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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Sometimes I hate being a single dad

I'm being totally selfish here -and a bit of an arse when I say this - but kids get in the way of my social life

I wish I could have some weekends to myself, but with working away during the week, it's about the only time I do get to spend with them

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Sometimes I hate being a single dad

I'm being totally selfish here -and a bit of an arse when I say this - but kids get in the way of my social life

I wish I could have some weekends to myself, but with working away during the week, it's about the only time I do get to spend with them

Do you think its any different for couples who are parents?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

oh and by the way I never ever felt that I hated being a parent and I'm very saddened to hear that you feel that way.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Wow, i was a single mum and part of being a parent is that you are no longer number one in your life.

I hardly went out and didnt resent it in the least.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"oh and by the way I never ever felt that I hated being a parent and I'm very saddened to hear that you feel that way."

Did I say that I hated being a parent ?

Not at all ...

I love my kids and miss them terribly when I'm away... but I also miss some of the freedoms that I used to have

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"oh and by the way I never ever felt that I hated being a parent and I'm very saddened to hear that you feel that way."

i dont think he hates being a parent, he hates being a single parent.

OP..everyone is allowed moments of selfishness so dont be too hard on your self. by the time the weekend comes these thoughts will be out of the window as your children cherish their time with you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I know what you mean, sometimes I plan things out and then family changes it's plans and it's all up in the air again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single dad but you only see them weekends? Sounds like someone else is doing most of the parenting and you are doing no more than a visiting parent...?

Confused.com

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

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I felt like that sometimes. Now my daughter has left home I miss her tremendously and I still don't have much of a social life. Make the most of this time cos you'll not get it back.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"oh and by the way I never ever felt that I hated being a parent and I'm very saddened to hear that you feel that way.

Did I say that I hated being a parent ?

Not at all ...

I love my kids and miss them terribly when I'm away... but I also miss some of the freedoms that I used to have

yep so did we when our kids were small. I think you may have worded this unfortunately using the word hate. All parents feel trapped at times and as if they would give anything for an hour or two alone. Could you get the odd night out by using a baby sitter?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I expected to get slated for this ...

But surely we all miss the freedom we used to enjoy ...

It's a part of my life and I have to get used to it

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"oh and by the way I never ever felt that I hated being a parent and I'm very saddened to hear that you feel that way.

i dont think he hates being a parent, he hates being a single parent.

OP..everyone is allowed moments of selfishness so dont be too hard on your self. by the time the weekend comes these thoughts will be out of the window as your children cherish their time with you."

Yep! I see that but he is a single dad at weekends, someone must have the care of them during the week

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I expected to get slated for this ...

But surely we all miss the freedom we used to enjoy ...

It's a part of my life and I have to get used to it

i miss a social life too

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

I understand what you're saying as I feel the same.

I have been a single parent for years now and free time is lacking. When they are here I love them but I also want some time to be me for a change. I spend all my time in mum mide irs hard for me to get myself into horny mode.

I respect any guy who takes on responsibility for their kids. My ex doesn't and always has an excuse.

When my kids are away I adore the time to me but also miss them like crazy and feel lowtil they come back.

Being a parent you have highs and lows. Being a single parent thst responsibility is yours often with little help.

Op. I understand what you're saying xx

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

"Single dad but you only see them weekends? Sounds like someone else is doing most of the parenting and you are doing no more than a visiting parent...?

Confused.com

He works away during the week, can't knock a man or going to work, it's no different to me work ring full time and my parents having my children all week

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Single dad but you only see them weekends? Sounds like someone else is doing most of the parenting and you are doing no more than a visiting parent...?

Confused.com

With working away during the week I only get to see my children at weekends, and that's part of my arrangement with my ex. ..

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

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"I expected to get slated for this ...

But surely we all miss the freedom we used to enjoy ...

It's a part of my life and I have to get used to it

They don't stay kids for ever, and they don't stay dependant for ever.

When my daughter was small I sometimes went days between speaking to adults. It can be very lonely.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Wait until your kids are grown up into teenagers and hardly talk to you all day. I miss the Lego days and hate the xbox these days.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Single dad but you only see them weekends? Sounds like someone else is doing most of the parenting and you are doing no more than a visiting parent...?

Confused.com

With working away during the week I only get to see my children at weekends, and that's part of my arrangement with my ex. .."

Why don't you plan meets while you are working away?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"oh and by the way I never ever felt that I hated being a parent and I'm very saddened to hear that you feel that way.

i dont think he hates being a parent, he hates being a single parent.

OP..everyone is allowed moments of selfishness so dont be too hard on your self. by the time the weekend comes these thoughts will be out of the window as your children cherish their time with you.

Yep! I see that but he is a single dad at weekends, someone must have the care of them during the week

Yes ... my ex does

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I expected to get slated for this ...

But surely we all miss the freedom we used to enjoy ...

It's a part of my life and I have to get used to it

yes you're right we do, as I said can you get a baby sitter occasionally?

Trust me they will soon be old enough to not need sitters and you'll have your freedom back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Still confused as to why this is such a big deal if you only see them at weekends.

When I got custody of my first child she was 16 months old. I worked full time and couldn't wait to get her from the child minder at the end of the day.

I'd just moved because of work. Knew no one and my nearest relative was 240 miles away. I never went out.

I loved it

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

I cannot get a sitter to stay with kids. I just can't do it. I don't even ask my mum to sit for kids so I can go out on a meet. I really struggle with that. They know I swing and understand my reasons but I find it hard to go to horny nood when mum has the kids.

I am child free tomorrow night it turns out but I know I would like to go out and have fun but will talk myself out of it.

I wait til they go to their dads before I arrange something. When they are there they are his responsibility not mine for a change.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I was wrong to use the word hate ...

But I do miss being able to go to the pub, meet friends and socialise etc.

I feel enormously guilty at not spending the time with my children and when I do have them I feel even more guilty if I were to get a sitter and go out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get the op totally, as a single mum I had one weekend a month when their dad had them.

It was tough going and I lost me as anything other than a mum for a long time.

Thankfully they are now grown up and are my best friends as well as my kids, one of them still lives at home though.....boys ya just can't shift em

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Still confused as to why this is such a big deal if you only see them at weekends.

When I got custody of my first child she was 16 months old. I worked full time and couldn't wait to get her from the child minder at the end of the day.

I'd just moved because of work. Knew no one and my nearest relative was 240 miles away. I never went out.

