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"Most women i mail don't bother to mail back i find it very rude." Try replying to 50 plus messages a day and still look for what you want! | |||
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"A question for the lovely females of the site really... As a woman here on Fab... How often do you make the first move messaging wise? Do you ever message a guy first...or do you "alway" have them hit on you firstly... and find your more of a reply lady...or equally asod off or ignore one? I just wonder... I've never had a message arrive with me first to whichI've then replied... I've always had to message the nice lady first... and if they are okay and cool about things then I'll get a polite reply... (yeah I'm here waiting for messages now... lol) " I prefer to do the choosing not just take what's on offer but that is me. I think more than 50% of meets are people i mailed first. | |||
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"Most women i mail don't bother to mail back i find it very rude." Have a think about it from this point of view.... if you had 48 messages in your inbox and 45 of them were from munters who had nothing on common with you, they didn't meet your preferences and lived on the other side of the country or just had a one line profile which didn't tell you anything... but 3 of the messages were from people who were just your cup of tea... wouldn't you message the 3 you fancied first? And when the 3 you fancy start messaging back and you have some very promising banter going on... do you stop messaging them so you can message the munters?... do you feck! you carry on getting to know the ones you like. The next day you log on and you (I would hope) obviously carryong on chatting to the 3 you have now made significant ground with... but you also have another 20 messages - 2 from people you like and 18 from munters. Now you are having conversations with 5 folk you fancy and arranging meets with two of them.... and more messages are arriving the longer you are online. The next day the cycle continues and the next day and the next day and the next day and you start having a backlog of munters you haven't replied to but you also have quite a few people who you are very interested in... come on... who would you focus your time on? | |||
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"um... its kind of making sense now then... I've sent so many nice, polite and introduce myself messages to so many... *yawn* I get replies from some lovely women... but I think they respect the efforts invloved and stay in touch... and chat once in a while... but underlying...I'm not their type of guy? prehaps? so once you've messaged every (almost?) local possible profile in your 2region"...andfound the score out about those that ignore you... politelytell you to get loss and those that will chat but your not really their type? lol You then kind of hope that one day some lovely lady that you do float the baot of will make the first messge because...exhausted you'f missed her in all your messaging efforts.... sad hey? lol I'm going to go into message rehab I think... give up on trying too bloody hard... I know when I'm not wanted... sniff... sniff... lmao " Stop sniffing and get a PHOTO up to help your cause. Your one of 1000 silhouettes! | |||
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"To the ladies who are indaunted with emails from guys.... Why not just block all single guys and go prospecting yourselves Surely this would be a better use of your time. If you don't have the time to reply to them, and if most are only "one liners" that you just delete anyway, why not? No one likes to be rejected, it's not good for our self esteem Is this why a lot of ladies don't go prospecting?" We don't go looking because I am a lazy mare and like people who want MFM to come to us I agree with you though, block single men if they bother you too much and go looking for yourself. | |||
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"To the ladies who are indaunted with emails from guys.... Why not just block all single guys and go prospecting yourselves Surely this would be a better use of your time. If you don't have the time to reply to them, and if most are only "one liners" that you just delete anyway, why not? No one likes to be rejected, it's not good for our self esteem Is this why a lot of ladies don't go prospecting?" The couples can be just as bad! (and the fake couples that are pretending single men) We should have a block " Guys who have sent messages to more than 50 different people in 24 hrs" button! | |||
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"To the ladies who are indaunted with emails from guys.... Why not just block all single guys and go prospecting yourselves Surely this would be a better use of your time. If you don't have the time to reply to them, and if most are only "one liners" that you just delete anyway, why not? No one likes to be rejected, it's not good for our self esteem Is this why a lot of ladies don't go prospecting?" If you block all single guys... how do you then send them messages? I know the reason I don't go looking on here is because I don't have to. I certainly don't have a problem with a fragile self esteem as when I go to a club , I do the hunting out and approaching. | |||
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"Question..... If you block single males, can the ones on your friends list still contact you? " Yes xx | |||
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"Question..... If you block single males, can the ones on your friends list still contact you? Yes xx" Many thanks swingmates. Part two of the silly question, if we've messaged a single male, can he reply to that if single males are blocked, even though he may not be on our friends list? Sorry for the thread drift! | |||
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"I don't usually send first messages, and up to today i never have, but a profile caught my eye and i decided why not, so i sent them a message, lol" Good on ya girl, go for it | |||
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"Question..... If you block single males, can the ones on your friends list still contact you? Yes xx Many thanks swingmates. Part two of the silly question, if we've messaged a single male, can he reply to that if single males are blocked, even though he may not be on our friends list? Sorry for the thread drift! " If he repies through the mail you sent yes xx | |||
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"Question..... If you block single males, can the ones on your friends list still contact you? Yes xx Many thanks swingmates. Part two of the silly question, if we've messaged a single male, can he reply to that if single males are blocked, even though he may not be on our friends list? Sorry for the thread drift! " if you read the site intro, and the blocking feature you will see that blocking only works if you have not got them on your friends list, if you have and you block them they can still contact you | |||
