FabSwingers.com forum: No justice.

By *r-Unique OP Man
over a year ago

Carmarthenshire

How do you deal with it/move on?

As 1 or / of you know. I've had a bad time recently and a little bit of justice would make me and the situation a lot better and as it looks. It looks like we are the culprits. So that isn't going to happen soon

. Would like to know how to move on as it's so hard to see a loved one being constantly targeted, family getting annoyed and a bit snappy towards each other when they claim they can sort things out.

So frustrated. Any advice probably won't be shot down.

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

Families have their disputes all the time, sometimes big, sometimes little. Time sometimes takes care of it.

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By *r-Unique OP Man
over a year ago

Carmarthenshire

"Families have their disputes all the time, sometimes big, sometimes little. Time sometimes takes care of it."

True, but that wasn't the point, point was because some animal is getting away with murder. It's causing the family to argue. So getting justice for the person doing the harm is best?

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"Families have their disputes all the time, sometimes big, sometimes little. Time sometimes takes care of it.

True, but that wasn't the point, point was because some animal is getting away with murder. It's causing the family to argue. So getting justice for the person doing the harm is best? "
Depends what you mean by justice.

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By *r-Unique OP Man
over a year ago

Carmarthenshire

"Families have their disputes all the time, sometimes big, sometimes little. Time sometimes takes care of it.

Anything. I know the police are out of it. Which leaves 2 options. 1 illegal, yet understandable and the other one is publishing the truth through word of mouth. If both of these things can't be done. Then it's time to walk away and love on, but it's hard when you see a loved one suffering because of it.

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"Families have their disputes all the time, sometimes big, sometimes little. Time sometimes takes care of it.

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By *r-Unique OP Man
over a year ago

Carmarthenshire

"Families have their disputes all the time, sometimes big, sometimes little. Time sometimes takes care of it.

Well I'm thinking both. Which will only come back to haunt me eventually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've tried very hard to get my head around this post and not sure I understand it completely but I'm going to go with walk away and move on

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By *r-Unique OP Man
over a year ago

Carmarthenshire

"I've tried very hard to get my head around this post and not sure I understand it completely but I'm going to go with walk away and move on

Yes, but my point was how to get that frame of mind on?

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By *ScotsmanMan
over a year ago

ayrshire

"Families have their disputes all the time, sometimes big, sometimes little. Time sometimes takes care of it.

ta been when you were kissin me

only you know old boy .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

without knowing the ins and outs of the cats bum on this its hard to comment but it sounds very complicated and frustrating - the truth will out eventually as the saying goes

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"Families have their disputes all the time, sometimes big, sometimes little. Time sometimes takes care of it.

Well I'm thinking both. Which will only come back to haunt me eventually. "
So why bother?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've tried very hard to get my head around this post and not sure I understand it completely but I'm going to go with walk away and move on

Yes, but my point was how to get that frame of mind on? "

Concern yourself with other matters.

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By *r-Unique OP Man
over a year ago

Carmarthenshire

"Families have their disputes all the time, sometimes big, sometimes little. Time sometimes takes care of it.

Well I'm thinking both. Which will only come back to haunt me eventually. So why bother?"

Because it will make me feel better and the situation better to, even if it's for a while. That while will be so handy for personal reasons. My point was though if I don't do that. Then the only choice then is to walk away, but I am asking how do people get that mind on?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It often starts with the acceptance that some things in life are beyond our control. Good luck with figuring it out.

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"Families have their disputes all the time, sometimes big, sometimes little. Time sometimes takes care of it.

Well I'm thinking both. Which will only come back to haunt me eventually. So why bother?

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By *r-Unique OP Man
over a year ago

Carmarthenshire

"Families have their disputes all the time, sometimes big, sometimes little. Time sometimes takes care of it.

Well I'm thinking both. Which will only come back to haunt me eventually. So why bother?

Maybe your right and that's a step in the right direction. Know of any good ones? So I can send him/her to the cunt i know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have to want to walk away. It's easy if you want it

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"Families have their disputes all the time, sometimes big, sometimes little. Time sometimes takes care of it.

