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orgasms on command, urban myth or straight up fact.

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By *ocioSexuals OP   Couple
over a year ago

Lincoln

Mrs ss and I have recently been looking at orgasm on command and wondered what you lovely fabsters thought on the issue.

At first quite sceptical I'm begging to think this is possible, and without breaking the dynamic we enjoy between each other.

Mrs ss is submissive by choice to me, and I enjoy taking on responsibility of being Dom.. I don't feel like I want to be tyrannical, nor does Mrs ss want to be pushed around like a worthless dog. (That's not suggesting in any way that any other D/s relationship is anything different, but we have come across some which appear to be).

So urban myth? Do the sub's just 'put on a show' for there 'master'? Or is it really possible while maintaining a submissives individuality (could they come damn near instantly on their own command if needed?)

I quite enjoy a bit of spirit so this may not work for us, but I'm not one to drop research when mastering pleasure is concerned.

We'd love you hear from you if you've had success, failed miserably, or just think it's poppy cock (private messages accepted also)

Mr SS x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say poppycock, no way I could come on demand!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It can be done yes

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

Yes, it can happen.

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By *ocioSexuals OP   Couple
over a year ago

Lincoln


"I'd say poppycock, no way I could come on demand!"

Well that's what I first thought, although the more I read the supposed evidence would suggest otherwise.

I've heard it likened to cognitive behavioural therapy, hypnosis and similar in a way to the techniques employed to train sniffer dogs and the like.

I guess it depends how susceptible you are to suggestion?

Mr SS x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've played around with tease & denial and countdowns to orgasm etc. I can't imagine just cumming on command though - well I can, but not it working (sadly).

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By *ocioSexuals OP   Couple
over a year ago

Lincoln


"It can be done yes "

We'll we're going to give it a damn good try while researching techniques. We worked together to get Mrs ss to squirt and that turned out amazingly. She's now got even more choice of orgasms.

... It'll be hard no doubt but I hope we manage it.

Mr ss x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes! .., although its more of a mind thing...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the only way i think i could do this would be to be on the brink and hold back - til he said ok go kind of thing and let it all go - but not 0 - 60 by a sayso

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes! .., although its more of a mind thing... "

Totally and the word dosnt have to be 'come' either

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By *atasha_DavidCouple
over a year ago

Slough


"I'd say poppycock, no way I could come on demand!

I've heard it likened to cognitive behavioural therapy, hypnosis and similar in a way to the techniques employed to train sniffer dogs and the like.

I guess it depends how susceptible you are to suggestion?

Mr SS x"

I'm not quite sure where the sniffer dog training comes in and if your referring to the classic Pavlov slavering dog experiment, no because a human being is a slightly psychologically higher working animal.

It is not about susceptibility to suggestion either really except in the sense of a willingness to engage in the process.

As has previously been mentioned, one route is by starting with orgasm control ie countdowns to orgasm. If the behaviors, words used etc are combined with a physical anchor then eventually a willing partner can become capable of orgasm just from the trigger sequence.

However to physically express this they would need to be already aroused, nobody goes from zero to petit mort in a few seconds. Also this essentially applies to women, the nature of the male orgasm is such that without prior arousal you haven't got a chance.

D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just had a flash thought of clicker training animals - imagine being able to orgasm to a click -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't quite cum at a click but I can hold off until I'm asked to cum...

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"just had a flash thought of clicker training animals - imagine being able to orgasm to a click - "
Now I would find that a huge turn on!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Or is it really possible while maintaining a submissives individuality (could they come damn near instantly on their own command if needed?)

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Yeah it's possible but most wouldn't want to.

Some like to be denied but it is possible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"just had a flash thought of clicker training animals - imagine being able to orgasm to a click - Now I would find that a huge turn on! "

i know - got me thinking

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"just had a flash thought of clicker training animals - imagine being able to orgasm to a click - Now I would find that a huge turn on!

i know - got me thinking "
Me too!

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

I can do it, but only with 2 people, my fwb and his wife. They love doing it if we're in a group situation. They think it's amusing!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes its possible, an ex of mine would both orgasm on command and hold it until given permission.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"just had a flash thought of clicker training animals - imagine being able to orgasm to a click - "

might have to buy a clicker and walk around town clicking see is anyone breaks into orgasm

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"just had a flash thought of clicker training animals - imagine being able to orgasm to a click - Now I would find that a huge turn on! "

I am friends with a couple in which the female slave has been trained to orgasm at the click of her Master's fingers.

OP are you on that well known fetish site, the name of which we're not allowed to mention? I could put you in touch with the couple. They'd be happy to talk to you about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes! .., although its more of a mind thing... "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met a guy on here that would cum on command! He never understood my fascination, I wanted to keep him all to myself lol if he was on cam and I told him I didn't have long, he say just tell me when to cum, I laughed and said I would, waited 2 minutes because I really did have to go, And sure enough he'd cum. It was very sexy! And a great talent, he said it was from years of wanking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"just had a flash thought of clicker training animals - imagine being able to orgasm to a click -

might have to buy a clicker and walk around town clicking see is anyone breaks into orgasm"

oooooooooo now that would be worth watching - people falling to their knees in the supermarket queues - at the bus stop - my mind in overdrive

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Are you talking about just telling the partner to orgasm.

Are you talking about lots of physical and mental stimulation and foreplay but disallowing the partner to orgasm until requested ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd say poppycock, no way I could come on demand!

I've heard it likened to cognitive behavioural therapy, hypnosis and similar in a way to the techniques employed to train sniffer dogs and the like.

I guess it depends how susceptible you are to suggestion?

Mr SS x

I'm not quite sure where the sniffer dog training comes in and if your referring to the classic Pavlov slavering dog experiment, no because a human being is a slightly psychologically higher working animal.

It is not about susceptibility to suggestion either really except in the sense of a willingness to engage in the process.

As has previously been mentioned, one route is by starting with orgasm control ie countdowns to orgasm. If the behaviors, words used etc are combined with a physical anchor then eventually a willing partner can become capable of orgasm just from the trigger sequence.

However to physically express this they would need to be already aroused, nobody goes from zero to petit mort in a few seconds. Also this essentially applies to women, the nature of the male orgasm is such that without prior arousal you haven't got a chance.

D"

It is possible for a female to go from zero to orgasm within 30 seconds or less.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely it must be totally subjective. Some women orgasm easily and some never do. I think it must be possible if the situation is right. The right people in the right frame of mind. Personally I doubt it would be possible for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Recently I've been finding it an incredible turn on to have my fb tell me when to cum. But we've started it out as during sex he knows when I'm building up to it so he will start telling me to cum. Now when we're having sex I struggle to do it without him telling me. Guess my brain has just associated the two somewhere. But I think being able to cum on command without being stimulated at all is a myth.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

id rather do it the old fashioned way .. with foreplay and lovely sex ... i like the idea of making someone wet by just chatting or texting them lol xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd love to be able to do this with Johnny it's such a turn on even with the thought of it!

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