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By *ee Viante OP   Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Says they want to meet you but goes quiet when asked to chose a day and place, only to say a week or two later they really want to meet you.

Frequently doesn't reply to messages, even those asking a specific question, (just deletes, so you know they didn't forget).

Are they a friend? Or a fantasist? Or keeping you in reserve for when they don't have anything better?

Your thoughts please?

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

They would not be considered someone I would like to meet and get a swift jog on message...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pic collecting fantasist.

Cull and move on.

My friends are people I've met/meet.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

there's the highway..........take a hike

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Says they want to meet you but goes quiet when asked to chose a day and place, only to say a week or two later they really want to meet you.

Frequently doesn't reply to messages, even those asking a specific question, (just deletes, so you know they didn't forget).

Are they a friend? Or a fantasist? Or keeping you in reserve for when they don't have anything better?

Your thoughts please?"

The latter, really not worth the bandwidth.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd bin them. It won't happen. Find someone nicer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Block delete dust off hands .....move onto next cutie.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People who read and delete msgs without replying are not friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Certainly not a friend. At this stage I would tend to think the other party had been given enough chances and I would block and forget. This happened to me recently with a fella I really wanted to meet, but you've got to accept the situation sometimes. Time is precious isn't it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

rip them a new asshole x

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By *ee Viante OP   Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


" there's the highway..........take a hike"

But I'm not dressed and haven't got any shoes on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would be inclined to think that they were a bit of a fantasist and not intending to meet anytime soon.

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By *ee Viante OP   Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Ah I love you all when you confirm what I'm thinking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happened to us with someone twice, and he's reared his head again.

Come to the conclusion he only vaguely wants to meet us, shows great enthusiasm for a day or two, arranges meets and then disappears from communicating, he again has reared his head and shown an interest.

I said to Mr D, I don't expect to be anyone everything but I feel we're purely an "if theres really nothing better on offer" plan.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had that, they didn't stay on my list long, can't stand all that rubbish, you either want to meet or you don't!!

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By *ee Viante OP   Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

I don't do spontaneous meets. It takes a few days planning. I also have to be in the mood which lately, a lot of the time, I'm not.

I have a feeling if I said 'yes, now' when he appears it'd happen but otherwise not.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I want to be made to feel that they cannot wait to meet me....to want me and to feel lustful not like a shag in a dark ally...

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Well I would of lost interest after they didn't get back to me. Nothing like trying to flog a dead horse

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By *ee Viante OP   Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

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By *ee Viante OP   Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"I want to be made to feel that they cannot wait to meet me....to want me and to feel lustful not like a shag in a dark ally..."

Agreed.

If they're getting veris then they clearly are meeting and aren't fantasists. They're just not that into me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am seeing Graham Norton pulling a large lever and said person tumbling backwards and downwards into oblivion....and byeeeee...

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"I want to be made to feel that they cannot wait to meet me....to want me and to feel lustful not like a shag in a dark ally...

Agreed.

If they're getting veris then they clearly are meeting and aren't fantasists. They're just not that into me."

then delete and find someone that is into you...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They make things even more difficult for guys like me that rarely even get a reply!! Idiots!!

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I am seeing Graham Norton pulling a large lever and said person tumbling backwards and downwards into oblivion....and byeeeee... "

Ah yes, we need to get one of those installed on Fabs....wake up call!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I want to be made to feel that they cannot wait to meet me....to want me and to feel lustful not like a shag in a dark ally..."

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Delete as a friend and possibley block. Id definitely put in private notes 'fantasist' x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would never arrange to meet someone and then go quiet - it's not respectful and so, they aren't really a 'friend'.

I am guilty of not replying to messages as I'm a mixture of being both lazy and a little flakey.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"People who read and delete msgs without replying are not friends "

Precisely. And they are instantly binned,. I even have a warning on my profile to that effect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I want to be made to feel that they cannot wait to meet me....to want me and to feel lustful not like a shag in a dark ally...

Agreed.

If they're getting veris then they clearly are meeting and aren't fantasists. They're just not that into me."

That's how I saw it too in our case, he's not a time waster clearly as he has plenty of positive feedback. I think he was merely wanting us there just in case his better offers didn't come off.

When he contacted us a third time with a wink and FR I just thought, yeah right ya cheeky twat! I don't think we're special but we're worth more that that, and so are you Virago, much more!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fantasists but they wouldn't be on my friends list.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"Fantasists but they wouldn't be on my friends list. "

I now only have people I have met on my list. But if they ignore a message then they are off it. Even a hello is fine. But ignored and deleted messages are not on if you've already met.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am seeing Graham Norton pulling a large lever and said person tumbling backwards and downwards into oblivion....and byeeeee...

Ah yes, we need to get one of those installed on Fabs....wake up call!"

Maybe we need our own Room 101

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyone on my friends list who deleted a message without replying would be off my friends list as I wouldn't think they were interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only have people I've met on my friends list now, seems to work well.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Fab friends who delete one of my messages without responding get the Goldfinger treatment - once is happenstance, twice is coincidence, three times is enemy action. I don't mind if they don't stay in contact for a while, even a few months but ignoring me? No way, Jose

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would just move on though I wouldn't block. If he chose to contact me again I would just decline - job done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Happened to us with someone twice, and he's reared his head again.

Come to the conclusion he only vaguely wants to meet us, shows great enthusiasm for a day or two, arranges meets and then disappears from communicating, he again has reared his head and shown an interest.

I said to Mr D, I don't expect to be anyone everything but I feel we're purely an "if theres really nothing better on offer" plan."

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I'd say a fantasist. I wouldn't bin them, but I think I'd put them to the bottom of the list of peeps to meet.

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

If I've told you once, I've told you a thousand times. I'm not coming till you get some decent food in

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"If I've told you once, I've told you a thousand times. I'm not coming till you get some decent food in "

Is that what makes you cum?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I've told you once, I've told you a thousand times. I'm not coming till you get some decent food in "

Food in where?

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush


"If I've told you once, I've told you a thousand times. I'm not coming till you get some decent food in

Is that what makes you cum?

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It's orgasmic

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush


"If I've told you once, I've told you a thousand times. I'm not coming till you get some decent food in

Food in where? "

Are you lowering the tone Ms Stars?

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By *ee Viante OP   Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"If I've told you once, I've told you a thousand times. I'm not coming till you get some decent food in "

What's wrong with quorn burgers?

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush


"If I've told you once, I've told you a thousand times. I'm not coming till you get some decent food in

What's wrong with quorn burgers? "

Ah ffs you just don't get it

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By *ee Viante OP   Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"If I've told you once, I've told you a thousand times. I'm not coming till you get some decent food in

What's wrong with quorn burgers?

Ah ffs you just don't get it "

A nice Quorn burger, some lovely healthy vegetables... wonderful.

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