I loved it

well I'm guessing if he's working all week and caring for them at weekends its going to be difficult for him to get some time alone. Despite what I said earlier I can sort of see his point we all felt that we were either looking after the kids, at work or sleeping at some point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah I see now; your ex is the single parent and you get to see the kids at the weekend.... every week end? That's pretty good for an estranged parent.

Make the most of them. Sounds like you have a pretty great arrangement that many visiting parent would love to have.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was wrong to use the word hate ...

But I do miss being able to go to the pub, meet friends and socialise etc.

I feel enormously guilty at not spending the time with my children and when I do have them I feel even more guilty if I were to get a sitter and go out

No need for guilt your kids are very lucky to have you as their dad hun xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ah I see now; your ex is the single parent and you get to see the kids at the weekend.... every week end? That's pretty good for an estranged parent.

Make the most of them. Sounds like you have a pretty great arrangement that many visiting parent would love to have.

My ex and I are both single parents and we both share that responsibility

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im a single mum to young children and my social life is virtually none exsistant except for a coffee wiv other mums at playgroup and going o slimmingworld once a week it just the price we pay and thy are worth it. jus keep telling yourself kids grow upand they do it so quickly that u can live ur life wen they have moved on

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Ah I see now; your ex is the single parent and you get to see the kids at the weekend.... every week end? That's pretty good for an estranged parent.

Make the most of them. Sounds like you have a pretty great arrangement that many visiting parent would love to have.

The ex gets every weekend to party hard and HE had the good deal??

I can understand the op's frustrations and the conflict of emotions he has and I'm not even a parent lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sometimes I hate being a single dad

I'm being totally selfish here -and a bit of an arse when I say this - but kids get in the way of my social life

I wish I could have some weekends to myself, but with working away during the week, it's about the only time I do get to spend with them

So you are away all week and only see your kids at weekends? 2 nights out of 7 and you're beginning to resent them for this???? My heart bleeds for you. Grow a pair and act like a parent and not like a spoiled child!!!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Ah I see now; your ex is the single parent and you get to see the kids at the weekend.... every week end? That's pretty good for an estranged parent.

Make the most of them. Sounds like you have a pretty great arrangement that many visiting parent would love to have.

The ex gets every weekend to party hard and HE had the good deal??

I can understand the op's frustrations and the conflict of emotions he has and I'm not even a parent lol"

where does it say is ex parties hard at the weekend?

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Ah I see now; your ex is the single parent and you get to see the kids at the weekend.... every week end? That's pretty good for an estranged parent.

Make the most of them. Sounds like you have a pretty great arrangement that many visiting parent would love to have.

The ex gets every weekend to party hard and HE had the good deal??

I can understand the op's frustrations and the conflict of emotions he has and I'm not even a parent lol

where does it say is ex parties hard at the weekend?"

Poetic license. She is kid free every weekend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can completely empathise with the OP. Being a parent is hard. A single parent even harder.

I don't think anyone goes into it knowing what it will be like and what you give up for your children. People can give all the advice in the world, but until you have your own you have no idea!

One of my friends is a psychologist and she says that the people with the most active social lives prior to babies are the ones it affects the most. The ones who really miss their independence when kids come along.

It's hard, and anyone who gets on their horse about it, in my view, obviously didn't do too much before it.

(Hides under bed awaiting the backlash).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ah I see now; your ex is the single parent and you get to see the kids at the weekend.... every week end? That's pretty good for an estranged parent.

Make the most of them. Sounds like you have a pretty great arrangement that many visiting parent would love to have.

My ex and I are both single parents and we both share that responsibility

Just make the most of them while they are young. My two are now 18 & 22. All that time spent together has really paid off. We are so very close.

Had a great evening together tonight. We were all doing our bit preparing tea and then sat down to enjoy it together. Laughing and teasing each other.

Youngest is back from uni and the eldest is moving out again soon now her degree & personality has got her into her dream job.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ah I see now; your ex is the single parent and you get to see the kids at the weekend.... every week end? That's pretty good for an estranged parent.

Make the most of them. Sounds like you have a pretty great arrangement that many visiting parent would love to have.

The ex gets every weekend to party hard and HE had the good deal??

I can understand the op's frustrations and the conflict of emotions he has and I'm not even a parent lol"

My ex doesn't "party hard" lol

But she does have an opportunity to go out at the weekend , occasionally, and I wouldn't resent her for that

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sometimes I hate being a single dad

I'm being totally selfish here -and a bit of an arse when I say this - but kids get in the way of my social life

I wish I could have some weekends to myself, but with working away during the week, it's about the only time I do get to spend with them

I work away from home Monday through Thursday and have my kids three to four nights per week... Get some evidence before you cast aspersions

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Ah I see now; your ex is the single parent and you get to see the kids at the weekend.... every week end? That's pretty good for an estranged parent.

Make the most of them. Sounds like you have a pretty great arrangement that many visiting parent would love to have.

The ex gets every weekend to party hard and HE had the good deal??

I can understand the op's frustrations and the conflict of emotions he has and I'm not even a parent lol

My ex doesn't "party hard" lol

But she does have an opportunity to go out at the weekend , occasionally, and I wouldn't resent her for that

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why dont you go out and socialize with the kids. When mine and my friends kids where all young we used to take it in turns at the weekend to go round ones house, kids would have the music and karooke on and adults would sit and have a laugh, do you have friends in the same position?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ah I see now; your ex is the single parent and you get to see the kids at the weekend.... every week end? That's pretty good for an estranged parent.

Make the most of them. Sounds like you have a pretty great arrangement that many visiting parent would love to have.

The ex gets every weekend to party hard and HE had the good deal??

I can understand the op's frustrations and the conflict of emotions he has and I'm not even a parent lol

My ex doesn't "party hard" lol

But she does have an opportunity to go out at the weekend , occasionally, and I wouldn't resent her for that

why dont you go out and socialize with the kids. When mine and my friends kids where all young we used to take it in turns at the weekend to go round ones house, kids would have the music and karooke on and adults would sit and have a laugh, do you have friends in the same position?"

That's kinda how I met my wife. Got chatting at the school gates. Used to pop round for coffee while the kids played together. We were best mates for a long time until she started stalking me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hey im just loving the fact ive had 4 nights child free this year!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our son moved out to go to uni so we have had the house to ourselves. . . He graduates in July and is moving back home to save as much as he can for about six months. . . . When he starts his new job he has been offered. So we will not be able to accommodate the at all, but hey that's life , and that's how it goes! You just got to make the most of your time for you when you do get it, even if it's not that often! It's one of the rules of being a good parent, being there for them etc . Unfortunately it's probably rule 280 so you would have hot well bored reading them we'll before then lol . . . Cherish your time with them , they grow up so quickly ! !!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

could you plan a couple of annual leave days to go out and socialise? It would give you something to look forward to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is a long shot but have you look at Families Need Fathers?

