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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I like to consider myself as alt. Recently got winged skull above my ankle. I absolutely love it, its a beautiful piece of work. but when i tell online friends on here about i get replies like oh that's way too much and over the top and I've also been called sinister and morbid and blocked. Not very bothered but knocks your self esteem. Wonder why people can't just be happy for me, i wanted it, its my body. Lol. So much for friends on fab

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I like to consider myself as alt. Recently got winged skull above my ankle. I absolutely love it, its a beautiful piece of work. but when i tell online friends on here about i get replies like oh that's way too much and over the top and I've also been called sinister and morbid and blocked. Not very bothered but knocks your self esteem. Wonder why people can't just be happy for me, i wanted it, its my body. Lol. So much for friends on fab "

So you're not bothered but it knocks your self esteem? That does imply that you are bothered....you decided on the tatoo, you love it and you're responsible for your self esteem so embrace your alt self, why would you be interested in what people like that think?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ignore em. It's your body, your choice. There are plenty of people who will appreciate good quality tattoo work. Mrs N has quite a bit around her body that looks awesome.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been called a thug on here because I've got a handgun on my back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you love it then that is all that really matters. Your body, your tattoo.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well I'm not bothered in the way I'm not gonna sit in there and cry about it or something but its made me less excited about telling people because of what their reaction might be.

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By *ove121LustCouple
over a year ago

LaLa Land

I have a pin up on my back, she's massive and mine and if 'they' don't like it, 'they' don't have to

I got her for me not anyone else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you're going to judge someone you don't know because of a tattoo you need to get a life. I have a big phoenix on my shoulder, some like it, some don't. I didn't get it to please other people, like pretty much everyone that has a tattoo, I got it for me. Ignore people like that, they're probably not someone you want to meet anyway with that narrow minded attitude.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you're going to judge someone you don't know because of a tattoo you need to get a life. I have a big phoenix on my shoulder, some like it, some don't. I didn't get it to please other people, like pretty much everyone that has a tattoo, I got it for me. Ignore people like that, they're probably not someone you want to meet anyway with that narrow minded attitude."

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By *ove121LustCouple
over a year ago

LaLa Land


"If you're going to judge someone you don't know because of a tattoo you need to get a life. I have a big phoenix on my shoulder, some like it, some don't. I didn't get it to please other people, like pretty much everyone that has a tattoo, I got it for me. Ignore people like that, they're probably not someone you want to meet anyway with that narrow minded attitude."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've seen many tattoos on women which are amazing.

Women can get away with more decorative ones than men. IMO

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've got a skull and crossbones on my ankle and stars on my back. No one's ever said anything bad about them.

I'd like to see the tattoo. Are you an Avenged Sevenfold fan by any chance?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

who cares what some folk on the net think

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By *eminiman61Man
over a year ago

mansfield

Don't let a minority spoil it for you. Some tattoos are amazing. Forget about shallow minded ppl I'm sure it won't put many ppl off, so enjoy it and them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm with you.

I had a transfer of the car from Wacky Races on my arm. I was young and careless. People didn't understand I wanted to express who I was and didn't want to conform to society.

I was treated so differently, and I remember trying to scrub it off with tears rolling down my face.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like to consider myself as alt. Recently got winged skull above my ankle. I absolutely love it, its a beautiful piece of work. but when i tell online friends on here about i get replies like oh that's way too much and over the top and I've also been called sinister and morbid and blocked. Not very bothered but knocks your self esteem. Wonder why people can't just be happy for me, i wanted it, its my body. Lol. So much for friends on fab "

Well I think it sounds gorgeous

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

Sadly there are plenty of narrow minded judgmental people here and in the world to spit venom at your decisions and pride x trust me I know I'm a man with long hair and piercings lol

Treat it as a selection tool knowing dispite how good looking a person maybe if they vent or disapprove they are not likely to be compatible with your open mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've seen many tattoos on women which are amazing.

Women can get away with more decorative ones than men. IMO"

I like deorative tattoos hence I went for flowers and butterflies. I'm a man, mostly, and when people ask to see it they always pause and then say wow. I don't care what other people think. I love it.

