FabSwingers.com forum: giving us a chance

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We have been on here a little bit now. Were having no luck :/. Why is no one even giving us a chance? Were both so ready for this

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

Your profile asks for a show for the guy - loads of single ladies aren't into that. I certainly wouldn't meet to do that.

You start of on a moan about time wasters - the only ones who can waste your time is you.

Re-read the profile, and ask, if I was looking to meet, would I meet these people?

Its comes across as very selfish - what can you offer the person meeting you (other than being a show for the guy, which you say in both male and female section)

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Your profile asks for a show for the guy - loads of single ladies aren't into that. I certainly wouldn't meet to do that.

You start of on a moan about time wasters - the only ones who can waste your time is you.

Re-read the profile, and ask, if I was looking to meet, would I meet these people?

Its comes across as very selfish - what can you offer the person meeting you (other than being a show for the guy, which you say in both male and female section)

Good luck"

Exactly what I was going to say. Profile comes across as aggressive with the opening 'time wasters' paragraph. There are absolutely no photographs of the male and nothing to say what you can offer the people you are hoping to meet. Just reads as though you are just looking to put on a show to please the male party.

Good luck

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Soft swap and a girl on girl sideshow? Good luck with that.

Women who want bi-meets probably don't want to be used as a sex show and women who want cock aren't going to want soft swap.

Soft swap with another couple might work as everyone has someone to play with.

I wouldn't be at all interested in being a live sex show or some sort of sex toy to make someone else getting fucked better for them!

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

give me a chance then x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

okay here goes...

What can you offer the elusive bi~fem, not much from reading your profile, it's all about what you want & comes across quite ranty & offish.

There's only photos of the female, where's the guy?

Clubs & socials are also good for getting yourself known with like minded people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd guess the whole profile has been written by the guy, odd that the female has taken most of the pics herself though .

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for advice people

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By *a-ra-ra-boom-de-ayCouple
over a year ago

Wish it was the Algarve! Aberdeenshire

A profile has to come across with your personality, keep it light & friendly. If I read a profile with negatives & couples looking for us to jump through hoops to keep them happy, then to us it makes us think selfish & good luck to yah! I'm sure these couple aren't by the way, but their choice of words need more thought! I've never met a couple yet who aren't a happy go lucky bunch with good humour & intellect!

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

Your profile is confusing too. You want a different woman to ride your cock, but you are after soft swap. As a general rule soft swap is everything except penetration.

As a single bi fem that does meet couples, I would avoid yours as it seems to be a male fantasy, with little input from the female.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"A profile has to come across with your personality, keep it light & friendly. If I read a profile with negatives & couples looking for us to jump through hoops to keep them happy, then to us it makes us think selfish & good luck to yah! I'm sure these couple aren't by the way, but their choice of words need more thought! I've never met a couple yet who aren't a happy go lucky bunch with good humour & intellect!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Soft swap and a girl on girl sideshow? Good luck with that.

Women who want bi-meets probably don't want to be used as a sex show and women who want cock aren't going to want soft swap.

Soft swap with another couple might work as everyone has someone to play with.

I wouldn't be at all interested in being a live sex show or some sort of sex toy to make someone else getting fucked better for them!

Snap...I may be bi, but lean more towards wanting men, however on the rare occasion I meet a couple I want to play with them both not just one of them to get the other riled up so they can have great sex whilst I just take part in the foreplay. As much as I like giving enjoyment to others I'd like it back too.

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

Wow that makes all the difference

Sorry but its still a pass from me.

Happy fabbing.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

The only difference I can see is you've added a pic? Is that it?

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"I'd guess the whole profile has been written by the guy, odd that the female has taken most of the pics herself though ."

this is what I was going to say....

the profile definately has feel of "written by guy" all over it....

what we tend to say is patience... to me.. 5 weeks doesn't scream patience... sorry!

why should they meet you as opposed to any other couple? if I were a couple/single fem I wouldn't have a clue if I fitted what you were after because you never mention it at all.......

