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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Or do other women find the terms MILF and cougar completely derogatory? I don't want to be defined by my age anymore than I do by my size or my hair colour. Older men don't seem to have equivalent terms except maybe letch and who would use that?

Any message I get that has those terms in the title or even as part of the profile name gets deleted without being read. So think on young'n and look sharp!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't find them derogatory, they're a stupid stereotype perpetuated by the porn industry but I find them more childish and irritating...I tend to use the application of such terms a useful idiot filter...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm looking for my age or older and message filters on so only the odd few get past filters and are deleted but to ne honest I've been called worse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have guys only 3 years younger calling me cougar or older woman

But what really pisses me off is being called milf, I don't have kids.....so definitely not a milf.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I don't like to be defined by my age but for women in todays culture of youth it's inevitable. We're all defined somehow and usually by physical characteristics unless someone knows us well, tall, dark and handsome is a well used description as is petite blonde. The sexual overtones of milf and cougar are off putting to me more than anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

U could always start calling dads DILF but most would probably take it as a complement lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the sort of words you expect from kids or the less inteligent maybe

i just think they are silly and patronising.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not just you, I state it on my profile. It's the assumption by some men that older women are cougars who hunt them and treat them like their boys,dragging them around clubs to show them off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I often wondered if the generic term was Wilf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Or do other women find the terms MILF and cougar completely derogatory?"

Nope. No different to BBC etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I often wondered if the generic term was Wilf "

so when people say GILF are the looking at Gay I'd Like to Fuck or am i confused here? Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Or do other women find the terms MILF and cougar completely derogatory?

Nope. No different to BBC etc."

WE, VWE that puts guys off because if they say they are but are smaller than expected they're scared they'll get laughed at

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a letch and I'm about 10 years off!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I often wondered if the generic term was Wilf

so when people say GILF are the looking at Gay I'd Like to Fuck or am i confused here? Lol"

Granny

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't like the terms either.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Or do other women find the terms MILF and cougar completely derogatory? I don't want to be defined by my age anymore than I do by my size or my hair colour. Older men don't seem to have equivalent terms except maybe letch and who would use that?

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I refuse to accept either - I have not had kids so I am no Milf and I let the guys do the chasing so I am no cougar either!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Or do other women find the terms MILF and cougar completely derogatory? "

No i just delete the message _

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I think they are silly labels.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"the sort of words you expect from kids or the less inteligent maybe

i just think they are silly and patronising."

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By *anny PepperoniMan
over a year ago

Matlock


"the sort of words you expect from kids or the less inteligent maybe

i just think they are silly and patronising.

"

I don't disagree with any of this but there is a huge number of women that describe themselves as milf or cougar thus perpetuating the the whole thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Or do other women find the terms MILF and cougar completely derogatory? I don't want to be defined by my age anymore than I do by my size or my hair colour. Older men don't seem to have equivalent terms except maybe letch and who would use that?

Any message I get that has those terms in the title or even as part of the profile name gets deleted without being read. So think on young'n and look sharp! "

In all honest when people don't use their real names here then I don't think it really matters but if it bothers you ignore, block of inform the people who use it.

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

Doesn't bother me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am not a label, I am a free man

That said there's a thread fur milfs just started

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield


"I don't find them derogatory, they're a stupid stereotype perpetuated by the porn industry but I find them more childish and irritating...I tend to use the application of such terms a useful idiot filter... "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really don't like 'Fit and Hung' either.

But that's because I'm neither!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like cougars and milfs lol .

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By *ScotsmanMan
over a year ago

ayrshire


"Or do other women find the terms MILF and cougar completely derogatory?

Nope. No different to BBC etc."
. . .i want to be a FULF. . . . x X X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Or do other women find the terms MILF and cougar completely derogatory? I don't want to be defined by my age anymore than I do by my size or my hair colour. Older men don't seem to have equivalent terms except maybe letch and who would use that?

Any message I get that has those terms in the title or even as part of the profile name gets deleted without being read. So think on young'n and look sharp! "

I don't mind either word tbh x it's gilf that gets annoyed lol

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