I believe they have area support groups of dads/kids in the same boat. Maybe sharing activities can lighten your burden, increase your social network which i'm guessing as a single dad and working away may not be great.

They have a very good website, well worth a browse sometime, midweek maybe.

I suppose you miss out on school networking too, maybe try extra hard on one of your annual holiday weeks to develop those?

There comes an age where kids love sleepovers, and you'll need close contacts for that, especially helpful if you have mixed gender kids too.

Can only echo what others have said, enjoy every minute with your kids, you only ever get once chance to do so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My daughters and my step daughter all went out for a night out last weekend. It was so nice to have a romantic night in; Just me, my lovely wife........ and the 26yr old Neanderthal son!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As soon as my kids go to their dads I have my heels and lippy on lol off I go !

I look forward to the bit of time when I am not being torn apart my children

Think it's great you work away and then have your kids at weekends

But at least you get each evening to yourself we single mammas at home can't just nip up the shop we have to sit on our sofa doing nothing

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

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"hey im just loving the fact ive had 4 nights child free this year!

Dirty stop out!

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By *hetalkingstoveMan
over a year ago

London

"oh and by the way I never ever felt that I hated being a parent and I'm very saddened to hear that you feel that way."

People are entitled to feel like their kids impinge on their life.

It's really boring how people portray having kids as just the most amazing, perfect thing in the world that must never be criticised. It's a tough thing to do and it's human to resent that sometimes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All my resentment was directed at my ex's

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By *r Man.Man
over a year ago

London

"Sometimes I hate being a single dad

I'm being totally selfish here -and a bit of an arse when I say this - but kids get in the way of my social life

I wish I could have some weekends to myself, but with working away during the week, it's about the only time I do get to spend with them

Your such an arrogant and selfish man. Formost I'm a dad and single. Long story but I'm glad my daughter has me in her life and someone who puts her first in front of my own, if i had any selfish views. Your the type of father argh!!!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"oh and by the way I never ever felt that I hated being a parent and I'm very saddened to hear that you feel that way.

People are entitled to feel like their kids impinge on their life.

It's really boring how people portray having kids as just the most amazing, perfect thing in the world that must never be criticised. It's a tough thing to do and it's human to resent that sometimes."

Yes they are entitled. Not feeling that you hate being a parent isn't the same as saying that its amazing, perfect and beyond criticism, anyway the op explained that he didn't hate being a parent either.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Sometimes I hate being a single dad

I'm being totally selfish here -and a bit of an arse when I say this - but kids get in the way of my social life

I wish I could have some weekends to myself, but with working away during the week, it's about the only time I do get to spend with them

Read the whole thread!

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

To be fair I'd love to be a mum right now, however I can totally understand where the op is coming from

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Sometimes I hate being a single dad

I'm being totally selfish here -and a bit of an arse when I say this - but kids get in the way of my social life

I wish I could have some weekends to myself, but with working away during the week, it's about the only time I do get to spend with them

No he isn't, he's _xpressed what lots of parents feel, the use of the word hate was unfortunate but he has acknowledged that. He also clearly puts his kids first judging by what he's said later on.

What type of father do you think he is?

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I think youll be a better parent if youre also nourished socially and have a balance life. Working away during the week is tough on its own, and you may still be getting used to being away from your kids. See what balance you can add into your life, during the week and weekend. Look for some support, and you only feel guilt if you choose it- you have a choice and its not deserved, if youre largely, as you seem to be, providing a solid foundation for your kids, financially and lovingly. Take care.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To be fair I'd love to be a mum right now, however I can totally understand where the op is coming from"

pssst sub-contract.

nice weekends in wales.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sometimes I hate being a single dad

I'm being totally selfish here -and a bit of an arse when I say this - but kids get in the way of my social life

I wish I could have some weekends to myself, but with working away during the week, it's about the only time I do get to spend with them

I did say I was being selfish; But arrogant ?

Don't even you sometimes think you might want a night off ?

That's natural for us all ...

As I said I love my kids, and the time I do spend with them, ok ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"oh and by the way I never ever felt that I hated being a parent and I'm very saddened to hear that you feel that way.

People are entitled to feel like their kids impinge on their life.

and it's hard work being a single parent and lonely , once mine go to bed at 7.30 , im stuck night after night on my own , juggling work family life ect , your ex is lucky , mine go to their dads every other weekend and he refuses to help me if I have to work late ect

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By *r Man.Man
over a year ago

London

"Sometimes I hate being a single dad

I'm being totally selfish here -and a bit of an arse when I say this - but kids get in the way of my social life

I wish I could have some weekends to myself, but with working away during the week, it's about the only time I do get to spend with them

No he isn't, he's _xpressed what lots of parents feel, the use of the word hate was unfortunate but he has acknowledged that. He also clearly puts his kids first judging by what he's said later on.

What type of father do you think he is?

What type of father!

One who starts a thread with the word hate, then back tracks after a few comments from fellow fabers .

He should be thankful he has a caring ex that allows him his weekend visits, with his kids, and stop bitching about he has no free time for his self.

I do apologise for my strong words but its how i feel about kids

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mmmm feelin' the love on this thread

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

We have all used the word hate occasionally and shouldn't have. Doesn't mean we are crap parents. Just means emotions run high.

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By *r Man.Man
over a year ago

London

"We have all used the word hate occasionally and shouldn't have. Doesn't mean we are crap parents. Just means emotions run high."

As I said i apologise for my strong words

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Sometimes I hate being a single dad

I'm being totally selfish here -and a bit of an arse when I say this - but kids get in the way of my social life

I wish I could have some weekends to myself, but with working away during the week, it's about the only time I do get to spend with them

No he isn't, he's _xpressed what lots of parents feel, the use of the word hate was unfortunate but he has acknowledged that. He also clearly puts his kids first judging by what he's said later on.

What type of father do you think he is?

What type of father!

One who starts a thread with the word hate, then back tracks after a few comments from fellow fabers .

He should be thankful he has a caring ex that allows him his weekend visits, with his kids, and stop bitching about he has no free time for his self.

I do apologise for my strong words but its how i feel about kids"

I think comments like this are the reason people put so much pressure on themselves to be the perfect parent. I've seen it in my own sister, running round like a blue arsed fly trying to do things the way the yummy mummies would do it, never admitting that at times all she wants to do is go to a field and scream because her daughter won't sleep and her son is playing her up because he is jealous of her daughter and her husband and her son fight a lot and she has a full time job......breathe!!!!

