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By *issHottieBottie OP Woman
over a year ago

Kent

My mum just text me, asking if me and my lad would like to go to Blackpool with them for 5 days to get away for a bit.

They went 2 years ago, it pissed it down the entire time and they came home early. They swore never to go on holiday in England again as it's cheaper to go abroad and you've got better chance of good weather.

I know for a fact that the only reason they are doing it is so we can go, they know I can't afford it so they would be paying for everything!! So I've said no, my dad works hard and he deserves a holiday he wants not one he's stuck with so he can take us along which would be more expensive.

They thought I was joking when I turned it down. Now I'm sat here thinking how lovely it would be to get away from all this for a few days. But they should go where they want.

What would you of done?? X

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Well they have obviously discussed it between them and are happy to go. Think I would of said yes

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I would have gone, it would be great for them to see your wee one enjoy the attractions etc etc, some quality family time.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"My mum just text me, asking if me and my lad would like to go to Blackpool with them for 5 days to get away for a bit.

They thought I was joking when I turned it down. Now I'm sat here thinking how lovely it would be to get away from all this for a few days. But they should go where they want.

What would you of done?? X"

do you know we have been having a similar sort of conversation today but in relation to someone offering to pay for my mum and dad to go on holiday.

What we said to my parents is that the people offering are adults, they will have thought it through and have made the offer willingly, we told them not to deprive people of the pleasure of giving. I would say a similar thing to you but if you think they don't like Blackpool suggest somewhere else

your parents wouldn't have asked if they didn't want to do it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would much rather go to Blackpool with my children and grandchildren than leave them behind

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"I would have gone, it would be great for them to see your wee one enjoy the attractions etc etc, some quality family time.

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my parents wouldnt offer to take me anyway, maybe you should think yourself lucky they want you to go with them.

they changed there mind about having a foreign holiday, just maybe they prefer to have you and your childs company instead of going abroad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good fookin luck saying no to my mum

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

A holiday with their grandson is very different to looking after him at home.

Talk to them about it and tell them you are worried that Blackpool was expensive, wet and cold. Maybe choose somewhere else you would all be happy to go and try and look for a deal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps they don't feel obliged hottie... Perhaps they would genuinely, like you and your son to go with them, because they love you both, and enjoy your company and seeing you enjoy yourself..... I'd go... Like they said, not only you, but your son deserves a nice hol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Suggest they stay Blackpool and you stay in Lytham St Annes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sure as much as you dad would love to go abroad and enjoy a holiday in the sun, he would prefer to spend the time with his wife, daughter and grandson and make sure they have a holiday too.

They sound like good people. You should probably explain your hesitance too them to avoid confusion and go from there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Serious answer now : Go for it.

I guess they are thinking of your nipper and I think it's a great gesture. Every child should be able to go on holiday.

I never went away til I was 14 thru mum being a single parent and it wasn't nice being the kid that had to stay at his grandma's all summer.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I would of gone....

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By *issHottieBottie OP Woman
over a year ago

Kent

I have explained to them that over 5 hours in a car with a 3 year old (who gets travel sick sometimes) is a bit much.

Also reminded my mum about their last trip there with the terrible weather and how expensive it was.

Suggested leaving it a couple of years so that my lad will be older and will before appreciative and will be able to do more things.

Have decided on a couple of nice days out instead to chessington and sealife centre etc and told them to book their holiday somewhere nice x

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By *nfieldishCouple
over a year ago

Enfield

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Serious answer now : Go for it.

I guess they are thinking of your nipper and I think it's a great gesture. Every child should be able to go on holiday.

I never went away til I was 14 thru mum being a single parent and it wasn't nice being the kid that had to stay at his grandma's all summer."

I never resented her for it, never would, but it still hurt, to the degree I made up a fantasy world all of my own.

It is also maybe the reason I jump at the chance of travel any time I can now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They wouldn't have asked if they didn't want you to go.

Make the most of our parents!

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I'm trying to persuade my mum and dad to go to Canada as my dad has enough air miles to travel to the moon...lol with me going with them lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have explained to them that over 5 hours in a car with a 3 year old (who gets travel sick sometimes) is a bit much.

Also reminded my mum about their last trip there with the terrible weather and how expensive it was.

Suggested leaving it a couple of years so that my lad will be older and will before appreciative and will be able to do more things.

Have decided on a couple of nice days out instead to chessington and sealife centre etc and told them to book their holiday somewhere nice x"

Ah now I didn't know how young ur nipper was. I am now more inclined to your POV

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would have gone, it would be great for them to see your wee one enjoy the attractions etc etc, some quality family time.

This ^^^^^

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By *entaur_UKMan
over a year ago

Cannock

"I have explained to them that over 5 hours in a car with a 3 year old (who gets travel sick sometimes) is a bit much.

Also reminded my mum about their last trip there with the terrible weather and how expensive it was.

Suggested leaving it a couple of years so that my lad will be older and will before appreciative and will be able to do more things.

Have decided on a couple of nice days out instead to chessington and sealife centre etc and told them to book their holiday somewhere nice x"

Sounds like a good compromise.

I think the reason they may have asked you in the first place is because the most important aspect of any holiday for them could be to spend quality time with you and the little one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My parents used to take our kids on holiday for a week to a haven at least once a year, sometimes we'd go sometimes it would be just them,

The fact is we work full time the kids are at school then homework, so my parents only really sore them a few hours a week here and there, so it was good for both my parents and the kids to spend a holiday just them getting quality time together, so we would of said yes,

In fact one year they took them to haven and we went on holiday abroad for some alone time for us

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By *issHottieBottie OP Woman
over a year ago

Kent

"I have explained to them that over 5 hours in a car with a 3 year old (who gets travel sick sometimes) is a bit much.

Also reminded my mum about their last trip there with the terrible weather and how expensive it was.

Suggested leaving it a couple of years so that my lad will be older and will before appreciative and will be able to do more things.

Have decided on a couple of nice days out instead to chessington and sealife centre etc and told them to book their holiday somewhere nice x

Ah now I didn't know how young ur nipper was. I am now more inclined to your POV

Yeah he's just a wee one,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go to Southend for a couple of days. Sun, sea, sand, fish n chips, fairground.

Just don't walk down the pier!

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

Why not suggest somewhere closer to home and remember its to give your little one a break too, a bit of sand between the toes is good for the soul

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

They would like you to go and probably would enjoy it. You can do something nice for them in return, something that doesn't involve money, but is intensely personal. Have them round for a meal and some party games or something, don't suggest you'll do something nice for them, such as not putting them in a home, they may not take it as a joke.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it's cheaper and more enjoyable to go abroad, why doesn't the whole family go abroad?

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