FabSwingers.com forum: Can you have sex without Chemistry?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

SEX is it still good sex with out some sort of chemistry . ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have good sex all the time without any kind of Chemistry..Ok its with myself but hey ho

Gimp

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By *eminiman61Man
over a year ago

mansfield

Not for me.... but lots of men do when they visit pro's

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No.

If I havent clicked I've said "no I can't do it" several times in the past believe it or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you can but its instantly forgettable and much like a quick fix rather than anything substantial

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes and it's just sex. But if there is chemistry it's more making love for me. But as will be said somewhere here sometime men can fuck anything.......but to me there's a difference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. I need the chemistry. I've had a few socials where nothing has come of them after.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. Just can't do it. And you'd most probably be able to tell.

...that click is what turns me on.

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By *z ThongzWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

No. I need chemistry otherwise it feels empty , cold and just not nice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think you can but its instantly forgettable and much like a quick fix rather than anything substantial

ditto

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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands

No....definitely need chemistry! That's why I always ask for a social meet first, if that initial spark isn't there, it ain't gonna go any further

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes and it's just sex. But if there is chemistry it's more making love for me. But as will be said somewhere here sometime men can fuck anything.......but to me there's a difference"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me definately not ... Has to be an attraction between us!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes have had quite good sex with men i didnt fancy but wouldnt want to see them again, if i waited to find someone i had the right chemistry with then i would be going without for a long time.

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By *eminiman61Man
over a year ago

mansfield

I've been offered it on a plate quite a few times and I've said no thanks, my mates say are you mad I'd have funked her lol

I've had my reasons, either it's because I've been in a relationship or there's been no spark to light my fire

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I need that spark and chemistry....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I need that spark and chemistry....

Shall i bring the lighter and try a bit of physics?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been offered it on a plate quite a few times and I've said no thanks, my mates say are you mad I'd have funked her lol

I've had my reasons, either it's because I've been in a relationship or there's been no spark to light my fire

Yeh, me too; always getting it offered to me on a plate but without a bunson burner and a test tube it just ain't going to happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But if there is chemistry it's more making love for me."

That's bullshit. ^^

"Chemistry" just means to my mind...you are attracted to that person sexually.

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By *pen2offersxCouple
over a year ago

kettering

You can have sex without chemistry

But I believe biology is a requirement !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"yes have had quite good sex with men i didnt fancy but wouldnt want to see them again, if i waited to find someone i had the right chemistry with then i would be going without for a long time."

I'd rather go without and I do a lot of the time!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I need Chemisty too x

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By *cottishsexgoddessWoman
over a year ago

Glenrothes

"No. I need chemistry otherwise it feels empty , cold and just not nice."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never leave the house without condoms, a Bunsen burner and a copy of the periodic table....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"SEX is it still good sex with out some sort of chemistry . ?"

Of course.I was always rubbish at Chemistry.Biology was more my thing!

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By *ovemenotWoman
over a year ago

yeovil

If I have chemistry with someone then I start getting feelings for them . The sex is still good if you don't have chemistry . It's just emotionally safe sex lol

Any way sex is like cake , even if it's bad it's still cake and I LOVE cake lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you can't have sex without chemistry then why do people fuck someone just the once and not go back again? Or why is it that you can fuck 2 people and one will have sparks of passion flying between you both and the other may leave you a little flat?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If I have chemistry with someone then I start getting feelings for them . The sex is still good if you don't have chemistry . It's just emotionally safe sex lol

Any way sex is like cake , even if it's bad it's still cake and I LOVE cake lol

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lol that's very different about Cake .

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

It's perfectly possible to have sex without chemistry, but it's not satisfying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you can't have sex without chemistry then why do people fuck someone just the once and not go back again? Or why is it that you can fuck 2 people and one will have sparks of passion flying between you both and the other may leave you a little flat? "

^ That's "feelings".

Chemistry/sexual spark is not feelings. To my mind.

I need chemistry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thing is tho we r on here to have a little extra spark in r lives and I'm not gonna shag someone just for the sake of it I want to find someone that I find sexually attractive and who finds me the same doesn't mean I will develop feelings for him just means I know wat I want and that's a damn hot sexy session with someone I fancy! We r not desperate for sex so we wud rather find someone who we have a spark with!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. Just not good sex.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

^ That's "feelings".

Chemistry/sexual spark is not feelings. To my mind.

I need chemistry."

So in your mind,having chemistry doesn't always mean a good fuck then,In which case chemistry means bugger all,unless every person you have ever fucked has been mindblowingly amazing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They could be the best fuck in the world, but if there is no chemistry ( a good laugh to me) it won't happen.

I don't fuck for the sake of it.

I would rather go without lol

Her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chemistry is when you're both having a good fuck but at the same time totally relaxed and comfortable in each other's company.