People are human, people make mistakes, people feel emotions such a hate and resentment about situations. Maybe only fleetingly but they do. You get an offer to go out with friends you haven't seen in ages then remember you can't go as you have your kids so you turn down the offer....a pang of disappointment is surely to be expected?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Sometimes I hate being a single dad

I'm being totally selfish here -and a bit of an arse when I say this - but kids get in the way of my social life

I wish I could have some weekends to myself, but with working away during the week, it's about the only time I do get to spend with them

No he isn't, he's _xpressed what lots of parents feel, the use of the word hate was unfortunate but he has acknowledged that. He also clearly puts his kids first judging by what he's said later on.

What type of father do you think he is?

What type of father!

One who starts a thread with the word hate, then back tracks after a few comments from fellow fabers .

He should be thankful he has a caring ex that allows him his weekend visits, with his kids, and stop bitching about he has no free time for his self.

I do apologise for my strong words but its how i feel about kids

Yea you're right Evie.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think if this had been written by a stranger from 'outside' the forum 'sect' the women would have been all over his use of the word hate and the sentiment therein.

Funny huh?

I'm a single dad and my son gets in the way of NOTHING. He's my son and not one meet is ever worth spending less time with him.

Gets in the way??

On here it's often not what is said, but who's said it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sometimes I hate being a single dad

I'm being totally selfish here -and a bit of an arse when I say this - but kids get in the way of my social life

I wish I could have some weekends to myself, but with working away during the week, it's about the only time I do get to spend with them

No he isn't, he's _xpressed what lots of parents feel, the use of the word hate was unfortunate but he has acknowledged that. He also clearly puts his kids first judging by what he's said later on.

What type of father do you think he is?

What type of father!

One who starts a thread with the word hate, then back tracks after a few comments from fellow fabers .

He should be thankful he has a caring ex that allows him his weekend visits, with his kids, and stop bitching about he has no free time for his self.

I do apologise for my strong words but its how i feel about kids

Yea you're right Evie. "

More fawning and making him out to be martyr rather than simply a moaner.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Lol ok

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I think if this had been written by a stranger from 'outside' the forum 'sect' the women would have been all over his use of the word hate and the sentiment therein.

Funny huh?

I'm a single dad and my son gets in the way of NOTHING. He's my son and not one meet is ever worth spending less time with him.

Gets in the way??

On here it's often not what is said, but who's said it.

see my first few posts and I am a woman.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Here's a thought for single parents:

With all the apparent aggravation, stress, lack of personal time and a myriad of other issues, do you ever ask yourself why yer a single parent?

Was life with yer ex/partner all that bad?

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By *xpresMan
over a year ago

Elland

"Sometimes I hate being a single dad

I'm being totally selfish here -and a bit of an arse when I say this - but kids get in the way of my social life

I wish I could have some weekends to myself, but with working away during the week, it's about the only time I do get to spend with them

im divorced dad of 3 boys i get them on Saturday morning till Sunday teatime. im a long distance truck driver,so im away all week also my time with my kids is all i work n get up for are my boys .. I cant believe the PW has posted this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I expected to get slated for this ...

But surely we all miss the freedom we used to enjoy ...

It's a part of my life and I have to get used to it

Be grateful for what you have. One day it might be taken away from you and all you'll have is quiet and time to yourself, it's not as easy to get used to. I for one would swap places with you in a miniscule of a second.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think if this had been written by a stranger from 'outside' the forum 'sect' the women would have been all over his use of the word hate and the sentiment therein.

Funny huh?

I'm a single dad and my son gets in the way of NOTHING. He's my son and not one meet is ever worth spending less time with him.

Gets in the way??

On here it's often not what is said, but who's said it.

see my first few posts and I am a woman. "

My point was that if are separated by a few degrees to the unelected forum governesses, you are afforded safe passage despite saying your kids get in the way of fucking.

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over a year ago

It can be hard at times not getting out when you want, but your kids will respect you more for being there than choosing other things other than them.

You only find this out as they are older.

My son has said to me, you have been a brilliant mum, I could not of done it without you.

He would not of said that if I had not of put him first.

Before long they build their own lives and you become redundant, and you can't get it back, and I for one really miss going to the zoo.

Her

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"I think if this had been written by a stranger from 'outside' the forum 'sect' the women would have been all over his use of the word hate and the sentiment therein.

Funny huh?

I'm a single dad and my son gets in the way of NOTHING. He's my son and not one meet is ever worth spending less time with him.

Gets in the way??

On here it's often not what is said, but who's said it.

see my first few posts and I am a woman.

My point was that if are separated by a few degrees to the unelected forum governesses, you are afforded safe passage despite saying your kids get in the way of fucking.

Are you using the same poetic license I used earlier lol

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By *r Man.Man
over a year ago

London

"Sometimes I hate being a single dad

I'm being totally selfish here -and a bit of an arse when I say this - but kids get in the way of my social life

I wish I could have some weekends to myself, but with working away during the week, it's about the only time I do get to spend with them

No he isn't, he's _xpressed what lots of parents feel, the use of the word hate was unfortunate but he has acknowledged that. He also clearly puts his kids first judging by what he's said later on.

What type of father do you think he is?

What type of father!

One who starts a thread with the word hate, then back tracks after a few comments from fellow fabers .

He should be thankful he has a caring ex that allows him his weekend visits, with his kids, and stop bitching about he has no free time for his self.

I do apologise for my strong words but its how i feel about kids

People are human, people make mistakes, people feel emotions such a hate and resentment about situations. Maybe only fleetingly but they do. You get an offer to go out with friends you haven't seen in ages then I remember you can't go as you have your kids so you turn down the offer....a pang of disappointment is surely to be expected? "

Ive just taken a chill pill

I do understand that adults need time for themselves with or without their peers. But for me (and this is what the forum is about) is about _xpress one views, so for me when i hear a parent complaining about their offspring getting in there way of there social life. I'm sorry it doesn't resonate with me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think if this had been written by a stranger from 'outside' the forum 'sect' the women would have been all over his use of the word hate and the sentiment therein.

Funny huh?

I'm a single dad and my son gets in the way of NOTHING. He's my son and not one meet is ever worth spending less time with him.

Gets in the way??

On here it's often not what is said, but who's said it.

see my first few posts and I am a woman.

My point was that if are separated by a few degrees to the unelected forum governesses, you are afforded safe passage despite saying your kids get in the way of fucking.

Where did the OP say they get in the way of fucking.....?!

He said social life, which could be as simple as meeting up with a friend or going to the cinema.

