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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Do you find that people define you by just one part of you? I'm often defined by my body type, but I'm not just a 'big girl' I'm also a book lover and im often too bitchy for my own good. I'm just a normal girl. Does anyone else feel this way or am I being a bit idiotic?

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Define "normal"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Define "normal" "

Ok good point, normal was a poor word choice. But my point was still made xD

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

It depends on who is doing the defining. On here, people may perceive me to be a hat wearing, biscuit eating buffoon who posts random shit on a daily basis.

At work, others may see me as a level headed, problem solving, organised, hard working guy.

At home, I'm a guy who likes to do a bit of cooking, blast some tunes out & chill.

Down the pub, well that depends on how many beers I have had

They are all right in one way or another so I guess I am normal as well

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It depends on who is doing the defining. On here, people may perceive me to be a hat wearing, biscuit eating buffoon who posts random shit on a daily basis.

At work, others may see me as a level headed, problem solving, organised, hard working guy.

At home, I'm a guy who likes to do a bit of cooking, blast some tunes out & chill.

Down the pub, well that depends on how many beers I have had

They are all right in one way or another so I guess I am normal as well "

All are parts of who you are (im assuming) you're not just one person. I suppose everyone has different identities as such depending on who they are with

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

I am one person, just as much as anyone else. Different people see me in different situations and form an opinion of me based on what they see or hear me doing at any given time.

If you saw me at 10 o'clock every Sunday morning, you'd think I was a right wanker

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Neither of you are normal, I am normal everybody else is weird except Wyrd she is.. well Wyrd. and I don't wear a hat except when I have to.

In answer to the original question apart from spurious claims to be normal, on here you are your photo and description until you get on the forums then aspects of other parts of you leak out from time to time.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Neither of you are normal, I am normal everybody else is weird except Wyrd she is.. well Wyrd. and I don't wear a hat except when I have to.

In answer to the original question apart from spurious claims to be normal, on here you are your photo and description until you get on the forums then aspects of other parts of you leak out from time to time."

Also defined by age, isn't that right :P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Also defined by age, isn't that right :P "

That comes into it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Also defined by age, isn't that right :P

That comes into it"

Plus big hands/small lynx bottles! Teehee x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would suggest that the whole point of this site is to be superficial and physical. Most people on here are here for one thing only. That said, who are you favourite authors?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I would suggest that the whole point of this site is to be superficial and physical. Most people on here are here for one thing only. That said, who are you favourite authors?"

I'm going through a James Patterson phase at the moment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great author & v prolific - which set are you reading? Alex Cross, Michael Bennett or Womens Murder Club series? Have you seen the recent Alex Cross film (if not save yourself two hours as its not great!). PS if you have Netflix they have all the Saw films!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Great author & v prolific - which set are you reading? Alex Cross, Michael Bennett or Womens Murder Club series? Have you seen the recent Alex Cross film (if not save yourself two hours as its not great!). PS if you have Netflix they have all the Saw films!! "

Been reading whatever I can get my hands on. I just read Guilty Wives.

Yeah I saw it and almost fell asleep lol.

Netflix only has the last 3 saw films got 1 and 2 recorded on sky, 3 on DVD, missing 4, and 5,6 and the final chapter are on netflix x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've got 4 somewhere on DVD. I tried to message but was too old lol!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you read the original James Herbert books? He used to live near Camberley so many of the early books are based around here (which gives the stories an extra something!!)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've got 4 somewhere on DVD. I tried to message but was too old lol!!! "

Try now x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have mail! X

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It is tough summing someone up in the simplest terms. People wont appreciate your love, unless you love them, so most will just share more basic aspects of us. Many are less sure about who they themselves are, and I think this makes it tougher for them to 'get' others too. Just because someone else shrinkwraps you doesnt mean you are any less deep or complex, merely that it is a hard job appreciating the complexity of others.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

your normal .. to you .. im normal to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never judge a book by it's cover i say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People think I'm nice. They don't know that although I'm a dimple cheeked,quiet grandmother,I'm a sexual deviant. I've had men say "You look so innocent". I'm far from it. It's probably put a lot of men off in the past

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who am I? An eternal question. For sure, I am not what I do. I have many aspects to my personality but I am not simply all of them. I am not just an isolated being but also in relationship to all around me but I am not that either. I am my own creator and yet I am created by others...

Fucking deep question. ..fucked if I know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This site encourages the objectification of people into a set of physical characteristics.

Sorry, I'm in bit of a blunt mood this morning.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you find that people define you by just one part of you? I'm often defined by my body type, but I'm not just a 'big girl' I'm also a book lover and im often too bitchy for my own good. I'm just a normal girl. Does anyone else feel this way or am I being a bit idiotic? "
I get the what your saying people define me by my age but im actually alot more mature than people my own age I love reading and exploring and learning new things (not just sex) but genuinly just expanding my knowledge on the world

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This site encourages the objectification of people into a set of physical characteristics.

Sorry, I'm in bit of a blunt mood this morning."

Blunt yet accurate

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I defy easy definition and I'm happy to keep it that way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never judge a book by it's cover i say "

I never do if it's sleeveless.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This site encourages the objectification of people into a set of physical characteristics.

Sorry, I'm in bit of a blunt mood this morning."

you are the site

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

I believe that often how people see themselves and how they feel about themselves colours how they think others perceive them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People think I'm nice. They don't know that although I'm a dimple cheeked,quiet grandmother,I'm a sexual deviant. I've had men say "You look so innocent". I'm far from it. It's probably put a lot of men off in the past"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I believe that often how people see themselves and how they feel about themselves colours how they think others perceive them."

Agree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This site encourages the objectification of people into a set of physical characteristics.

Sorry, I'm in bit of a blunt mood this morning.

you are the site"

No I'm not. The site is a collective of shared thoughts, opinions and behaviours, distilled into a general perception.

The individual still exists in each of us, how we use the site is up to us, but those who march to the beat of a different drummer will always have to work harder than the rest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm defined as the fat, disabled girl

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I dont think im defined by one aspect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I HOPE I'm not defined by one aspect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

much more to me than a bbc...something I dont really see myself as anyway

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Some may categorise me according to one aspect of who I am. Ultimately it doesn't change anything. I'm still the same person. Anyone who pigeonholes me doesn't know me well.

Why care about the opinion of anyone who doesn't know me?

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

Very interesting thread x

I know some people define themselves by who they told they are at a young age

Quick simplified example .

Lucy age 2 sees a spider and reacts

The next 10 years Lucy mum

Aw our Lucy is scared of spiders

Lucy aged 19

Hi Lucy tell us something about yourself

Hi I'm Lucy and I'm scared of spiders

It's more complex than that but having met a fair few teenagers it's amazing how they continue a needless negative self belief and soon it becomes part of their self

I almost did it with dyslexia many have a single poor performance episode aged young and then project it as a permanent cant that becomes a fit er reality character trait

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

Fit er should read future

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's all down to perception thts the key word x

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