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"The block button only stops them making the first contact...you can still contact them" But why should I do that? Guys might stop being little whingers about poor me no one replies you are all rude bastards.... but they'll only start crying about everyone blocking them! I'm quite happy to recieve mail and reply to those who obvious read and take note of my preferences. If some twat thinks I am going to devote my spare time to sending him a message and priorities him when there's a hunk-a-spunk-hottie messaging me and making my crotch wet.... he needs to touch down on planet earth for a moment. | |||
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"I've still to receieve rather than send... I'd love to be a postion of ignoring "Munters" is it? I'd need the 50 plus compounding messages aday to be in the realms of those that ignore messages BING!! I've got it... I've bloody well got it... I'm goggling sex change operations... sorry guys... I'm off to become a saucy sexy woman... slight adams apple and a depth to my voice... once finished... but atleast I'll be on the otherside looking back... ignoring blokes... lol " Your user name will have a whole new meaning though mate! Receiving as opposed to offering! By the way, you should put up a photo of yourself, not a bad looking bloke, it's bound to help! | |||
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"I've still to receieve rather than send... I'd love to be a postion of ignoring "Munters" is it? I'd need the 50 plus compounding messages aday to be in the realms of those that ignore messages BING!! I've got it... I've bloody well got it... I'm goggling sex change operations... sorry guys... I'm off to become a saucy sexy woman... slight adams apple and a depth to my voice... once finished... but atleast I'll be on the otherside looking back... ignoring blokes... lol " Put a pic on your profile and things might change. Do you send face pics with a first message? No offence, and this is purely tongue in cheek, but if like me, your not a good looking male, then your're not likely to be a goodlooking female I know I look fooking minging in me frock | |||
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"maybe they could solve the message overload women seem to get then... by automaticly removing their profile from general view for them... until they've reduced the inbox list to a minimum level and then they reappear again in the search listings... would save those ladies all those compounding munter worries then... lol " It would be much easier if ALL people just accepted.... you have NO right to EXPECT a reply. | |||
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"Put a pic on your profile and things might change. Do you send face pics with a first message? No offence, and this is purely tongue in cheek, but if like me, your not a good looking male, then your're not likely to be a goodlooking female I know I look fooking minging in me frock " I always send a face pic with any message I send and as I'm messgeing first anyway as it appears from this that women not messge first? lol Thats not really and issue... and I'm no handsome prince either... but you'd thing a female of some form or other might be interested one day? lol I always offer tosupply the condoms anda paper bag if it helps them... lol | |||
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"Put a pic on your profile and things might change. Do you send face pics with a first message? No offence, and this is purely tongue in cheek, but if like me, your not a good looking male, then your're not likely to be a goodlooking female I know I look fooking minging in me frock I always send a face pic with any message I send and as I'm messgeing first anyway as it appears from this that women not messge first? lol Thats not really and issue... and I'm no handsome prince either... but you'd thing a female of some form or other might be interested one day? lol I always offer tosupply the condoms anda paper bag if it helps them... lol " Tip.....don't offer to supply condoms in first message | |||
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"Tip.....don't offer to supply condoms in first message " I don't I was joking I only want todo them bare back... lol sorry thats another thread... only joking ladies... I'm a respecctful chap... just normally say hi! a few compliment and a reson or two why your pie has interested me and a hope to be able to chat further one day... that sort of idea... never a one liner nor a cut and paste message... I always will message "you" personally... in that context... | |||
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"A question for the lovely females of the site really... As a woman here on Fab... How often do you make the first move messaging wise? Do you ever message a guy first...or do you "alway" have them hit on you firstly... and find your more of a reply lady...or equally asod off or ignore one? I just wonder... I've never had a message arrive with me first to whichI've then replied... I've always had to message the nice lady first... and if they are okay and cool about things then I'll get a polite reply... (yeah I'm here waiting for messages now... lol) " When i was meeting as a single femme, i used to message people, never had a problem with it, usually ended well...... | |||
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"maybe they could solve the message overload women seem to get then... by automaticly removing their profile from general view for them... until they've reduced the inbox list to a minimum level and then they reappear again in the search listings... would save those ladies all those compounding munter worries then... lol It would be much easier if ALL people just accepted.... you have NO right to EXPECT a reply. " Can't help but agree with that, yeah a reply would be nice even if it's a no thanks, but you just have to learn to accept that some people may not have time to, or that they didn't want to. In either case, it would generally suggest that they weren't interested, so what have you lost apart from a few mins typing a message! I don't ever expect to recieve an introductory mail from either females or couples, as other posters have pointed out, its a question of supply and demand and I'm not so arrogant to think I'm ever going to be everyone's idea of prime stock. But hey I deal with it, I send messages to people I might be compatible with, I get out and meet people and I just try to be me. And you know what, sometimes I find a gem, wether its a sexual meet, a social meet or just someone to mail and have a laugh with. Suddenly then, it all seems marvelously worth the effort. | |||
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"I often make the first contact - why waste your membership lol but then again i am a jock!! and no shrinking violet. Lots of men like the fact that you do make the first move and i feel it gives me the edge when and if we do meet. As 9 times out of 10 they will comment that they liked it and then i take that control into the bedroom and it also acts as a safety barrier as i then call the shots." You've just highlighted the very trait that makes you stand out in room of other gorgeous ladies. I've never met anyone on the scene with as much confidence as you have | |||
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