And yes I agree, children do get in the way of a social life so you need to find ways & means of either including them or having them looked after by a reliable babysitter.

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By *r Man.Man
over a year ago

London

"I think if this had been written by a stranger from 'outside' the forum 'sect' the women would have been all over his use of the word hate and the sentiment therein.

Funny huh?

I'm a single dad and my son gets in the way of NOTHING. He's my son and not one meet is ever worth spending less time with him.

Gets in the way??

On here it's often not what is said, but who's said it.

my man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think if this had been written by a stranger from 'outside' the forum 'sect' the women would have been all over his use of the word hate and the sentiment therein.

Funny huh?

I'm a single dad and my son gets in the way of NOTHING. He's my son and not one meet is ever worth spending less time with him.

Gets in the way??

On here it's often not what is said, but who's said it.

see my first few posts and I am a woman.

My point was that if are separated by a few degrees to the unelected forum governesses, you are afforded safe passage despite saying your kids get in the way of fucking.

Where did the OP say they get in the way of fucking.....?!

He said social life, which could be as simple as meeting up with a friend or going to the cinema.

And yes I agree, children do get in the way of a social life so you need to find ways & means of either including them or having them looked after by a reliable babysitter."

It doesn't matter if he's fucking or going to the cinema - kids don't get in the way!

As I said earlier, if this was a stranger, and not a well accredited forum poster, he'd have got pilloried.

And it's a swinging site - I took a punt at fucking, weirdly.

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By *ScotsmanMan
over a year ago

ayrshire

My kids are much more important than a wee tickley bit.. .if you dont want kids dont fuck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think if this had been written by a stranger from 'outside' the forum 'sect' the women would have been all over his use of the word hate and the sentiment therein.

Funny huh?

I'm a single dad and my son gets in the way of NOTHING. He's my son and not one meet is ever worth spending less time with him.

Gets in the way??

On here it's often not what is said, but who's said it.

see my first few posts and I am a woman.

My point was that if are separated by a few degrees to the unelected forum governesses, you are afforded safe passage despite saying your kids get in the way of fucking.

Where did the OP say they get in the way of fucking.....?!

He said social life, which could be as simple as meeting up with a friend or going to the cinema.

And yes I agree, children do get in the way of a social life so you need to find ways & means of either including them or having them looked after by a reliable babysitter.

It doesn't matter if he's fucking or going to the cinema - kids don't get in the way!

As I said earlier, if this was a stranger, and not a well accredited forum poster, he'd have got pilloried.

And it's a swinging site - I took a punt at fucking, weirdly.

Well good for you for taking a punt...!!

and I think on whole the response was about even, not all in favour of the OP unless of course you are reading something I'm not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couldn't you ask your ex to have them one Saturday a month? My ex used to take my kid every second weekend, I loved spending weekend days as it meant we could do things we couldn't do on school days. Maybe your ex would feel the same? Even if you still had them on the Friday of that weekend and your ex Saturday and Sunday?

Agree there has to be a balance and letting your hair down now and again is bound to help make you relax which will in turn make you a better parent. That took me a long time to realise as I wanted mine 24/7!

Thought I'd offer a possible solution rather than nagging again!

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village

"Sometimes I hate being a single dad

I'm being totally selfish here -and a bit of an arse when I say this - but kids get in the way of my social life

I wish I could have some weekends to myself, but with working away during the week, it's about the only time I do get to spend with them

Sorry mate but i'd say no. My child comes first no matter what. The whole world gets put on hold for her and nothing would ever change that for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think if this had been written by a stranger from 'outside' the forum 'sect' the women would have been all over his use of the word hate and the sentiment therein.

Funny huh?

I'm a single dad and my son gets in the way of NOTHING. He's my son and not one meet is ever worth spending less time with him.

Gets in the way??

On here it's often not what is said, but who's said it.

see my first few posts and I am a woman.

My point was that if are separated by a few degrees to the unelected forum governesses, you are afforded safe passage despite saying your kids get in the way of fucking.

Where did the OP say they get in the way of fucking.....?!

He said social life, which could be as simple as meeting up with a friend or going to the cinema.

And yes I agree, children do get in the way of a social life so you need to find ways & means of either including them or having them looked after by a reliable babysitter.

It doesn't matter if he's fucking or going to the cinema - kids don't get in the way!

As I said earlier, if this was a stranger, and not a well accredited forum poster, he'd have got pilloried.

And it's a swinging site - I took a punt at fucking, weirdly.

Well good for you for taking a punt...!!

and I think on whole the response was about even, not all in favour of the OP unless of course you are reading something I'm not.

I've lost your point - unless there wasn't one?

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By *xpresMan
over a year ago

Elland

"Sometimes I hate being a single dad

I'm being totally selfish here -and a bit of an arse when I say this - but kids get in the way of my social life

I wish I could have some weekends to myself, but with working away during the week, it's about the only time I do get to spend with them

Sorry mate but i'd say no. My child comes first no matter what. The whole world gets put on hold for her and nothing would ever change that for me

same with my boys ALWAYS come 1st

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My kids are much more important than a wee tickley bit.. .if you dont want kids dont fuck.

So you've never wanted any adult time to yourself ever....just your children 24/7....?!

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By *xpresMan
over a year ago

Elland

"My kids are much more important than a wee tickley bit.. .if you dont want kids dont fuck.

So you've never wanted any adult time to yourself ever....just your children 24/7....?!

if i could have my boys 24/7 i would

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By *r Man.Man
over a year ago

London

"My kids are much more important than a wee tickley bit.. .if you dont want kids dont fuck.

So you've never wanted any adult time to yourself ever....just your children 24/7....?!

Children 1st

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My kids are much more important than a wee tickley bit.. .if you dont want kids dont fuck.

So you've never wanted any adult time to yourself ever....just your children 24/7....?!

You are reading words that aren't there.

He simply said they are more important - unlike the OP who said they 'get in the way'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Here's a thought for single parents:

With all the apparent aggravation, stress, lack of personal time and a myriad of other issues, do you ever ask yourself why yer a single parent?

Was life with yer ex/partner all that bad?"

Yes. Was violent and controlling. So now I'm a single mum, he doesn't bother to visit her, I dnt get much time to be 'me' rather than 'mummy', wouldn't go back to how things were, but I understand the ops intended point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think if this had been written by a stranger from 'outside' the forum 'sect' the women would have been all over his use of the word hate and the sentiment therein.

Funny huh?

I'm a single dad and my son gets in the way of NOTHING. He's my son and not one meet is ever worth spending less time with him.