You can have a laugh when you hear a pussy fart. Get a slap for being a bit cheeky and then a coffee for break before starting again.

If there's no spark or chemistry. It's like fucking a brick wall. Get nothing out of it but a sore cock.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

^ That's "feelings".

Chemistry/sexual spark is not feelings. To my mind.

I need chemistry.

So in your mind,having chemistry doesn't always mean a good fuck then,In which case chemistry means bugger all,unless every person you have ever fucked has been mindblowingly amazing

Ffs...you know me better than to say something like that...

ok...how are you defining " chemistry"?...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If there's no spark or chemistry. It's like fucking a brick wall. Get nothing out of it but a sore cock.

I think your confusing Swinging with Marriage

Gimp

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Chemistry is when you're both having a good fuck but at the same time totally relaxed and comfortable in each other's company.

You can have a laugh when you hear a pussy fart. Get a slap for being a bit cheeky and then a coffee for break before starting again.

If there's no spark or chemistry. It's like fucking a brick wall. Get nothing out of it but a sore cock.

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. Well said lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If there's no spark or chemistry. It's like fucking a brick wall. Get nothing out of it but a sore cock.

I think your confusing Swinging with Marriage

Gimp"
That's very different too . lol Cake now brick ,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because people change. I've have great sex with people before now but I don't always want to meet them again. Sometimes the second meet hasn't been as mind blowing as the first. Heat of the moment maybe if that makes sense?

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

Sex without chemistry is perfunctory. I haven't had that many different partners to want to have sex without that chemistry so I don't think I could have sex without it. That spark of attraction and desire is the start of foreplay as far as I'm concerned.

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By *eminiman61Man
over a year ago

mansfield

"If I have chemistry with someone then I start getting feelings for them . The sex is still good if you don't have chemistry . It's just emotionally safe sex lol

Any way sex is like cake , even if it's bad it's still cake and I LOVE cake lol

I'd bring you me and cake lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What about the person that leaves you flat? What im trying to say is that so many people think they can't have great sex without chemistry but you must have thought it was there when you decided to have sex? But when you actually got down to it,it wasn't really there,so for me chemistry doesn't always guarantee great sex

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

I know exactly what you mean - I don't have an 'on off' chemistry switch, there are many shades of grey. Sometimes 'on paper' you think the chemistry is going to be amazing and when you get there, well it just isn't. I had a recent meet just like that - we got on like a house on fire, we would talk for 3 hours on the phone and struggle to get off, the guy did 'exactly what it said on the tin' in terms of sex, really hit the spot....and yet.....there was just something missing, and I am not sure if I would see him again. I think not.

I've had a FB who could play me like an instrument, really hit the spot physically, was good company, we were very relaxed hanging out with each other - and yet I never had a single butterfly over him. Yup, very 'emotionally safe' as someone said, I was in no danger there!

And then every now and then you meet someone who has your head reeling from the first kiss, leaves you craving their touch, the one you can't wait to see again, who's body you are desperate to get your hands on, who raises your pulse every time they are even online, despite the fact that you have NO desire to be in a relationship with them ....that's what I call real chemistry, but that's damn hard to find IMO.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can. I heard someone say even a bad pizza is a good pizza and the same applies to sex. I'd sooner have a wank rather than sex with no electricity.

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By *cottishsexgoddessWoman
over a year ago

Glenrothes

I've had exactly this with two men in the last 4.5 years, one if whom I am still lucky enough to see. Just turns me into a quivering mass by message, picture and in the flesh mmmmmmmmmm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"SEX is it still good sex with out some sort of chemistry . ?"

True, all though it depends what you mean by 'chemistry'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No. I need chemistry otherwise it feels empty , cold and just not nice."

This.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You can. I heard someone say even a bad pizza is a good pizza and the same applies to sex. I'd sooner have a wank rather than sex with no electricity."

Electricity? Sounds dangerous

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

Perfect summation! Not enough

for how much I agree with this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Which is why I always have a social meet first. If the chemistry isn't there to start with when you have a chat and a drink then it's not going to be there when you get down to the knitty gritty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Didn't do Chemistry at school but still managed to have sex though not in the classroom unfortunately

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I go to a party and I chat to someone I have to have a spark and fancy them and feel that its mutual

With local meets men don't quite get what a.social is about,I explain as much as can,I can't just turn up at a house and hope the spark there,need to know we both ignite,so I rarely meet local as they think its a date so are happy for me to come round but don't meet for a coffee,so I'm not interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Got 2b some chemistry there 2 get in2 my Bridget Jones's. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No.

If I havent clicked I've said "no I can't do it" several times in the past believe it or not.

exactly this.

you can have sex, purely for the animal act of fucking, but the only 'good' about it is that you empty your juices.

good sex comes from some form of connection.

great sex comes from a deep connection.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There has to be that mental attraction for me to feel anything physically. The deeper the mental attraction the more lust I feel

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