Well I'm thinking both. Which will only come back to haunt me eventually. So why bother?

Maybe your right and that's a step in the right direction. Know of any good ones? So I can send him/her to the cunt i know

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I give up. Never mind. Your mind is closed, you do what you will. Good luck.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Your posts never make sense. You sort of tell part of a story and everyone else has to guess what you mean.

You do sound very angry about something though and as someone suggested maybe try anger management

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By *r-Unique OP Man
over a year ago

Carmarthenshire

"You have to want to walk away. It's easy if you want it"

No justice being done when a runt has made a loved one suffer both physically, mentally and emotionally and it's ongoing. So seeing no justice is hard to take. But walking away means just that unless the things I have mentioned above gets done. Don't want any of them done and feel a bit lost.

Where is jewel and Suckable_lips when you need them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Get some anger management counselling.

Maybe your right and that's a step in the right direction. Know of any good ones? So I can send him/her to the cunt i know

I give up. Never mind. Your mind is closed, you do what you will. Good luck."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Your posts never make sense. You sort of tell part of a story and everyone else has to guess what you mean.

Glad I'm not the only one struggling to make sense of the riddles but it is late and I am cranky with tooth ache

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By *an_WoodMan
over a year ago

Stafford

You say it will make you feel better, not much focus on what is best for the family ? Step back and if you know some one you trust outside the family try getting some free advice. Agree with other posts on this troubling thread.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Lol none of this post has made sense in the slightest...

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"You have to want to walk away. It's easy if you want it

Where is jewel and Suckable_lips when you need them

Maybe message them you have been given good advice so far

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"It often starts with the acceptance that some things in life are beyond our control. Good luck with figuring it out."

This!

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Taking the law into your own hands is only ever going to end badly.

If you are struggling to come to terms with a situation you see as unjust, get some counselling.

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By *ivilizedkinkCouple
over a year ago

harrow

"I've tried very hard to get my head around this post and not sure I understand it completely but I'm going to go with walk away and move on

Yes, but my point was how to get that frame of mind on? "

getting professional help might be a good place to start , have you tried your local victim support ? They can give you emotional support and legal advice . Its worth a try

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ask yourself, are your seeking justice or revenge?

Because from what little I can fathom, you're thinking the latter will provide the former and it won't.

If you want justice, focus your efforts on protecting the victim from the perpetrator; achieve a just end to the situation by removing the victim from harm.

All violence will do is make the perpetrator into another victim and then you've lost.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Ask yourself, are your seeking justice or revenge?

Because from what little I can fathom, you're thinking the latter will provide the former and it won't.

If you want justice, focus your efforts on protecting the victim from the perpetrator; achieve a just end to the situation by removing the victim from harm.

All violence will do is make the perpetrator into another victim and then you've lost.

This man is very wise!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ask yourself, are your seeking justice or revenge?

Because from what little I can fathom, you're thinking the latter will provide the former and it won't.

If you want justice, focus your efforts on protecting the victim from the perpetrator; achieve a just end to the situation by removing the victim from harm.

All violence will do is make the perpetrator into another victim and then you've lost.

Well said.

Dont do anything that will play on your conscience in the future. You have to live with bad decisions a very long time.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Ask yourself, are your seeking justice or revenge?

Because from what little I can fathom, you're thinking the latter will provide the former and it won't.

If you want justice, focus your efforts on protecting the victim from the perpetrator; achieve a just end to the situation by removing the victim from harm.

All violence will do is make the perpetrator into another victim and then you've lost.

Well said.

Dont do anything that will play on your conscience in the future. You have to live with bad decisions a very long time.

And if it ends with a criminal record then it's with you forever.

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By *an_WoodMan
over a year ago

Stafford

"Taking the law into your own hands is only ever going to end badly.

If you are struggling to come to terms with a situation you see as unjust, get some counselling. "

Very true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your old username was slightly more apt.

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By *r-Unique OP Man
over a year ago

Carmarthenshire

"Ask yourself, are your seeking justice or revenge?