Gets in the way??

On here it's often not what is said, but who's said it.

see my first few posts and I am a woman.

My point was that if are separated by a few degrees to the unelected forum governesses, you are afforded safe passage despite saying your kids get in the way of fucking.

Where did the OP say they get in the way of fucking.....?!

He said social life, which could be as simple as meeting up with a friend or going to the cinema.

And yes I agree, children do get in the way of a social life so you need to find ways & means of either including them or having them looked after by a reliable babysitter.

It doesn't matter if he's fucking or going to the cinema - kids don't get in the way!

As I said earlier, if this was a stranger, and not a well accredited forum poster, he'd have got pilloried.

And it's a swinging site - I took a punt at fucking, weirdly.

Well good for you for taking a punt...!!

and I think on whole the response was about even, not all in favour of the OP unless of course you are reading something I'm not.

I've lost your point - unless there wasn't one?

Really?!

I'll say it again......

You assume that because the OP is a regular forum contributor he has been given an easy time.

My point is if you look at the thread I think the comments are fairly even between people empathising and being critical of his post / opinion ~ therefore I conclude that he hasn't been given an 'easy time'....

Clearer now?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I, for one, won't be truly satisfied by this thread until I can see video evidence of Fox Hat on the floor in tears whilst I tuck into my big bag of salt & vinegar crisps.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was a single dad 7 days a week, never minded the task except when the kids were asleep and I had to get through another evening alone. They are all grown up now and long since left home, plus I have met and married my current wife, life moves pretty fast, enjoy what you have and be grateful they actually have two parents to love them and raise them as a team.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think if this had been written by a stranger from 'outside' the forum 'sect' the women would have been all over his use of the word hate and the sentiment therein.

Funny huh?

I'm a single dad and my son gets in the way of NOTHING. He's my son and not one meet is ever worth spending less time with him.

Gets in the way??

On here it's often not what is said, but who's said it.

see my first few posts and I am a woman.

My point was that if are separated by a few degrees to the unelected forum governesses, you are afforded safe passage despite saying your kids get in the way of fucking.

Where did the OP say they get in the way of fucking.....?!

He said social life, which could be as simple as meeting up with a friend or going to the cinema.

And yes I agree, children do get in the way of a social life so you need to find ways & means of either including them or having them looked after by a reliable babysitter.

It doesn't matter if he's fucking or going to the cinema - kids don't get in the way!

As I said earlier, if this was a stranger, and not a well accredited forum poster, he'd have got pilloried.

And it's a swinging site - I took a punt at fucking, weirdly.

Well good for you for taking a punt...!!

and I think on whole the response was about even, not all in favour of the OP unless of course you are reading something I'm not.

I've lost your point - unless there wasn't one?

Really?!

I'll say it again......

You assume that because the OP is a regular forum contributor he has been given an easy time.

Clearer now?"

You'll write it again you mean.

I'll write what I said again. What he said was despicable, and as a single parent I cannot comprehend how selfish the OP sounds.

There should be no empathy - none at all - and only those that don't care for the inner circle clique on here answered truthfully.

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over a year ago

"My kids are much more important than a wee tickley bit.. .if you dont want kids dont fuck.

So you've never wanted any adult time to yourself ever....just your children 24/7....?!

You are reading words that aren't there.

He simply said they are more important - unlike the OP who said they 'get in the way'.

Errr no...I was trying to re-address the balance of the rather random quote...

"If you don't want kids don't fuck"....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think if this had been written by a stranger from 'outside' the forum 'sect' the women would have been all over his use of the word hate and the sentiment therein.

Funny huh?

I'm a single dad and my son gets in the way of NOTHING. He's my son and not one meet is ever worth spending less time with him.

Gets in the way??

On here it's often not what is said, but who's said it.

see my first few posts and I am a woman.

My point was that if are separated by a few degrees to the unelected forum governesses, you are afforded safe passage despite saying your kids get in the way of fucking.

Where did the OP say they get in the way of fucking.....?!

He said social life, which could be as simple as meeting up with a friend or going to the cinema.

And yes I agree, children do get in the way of a social life so you need to find ways & means of either including them or having them looked after by a reliable babysitter.

It doesn't matter if he's fucking or going to the cinema - kids don't get in the way!

As I said earlier, if this was a stranger, and not a well accredited forum poster, he'd have got pilloried.

And it's a swinging site - I took a punt at fucking, weirdly.

Well good for you for taking a punt...!!

and I think on whole the response was about even, not all in favour of the OP unless of course you are reading something I'm not.

I've lost your point - unless there wasn't one?

Really?!

I'll say it again......

You assume that because the OP is a regular forum contributor he has been given an easy time.

Clearer now?

You'll write it again you mean.

I'll write what I said again. What he said was despicable, and as a single parent I cannot comprehend how selfish the OP sounds.

There should be no empathy - none at all - and only those that don't care for the inner circle clique on here answered truthfully.

The inner circle clique 'eh?!..I actually don't think I am part of a clique the last time I looked...

I've answered truthfully and if I wish to empathise I will.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think if this had been written by a stranger from 'outside' the forum 'sect' the women would have been all over his use of the word hate and the sentiment therein.

Funny huh?

I'm a single dad and my son gets in the way of NOTHING. He's my son and not one meet is ever worth spending less time with him.

Gets in the way??

On here it's often not what is said, but who's said it.

see my first few posts and I am a woman.

My point was that if are separated by a few degrees to the unelected forum governesses, you are afforded safe passage despite saying your kids get in the way of fucking.

Where did the OP say they get in the way of fucking.....?!

He said social life, which could be as simple as meeting up with a friend or going to the cinema.

And yes I agree, children do get in the way of a social life so you need to find ways & means of either including them or having them looked after by a reliable babysitter.

It doesn't matter if he's fucking or going to the cinema - kids don't get in the way!

As I said earlier, if this was a stranger, and not a well accredited forum poster, he'd have got pilloried.

And it's a swinging site - I took a punt at fucking, weirdly.

Well good for you for taking a punt...!!

and I think on whole the response was about even, not all in favour of the OP unless of course you are reading something I'm not.

I've lost your point - unless there wasn't one?

Really?!

I'll say it again......

You assume that because the OP is a regular forum contributor he has been given an easy time.

Clearer now?

You'll write it again you mean.

I'll write what I said again. What he said was despicable, and as a single parent I cannot comprehend how selfish the OP sounds.

There should be no empathy - none at all - and only those that don't care for the inner circle clique on here answered truthfully.

The inner circle clique 'eh?!..I actually don't think I am part of a clique the last time I looked...