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'd guess the whole profile has been written by the guy, odd that the female has taken most of the pics herself though .

this is what I was going to say....

the profile definately has feel of "written by guy" all over it....

what we tend to say is patience... to me.. 5 weeks doesn't scream patience... sorry!

why should they meet you as opposed to any other couple? if I were a couple/single fem I wouldn't have a clue if I fitted what you were after because you never mention it at all.......

says what were looking for thanks

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

says what were looking for thanks"

actually... if you go and read your profile again.... no it doesn't...

you bothered to fill in the age.... nothing else...

tall/short/fat/thin/black/white ect ect ect..... the more you tell people the more likely people are likely to think "yes, we are what they are after"....

it feels like a "bait" profile... all the pictures of the woman, 1 of the man..... the way it is written plus the pics feel like it is being driven by one half...... and its not the female half!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

dunno if its had a 3rd rewrite or not, but i dont see where the sideshow comes in, tbh.

i think a lot of blokes would want to see his missus with another woman, doesnt say anywhere he wont be joining in, just happy to play by the other womans rules, much as we are.

admittedly, the part about timewasters is, well, a waste of time, because if theyre time wasters, the last thing that would put them off is a sentence about them being so lol.

just persevere.

if its just not happening for you, then maybe think about the club scene or something. thats where its at for some, although its not for everyone.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"dunno if its had a 3rd rewrite or not, but i dont see where the sideshow comes in, tbh.

i think a lot of blokes would want to see his missus with another woman, doesnt say anywhere he wont be joining in, just happy to play by the other womans rules, much as we are.

admittedly, the part about timewasters is, well, a waste of time, because if theyre time wasters, the last thing that would put them off is a sentence about them being so lol.

just persevere.

if its just not happening for you, then maybe think about the club scene or something. thats where its at for some, although its not for everyone."

thanks. Will try club

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"dunno if its had a 3rd rewrite or not, but i dont see where the sideshow comes in, tbh.

i think a lot of blokes would want to see his missus with another woman, doesnt say anywhere he wont be joining in, just happy to play by the other womans rules, much as we are.

admittedly, the part about timewasters is, well, a waste of time, because if theyre time wasters, the last thing that would put them off is a sentence about them being so lol.

just persevere.

if its just not happening for you, then maybe think about the club scene or something. thats where its at for some, although its not for everyone.

thanks. Will try club"

as said, its another thing to try.

we arent the biggest fan of them, but there are many people that love them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yea deffo will try or a male meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yea deffo will try or a male meet

meet by post?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yea deffo will try or a male meet

meet by post?"

ahhahhaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I counted sex or sexy at least 8 times in your profile.

In the light of the context of your profile, such overuse of the word, to me, suggests 'fantasy' situation being ticked off rather than a willingness to adopt a wider lifestyle.

I also agree that it is very male orientated : the exact opposite mindset of those you are trying to attract.

For it to work for you, I think you need to work out what it is you seek and be specific about it.

Sexy times ? What does that mean ?

I bet if you asked 10 people they would all give different interpretations.

Until YOU BOTH work out :

a) what you want from this, and

b) what you can offer to those you seek that makes them go 'ooh'

Then I think you are gonna struggle.

As has been suggested, take in some clubs and socials, build up some friendshipa.

If done that way it can be so much more fulfilling than just tossing your caber whilst the mrs gets her bean flicked by another lass.

Last thing, your opening para about being here b4. I wouldn't read beyond it if I was looking to meet as opposed to trying to offer some advice.

Reads to me as unhappy couple, pushy male, impatient and will do anything to see the mrs lez it up a bit.

I could of course be totally wide of the mark and hope I am, but that's the power of words and how they can be interpreted if they do not provide the viewer with clear, unambiguous, concise direction.

