did, at least, have access to my own tools and shed!

He's got a lot of good points, as I've said, and I moved back up here to help support my parents but having my parents within 'just dropping in' distance is causing a few headaches!

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By *ee Viante OP Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

A couple of weeks ago I was on the loo, first thing in the morning and I heard a knocking.

I rushed to finish up and dashed out of the bathroom, in a nightie, (thank goodness I'd put it on to go to the bathroom because I sleep naked), to find dad at the back window.

He'd 'just popped up' to do something or other.

Some warning would have been nice!

I know if I accommodate that I'm going to run into an embarrassing parent-meet encounter at some point.

Boundaries, y'know?

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