I've answered truthfully and if I wish to empathise I will.

You win.

He's dad of the year 2014.

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

Having read through the thread, I think the op was a bit daft in posting what he did. The replies seem pretty balanced though. The suggestion that the responses are because of a clique is complete bollocks - in my opinion of course.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kids come first without a shadow of doubt, but we all need adult time, it makes us a better parent.

op could you not find meets in the five nights you are away from them?

Her

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By *ScotsmanMan
over a year ago

ayrshire

Sorry i must be stoned. .im nearly pishing myself laughing.

oops ive pished myself

. .. Thats what i get for sitting on this thing all night talkin pee pee and not bothering to go pee pee. .. I must stop now because im frightened that the lady that keeps requesting for a guy Thats bursting for a piss is reading this.

. . .youz are funny and lovable when you all get on your soap box .im stoned whats your excuse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Having read through the thread, I think the op was a bit daft in posting what he did. The replies seem pretty balanced though. The suggestion that the responses are because of a clique is complete bollocks - in my opinion of course. "

How funny you should say that / another forum unelected official says it's so - so it's so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There should be no empathy - none at all - and only those that don't care for the inner circle clique on here answered truthfully."

Hey Sydney

...take a step back... I think you'll find the whole thread is one great steaming pile of turd. I agree with you about the clique thing...but dude take a look at what you're arguing over....it's just a stinky turd of flighty presumptions and arrogant assumptions followed up by a turgid pile of mumbo jumbo crap for or against the fact that parenting a child can be rough or whether Fox Hat should be burnt alive for being a complete tosser. Am I over-educated here or is this just utter utter utter shit?

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over a year ago

"There should be no empathy - none at all - and only those that don't care for the inner circle clique on here answered truthfully.

Hey Sydney

I concur.

It's funny what's afforded some and not others though.

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

How funny you should say that / another forum unelected official says it's so - so it's so."

watch your chip doesn't slip off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There should be no empathy - none at all - and only those that don't care for the inner circle clique on here answered truthfully.

Hey Sydney

I concur.

It's funny what's afforded some and not others though.

Ah I'm soooooo glad you've found each other.......!!!

good night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is the legendary Clique any group of one or more, that holds an opinion different to yours?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There should be no empathy - none at all - and only those that don't care for the inner circle clique on here answered truthfully.

Hey Sydney

LoL@ over educated

You hide it well mate

Gimp

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How funny you should say that / another forum unelected official says it's so - so it's so.

watch your chip doesn't slip off"

Thanks.

Make sure you arrive at the end of the next thread so you know which way to lean.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"LoL@ over educated

You hide it well mate

Gimp"

What you talking about I've got 3 GCSE's me!! Bet you can't even spell antidisishtablementairienism

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sometimes I hate being a single dad

I'm being totally selfish here -and a bit of an arse when I say this - but kids get in the way of my social life

I wish I could have some weekends to myself, but with working away during the week, it's about the only time I do get to spend with them

that's what happens when your a single parent, i haven't had a meet or sex since august last year because i work 2 jobs to provide for my kids alone

shit happens, deal with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"LoL@ over educated

You hide it well mate

Gimp

What you talking about I've got 3 GCSE's me!! Bet you can't even spell antidisishtablementairienism

I bow to your superior educational achievements but in my defence I was a latchkey kid who's parents insisted on leaving me to my own devices while they went out working..so selfish

Gimp

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Words fail me....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think if this had been written by a stranger from 'outside' the forum 'sect' the women would have been all over his use of the word hate and the sentiment therein.

Funny huh?

I'm a single dad and my son gets in the way of NOTHING. He's my son and not one meet is ever worth spending less time with him.

Gets in the way??

On here it's often not what is said, but who's said it.

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someone is tired .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wait until your kids are grown up into teenagers and hardly talk to you all day. I miss the Lego days and hate the xbox these days. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP it is perfectly natural to feel the way you do.

Most people will at times wish they didn't have responsiabilities and fantasise about what other things they could be doing. The key issue here is that you are taking responsibility and caring for them. You could easily turn to your ex and say 'fuck it, I'm not having them so much, you get on with it'. You don't do that OP. cause you are a good parent, ensuring you provide and care for them.

You know how the forum works.....Use one word out of line in your opening post and it will be pounced on. So what if you used the word hate. Anyone with an ounce of intelligence will interpret your words and understand exactly what you mean ..... instead people prefer to take things literally. I use the words 'love and hate' quite liberally in my speech, I hate garlic, I love shoes etc etc.

Working the balance between work, care and social life is tricky, especially when the family is split between two homes. Feelings of selfishness are perfectly normal, speaking and saying you hate having little social time is ok, but actions and the reality of what you actually do, ie you are providing care every weekend, is the important bit.

I don't know what relationship you have with your ex but ask if maybe you can have a Saturday night out one time, do you have parents, kids enjoy time with their grandparents, could they babysit one night. If they can, go out a bit later and you won't miss time with the kids etc.

But I expect you just wanted to let off steam, talk to adults about it, have a discussion etc. Hopefully we all have provided that x

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over a year ago

"OP it is perfectly natural to feel the way you do.

But I expect you just wanted to let off steam, talk to adults about it, have a discussion etc. Hopefully we all have provided that x

beautifully written voice of reason. Amen

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over a year ago

"OP it is perfectly natural to feel the way you do.

But I expect you just wanted to let off steam, talk to adults about it, have a discussion etc. Hopefully we all have provided that x

Oh how I wish I had your way with words...

For starters I would have been in a bed a lot earlier!

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over a year ago

"OP it is perfectly natural to feel the way you do.

But I expect you just wanted to let off steam, talk to adults about it, have a discussion etc. Hopefully we all have provided that x

beautifully written voice of reason. Amen"

i agree

praise the lord

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love being a single dad , I have my kids 4 days a wk every wk end apart from Friday night,I am sad for the 3days I don't have them !!! And I understand what you are saying aswel

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By *r Man.Man
over a year ago

London

"OP it is perfectly natural to feel the way you do.

But I expect you just wanted to let off steam, talk to adults about it, have a discussion etc. Hopefully we all have provided that x

Lifes so hard for op that out of seven days a week. He only has five days to get a shag.

There's a lot of weekend dads who miss been a full time dad, and you've got the op bitching about he needs time off from the two days he sees his offsprings. Man alive come on

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

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"OP it is perfectly natural to feel the way you do.

But I expect you just wanted to let off steam, talk to adults about it, have a discussion etc. Hopefully we all have provided that x

Lifes so hard for op that out of seven days a week. He only has five days to get a shag.