Because from what little I can fathom, you're thinking the latter will provide the former and it won't.

If you want justice, focus your efforts on protecting the victim from the perpetrator; achieve a just end to the situation by removing the victim from harm.

All violence will do is make the perpetrator into another victim and then you've lost.

Well said.

Dont do anything that will play on your conscience in the future. You have to live with bad decisions a very long time.

If I hit the culprit and it went too far and broken bones were involved. I wouldn't bat an eyelid. My conscious wouldn't be affected. I would only worry on what people I know think of me.

Secondly counselling for me is a load of rubbish as I haven't done anything wrong. No matter how cruel my posts have been or no matter how nasty I may come across. I will never stoop to the culprits level as even if I did slap him. It's not stooping to his level as I will never, ever hit, let alone batter a woman on any occasion. Nevermind more than once. Also seeing this girl flinching because of him speaks volumes.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Ask yourself, are your seeking justice or revenge?

Because from what little I can fathom, you're thinking the latter will provide the former and it won't.

If you want justice, focus your efforts on protecting the victim from the perpetrator; achieve a just end to the situation by removing the victim from harm.

All violence will do is make the perpetrator into another victim and then you've lost.

Well said.

Dont do anything that will play on your conscience in the future. You have to live with bad decisions a very long time.

If I hit the culprit and it went too far and broken bones were involved. I wouldn't bat an eyelid. My conscious wouldn't be affected. I would only worry on what people I know think of me.

Lastly it is justice as if something bad happened to him. I would think of it as justice as it wouldn't bother me if someone hit him or the police arrested him as the police are refusing to do just that. "
right, its beginning to make more sense, someone you know is in a violent relationship.

You can give them the tools to leave me find them somewhere safe to go and support them. But altimatly if they don't want to leave the relationship then they won't. But you huffing and puffing isn't going to help things just make it more awkward for the victim

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Ask yourself, are your seeking justice or revenge?

Because from what little I can fathom, you're thinking the latter will provide the former and it won't.

If you want justice, focus your efforts on protecting the victim from the perpetrator; achieve a just end to the situation by removing the victim from harm.

All violence will do is make the perpetrator into another victim and then you've lost.

Well said.

Dont do anything that will play on your conscience in the future. You have to live with bad decisions a very long time.

If I hit the culprit and it went too far and broken bones were involved. I wouldn't bat an eyelid. My conscious wouldn't be affected. I would only worry on what people I know think of me.

I have to say...this post and another yesterday claiming you have given people brain damage from hitting them in the past make think you are not a very nice person

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

I will say the same thing as I said yesterday. OP, you need anger management, you seem to resort to violence as a solution a lot. Careful, one day you may lose your liberty and yet I feel you would still blame someone else. Also this kind of post will not exactly endear you as a good prospective meet. Just saying.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"I will say the same thing as I said yesterday. OP, you need anger management, you seem to resort to violence as a solution a lot. Careful, one day you may lose your liberty and yet I feel you would still blame someone else. Also this kind of post will not exactly endear you as a good prospective meet. Just saying."

Yes, i would say the op portraits himself as being somewhat of a loose cannon.

As you say im sure it would put some of meeting

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Secondly counselling for me is a load of rubbish as I haven't done anything wrong. "

It's quite clear from many of the posts you've made that you have some serious issues that need to be addressed, including anger issues.

There's no point anyone responding to your posts though because you aren't willing to hear what you are being told.

You seem to want validation that violence is an acceptable route and is what you should do. It's not. *Everyone* is telling you this. Please realise that.

Your posts are usually loaded with you wanting certain answers and you become angry and defensive if you don't get them.

There is help available for the woman involved but she has to want it. Otherwise there is nothing you can do.

This is absolutely genuine advice, though I already know you'll consider it a personal attack. I'm bowing out of this one because it's clear, as usual, you won't listen or accept that you need to change.

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By *ichaelangelaCouple
over a year ago

notts

anyone mentioned... put your trust karma??

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Jesus weep....you really think by hitting someone is going to solve anything....as others said be careful as prison is the last place you would want to end up

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