Love yours too

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yeah I'm a fan. But made it a bit different as wanted my own twist. Just disappointed that my so called fab friends had chatted to me for ages without any problems and then suddenly decided that they didn't want to know me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah I'm a fan. But made it a bit different as wanted my own twist. Just disappointed that my so called fab friends had chatted to me for ages without any problems and then suddenly decided that they didn't want to know me "

They don't sound like the type of people you want as friends in my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah I'm a fan. But made it a bit different as wanted my own twist. Just disappointed that my so called fab friends had chatted to me for ages without any problems and then suddenly decided that they didn't want to know me "

I thought so.

That's a bit shit that they did that. It's only a tattoo. Not like it's on your face or anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah I'm a fan. But made it a bit different as wanted my own twist. Just disappointed that my so called fab friends had chatted to me for ages without any problems and then suddenly decided that they didn't want to know me "

Don't want to know, think that's going a bit far, Im not a lover of ppl who cover themselves in them but I would not fall out with anyone who chooses to do it and would certainly not judge them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a pentagram design tatt on my back and if people can't see past our own meanings behind our choices then its their loss!

You got your tatt for yourself, not to please others

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By *ORNY_DEVIL_SEEKERSCouple
over a year ago

Basildon Essex

I nearly have a full sleeve tattoo and find some guys are put off by it but it's never bothered me as some will like it some won't but as long as your happy with it that's all that matters kel x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally love tattoo's on men and women and wouldn't take any notice of what others think its a personal choice. I carnt wait to have another

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im sorry to say it, but the vast majority of 'friends' on here are as false as hair extensions, or the tan you have out of a bottle.

its extremely rare to get some 'proper' friends from these kind of sites as they are pretty much just blowing smoke up your arse to get what they want.

if you are happy with you, then fuck what anyone else thinks (and before anyone else says this, i have said this to single blokes too )

true proper, real friends will accept you for pretty much who you are, warts and all, are there to offer advice, and to help pick up the pieces when you get it wrong.

other friends, are just there for their own reasons.

no need to have negativity in your life, is there?

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By *hyllyphyllyMan
over a year ago

Bradford

Why should a tattoo above your ankle affect people? Well unless it goes all the way up to your neck.

I am trying to think of a sexual position where the ankle is in the guy's face.... a little help please

I won't get one though, only because I am allergic to needles and pain

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By *icple123Couple
over a year ago

st albans

Think it sounds cool x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

oh well at least they are being honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah I'm a fan. But made it a bit different as wanted my own twist. Just disappointed that my so called fab friends had chatted to me for ages without any problems and then suddenly decided that they didn't want to know me "

It's a shame it's not visible on your profile. I'm amazed that a tattoo in such an innocuous place could cause this reaction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have loads of tattoo's and not the kind that people call 'cool'. I once did a thread to ask if I should 'warn' people in advance in case my tatts put people off. Most replies said yes mention them.

I decided against that....!! Now I don't mention them at all. It says on my profile I have tattoo's, I reckon that's all they need to know.

I've met people at clubs and parties and no-one has been rude about them. Some have mentioned them in passing but not in a bad way. They wanted me, not my tatts.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Yeah I'm a fan. But made it a bit different as wanted my own twist. Just disappointed that my so called fab friends had chatted to me for ages without any problems and then suddenly decided that they didn't want to know me "

Just because of a tattoo? Most odd

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

For how common tattoos are these days, I find it hard to believe that people still display such shock...

However, if they're showing their true colours, surely you're having lucky escapes if they're turning out to be so anal about something so minor? I mean, as another member said, even if you don't like tattoos, at what stage are you constantly going to have someone's ankle in your face? x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been called a thug on here because I've got a handgun on my back "

Realy? Why would you have a tattoo of a gun?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been called a thug on here because I've got a handgun on my back

Realy? Why would you have a tattoo of a gun?"

Don't open that door...!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fair enough if you don't want to meet somebody who has tattoos but to block someone for it seems a bit extreme!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like to consider myself as alt. Recently got winged skull above my ankle. I absolutely love it, its a beautiful piece of work. but when i tell online friends on here about i get replies like oh that's way too much and over the top and I've also been called sinister and morbid and blocked. Not very bothered but knocks your self esteem. Wonder why people can't just be happy for me, i wanted it, its my body. Lol. So much for friends on fab "

I have an anatomical human heart clutched by a spider on my chest....it's aggood filter as if people don't like it, chances are we're very different anyhow

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I've got a skull with a top hat on my thigh I don't care what people think to be honest x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never ask for advice on clothes, makeup, anything to do with my appearance. I do exactly as I want to do and am happy with my own style.