Good luck to you both.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If I was you I would try the club scene its great fun , and the way its wirded you are looking for a female piece of meat to play with and im sure it was your old profile beinga few people said to me that you were messers , I apologise now if it wasn't , but if not that's probably the reason

and yes I am blunt but its the only way to be

nope no messers. Left due to peraonal reasons

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I was you I would try the club scene its great fun , and the way your profile is worded ,you are looking for a female piece of meat to play with you fir the pleasure of your man !! im sure it was your old profile that people said you were time wasters

, I apologise now if it wasn't , but if not that's probably the reason and yes I am blunt but its the only way to be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fair enough , must have you confused with someone else ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Fair enough , must have you confused with someone else ?"

yea you have

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have been on here a little bit now. Were having no luck :/. Why is no one even giving us a chance? Were both so ready for this "

it does take time.

for single men I takes a dam long time.

I found there are a lot of time waster on the site. Just keep looking and keep trying is the best you can do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm show men would queue up

I would if closer

why not expand your age limit for a couple a bit more ? Theirs some very fit older couples on here who would swear are twenty years younger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have been on here a little bit now. Were having no luck :/. Why is no one even giving us a chance? Were both so ready for this "

20 years old.

You're too fucking young for me I'll say that much.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We have been on here a little bit now. Were having no luck :/. Why is no one even giving us a chance? Were both so ready for this

20 years old.

You're too fucking young for me I'll say that much."

haha. Young but expierenced

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've read the profile.... If it attracts the kinda people you want to meet, then all well and good.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've read the profile.... If it attracts the kinda people you want to meet, then all well and good.

thank you

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I've seen a lot worse profiles than yours and yours sets out what you want. Consider expanding the age range by 5 years - those five years make not a jot of difference to sexual ability, but will include a lot more people. You can then have more people to choose from. You might like to consider that a lot of people on here have kids of 20 or so and will feel freaked out* by having sex with someone your age.

* I deliberately used a term from the swinging 60's for my own personal amusement and irony.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

;)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

;)

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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands

Picky I know....but please spell the word 'fucking' correctly in your profile! HATE to see it without the 'c' in it! It's not that hard to add the extra letter!

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

There's a big social coming up at jaydees which is near you, look for Hottie and Luke's birthday (you probably don't know Hottie or Luke but that's not a problem).

It will be a busy, sociable and gentle introduction into clubs.

Socialising with a lot of swingers in a no pressure environment will give you the opportunity to to clarify, as a couple, what you are looking for. You may discover your age range widens, or that you are more interested in couples with a bi fem then just the bi fem - there are many options.

It will also give you the chance to let your personalities work for you and to get some verifications.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Picky I know....but please spell the word 'fucking' correctly in your profile! HATE to see it without the 'c' in it! It's not that hard to add the extra letter!

calm down

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"There's a big social coming up at jaydees which is near you, look for Hottie and Luke's birthday (you probably don't know Hottie or Luke but that's not a problem).

It will be a busy, sociable and gentle introduction into clubs.

It will also give you the chance to let your personalities work for you and to get some verifications."

thank you for advice

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

"Soft swap and a girl on girl sideshow? Good luck with that.

Women who want bi-meets probably don't want to be used as a sex show and women who want cock aren't going to want soft swap.

Soft swap with another couple might work as everyone has someone to play with.

I wouldn't be at all interested in being a live sex show or some sort of sex toy to make someone else getting fucked better for them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Soft swap and a girl on girl sideshow? Good luck with that.

Women who want bi-meets probably don't want to be used as a sex show and women who want cock aren't going to want soft swap.

Soft swap with another couple might work as everyone has someone to play with.

I wouldn't be at all interested in being a live sex show or some sort of sex toy to make someone else getting fucked better for them!

erm.....everyone has someone to play with in a soft play threesome.

we have had mmf soft threesomes.

dont remember any of the guys complaining.

why do women think they are entitled to something 'more'?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Soft swap and a girl on girl sideshow? Good luck with that.

Women who want bi-meets probably don't want to be used as a sex show and women who want cock aren't going to want soft swap.

Soft swap with another couple might work as everyone has someone to play with.

I wouldn't be at all interested in being a live sex show or some sort of sex toy to make someone else getting fucked better for them!

erm.....everyone has someone to play with in a soft play threesome.

we have had mmf soft threesomes.

dont remember any of the guys complaining.

why do women think they are entitled to something 'more'?"

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