There's a lot of weekend dads who miss been a full time dad, and you've got the op bitching about he needs time off from the two days he sees his offsprings. Man alive come on"

So there is mot one time in your whole time of being a parent that you haven't wished you could go to something but can't because you have your child? Not one gig, one stag do, one wedding, one birthday party?

Think we should make you a saint lok

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By *extoysareusCouple
over a year ago

kinky heaven

Its only an opinion, work gets in the way if my social life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sometimes I hate being a single dad

I'm being totally selfish here -and a bit of an arse when I say this - but kids get in the way of my social life

I wish I could have some weekends to myself, but with working away during the week, it's about the only time I do get to spend with them

Thats a bit harsh. Theres nothing wrong with wanting free time. I too am a single parent, my kids live with me. I was fortunate that my kids were in their teens when I became single and a little less dependant on me. Didnt stop me from feeling tied though.

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over a year ago

"OP it is perfectly natural to feel the way you do.

But I expect you just wanted to let off steam, talk to adults about it, have a discussion etc. Hopefully we all have provided that x

Well said. Xx

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By *r Man.Man
over a year ago

London

"OP it is perfectly natural to feel the way you do.

But I expect you just wanted to let off steam, talk to adults about it, have a discussion etc. Hopefully we all have provided that x

Lifes so hard for op that out of seven days a week. He only has five days to get a shag.

There's a lot of weekend dads who miss been a full time dad, and you've got the op bitching about he needs time off from the two days he sees his offsprings. Man alive come on

Think we should make you a saint lok"

Yes there are many a time i wanted to go to the pub, go off to a concert or even get a shag, (as id put it). But sometimes i did and sometimes i didn't. But i never bitched about it when i couldn't because you know why? My offspring came first.

my problem with op is that he has ( in his words) five days to do all of the above, and he's bitching about the two days for his kids.

That's my beef with him.

Ps ive just straightened up my halo thanks

lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ah I see now; your ex is the single parent and you get to see the kids at the weekend.... every week end? That's pretty good for an estranged parent.

Make the most of them. Sounds like you have a pretty great arrangement that many visiting parent would love to have.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP it is perfectly natural to feel the way you do.

But I expect you just wanted to let off steam, talk to adults about it, have a discussion etc. Hopefully we all have provided that x

Lifes so hard for op that out of seven days a week. He only has five days to get a shag.

There's a lot of weekend dads who miss been a full time dad, and you've got the op bitching about he needs time off from the two days he sees his offsprings. Man alive come on

Think we should make you a saint lok

my problem with op is that he has ( in his words) five days to do all of the above, and he's bitching about the two days for his kids.

That's my beef with him.

Ps ive just straightened up my halo thanks

lol"

Where does he say he has 5 days to do all of the above?

And no I dont think he is bitching about his time with his kids. He simply states he would like an occasional weekend evening kid free.

Maybe hate was harsh but come on, are YOU really that perfect???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP it is perfectly natural to feel the way you do.

But I expect you just wanted to let off steam, talk to adults about it, have a discussion etc. Hopefully we all have provided that x

Lifes so hard for op that out of seven days a week. He only has five days to get a shag.

There's a lot of weekend dads who miss been a full time dad, and you've got the op bitching about he needs time off from the two days he sees his offsprings. Man alive come on

Think we should make you a saint lok"

Just move in with the OP why don't you.

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By *r Man.Man
over a year ago

London

"OP it is perfectly natural to feel the way you do.

But I expect you just wanted to let off steam, talk to adults about it, have a discussion etc. Hopefully we all have provided that x

Lifes so hard for op that out of seven days a week. He only has five days to get a shag.

There's a lot of weekend dads who miss been a full time dad, and you've got the op bitching about he needs time off from the two days he sees his offsprings. Man alive come on

Think we should make you a saint lok

my problem with op is that he has ( in his words) five days to do all of the above, and he's bitching about the two days for his kids.

That's my beef with him.

Ps ive just straightened up my halo thanks

lol

Where does he say he has 5 days to do all of the above?

And no I dont think he is bitching about his time with his kids. He simply states he would like an occasional weekend evening kid free.

Maybe hate was harsh but come on, are YOU really that perfect???"

He states he works five days and wishes he could have a weekend free kids.

And yes i am perfect, come to think of it, maybe that's why I'm single

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I thought he worked four days.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP it is perfectly natural to feel the way you do.

But I expect you just wanted to let off steam, talk to adults about it, have a discussion etc. Hopefully we all have provided that x

Lifes so hard for op that out of seven days a week. He only has five days to get a shag.

There's a lot of weekend dads who miss been a full time dad, and you've got the op bitching about he needs time off from the two days he sees his offsprings. Man alive come on

Think we should make you a saint lok

my problem with op is that he has ( in his words) five days to do all of the above, and he's bitching about the two days for his kids.

That's my beef with him.

Ps ive just straightened up my halo thanks

lol

Where does he say he has 5 days to do all of the above?

And no I dont think he is bitching about his time with his kids. He simply states he would like an occasional weekend evening kid free.

Maybe hate was harsh but come on, are YOU really that perfect???"

The fawning fan club arrives late, and somehow can speak on behalf of what the OP implied despite not being the OP.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Lifes so hard for op that out of seven days a week. He only has five days to get a shag.

There's a lot of weekend dads who miss been a full time dad, and you've got the op bitching about he needs time off from the two days he sees his offsprings. Man alive come on

Think we should make you a saint lok

my problem with op is that he has ( in his words) five days to do all of the above, and he's bitching about the two days for his kids.

That's my beef with him.

Ps ive just straightened up my halo thanks

lol"

Ok, just to set the record straight, and before any more assumptions are made by those not well informed.

I work away from home Monday through Thursday, three nights.

This means I'm back at home the rest of the time Thursday evening through Sunday.

I have my children for those days, three to four nights per week.

At no point did I say I hate or resent or not love my children

What I did say, and admitted to being selfish about, was that I occasionally wished I had some "me" time.

Yes I hate being a single Dad, it's a crap job but with many rewards, and there are, I'm sure many who do a better job than me.

Being a parent is a difficult task, and sometimes we're allowed to have a moan. If we didn't moan to someone, then bottling up those emotions would only lead to more problems.

I'm doing the best job that I can to provide a loving, caring environment and family life for my children who are growing up to be wonderful people in their own rights (ages 6 and 11 if you must know).

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By *r Man.Man
over a year ago

London

"I thought he worked four days."

he did say he worked all week.

So wrongly i know, i tock it upon myself to assume that he was on a five day a week.

;-)