I don't think anyone has ever made comment about things I could change but I know what id tell them if they did.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never ask for advice on clothes, makeup, anything to do with my appearance. I do exactly as I want to do and am happy with my own style.

I don't think anyone has ever made comment about things I could change but I know what id tell them if they did. "

My sentiments exactly!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think of my tattoos as permanent clothing (ironic as im a naturist ) - but nobody will tell me what to wear - enjoy your inkwork xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been called a thug on here because I've got a handgun on my back

Realy? Why would you have a tattoo of a gun?

Don't open that door...!"

It's open now, and I am intrigued, seems like a ludicrous thing to do

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've been called a thug on here because I've got a handgun on my back

Realy? Why would you have a tattoo of a gun?

Don't open that door...!

It's open now, and I am intrigued, seems like a ludicrous thing to do

"

If you say tattoo's of guns are ludicrous doesn't that bring into question every other tattoo that people get? Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can never have enough tattoos,, miss hot x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been called a thug on here because I've got a handgun on my back

Realy? Why would you have a tattoo of a gun?

Don't open that door...!

It's open now, and I am intrigued, seems like a ludicrous thing to do

If you say tattoo's of guns are ludicrous doesn't that bring into question every other tattoo that people get? Lol"

Depends what they are, tattoos are usually well thought out and personal to the person , what does a gun suggest or try to suggest? If people are having 'controversial' tattoos for shock value then people will (rightly or wrongly) make a judgement of that person based in the tattoo

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By *r and Mrs BiteMeCouple
over a year ago

Belbroughton, Stourbridge


"I've been called a thug on here because I've got a handgun on my back

Realy? Why would you have a tattoo of a gun?

Don't open that door...!

It's open now, and I am intrigued, seems like a ludicrous thing to do

If you say tattoo's of guns are ludicrous doesn't that bring into question every other tattoo that people get? Lol

Depends what they are, tattoos are usually well thought out and personal to the person , what does a gun suggest or try to suggest? If people are having 'controversial' tattoos for shock value then people will (rightly or wrongly) make a judgement of that person based in the tattoo"

I really want a tattoo of a handgun as if it is tucked into my trouser band - just because I like them -

TBH I have cunt tattoo'd on my leg - so it isn't as if I am to worried about peoples perceptions of me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

isn't it strange that only people without tattoos judge people with and not the other way round. i (jewel) have lots and the amount of people that look at me due to makes me smile.

if they are offended or put off by tattoos then they are not for you and move on as for having a gun tattoo being controversial i don't see it i can understand if its a swastika or offensive word but a gun only same as sword or knife

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"isn't it strange that only people without tattoos judge people with and not the other way round. i (jewel) have lots and the amount of people that look at me due to makes me smile.

if they are offended or put off by tattoos then they are not for you and move on as for having a gun tattoo being controversial i don't see it i can understand if its a swastika or offensive word but a gun only same as sword or knife"

But why would you have a tattoo of a gun?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been called a thug on here because I've got a handgun on my back

Realy? Why would you have a tattoo of a gun?

Don't open that door...!

It's open now, and I am intrigued, seems like a ludicrous thing to do

If you say tattoo's of guns are ludicrous doesn't that bring into question every other tattoo that people get? Lol

Depends what they are, tattoos are usually well thought out and personal to the person , what does a gun suggest or try to suggest? If people are having 'controversial' tattoos for shock value then people will (rightly or wrongly) make a judgement of that person based in the tattoo

I really want a tattoo of a handgun as if it is tucked into my trouser band - just because I like them -

TBH I have cunt tattoo'd on my leg - so it isn't as if I am to worried about peoples perceptions of me "

Marvellous , that's a great look

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been called a thug on here because I've got a handgun on my back

Realy? Why would you have a tattoo of a gun?

Don't open that door...!

It's open now, and I am intrigued, seems like a ludicrous thing to do

If you say tattoo's of guns are ludicrous doesn't that bring into question every other tattoo that people get? Lol

Depends what they are, tattoos are usually well thought out and personal to the person , what does a gun suggest or try to suggest? If people are having 'controversial' tattoos for shock value then people will (rightly or wrongly) make a judgement of that person based in the tattoo"

It depends. I'd have a NES blaster tattooed on me. But I am a geek.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

could be any number of reasons fave band ie guns and roses, like western or action films, think it looks good, part of a tattoo ie woman holding it which is like one my hubby has. just dont see why its controversial is having a cross controversial due to religion or a skull as it depicts death people im interested to know why you think it is so controversial

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"could be any number of reasons fave band ie guns and roses, like western or action films, think it looks good, part of a tattoo ie woman holding it which is like one my hubby has. just dont see why its controversial is having a cross controversial due to religion or a skull as it depicts death people im interested to know why you think it is so controversial"

Tbh that makes sense, I never thought about it in that context, it's not for me but I can now see why people might have it done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes the nicest people you meet are covered in tattoos, and sometimes the most opinionated, and rude go to church on Sundays.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"isn't it strange that only people without tattoos judge people with and not the other way round. i (jewel) have lots and the amount of people that look at me due to makes me smile.

if they are offended or put off by tattoos then they are not for you and move on as for having a gun tattoo being controversial i don't see it i can understand if its a swastika or offensive word but a gun only same as sword or knife"

Tattoos have only reached their current popularity over perhaps the last 30 years. To our parents and grandparents generation tattoos more often than not indicated a hoodlum or possibly a sailor.

Those of us of an age to have been influenced, rightly or wrongly, by the older generation will find some of that conditioning still remains in their psyche. Like adults in 20 years may have an inexplicable dislike of hoodies so some have a distrust of tattoos today.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Sometimes the nicest people you meet are covered in tattoos, and sometimes the most opinionated, and rude go to church on Sundays. "

I just read that on Facebook lol

Nonpooint worrying about what people think of your ink. Its there now to be admired, admonished, talked about etc. Were they ever really friends anyway???

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"I've been called a thug on here because I've got a handgun on my back

Realy? Why would you have a tattoo of a gun?

Don't open that door...!

It's open now, and I am intrigued, seems like a ludicrous thing to do "

Why is it ludicrous?? Odd choice of word.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I am halfway through a full back piece, and I love it, ! I have had it for me not anyone else so i really don't care what other people think. Its my body.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometimes the nicest people you meet are covered in tattoos, and sometimes the most opinionated, and rude go to church on Sundays.

I just read that on Facebook lol

Nonpooint worrying about what people think of your ink. Its there now to be admired, admonished, talked about etc.

Were they ever really friends anyway???"

Damn

Sussed lol ...here was me thinking, everyone one think... Bloody clever that's mrs F ffs!!

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By *ivilizedkinkCouple
over a year ago

harrow

We are both inked and love other peoples ink, each has a story to tell about the person it belongs too. Sadly there are still quite a few people who still associate tats with the criminal eliment and thugs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"isn't it strange that only people without tattoos judge people with and not the other way round. i (jewel) have lots and the amount of people that look at me due to makes me smile.

if they are offended or put off by tattoos then they are not for you and move on as for having a gun tattoo being controversial i don't see it i can understand if its a swastika or offensive word but a gun only same as sword or knife

Tattoos have only reached their current popularity over perhaps the last 30 years. To our parents and grandparents generation tattoos more often than not indicated a hoodlum or possibly a sailor.

Those of us of an age to have been influenced, rightly or wrongly, by the older generation will find some of that conditioning still remains in their psyche. Like adults in 20 years may have an inexplicable dislike of hoodies so some have a distrust of tattoos today. "
i completly agree with ur conclutions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like to consider myself as alt. Recently got winged skull above my ankle. I absolutely love it, its a beautiful piece of work. but when i tell online friends on here about i get replies like oh that's way too much and over the top and I've also been called sinister and morbid and blocked. Not very bothered but knocks your self esteem. Wonder why people can't just be happy for me, i wanted it, its my body. Lol. So much for friends on fab "

If that's morbid (which it ain't) then I must be a right down and depressant lol I've got my own gravestone tattooed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am indifferent to the thoughts and petty judgements of strangers.

If they want to view that as arrogance, so be it.

Not always been the case though. I have de-sensitised with age

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never ask for advice on clothes, makeup, anything to do with my appearance. I do exactly as I want to do and am happy with my own style.

I don't think anyone has ever made comment about things I could change but I know what id tell them if they did. "

this x

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


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Not always been the case though. I have de-sensitised with age "

Me too......a friend described me as being "brave" with my clothes when I was twenty this would have made me doubt myself but I took it as a massive compliment now.

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